I feel it is weird the goal for being trans as a trans women is basically to be a twink with boobs(as most are never getting srs if we’re being real) Le boobtwink to be more specificAnd for ftms it’s too transitioned into a feminized man without a penisThis whole thing is weird Turning into half female half male hybrids How do you explain this to family? What did your family say when you transitioned/told them you’re transitioning?I’m a minority so it’s already over for me in that arena
kek imagine coming out and not manmoding forever
>>43938288they cried and said they were in mourning, i was 17. my mom didn't want me to get srs at first, but she accepted it eventually. my goal is not "boob twink".
>>43938288with my parents it was feigned support that turned into threats of being disowned/kicked out that escalated having my life made a living hell and threats of violence, though to be fair I was 30 and bald and I needed to move back out anyway so lolI had some friends that were... moderately supportive, again mostly as a show, but they had been icing me out for a while anyway and I exacerbated it by trying to force an honest conversation and it blew up in my facemet some other trannies later they've been mostly cool
>>43938298Well I have a pretty good starting point(short no super masc features small hands) so I would actually like to come out and live like a normal person at some point
>>43938298that was my intent (and still is) but my mom wouldn't stop harassing me and knew something was up, and it quickly became more trouble than it was to "stealth" manmode so I'm just open about it while still living/identifying as a guy
>>43938288Are you retarded? The generalizations and projection are staggering.
>>43938288my autistic dad just wants to see me happy and is gonna pay for my hrt, i love him.my mom doesn't give a fuck but she keeps a roof over my head so i still love her.21
>>43938288So far it’s been very positive. But that’s because I have only come out to those who I kinda knew would be supportive anyway. I first told my sister sisters who is 2 years younger but I don’t know if she fully understands it but she is supportive which is really nice. The two friends I have told have been very supportive and have been the only people I know in real life I have been able to speak to about being trans even if for know I am still boymoding which I find really important. Sorry if this isn’t what you were after but I’d like to hear anyone with any experiences with telling their parents and what is was like
forced out the closet after failing an hero, everyone pretended it never happened at all, swept under the rug completelykept boymoding like nothing happened
>>43938288I was 15, mom said she wished she would’ve aborted me. I repped real hard and regret it. 8 years later and my mom’s a brainrotted retard now so i stopped caring about her at all.
>>43938288>Be me, 7>Grow out hair because girls are pretty and I really admired the grace of a woman>Be me, 12>Just so happen to wear a light pink shirt two days in a row for school (I don't even like the color)>Mom sits me down and says "Are you trans">"I'd rather live as a girl frankly"Mom ended up buying a bunch of girl clothes that I never wore. I was never interested in girl clothes as a kid, so why would I start as a teenager? But, we straightened things out eventually. Whole family is supportive and I'm living my best life.
>>43938288i hate this stupid ass show so much
>>43938288parents found out via bank transfer after legal name change when it updated automatically. was 23 at the time and already estranged, hadnt physically seen them for 4 years at the time. had some annoying conversations with my mother but family was surprisingly accepting, if only to avoid me drifting further away.but they were terrible to me while growing up, very repressive of any kind of autonomy even with my adult siblings, so im still keeping my distance.
I came out at 18 and it kinda went like this over the phone>Hey mom, I'm on HRT now.>"What's HRT?">*Explains*>"Okay cool, you're living your life without me so I can't really do anything why are you telling me this?">Just to lyk >(Supportive about everything but still genders me "he")I proceeded to have other "coming outs", like saying I only like women and my transition goals and stuff, that were really fucking awkward.>Do you want a pussy?>"Not rly, I still kinda use it">Oh cus most people want it but ok>"I'd like to maybe get something done to my face in the future">Good because you look like a dude>"Thanks mom...">So you've fucked pussy, ass and been fucked, what's the verdict?>"I like women">So pussy?>"Yeah I'm dating a cis woman but trans women are fine too">Then you're dating an actual woman so why do you like women with dicks?>"Okay I'm not arguing with you."
>>43938288Hell. I discovered I was trans at 19 which was already late as fuck. not only that but when I discovered I had GD, my soul was fucking crushed. Then the first few years of my transition were by far, the worst fucking years of my life. I am still traumatized to this day and I'll just have to live with that trauma. Things are a bit better now, but my mental health is still really fucking bad. I'm in hell. (art by me)
>>43938288never came out. just transitioned, and that was that.
>>43938288repper, knew since i was 12, had daydreamed about becoming a girl since i was about 7, have never told anyone but i think at least my immediate family can tell somethings not quite right
>>43938288>>43942999OHHHH YOU MEANT WHAT DID MY FAMILY THINK TO ME COMING OUT HAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA I'm a fucking retard who didn't read the full fucking post.Well my mom outed me to my extended family and now they see me as a freak. My mom is supportive though, I just wish she didn't tell my family. now they know I'm a fucking weirdo troon.
>>43943007>have never told anyonewell no thats a lie, i do remember that i told my only friend when i was 12 and he just said "damn that sucks hope you get better" or something to that effect and never spoke about it afterwardsthat might have been what compelled me to rep in sæcula sæculorum
>>43942999>says shes in hell>999>666 upside downchecked
My immediate family is pretty aggressively supportive. My dad questioned me a lot about it, but not in a negative way just to understand how i feel, and also to make sure i understand how i feel. My mom has always been supportive without much question.Non immediate family is weirder about it. Most of my moms extended family cut me off, except for her mom and my aunt (her parents are seperate). My dads extended family is generally supportive, although im still deadnamed in front of younger kids. I had to explain a lot and it took time. A lot of people would ask honestly inappropriate and personal questions. I think with stuff like that its important to try and see the point of view of family members. Oftentimes its concern/misunderstanding out of love or care. I think i was the first trans person a lot of them knew in person, theyre from a very conservative rural area and only saw stuff from media. Im lucky they reacted with concern and curiosity rather than aggression. No one really asks me about my genitals or my plans for genitals. Some people said to wait until im 25 for any surgeries, which i probably will because i cant afford it anyways. The family i still have contact with means well but it is a bit tiring sometimes.Tldr/ just be direct, and patient. Its important to have a lot of emotional maturity, dont take anything as an attack even if it sounds like it. Be the calmest person in the room. Understanding and empathy is your best friend. It sucks but depending on how your family is you might have to coddle them through it. Be willing to earnestly answer more uncomfortable questions, explain how you feel and how dysphoric youve been and how transitioning is benefiting you. Understand that they might not understand, but try to keep a mutually respectful relationship if theyre willing.For context, im FTM, on testosterone, pre surgeries. I dont really pass, I kinda look theyfab.
