i feel like my life is genuinely overi just got broken up with by the most perfect person ive ever met because he feels like im holding him back in lifehe was literally the man of my dreams, the guy ive been dreaming about since i was littlehe was so amazing and kind and understanding and he always made me feel safe and happywe were super compatible in every way and he had every single trait ive ever wished for it felt like a genuine miracle that i got to meet him but now its over and i know im fucked for life im never going to be able to get over him or replace him, he was a genuine once in a lifetime opportunity and now its gonei felt genuinely safe and completely accepted for the person i am for the first time in my life i had all my plans for the future based around him and now i just feel completely lost
>>43818812How old are you? there's more fish in the sea hun, there really is trust if he feels like its not working out then its just not going to work trying to continue at that point right? But you can keep the memories of him forever and be inspired and occasionally even enchanted by a moment where someone treats you like that again, its not hopeless or over, like each relationship should be making you better at relationships is how its supposed to work
>>43818812Walk out of that corpse and build something new
>>43818850im 21 so i know its not like my life is literally over but idk ive had enough relationships to know that he really was something special i know the relationship is over, i wouldnt try and force him to stay with me because at the end of the day i want him to be happy more than anythingi just cant image going through the rest of my life chasing a shadow of what he could give me so easily, trying to settle for someone that isnt even 1/10th as amazing as him
>>43818812He broke with you to focus on his work?
>>43818936well he said he feels like we were holding eachother back and causing eachother to stagnate, not his work but just getting his life more the way he wants it i guessi dont see why he thinks i wouldnt be able to support him with that but he does
>>43818950Holding each other back in what exactly?
>>43818980just life in general, my transition and career, him getting his life the way he wants it to beidrk
>>43819005I hope you find a man or woman better than him
>>43819017i know i wontit seems like a cliche thing to say but he was literally my dream guy, like the exact kind of man ive hoped to meet since i was a preteen, he had literally every single trait ive ever wished for in a guy and so many more i didnt know i needed
>>43819040What's your dream guy like? What traits you seek in a man?
>>43819093uhm a lot of stuffunderstanding of the whole tranny stuff as well as some of my unnamed mental issues, he can be a chaser (kind of a bonus even) idm as long as it doesnt cross a lineable to comfort me and make me feel safe, as well as being able to calm me down when im stressed out and crying(he was really really good at this)not super hung up on looks but still able to compliment me and make me feel like hes genuinely attracted to me (im kinda ugly)sexually compatible with me, into a lot of the weird degen stuff i like and able to balance the line between mean and sweet (this one is a major major one because if someone has it its incredible)funny/similar sense of humour to mesimilarish interests to me, ideally like 40-50% overlap so that we can share stuff and enjoy it together while still being able to introduce eachother to new thingsits kind of a must that hes around the same level of autist that i am because it just makes relationships go smootherhe has to be willing to yap to me about his interests and willing to listen to me yap about minewilling to spend a LOT of time with meeager to encourage me to do things im afraid to/ knowing whats good for me and making me do itactually interesting to talk to, i could spend hours and hours just talking to him without getting boredolder than memakes me feel genuinely loved and cared about (harder than it seems)theres so much more its really hard for me to remember it all
>>43819244Well, this makes things more clear for me. Thanks
>>43819287ja theres like a billion other things i could say but i feel like it kinda gets the picture across maybereading it back they feel like basic stuff but its really about someone having all of them and having them in the exact right way that it just meshes with me perfectly
replying one time so the thread doesnt end on 13 for bad luck
>>43818812Have you not tried being dead weight?
>>43820292cant
>>43818812Is this the cismoid thread.
you're 21. You will definitely get over this with time even though it sucks now. You'll disagree with me rn but I've been there and literally do not care about it nowt. ancient fag
>>43820365i probably will get over it in the sense that i’ll stop breaking down crying every time i think about it, but i doubt ill ever find someone who ticks every box for me ever again
