I lived my life as a straight guy for 20 years until I developed a thing for femboys and twinks during COVID. I managed to find a cute short twink that I'm deeply in love with and plan to marry one day. tThe problem is that he's a switch. of course, I knew that from the beginning, but we were very clear about our preferences and that I'd be topping 100% of the time.Well, last month I asked him what he wanted for his birthday and he told me he wanted to fuck me at least once. It came out as a joke at first, but later he opened up and admitted that he doesn't feel like his sex life is complete if he's only bottoming and he has 'switch' needs. I felt bad, so I promised I'd try bottoming for him sometimes, starting on his birthday next week. And now I'm fucking scared and disgusted because I don't want it to happen, but I can't bring myself to deny him that. at the start of our relationship I wouldn't touch his dick and only fucked him doggy because I didn't like looking at it. over time I got used to it and now I enjoy it, but I honestly don't think I could ever bottom. he's probably been wanting this for a long time and thought I'd naturally warm up to it the same way I did with giving oral. I can probably endure doing it once, but if he gets a taste for it and starts wanting it regularly, I'm genuinely considering breaking up with him. is there any fucking way to make it feel really bad for him so he doesn't want it anymore? I've only had sex with him my whole life and it always felt good so I don't know how to make it feel bad.
>I promised to bottom for my switch bf but now I don't want toGenuinely hilarious scenario, but learn to use paragraphs man wtf
>>43845568the correct response would have been to reiterate to him what you said at the beginning, that you just aren't into it and don't want to try it at all. but now you went and got his hopes up so there's really no easy answer, if you try to ruin the experience he will realize and resent you for it. imo just say you don't want to do it and deal with it like a man.also lol at op, a straight man, going through the same thought process that countless comphet women have had for centuries. 2026 is crazy
Force-fem him so that he loses the desire to top, "switches" are disgusting and should be fixed.Do NOT bottom for him.
i can't imagine wanting to marry a guy because you're """in love""" and then immediately dumping him because you don't like getting topped. this has to be bait. no more replies from me.
>>43845634>imo just say you don't want to do it and deal with it like a man.I think I missed the timing for that already, 100% if I do it now he's going to feel bad and I'd rather die than hurt his feelings. I don't think he can realize I'm trying to make it bad for him, or at least he wouldn't show it. maybe I should just rope>>43845636wtf is wrong with yougenuinely I don't understand why he even sees me as 'fuckable' I'm a big man that most people describe as 'scary'. I can understand why someone would want to be fucked by me but not the other way around...
>>43845720>genuinely I don't understand why he even sees me as 'fuckable' I'm a big man that most people describe as 'scary'. I can understand why someone would want to be fucked by me but not the other way around...He is mentally ill and needs to be fixed via HRT
>>43845692I absolutely love him but I cannot live a relationship without sex.
>>43845720>genuinely I don't understand why he even sees me as 'fuckable' I'm a big man that most people describe as 'scary'.Sounds hot. Lots of men would love to bend you over.On the subject of sex. If bottoming is a hard boundary, if you feel like taking it up the ass will traumatize you, then don't do it. However, if you feel like trying wouldn't be so bad, you should buy a small to medium dildo and give it a shot when you're alone, on your own terms, before raw dogging it with a living, breathing person.
>>43845568>is there any fucking way to make it feel really bad for him so he doesn't want it anymore?I'm going to cry this is too funny>yeah hey bottoms how do I make my hole feel like shit for my bfs dickyou're just a straggot with porn addiction
>>43845845>me irl to those new to anal: go slow. be safe. use lots of lube. practice before>me irl bottoming after a year of no sex: shut up, spit on my pussy, and breed me until I'm full of your cum!
God reading even more of this is just so disgusting...Why can't gay men be like the ones in Yaoi, ie just tops and bottoms.
>>43846190>Why can't the world just be black and white minus the blacks
>>43845568>I promised>now I don't want to>I don't want it to happenAnon, don't force yourself into something with makes you uncomfortable, even if you promised it once it doesn't mean you should ignore your own consent afterwards
>>43846190Because it's boring as fuck, gay men are uniquely in the prime position to enjoy BOTH topping and bottoming... Can't imagine throwing that away because MUH REPURPOSED GENDER ROLES!!11!1If your response to that is disgust then I diagnose you with internalised homophobia, or at least internalised heteronormativity.
