is it dumb as a trans person to leave a 5 year relationship with an overall decent guy who’s only problem is being unemployed for 3 years and burdening me since high school with the cost of living for two to the point that I think I’m just ready to move on once he gets into the military so I know he will probably be okay.
>>44031920jfcwhy are you still with him
>>44031920He is pathetic for not having a job for 3 yearsYou are also pathetic for paying for his life like his mother for that longLeave h if you have a shred of self respect left
I feel like by leaving him I’m essentially dooming him and I’m sentimental about our high school sweet heart-ism. He’s gotten jobs for like a week or two like maybe 6 times max which is essentially unemployed. He’s my first boyfriend and when we’ve almost broken up I convince him to stay for some reason. I’m scared of an empty room at night again and im scared of what will happen to him without me. It sucks he didn’t try harder.
>>44032055>I feel like by leaving him I’m essentially dooming himYou are not his mother, this guilt you have is misplaced.
>>44032065He’s planning on joining the military when I go to uni. I’m not sure if I should wait til he goes and then tell him after he’s settled in a bit so he doesn’t like full metal jacket or something
Women are evil
>>44031920Normsharts will tell you that relationships are the best thing ever and that humans are social creatures then tell you about their literal nightmare fuel relationships
>>44032184LOL
>>44031920>once he gets into the militaryOR you could suck up that sweet, sweet BAH and become a dependopotamus and get blown out from both ends while he's away
>>44032852I could but I would never do that to him. I genuinely care about and wish the best for him and he deserved a better childhood. I think I lowkey like trauma bonded or something. Hopefully I have the guts to be honest at some point soon.
>>44033062Stay with him. Stop planning to break up. Reconnect and talk to him about your future together. Once he's enlisted he'll have some structure and purpose and you won't feel so burdened. I admit it's easy to feel like you're missing out on life you want to experience looking out for someone, but your real problem isn't you need to be rid of him to be free, you need him to get better and enjoy life with you. True love is the most valuable thing in the world
Americans not making money the centre of their life challenge
Honestly think it's better to rip off the bandage now. You obviously haven't felt good about this relationship in a while and waiting more and more is just going to make it worse. Leaving him before lets him start fresh in the military which will be healthier for him in the long run
>>44031920How hot is he and how big is his cock?
