How do I prevent my polycule from falling apart? This is my second attempt at poly and I feel like maybe it's never going to work out. My nesting partner is new to poly and I have a kid with my ex-spouse that I have half-custody over. We recently moved in one of my other partners and a metamour. There's so much drama and jealousy. Do any experienced poly people have advice? And is it a good idea to have another kid in this situation? I'm also a bit worried that my current kid might be being brainwashed into the alt-right pipeline by my disgruntled ex-spouse. I'm very open about being poly to my child because I want my child to be raised in an accepting queer-inclusive environment and know that non-traditional relationship structures can be just as loving but my child recently parroted something bigoted my ex-spouse said and it's been really affecting me.
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>>43889959>POLYCULEpolyamory is just cuckoldry, please just date 1 person at a time and discourage cheating...
>>43889980>HRT femboy flag Jesus this board is truly the gift that keeps giving
>>43889969>>43889980And you guys call yourselves queer. Incredibly closeminded. I know another successful polycule but their situation is a bit different because they're all bisexual. I don't sleep with my metamour which is one of the reasons for the jealousy drama. Polyamory is practically a part of trans culture?
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>>43889959>child
>>43890014Are you implying that I'd ever harm my child? Have you ever met a poly person before?
>>43889986>Boymoder flagMake no mistake we are the same, limes to lemons
>>43890008>Polyamory is practically a part of trans culture?It is apart of AMAB sex culture which is not trans culture, you are thinking of gay culture.
Is anyone going to comment on this who's actually poly and not a queerphobe? You all sound like you're insecure and need therapy. Probably jealous of me. I bet you guys are single.
>>43890085Sounds like transmisogyny to me. You're probably a bitter repper who's single. Women ALSO have sex you know?
>>43890097You are very obviously a 15 year old basedteen, so no I am not going to unironically respond to your word salad of a post.
>>43890085men do, women talk
>>43890141I'm 29. How would a teen be on their second marriage?
>>43889959Surprised nobody's suggested this yet, but fuck your dad OP.
>>43890171>I'm 29kill your self, please.
Of course the faggot has to come around and spread more poly hate. This site hates poly people so don't expect any serious responses
>>43890216Finally another poly person. Do you have any advice on how to help my polycule control jealousy and lessen negative feelings? I've heard there's books for that topic but I haven't read any yet, have you? Or are the occasional arguments just a normal thing I should accept? Idk I'm very sensitive and have C-PTSD, maybe I'm just being a crybaby
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>>43890253I feel like you are a troll, but in the sliver of chance that you're not, it would depend on why the arguments are occurring and where the jealousy is stemming from. Being poly in a long-term relationship model is extremely rare and unachievable for most people
>>43889959You don't. From my personal experience and the experiences of pretty much everyone I know, polycules are inherently unstable and really shitty, it's just a fad that's gotten popular recently but by the end of the decade maybe like 2% of people who are currently poly will continue to be. for your sake you should stop that.>>43890008>Polyamory is practically a part of trans culture?Sheesh I don't know about this one, dog. Awful take...
>>43889959bait used to be believable
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>>43891399Should I just give up then? What do I do about my polycule who all live with me? I can't just abandon all of them and kick them out. I want kids but I also want to be able to love multiple people and express myself sexually fully. What's so wrong with that and why is it so rare? You really don't think if we found a relationship therapist that we couldn't work things out and figure out a way to stop jealousy from arising?>>43893344Kinda sounds queerphobic lowkey. Also yes polyamory is a huge part of trans culture. I see lots of other transwomen in polycules. Just because youre not in one doesnt mean its not a part of queer and trans culture. And it always has been. Its not just a new trend.
Calling poly a fad or a trend is just as queerphobic as calling being trans a "new trendy fad". How can you guys say shit like this and not realize transphobes say the same thing? Stop trying to appeal to cishets. Queerness is fundamentally rebellious and about being yourself even if it defies norms. There is nothing wrong with non-traditional relationship structures. Educate yourself? I'm just asking for advice so if you hate poly people than gtfo
>>43894742You can't ask the hyeans to be nice, they are hyenas.
>>43894742It literally is just a trend though like just because a lot of trans girls are in polys doesn't make it right or "trans culture". It literally is just a fad that everyone jumped on the bandwagon of. It'd be queerphobic if non monogamy was an inherent inseparable part of queerness but it is not lmfao, the overwhelming majority of queer people around the world are monogamous and there's also tons of cishet people in polycules. I'm speaking from experience this is a fad that's going to die out in a few years because very few people enjoys this shit, it's unsustainable.
>>43889959Okay poly enjoyer here! Here is a list in no particular order. -If you are sane, you will never become romantically enjangled with someone who is single, unless you yourself are single. This is because, if you have a partner, you’ll have to spend time with them, and if your other partner is single, they will get to kick rocks and feel jealous. They’ll say “nah, I’m built different, I don’t get jealous” but really they’re building breakup level BPD symptoms towards you every second you’re with your other people. -Do your homework. Go to therapy. Get off the drugs. Get a job. You’re not ready to see other people until you’re self-led and happy who you are, so get that before you start trying to worry about other people. -I highly recommend a spiritual or religious practice, and the at least in spirit implementation of a higher social structure in the core ‘cule, a family, a sorority, a coven, something. Two people is easy, ones the boy one and one’s the girl one. You need balance and structure to go higher, you need to pick carefully. It might seem strange, but picking a mom and a dad and a son and a daughter, it doesn’t matter the genders, just roles, is way more stable than 5 useless transbians who are all the little sister.
>>43896433You sound EXACTLY like the people who say being trans is a trend. How do you not see that? Of course you're an AFAB so you're demonizing AMABs' sex drive.
>>43897156>oh yeah, you don't like nazis?>replace nazis with poor infants. yeah bet you feel real stupid now, bigot.youre the one making it about amab afab stuff lmfao she wasn't even saying that, genuinely embarrassing
