>>44071855
have u been with your girlfriend since before transition? this is important

>>44071855
This is just bisexuality.
Not being allowed to be a completely degenerate narcissist with one person of each sex is suffering.

>>44071865
Yes, we were together before I transitioned. She supported me thru all of it

>>44071855
when a guy makes u feel rlly seen and taken care of and safe it's like floodgates stg

>>44071883
Honestly… this is what i neeeddd

>>44071855
does she just not treat you like a woman or something? i used to think like this but then i got a butch lesbian gf who did all the things that i thought i wanted a boyfriend to do and i realized the problem was that 99% of women who date trannies just want to force us into the masculine boyfriend adjacent role in the relationship, and thats what i was unhappy with.

if thats true here and you still love her and everything which i assume you do i would vocalize that want to her and say you want to feel like you occupy that role as well (without mentioning the whole boyfriend thing)

>>44071913
Honestly maybe this is it? She is super supportive and supported my transition and loves me and uses my preferred name pronouns, helps me dress.

I dont think its really how she acts its just my insecurities. Next to her i feel so masculine.

Maybe it just feels like it would be easier to feel like a woman when im next to a man. Next to my cis girlfriend I just feel like a man

>>44071964
Well you are.

>>44071964
thats tough nona. if youre sure that its that then idk what you should do. does she do anything to make you feel less masculine (ie take on any traditionally masculine roles in the relationship)? or is it truly just the like physical juxtaposition of yourself against her that causes dysphoria?
i would make sure one way or the other before making a decision, but i will warn you it is bleak out there for the straight trans girls. there are great guys out there but they are exceedingly rare and always taken

pheremones, different body temperature, and wanting something the opposite of yourself

>>44072009
Its both I think. I like to be feminine but she is more attracted to me when i dress masculine or butch and honestly thats makes me feel a little insecure. When i doll up and look cute and feminine she is completely unfazed.

I think its bleak either way for trans girls with dating. So even if its not ideal i think i should just stay with my girlfriend anyways. She at least loves me and is willing to put up with my mental illness

>>44071964
Jealousy is a bitch. You aren't the first tranny to struggle to open up to cis women because of it. Although being married does complicate things.

Honestly, gonna need to either troonmax or accept being the butch in your lesbian marriage.

>>44072020
humans don't have pheromones, stop being a retarded moid

>>44071855
this is how it starts anon, lots of trannies who were bi pretrans end up straight after taking hrt long enough. happened to me

>>44072067
Is that true? How did that happen for you if you don’t mind me asking

>>44072067
>i was comphet but then i stopped larping
estrogen doesn't change your mind you retard, you were just always a faggot

>>44072127
idk girl i used to be bi (and had sex with women and men that i enjoyed) pretrans. i was in a relationship that started before i trooned, and at some point a few years post hrt i kinda thought i just had way less of a sex drive. then one time i was out drinking with friends and i tripped and a tall, muscled man caught me, lifted me a little, and set me on my feet. i kept it together but yeah i literally melted inside and idk it just stuck with me for a long time and i couldn't have sex with her.

>>44072128
yeah guys yk how both men and women are famously affected by changing hormones both physically and emotionally, and how it's the strongest predictor of sexual orientation and libido? and how cis women are well known to experience changes to sexual attraction on birth control and at different phases of the menstrual cycle and after menopause? well, literally none of that applies to trannies, you know people who inject cross-sex hormones into their bodies and experience the physical changes that come with it.

>>44072224
how lateshit are you out of curiosity? and also do you pass lol

>>44072255
late asf unfortunately, i trooned out when i was 21
my body passes well enough and i have ffs soon.

>>44072263
lateshit is a scale, i was picturing you as late 20s early 30s lol

>>44072275
midshit with a lateshit soul...
why do you ask tho?

>>44072289
if youre like late 20s or early 30s its harder to justify blowing an established potentially several years long relationship up, if youre still under like 26 and are on your way to passing its way easier to justify. not saying you should one way or another, just was going to advise against it if you were older
if she doesnt make you feel good though then i wouldnt stay with her personally, if youre young you have like too many opportunities and possibilities to tie yourself down to someone who doesnt even make you feel good about yourself

>>44072302
im not op and i left the relationship for many reasons when i was 25. i was very scared of dying alone and never finding anyone else, which kept me from leaving for longer than id like to admit, but i want others who are in a similar position to know that my life is much better now and i regret not exiting it sooner. being in a relationship with a woman when you havent been attracted to women for years doesn't lead to a happy or stable life

>>44072302
Yeah I’m OP. I am a lateshit late shit, transitioned when i was 24 and im 27 now. I pass somewhat but especially with voice i dont pass and it clocks me

>>44072224
That’s honestly so relatable girl men just make me so feral recently. But i do still definitely feel attracted towards women and my girlfriend