I had a dream where I was being buried alive by my (cis) girlfriend, and the entire time she was smiling and repeating, “This is what’s best. You trust me. You know that."I talked to her about it in the morning while I was making breakfast, and her response was "Maybe it’s the sign you should let me care for you completely. I’ve been asking you to quit your job since you started. You know that I can and will gladly take care of you."I don’t know what to do now. She’d be the one paying every bill, including my personal ones, and saving and paying for my SRS and ffs since she doesn’t want me to use any of the money I saved up right now as well.Basically, I’ll just have thousands of dollars sitting in a bank account for god knows how long. She said she’s going to use it to help with adoption processes when we get there.We’ve been dating for 7 months. I don’t know if I’m ready to be a housewife. I just got out of college. I just got a jobWhat do I do?
>>44143440Keep your job, spend her money.Easy!
>>44143512This. You should not become completely dependent on her, but don’t turn down free money either.
>>44143512She wants me to really badly. She says it will make our relationship better, but I don’t see how
>>44143574*Wants me to quit really badly
>>44143574So she should show it first and spoil you really bad and you can still do chores for herIf she wants to control you let her do it in a less toxic way
>>44143574Sounds like she’s trying to control you and isolate you desu.
>>44143440Read until "paying for my SRS"just break up
>>44143440do NOT do this. It sounds nice to "be cared for" but it's an insane power imbalance. Not only is there no guarantee that she'll continue to feel this way (she might wake up one day and start spiting you for "taking advantage of her" or something) but you will be powerless. Any conversation about the direction of your life will be tinted by the fact that she ultimately has the final say. I have been in this position before and it's incredibly shitty in ways you can't understand before you run across them.
>>44143634Could you explain how it’s toxic please?My friends say the same but I just see it as a massive step in our relationship thats still a bit new and maybe it’s a bit odd how mushy she’s being>>44143642Nope she pays for my social hobbies and encouraged me to make make more friends since I had basically none when we first met>>44143704I asked her about this when we spoke and she said she’s never felt that way towards and of her previous partners
>>44143440No doubt this is a fetish thing, but if real, it would be really stupid. She's gonna wake up to the "reality" of the situation and leave you high and dry or keep you around as a punching bag. Been there done that.
>>44143727>never felt that wayBingo. Its a passing fantasy of hers. She'll get burnt out and tired of it, this isn't a normal dynamic you wake up to wanting one day. You're gonna end up a homeless hon, and she'll laugh every second of the way whole you flounder on the street. But hey, you're not gonna listen. Victims never do. Enjoy the good time while it lasts.
>>44143727The things that people say can just change. I know it doesn't feel that way until you see it, but people can just flip 180 degrees over night. If the thing that they flip on is something like this, you're fucked. I say this because I had a very very similar situation.>"I want to take care of you I want you to be my housewife :)))">ok waow...>"im hungry. why isnt dinner ready now? WHATS WRONG WITH YOU WHY ARE YOU SO BAD AT THIS. whew sorry i get a bit hangry teehee."...>"hang out with me now">im doing something with my friends/something im interested in>"wow i literally pay your rent just so i can sit here and listen to you talk to other people? FUCK YOU, YOU'RE TAKING ADVANTAGE OF ME, WHAT DO YOU EVEN CONTRIBUTE? I BET YOURE JUST LOOKING AT PORN OR PLAYING SOME STUPID GAME"...or the best one>"hehehe sex time :)">um sorry im not really feeling it>"OK YOU CAN SAY NO BUT I CANT BELIEVE YOU SAID NO, I KNOW YOURE NOT OBLIGATED TO FUCK ME BECAUSE IM PAYING RENT BUT... WHAT AM I GETTING OUT OF THIS?"
>>44143727Ask your grandma what she thinks of this. Cis women have already been warned, but maybe trannies don’t get that talk.
>>44143735>>44143767Fetish? I don’t think this is that type of thing I’m just overwhelmed by he offer and don’t know if I should accept or not She doesn’t bring power dynamics into our sex life but she does top (not in a dominant way)>>44143825That does sound like a nightmarish scenario… we’ve been together for so long I think I know her well but her changing over night sounds terrifying
>>44143862My grandmamother is also a housewife and got married as soon as she graduated high school so I don’t think her opinion would be unbiased
>>44143440No accepting this deal will not only ruin your relationship but will also show you don’t trust her enough.If she’s offering to pay for surgeries then it’s a complete no brainer. Do no decline this.
>>44143440This sounds like the setup to a creepypasta.
>>44143440She’s picrel, codependent tendencies.Let me guess, she has a BPD parent, or one with drug problems?She will give infinitely but eventually start to resent you even if she doesn’t admit it even to herself, and it also isn’t healthy for her to be so giving. Don’t do it.
>>44145299Forgot pic
>>44145195I need someone to write this ASAP
