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Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!

- prepare 1 load of laundry
- do 1 load of laundry
- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off
- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish
- eat a meal
- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes
- make your bed
- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)
- do the dishes for 3 minutes
- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)
- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)
- Open your window for 10-20 minutes
- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)
- take out the trash
- drink a glass of water
- put one item of trash in the bin
- reach out to an online contact
(perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)
- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)


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>>43905265
DUNGEON MESHI POGGERS
my fav manga/anime
ty mister siganon/op very cool!

Also i just came so fucking hard. This is relevant cause i only do that once a month and uhm igbt sex sex yeah ok

sex improvement general
google: how do I butt my butt if its too tighht?

>sunday
>almost 6pm
>lost saturday from 2pm onward
>lost sunday so far
I will now get up, get a shower, start the load of laundry if possible (housemates), then get brunchinner, then try to read the adult adhd toolkit

bake smth for yourself today ^-^
everyone can use a little sweet treat, a simple mug cake is what you need rn fr fr!

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>>43906225
>adult adhd toolkit

>>43908559
oh come on, people try to get better here, I know you consider adhd a sham but people diagnosed with it (you included) aren't lesser for it <3

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>>43908937
"Sham" is the wrong word. Psychiatrists and psychologist are to the middle class what the police is to the working class.
If you actually want to get better, you should IMMEDIATELY divorce yourself from these silly categories that psychologists have come up with to classify socially unacceptable behaviors.

>>43909493
Psychiatry and psychology are both medical fields in their infancy, and many things are poorly understood/heavily reliant on trial and error. They are not concerted efforts to harm you. Asylums, electroshock therapy, lobotomies, they have all been abolished for a good reason, and even modern psychiatry does not compare in quality to 1900s medicine in terms of reliability. But no, things like ADHD, autism, OCD and such are very useful labels with a reasonably empirical foundation. A large number of drug abusers (including alc and nic) are people who are undiagnosed and unmedicated for all sorts of things. It is just immensely difficult to do fundamental or theoretical research in this field.

>>43909626
>They are not concerted efforts to harm you
Then I guess harming me, many people I've met in mental hospitals and many people I've met outside is purely coincidental – it matters very little to me.
>Asylums, electroshock therapy, lobotomies, they have all been abolished
False! Asylums (i.e., mental hospitals) still exist and electroconvulsive therapy is still used to this day.

Empirical studies basically don't mean shit, because these people can and will twist the methodology in such a way that confirms their prejudice. Goes for all of the social sciences too, really.

You sound like someone who has no personal experience with psychiatric treatment at all. Because even if we were to assume that psychiatry, psychology are perfectly valid sciences, the way that they are practiced in the real world makes them completely worthless and actively harmful.

>>43905265
Will kill self soon due to endless hatred directed at me because I’m bad with people. I don’t get better at it when I’m physically and socially attacked constantly I get worse and there’s no hope so the solution is clear. What’s been done to me is unforgivable and I didn’t choose to have such a shitty life. I deserve happiness and for things to get better and now that can never happen.

>>43909626
They are still hurting people, more people even. It’s just they do it in ways that our society ignores to people our society ignores. Every twenty years they go OH NO SOMEHOW WE RUINED A BUNCH OF PEOPLES LIVES HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN WE PRIMISE WERE NOT LIKE THAT ANYMORE!! Then punish no one and compensate no one and slightly change the words to distance themselves from their actions.

pg 9 bawmp

pg 8 meow

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I need a recommendation for an alarm clock. I have a classic analog one right now, something like picrel and it works, but it also wakes up everyone else in the house. Phone alarms are unusable for me, I sleep through them even on maximum volume. What else is there?
I think I could actually fix my sleep schedule if I had a way to always get up on time, even if it means being tired on some days.

>>43914531
Have you tried a smart watch with a vibration alarm?

>>43914555
I haven't tried that yet. I don't know if I want a smartwatch, something about sending my bodily functions to Google 24/7 irks me. But I've been looking at dumb wristband alarms, so maybe that's an option. Good call, thanks

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>>43910424
>Every twenty years they go OH NO SOMEHOW WE RUINED A BUNCH OF PEOPLES LIVES HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN WE PRIMISE WERE NOT LIKE THAT ANYMORE!! Then punish no one and compensate no one and slightly change the words to distance themselves from their actions.
humanity in a nutshell

I am so glad I got 8 hours of sleep last night, I almost feel human again.

>>43900854
>Am I making sense so far?
yes
>I am asking whether you can think of things that stimulate you: intellectually, emotionally, no matter.
unfortunately nothing comes to my mind, to the point i'm not even sure I understood the question

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>extremely miserable and unhappy
>take fiber supplement (innulin)
>take protein supplement to curb hunger
>take Vitamin D supplement
>suddenly having an amazing day
It's literally all physical. Unless you're currently facing some actual trouble in your life, your negative emotional state is probably a result of some nutritional deficiency or physical ailment. Gut-brain barrier and allat. Hope this helps

>>43916904
I should be drinking more water.

