How should I handle a friendship with a trans person as someone who just doesn't understand all this stuff?I formed a metal band with someone I met on the internet who loves a super-mega niche subgenre and is also skilled at it, it's a dream come true because I've never even met a fellow fan of this subculture and also happens to share a ton of interests.The only asterisk is that she's a girl, goes by a female name, talks like a girl, wears makeup, has flowing long hair, wears women's clothes, is obsessed with hot guys, she looks like pic related in real life...but she says she was born female but now is trans and identifies as a gay man.The only effort to appear male is an awkwardly forced low voice that sometimes gives way to her natural squeaky voice.I truly don't get it, but this is the coolest, most interesting, and most talented person I've met in this city and I absolutely don't want to ruin this friendship and this chance to be in a band that makes music I actually love.I call her "he" and "him" out of courtesy, but I feel very guilty because she probably thinks I actually believe she's a dude, when I really don't.Should I be honest about the fact that this entire thing perplexes me and or just let the elephant stay in the room?As said, I don't mind saying he/him, but she might be truly thinking that I have zero questions about this and in my principles that's as bad as lying to someone. I really don't know and as a normie I find myself in uncharted territory.Thank you in advance.
>>43811863don't say anything like that. just wait and see what happens. you'll either get over and stop doubting it or she will get over it and stop being it. either way you can keep the friendship by just not verbalizing this shit.
>>43811863Just fake it till you make it.Tons of brainwormed trannies here will try to disagree, but the thoughts inside your head aren't what matter. Only your actions matter, and if you are acting the way he wants, that's good enough.More life experience will eventually help you understand things better, but you only get that experience by not alienating the guy by putting your foot in your mouth.Oh, and whatever you do, don't end up in a relationship or fucking this guy. At least not until you do understand what you are dealing with. Not that you seem to want to, but a lot of queer people take even the smallest bit of kindness to be "oh, they love me!"
>>43812213>>43811909I see.In the unlikely scenario where she/he asks me directly about my thoughts on this, do I lie?as a side note, I'm glad that you guys didn't immediately start flaming me for being confused and trying to learn.On Reddit I got banned in a matter of seconds for not already having the perspective and worldview of someone who spends fifteen hours a day in an exclusive trans Discord server.
Women leave gays alone challenge: absolutely impossible
>>43811863Have you ever considered that understanding isn't all that important and just being a supportive, respectful, and friendly person is enough?There is a line between honesty and overly thorough and precise, choosing diplomacy isn't lying.
>>43812886>On Reddit I got banned in a matter of seconds for not already having the perspective and worldview of someone who spends fifteen hours a day in an exclusive trans Discord server.redditards gonn reddit>>43811863>I truly don't get it, but this is the coolest, most interesting, and most talented person I've met in this city and I absolutely don't want to ruin this friendship and this chance to be in a band that makes music I actually love.might be a theyfab (retarded) or might be a tragic repper/girlmoder that's getting cucked by not being able to get on proper T and masc up by properly liftan n shietif he's chill, just hang out with him as if he's a dude. actually regardless of if he's chill, it's no biggie to keep it to he/him and make your brain believe him to be a dude that happens to be in a chick's body. if it turns out he's actually a regular woman (retarded) who's going on a silly gender adventure, no skin off your back; if it's a true dysphoriabro, he'll appreciate you being chill about this shit while he wants to euthanasia himself on account of being a girly dickless manlet who nobody else takes seriously and everyone (me) wants to imgregnate>Should I be honest about the fact that this entire thing perplexes me and or just let the elephant stay in the room?i'm anti-sjw but nah, ur still 2 casul so more likely to fuck shit up if he's trutransfag>As said, I don't mind saying he/him, but she might be truly thinking that I have zero questions about this and in my principles that's as bad as lying to someone.I'd say just hang out with him as if you would with any bro, and just let natural chit-chat over some drinks or those 3am talks help you figure out what's the situationregardless, a person can be full on retard about something, or be big suffering due to GD and something preventing him from looking like he's trying, but as long as he aint hurting peeps, there's no issue in keeping the friendship with all the other cool shit about him
>>43811863Just treat him as ur bro for now
>>43811863i think in addition to what has already been said itt you should try to get him into masculine stuff, this determines whether he's actually dysphoric or just a trenderl, you should ask him if he's ever thought about wearing masculine clothing, maybe gift him something masculine that no longer fits you, saying x clothing would fit him, saying x masculine name would fit him and such, trying to get him into working out and such
>>43811863>metal band>talent
>>43811863We call those 'hefabs', just use male pronouns and leave it at that.
