I told my therapist the gay rabbit show made me cry. Now he told me it's my "goal" for the week to explain to him why.What do I tell him that won't tip him off that I'm (HRT) repping and that won't reveal any personal embarrassing information about myself? He said I push everyone away because I'm too scared to be vulnerable and let people "see me" and risk getting hurt. Fuck this stupid rabbit.
>>44070287Let your therapist help you, Jax
>>44070287>Now he told me it's my "goal" for the week to explain to him why.wow, i had the exact same thing happen...granted, i'm an hrt manmoder, and out to my therapist but still, don't really have a good answer as to why it hit so hard.>What do I tell him that won't tip him off that I'm (HRT) repping and that won't reveal any personal embarrassing information about myself?>He said I push everyone away because I'm too scared to be vulnerable and let people "see me" and risk getting hurt. Fuck this stupid rabbit.ironically, the first quote here is an example of exactly what your therapist saidi think the correct answer is to be honest with your therapist.if trans related issues are that prevalent in your life, it just doesn't work to hide it. an honestly good starting point would be to talk about this exact question, say that you were worried about tipping him off or getting embarrassed. having a meta conversation about it can help a lot if you struggle to directly come out.
>>44070287why are you seeing a therapist who you don't trust?
He knew the moment you mentioned tadc.The path of least resistance is your best option here >>44070348
>>44070348But therapists are evil.>>44070376>wow, i had the exact same thing happen...This show really is a cognitohazard.>ironically, the first quote here is an example of exactly what your therapist saidI know :(>i think the correct answer is to be honest with your therapist.I know that's probably for the best, but I always freeze up and can't talk any time anything personal comes up. I've spent the last two years talking to him about absolutely nothing.I'd probably end up ghosting him if he found out I was trans.>>44070381If I trusted anyone I wouldn't need a therapist!>>44070384Why would a middle aged man know about a cartoon for fags? I didn't mention it by name anyway, I just called it "the transgender rabbit show."
>>44070287is your therapist cishet?
>>44070468>therapists are evilWHY'RE YOU EVEN TALKING TO A THERAPIST, THEN???>I just called it "the transgender rabbit show"No shit he knows. There you go, I figured it out for you. Tell him things in roundabout ways that make it really obvious like that
>>44070468>I know that's probably for the best, but I always freeze up and can't talk any time anything personal comes up.i have a similar issue now, where i get emotionally flooded instantly and it prevents me from thinking or speaking. it can be helpful to verbalize that part though, therapists are trained to work with or around that. if something difficult comes up, take a moment and just tell them its difficult, take gradual steps toward it, and stop if its too much. your therapist can sorta take the lead on asking questions and that often makes it easier in my experience.>I'd probably end up ghosting him if he found out I was trans.do you think your therapist will react normal about you coming out?i was in a similar situation where i just didn't mention trans stuff in therapy, but it got to a point where i realized i was never getting anywhere because i'd dig into issues and at the root, every time, was gender stuff.then, even after coming out, i got nowhere since that therapist really didn't get it, and she was fairly religious so it always ended with some faith related thingBut, after coming out and understanding that, i was able to ditch her and get a new one that has been phenomenal and actually understands trans stuff.
>>44070468u called it the transgender rabbit show he knows ur a tranny hes just doing the retarded thing therapists do where they try to make you figure it out instead of telling u your a tranny
>>44070517Yes>>44070528>WHY'RE YOU EVEN TALKING TO A THERAPIST, THEN???Because I'm giga mentally ill and terrified of human beings and idk what tf else I'm supposed to do. >No shit he knows. There you go, I figured it out for you. Tell him things in roundabout ways that make it really obvious like thatHe knows I'm "gay," so probably he just thinks I was watching fagslop not that I'm a tranny. >>44070548>it can be helpful to verbalize that part though, therapists are trained to work with or around that.I tell him that all the time, but he just says "take your time, it'll come" or something like that and then I end up changing the subject.>do you think your therapist will react normal about you coming out?No clue. I probably wouldn't either way. All of the therapists I've been to in the past were pretty retarded even just about sexuality, so I never expect them to understand anything about gender. I think this guy might be a Mormon, but he's never mentioned anything about religion. >>44070554Figure out what, I already know I'm a tranny, I'm just too scared to acknowledge it.