>>43918420
We all should really.

>>43919237
Not me I piss like every 2 minutes and it's crystal clear

nonas how do i eat less. i have oral fixation and love having things in my mouth so i eat out of boredom atp

>>43919635
Gum and snacks with little to no calories like popcorn

>>43919245
Is that healthy?

>>43921228
I was exaggerating for comedic effect

>>43905265
Anybody have any advice for confronting family members about their behavior in a respectful and careful way?

Goodnight everybody, don't fucking die on me.

>>43905265
>Food and cooking is a core pillar of self care. It is self expression, sustenance, social interaction. Enjoy a homecooked meal from fresh ingredients, with others, if you can.
>Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!
I CANT FUCKINg COOK I DONT hAVE ThE TALENT FOR IT I WASNT BORN WITh TALENT FOR ANYThINg SELF IMPROVEMENT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME I WANT TO FUCKINg SLAM MY hEAD INTO A WALL

bump meow

I think I've hit some sort of limit with my girlfriend. She's really pushy and in general somewhat controlling of me, my life, finances, etc. I'm extremely torn because she's fairly accomplished and would make a formidable wife, but I'm repping hard and have been basically my whole life. She knows I struggle with tranny thoughts and has told me it's a firm boundary that she won't stay with me if I need to explore this more.

Soon I think I need to explain to her that, while I am still unsure of what I want to do, I can't promise I'll never transition. Am I being retarded? I know I'll be nuking a stable-ish path to the normie picket fence life, but I also know staying with her is going to make me hate myself and probably her in the long run. Why can't I just kill that insane part of me that would inevitably lead to turbohon hell? I am in my 30s, also somewhat accomplished, and just want someone who loves me for me. It feels like my gf loves most of me, but just tolerates or is deeply concerned about the other parts.

>>43922977
Well, Anon, I think repression is the price of a bourgeois existence. Not just sexual/gender repression, but also repression of natural behaviors, desires and attitudes that are incompatible with bourgeois society.
None of us can make that choice for you, but I think it depends whether a) you can tolerate repression without it ruining your happiness (and thus also your loved one's happiness) altogether, and b) to what extent you appreciate a domesticated, respectable life to begin with. I think this kind of life gets a bad rep these days, so don't let that influence your own feelings towards it. It's good for some people, it's intolerable for others. There is nothing wrong with deciding against a life, even if you have already started building it. If you decide that leaving your girlfriend is the right thing to do, you should know that that's probably the best solution for her, too; because getting broken up with is bad, but living in an miserable marriage all your life is infinitely worse. So really take a good, hard look at your values, what you want and need, preferably away from your girlfriend and other people. They should not factor into this. In fact, this will be easier to handle for others if your decision is clear, final and free of doubt.

"To get rid of one's problems, all one can do is live in the universe all alone." - Alfred Adler

That's my two cents.

Managed to suppress sh urges by playing guitar instead. yay

>>43924212
That's pretty metal of you.

>>43908559
>>43909493
>If you actually want to get better, you should IMMEDIATELY divorce yourself from these silly categories that psychologists have come up with to classify socially unacceptable behaviors.
I don't claim to have adhd, and focus on symptoms, possible underlying causes (in my case a whole lotta shit since childhood), and approaches to reducing the harm to my life. That book contains some decent ideas, but proof is in the pudding. In general it's better to try something than continue doing what's not working. I'm open to suggestions, of course.

pg9 bump ^-^

>>43927350
Thank you for that, have a biscuit.

>>43922647
Goodnight kitty.

>>43905265
Is anyone else trying to cope with being alone?

Both in a romantic and platonic sense?

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>>43880201
I don't think it's just the anxiety, I ghoseted them without a word when I left the friend group, I don't think I would want to talk about how I tried to kill myself in the mean time or about how I just wasted years of my life now on doing nothing and they would most likely ask that so I would just end up like a douche bag who disappeared and then doesn't even want to explain why they did it not to mention me still being a miserable freak who can't do anything and is anxious to the point of paralysis most of the time
the way I deal with scheduling is by getting anxious to the point of semi paralysis about them if they are important and hoping I will not forget about that stuff or it's not being too important if it's something that isn't life threatening but it was one of the thing that lead me to a life of not doing anything to minimalise suffering so idk if it's not working or if I'm the issue as for the resources idk I have opened the drowning house smth book twice but I still haven't gotten to reading it as I always have something else to do at that exact moment

>>43922007
i bet you can make pasta, its very easy and is good even by itself :)