Just do it pussy, its actually pretty fun
>>43845568Scared you'll like it?Either way it sounds like you're inexperienced with 'receiving' which means you shouldn't just dive in to getting fucked. Let him play with your ass, eventually work in some fingers. That should satisfy his switch cravings for now, especially if you lean into the whole "you're the first person I've let do this" angle. He'll probably cum himself if you tell him that.
>>43845720>I wouldn't touch his dick and only fucked him doggy>now I enjoy it>the same way I did with giving oral>I'd rather die than hurt his feelings.You don't care about that kek
>>43848079It's fucking crazy how hard the act mindbreaks ""straights"" while strictly taking it in the ass is the expected and demanded default for anyone the least bit fem regardless how they feel about it
>>43845568You are a faggot.I'll say it again in case you're that in denial: YOU ARE A GOLD STAR FAGGOT.You fuck a man in the ass. You were afraid to touch his dick and now you slurp down his loads.Why do you care if his dick goes up your butt?
>>43845568Bottoms too wanna top their top bfs, who wouldn't want to? You're boyfriends after all.Have sex with your boyfriend you coward. You love sucking his cock let him play with your butt too. It's not like it's not going to feel good.
>>43848284>haha it's not a big dealand then it becomes a big fucking deal as soon as their ass is on the line
>>43845845I bottomed once unexpectedly with no dildo experience and I survived. Bro needs to man up and let his bf top once or twice.
>>43845568"Guys help me my lobster is too buttery and my steak is too juicy"
>>43848417>>43848340>>43848516>>43848138jfc you guys are making me feel bad now. >>43848079I guess I can work with him fingering me, he'd 100% enjoy that. I'll settle with that for now, and tell him I'm still not in the right place for the real thing. I was actually panicking from anxiety so I wasn't thinking straight(kek) while making the post. but that sounds like a good idea.
>>43849140it's just too hard to imagine myself taking it in the butt or even being in such a submissive position, my appearance def doesn't match that.
>>43849200Why do you have such a hard time wanting to say "no"?
>>43849210during the start of our relationship he was very insecure about me seeing him as a woman or a sissy/fetish etc., well my early sexual activities with him certainly didn't help, we've talked about this a few times already and although he's okay with my perception of him now, I'm afraid that if I reject him it will bring all that on him again.
>>43849184Good call. Best of luck to you, op. What a story.
>>43845568i hate how more and more gays use "switch" wrong
>>43850034You think switch should be reserved for kink scene, and prefer using vers for top/bottom dynamic, or am i missing something?
>>43845568i didn't read any of this thread but just have a threesome and get him to fuck some other twink or something and you just fuck both of them problem solved and you don't have to take it in the ass you're welcome.
>>43845568>straight guy for 20 year>until I developed a thing>wouldn't touch his dick>now I enjoy it>warm up to it the same way I did with giving oralthe pattern couldnt be more obviousstop being in denial
bump
I think OP is unironically straight and just trained himself into enjoying male/male relations.you were lonely, so you went for the freak fruit and came to enjoy it. you're unhappy because part of your body or your lizard brain knows getting railed up your hole isn't how nature made you.your homo isn't treating you very well but you fucked up by telling him he could top you.
>>43845568I don't have anything to add, but I'd like for OP to keep us informed in a few days to tell us what he decided to do and how it went, I'm curious
>>43849184And when his slender fingers filling your ass make you cum harder than ever before, don't panic if you start wondering what his dick pumping you full of jizz might feel like
So your bf sounds really hung and he's gonna top you (: sounds like he's gonna be getting up your ass and you don't like the thought of a cute Twink making you moan
>>43845568I'm fairly sure that if you very visibly don't enjoy it, he won't enjoy it either. tight hole with someone who is completely not into it is actually not hot at all for almost everyone
If you love him you’ll let it happen
How big is your bf? You sound scared of bottoming, sounds like his dick is way bigger than yours and you agreed to bottom for him so your kinda fucked kek
>>43849200>my appearance def doesn't match thatYour prostate dgaf what you look like bro, you have a booty hole like everybody else. You have the capability to cum and moan like a bitch as long as your vocal cords are working and none of your appearance matters to that. Now either tell him no or stfu
>>43845568Just explain to him how degrading, emasculating and downright subhuman any self-respecting man considers bottoming to be.If he still insists, kick his teeth in. It's the only way these rapey faggots learn.
Have you done any anal at all? Fingers or toys? Could it be that you are uncomfortable with it becouse its unfamiliar? Or is it pride?