>>44070683>Yesyou're mistake is just right herewhy didn't you get an lgbt therapist?
>>44070744Being around other fags makes me even more insecure than I already am. Plus it's so hard to get a therapist appointment that I've just been taking what I can get.
>>44070744>>44070766Also I didn't really start going to therapy for LGBT stuff so I didn't think it was important.
why would you pay so much money for a therapist's time and then waste that time talking about a cartoon?
>>44070287> it made me sad because i saw the end course of someone who acts similar to myself. he ended up alone, crying with regret, and dead. it scares me to think that i might be on a similar path and much unlike jax be unable to stop myself from going it. he is also a tranny and thats like so totally and its like bby girl naur ;-;
>>44070783Because I'm retarded and don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to talk about anyway. Also it's free.
>>44070287What the fuck is the point of going to a therapist if you aren’t going to tell him you’re a tranny? Are you retarded? Either come out to the person you’re literally paying MONEY to talk about your gay faggot secrets with or stop wasting your time and money.
>>44070766>>44070771but lgbt stuff is your main problem the crucial thing that doesn't allow you to live healthy.my therapist is cisf but in a relationship with a woman have trans friends, she's more likely to understand my struggles than just a normal cishet therapist. and i've talked about with her jax on the last session too. she's cringe and i have to teach her in a lot of ways about dysphoria, i hope it'll get bettertherapy is hard and you have to build therapeutic alliance, if you don't have therapy is useless
>>44070683>I tell him that all the time, but he just says "take your time, it'll come" or something like that and then I end up changing the subject.then you need to go further, explain that it doesn't come out, don't change the subject>All of the therapists I've been to in the past were pretty retarded even just about sexuality, so I never expect them to understand anything about gender. I think this guy might be a Mormon,especially if you truly haven't really made any progress with him, i think it might be good to look for a different therapist. probably one specialized in gender stuff. if you have other issues too, look for someone with training in as much as possible. and you can stay with your current therapist if there is a waitlist for the new one, no time wasted then. and, worst case, if the new one turns out terrible for whatever reason, most therapists prioritize returning clients so you can go back
>>44070287>What do I tell him that won't tip him off that I'm (HRT) repping and that won't reveal any personal embarrassing information about myself?youre literally talking to a therapist retarded nigga
>>44070287Just tell him, retard. He's your therapist.
>>44070821tony sopranah didnt say shit. thats how you gotta rep.
Isn't she lovely?
>>44070796This is good!>>44070821I didn't want to go to therapy for tranny shit in the first place, I just want him to make me stop being retarded! Then I can rep in peace until I kill myself. >>44070862>but lgbt stuff is your main problem the crucial thing that doesn't allow you to live healthy.I don't think it is though. I just want to fix my "severe attachment disorder" and the 43 other things they've diagnosed me with over the years. Telling some idiot about my tranny thoughts isn't going to fix anything. >therapy is hard and you have to build therapeutic allianceSo what if I'm too mentally ill to build an "alliance?" It feels like I have to solve the problems I'm going to therapy for on my own before therapy can "work.">>44070904>especially if you truly haven't really made any progress with him, i think it might be good to look for a different therapist.I've been to a bunch of therapists at this point and I haven't got anywhere with any of them. I think the problem is with me, not the therapist. >>44070936>>44070948Very helpful.>>44070963Don't make me cry again!
OP, if i told you that having a cis male therapist who likely won't ever fully understand any of this wasn't a big mistake that you need to fix, i'd be lying
>>44070970Are you fucking 12 or something? You have to be a kid. Get off 4chan you're ruining this site.
>>44070977None of them are going to fully understand. The last therapist I went to thought drag queens and trans people were the same thing and she was a libbed up cisf with rainbows all over the place.>>44070992I'm older than you.
>>44070963Make her cry again
I don't want to go...
>>44070287>He said I push everyone away because I'm too scared to be vulnerable and let people "see me" and risk getting hurt.That's what the rabbit does. Tell him that.
>>44071015Lies, you are NOT older than me.
>>44070970>I've been to a bunch of therapists at this point and I haven't got anywhere with any of them. I think the problem is with me, not the therapist.any of them specialized in gender stuff?
