I’ve been on HRT for nine years now and still boymode. People always talk about how boymoders should just socially transition already and all that shit but any time I go to a passgen to even ask if I have a chance with FFS I get mocked and insulted in basically every reply. And on top of that most of the people even posting there mog me and look cis anyway. Why the fuck should I bother doing anything else if I always get treated this way?
>>43895939its because you're boymoding. so i assume you dont have long hair/don't know how do work it, don't know how to act, makeup, brows; any of that. You girlmode long before FFS dipshit
Can someone explain to me the point of going on hrt but not socially transitioning? doesn't that just mean you can't make any friends or date anyone without springing a dark secret on them and are basically alone for life? I'm alone for life too so not judging that, but what's the point of the hrt as opposed to repping for life then? it just seems like worst of both worlds
>>43895959nta but how are you meant to socially transition if you just dont pass? im on hrt and never malefailed why would i try to come out socially and girlmode just to look like a crossdressing man
>>43895959i mean, its not that bad. I always just hated the effects of testosterone more than anything, if I have to just be a weird looking guy I can live with that, I have other things to worry about than my gender
>>43895967for the minority of people who will be nice to you and the real friends you can make I guess? I'm not trans so I won't pretend I understand but I thought being called a boy 100% of the time would be worse than being called a boy 70% of the time with the other 30% being your real friends treating you like a woman. I don't know anything though.
>>43895998yeah, my boyfriend "she's" me and it does honestly get me through the day, but for the most part everyone just knows me as a weird looking guy and I don't feel like altering behavior at all because, well, I just naturally act like a guy ig?
>>43896008so how'd you get a boyfriend who knows you're a girl if you're not socially transitioned?
>>43895959>but what's the point of the hrt as opposed to repping for life then? i think some people plan to boymode for a while until they pass better or some people live with their parents so until they move out or smth and then that slowly gets stretched out like ill just wait until my voice fully passes or smth and hrt does prevent it from atleast getting worse
>>43896013We liked eachother as guys, he's bi so he doesn't really care wherever I end up on the spectrum. It's honestly weird because I've always been the masculine really traditional acting guy, and I am not really any different now desu but being trans even in this limited respect has really helped me be happier.
>>43895955My hair is actually about shoulder-length and I got a decent amount of my dark-colored facial hair lasered off back in college.
>>43896025i do grow out my hair and try to shave all my body hair and facial hair though, i definitely put work into not being physically masculine but I've never really felt like i had to go full woman
>>43895998i guess but thats semipassoid territory, imagine being called a man 100% of the time and 50% of those times its crossdresser man in womans clothingi dont have any irl friends..ever
>>43895959I don't care about dating anymore so that doesn't bother me. Why the fuck would you think boymoders can't make friends?
>>43896087I don't mean they can't make friends I just mean it's weird to not be socially transitioned but out to your friends isn't it? isn't that hard for everyone to keep track of to not out you. or if you're not out to your friends then that also just sounds like torture for your own friends not to know.
>>43896145>I just mean it's weird to not be socially transitioned but out to your friends isn't it?what's strange in wanting to avoid constant humiliation ritual if you are non-passer? it's a torture and i can't handle being an abomination on public.
>>43896265I'm asking not arguing
>>43895939post face
>>43895959Because if you don't pass you're perceived as a tranny and some people prefer boymoding over that. As in, you aren't being perceived as a woman either way
>>43896087stop dating? and miss out on clitty cage frotties? I don't think so
>>43896337Nta but it's basically that. It's depressing to being seen and treated as a guy or a wannabe
>>43895959>Can someone explain to me the point of going on hrt but not socially transitioning?vague potential hope of future happiness, testosterone not ruining your body further in that context, some mental/sexual effects that can be better than them not being there>doesn't that just mean you can't make any friends or date anyone without springing a dark secret on them and are basically alone for life?it does mean that, although depending on how you look you can find someone who would accept the way you look now and be ok with/encourage you to get ffs in the future or whatever (or even not depending on it, just that's possible i guess)>I'm alone for life too so not judging that, but what's the point of the hrt as opposed to repping for life then?in my opinion repping is intolerable because things are literally worsening every day and you just get more and more masculine, if you ever try to transition then you'd have been ruining your future progress, and chances are you will go on hrt at some point (unless you kill yourself, but if that's what you're counting on then why not just do that now), so it's kind of suicide now or hrt now situation in how i view itt. manmoder 4 years on hrt
>>43896448Best answer
>>43895959>Can someone explain to me the point of going on hrt but not socially transitioning? doesn't that just mean you can't make any friends or date anyone without springing a dark secret on them and are basically alone for life?yeah you are very correct about this and the entire reason im taking hrt is about aligning my external image with my ideal relationship so its extra stupididk i just kinda assume that it will make me look femme enough and kinda queer enough that normie women wont be interested? and also i guess im transitioning(back) to goth/alti dont think ill ever malefail at 6'4 193cm but im also gonna be alone forever anyway if the only girls who will date me want a replacement father so its a fair trade off just for the mental relief but also kinda a last chance ? i also dont get much social dysphoria or at least i cope that it doesnt rly effect me like physical does.i guess i just think looking like an emo faggot(again) will fix the ratio of bi alt girls to daddy issues girls and give me the confidence to actually go back outside. and t4t sounds nice and maybe cute twinks will talk to me? idk guys have never ever ever hit on me which atp make me wonder why bc every girl ive dated pursued me. do i give off homophobe vibes? its just autism lol>>43895967>if you just dont pass?yeah>>43895998>for the minority of people who will be nice to you and the real friends you can make I guess?very>>43896008giwitmasdf>>43896041yeah
>>43899166wdym yeah, it s impossible to socially transition
>>43899193i mean i agree/me too. no one wants a fridgebrick to demand pronouns
