why do men?

>>43800345
cuz were just fleshy meatbags for cock

>>43800345
For cis men, sexual gratification is easy. You can do it for yourselves, and in the age of unlimited free porn you usually do. Even cis women have an easy enough time achieving sexual gratification with something made in china.

For trans women sexual gratification is next to impossible without a man. So while the ideal would be a loving partner who sexes us all the time, the more immediate need is someone to sex us. After a while we get disappointed enough times in love, but the need for sex remains, so we give up on love and just look for a hard dick attached to a guy who knows how to use it.

On a personal note, as an autistic person, the whole "chatting stage" is absolutely exhausting. I kinda need to sex first and the relationship second.

>>43800345
i literally don't xd
i want a man who will love me dearly and do romantic gestures for me and essentially be my soulmate with whom i can grow together with and enjoy life together and be like best friends with unconditional love ;/

im not chasing lust, i want to fall in love with life though. a lot of girls cis and trans chase validation though

>>43800387
admit it, if you got your perfect partner but he didn't want to sex you, you'd break up with him

>>43800345
I chase money bitch

>>43800345
their lifetimes of being used for sex leaves them unable to engage in a healthy relationship.

>>43800387
they all say this

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>>43800345
ITS A LOT OF LUST, NOT A LOT OF LOVE

I need her to have both with me

>>43800387
My kind of girl
>>43800402
That doesn't mean it's lust just people have needs

>>43800492
both are impossible. get too greedy and lose it all

>>43800402
>>43800426
i really mean it, i had my ex leaving/dumping me and i miss him so much like none i still feel horrible and i feel empty and sad still i cry myself go sleep and im suffering because i cant see him anymore i dont know how is he feeling anymore i cant comfort and cheer him up anymore i cant hear his takes and his thoughts anymore
>>43800495
;-) im glad i guess… im still feeling sad about the thing above btw

>>43800512
you miss his dick
>>43800495
>it's not lust
>proceeds to leave when lust is not fulfilled, even when having everytjing else

>>43800523
Are you lacking a dick or what? Sex is the easiest part of a relationship, being there to anchor her when she disassociates or has a meltdown and keeping calm for her are much harder.

>>43800345
Hrt made me asexual

>>43800523
I miss him, not his dick. I miss him i genuiely loved him for who he was inside, for how he thought, for how he felt, for how he understood me when none else seemed to and how he stood for me when i wss at my worst. He was super handsome like majestically beautiful, his face his body his style his eyes, but most imporantly, his soul. I feel horrible i can no longer chat with him and just know about him and how hes doing and if anything happened to him. I have tears running down my face as i type this

I dont know why you are mean and superficial like that muh dick

I loved how we fucked me and we had super good chemistry i think maybe not godly either as i had no experience, but even sex wasnt the greatest thing, like i just liked kissing and holding hands and cuddling in bed with him and us talking was just the best

>>43800636
nta but why did he leave you, nona? :(

>>43800383
why can you not just masturbate

>>43800641
I didnt value him when i shouldve, taking things for granted and didnt control my mood swings/impulses/intense emotions and it was harming him. Plus i was self harming with a eating disorder because of hatred towards my body caused in great part by my dysphoria and i would keep being extremely self loathing/self hating and just repeatdly harming myself and he didnt want to see that bc he loved me dearly and that hurt him a lot, he couldbt keep seeing me destroying myself and that was harming him too.

And later on not respecting the no contact and seeking him out at all costs which made him mad at me and i kept doing it, using others we had in common to reach him out and that stalking made him finally hate me and see me as a mentally ill BPD abuser who didnt actually love him because if i did i wouldve let him go and not force him into this because its a selfish thing to do because it wasnt then what he wanted and you cannot force others into loving you if you really love them you should let them go and be happy and calm if they dont want you

And im aware of everything and i know i shouldnt stalk i know i shouldnt force i know i cant just become full black or white in thinking and go from 0 to 10 right away not taking into account that the other person is not harming me but just uncomfortable with whatever or that sometimes life gets in the way and we dont feel our best and thats okay and shouldnt ruin a loving healthy relationship

But despite everything, it still hurts. It hurts so much. I feel crushed to have lost him and theres no way to amend anything anymore i fucked up so badly but the worst is that deep down i cant just let it go. I wont force him to be with me or stalk him at all but it hurts not hearing from him again, even just as friends.

>>43800734
Gotta love bunny boilers

>>43800734 im this nona gonna continue
Even after working on myself not to commit the same mistakes ever again with a future partner and being aware of my own emotions and regulating them and being actually empathetic and realizing that people arent just evil for this one minimal thing, that we all have stuff going on and sometimes we dont even actually mean what we say, because we may be mad at some stuff in other parts of our lives and thats not a reason to hate someone like that or whatever, and to not ruin a relationship over minimal stuff or just stuff that can be worked on together with openness and empathy.

But it just sucks it feels horrible losing someone and then just having to fill the void with someone else, growing with someone else

Like it shatters the feeling of that uncondtional romantic soulmate feeling love. Even if its not objetively real, i still believe it is, because its what gives meaning to life, what gives that magical feeling

And it hurts even after fixing myself, like sometimes, despite me keeping going and growing, i remember and it hurts, like it feels all worthless sometimes you know. It makes me tear and in pain inside

>>43800755
i know i behaved like that and it sucks. Im aware

>>43800345
>why does [group of people] do [thing i decided they do]
can you people come up with new ragebait formats please

>>43800370
this.

lust is real. love is often fake

>>43800345
product of being extremely broken and vulnerable that leads to maladaptive behavior

>>43800345
Do they?
The one tranny I'm talking to used to be a sex worker and she's been rejecting my advances in terms of sex
We kiss, we cuddle, we hold hands but sex is off the table somehow

It's come to a point where I think sex is just a bonus you get in a relationship, because everyone I've met so far don't really seem to care for it