>>44070287You're paying money to someone just so you can sit down and lie to them for an hour, are you retarded? Legitimately asking, therapyfags always seem to carry an extra chromosome
>>44071109Ok.>>44071111Maybe you'd be more comfortable on Susan's Place then. >>44071114No, because I just wanted to avoid the tranny shit and work on actual mental illnesses. >>44071121>are you retarded?Yes, I've said this multiple times! That's why I'm going to therapy! Also not telling someone something isn't lying.
>>44071163Have you ever heard of the phrase "lying by omission?"
>>44070468>I'd probably end up ghosting him if he found out I was trans.i did this
>>44070683>He knows I'm "gay," so probably he just thinks I was watching fagslop not that I'm a tranny.You told him you've been watching, "The transgender rabbit show." If you didn't want him to think you're transgender why did you tell him the word transgender?
>>44071199Sounds familiar
>>44071198>lying by omissionSounds like some bullshit a therapist would make up.>>44071199Was it worth it?>>44071224Because I'm allergic to sincerity and telling him I watched a show without using some dumb joke name would be embarrassing. Obviously I shouldn't have mentioned it at all, but it's a bit late for that!
>>44071286nigga cant come out to a therapist KEK
>>44070287You should write a letter. Be as brutally honest as possible (as long as it doesn't jeopardize your safety). It will allow you to get everything down and tell him without the pressure
>>44071286>Was it worth it?i am still incredibly mentally ill and spent the past week crying and having panic attacks over a gay rabbit
>>44071163>No, because I just wanted to avoid the tranny shit and work on actual mental illnesses.unfortunately, gender dysphoria is mental illnessand it has a multiplicative affect on other mental illnessesits a therapist, everything is contained to that room/session and you don't even have to think about it once your appointment is over
>>44070287Okay this is too far. This is pure larp at this point. Jaxfags cannot truly be like this
>>44070287>the gay rabbit show made me cry.How tf did episode 9 make you cry? It was ridiculous and fan-servicey to the point of absurdity. Episode 8 was the last canon epsode imo. Pomni was entirely in the wrong. We never got to see peak funnybunny fucked up shit, because the public would have crucified Goose. Pomni just sees Jax as an obstacle to her goal of helping him. She just sees him a means for her own ethical ends. She does not care about consent. Jax has to be her friend, or else she fucking beats the shit out of him.The whole show just affirms misandry/trans-mysogyny, especially toward boymoders. We saw one way the double bind plays out, where Jax just chooses not to open up, and it backfires spectacularly and pomni goes in his brain and says "you should have just talked to me, man" as if that would have worked out well. Meanwhile, Jax would have opened up to her and then Pomni would have gotten the ick and Jax would have ended up abstracting anyway, or would have been a tramendous emotional burden on her and she'd be forced to do emotional labor babying a manchild/subhuman creature dog.Jax literally experienced this exact treatment from his mom. There was never any way for him to win, yet feminism always settles on which ever option the scrote didn't pick being the one they say is correct.Things would have just fine for Jax if Pomni didn't fucking pry into his personal life and make him abstract. Episode 6 did a huge number on his psyche from which he never recovered. Ragatha had the best approach with Jax. She actually respected him as a person and ultimately had the most positive influence on him. Rags remains my favorite character besides Jax, for good reason. She's my waifu, and that clown had no right just suddenly out of nowhere cucking me with suprise yuri! WTF was that!?But, stop crying, and have some self-respect. You're already a performance, so explore a little bit. Create the person you want to be. Jax's advice works irl
>>44071341Maybe.>>44071547Glad it went well then. I'll think of your example when I need courage. >>44071575Gaah. I just wanted to get advice on how to "lie by omission" to my therapist and now you're all trying to drag me into the transgenderist cult! I'll try to think about maybe being honest probably; thanks>>44071822It's not a larp! I only watched this stupid show in the first place to see what all the faggots on this board were talking about. >>44071908Autism.
>>44070287therapists work the the CIA. quit therapy before they fund out who you really are. no one can know
>>44072131I'm not that kind of mentally ill.
>>44070468>Why would a middle aged man know about a cartoon for fags?Don't fucking judge me like that. I saw it on youtube and I like cartoons.
>>44072071>Gaah. I just wanted to get advice on how to "lie by omission" to my therapist>I'll try to think about maybe being honest probably; thanksi mean, you could just talk about your symptoms rather than labeling yourself transjust try to explain how you feel
