>>44156074
i would hide it from everyone but my mom, and that's only because she has good insurance. it was just a mix of the people close to me either treating me like this child who's pretending to be a dinosaur, or basically saying "oh" and becoming immediately distant. either way they drifted away, because hanging out with me felt uncomfortable to them. i'd do anything to rewind, and have my friends and family back

>>44156074
the first time i came out to my mum was when she noticed i had painted my nails, i was like 10-11 and told her i want to be a girl. she wasnt mean but she made a joke like "do you want to be called germima" and to me who was very insecure that pushed me away from it, still almost went to a psychologist but i chickened out. then i had to do it all over again at 19 but now with more backbone :/

my dad said im not allowed to tell others because "i dont tell everyone what kind of porn i watch so why would you tell then your trans", that was cool, but i noticed he tries not to call me "boy" and stuff now

my family figured it out when i started boymoding and nothing has changed

my friends when i had to get their signatures for my name change (they are legbutts so they dgaf)

>>44156139
i will add if i could change anything it would be to push for help more when i was 11 and explain just how awful i felt and that i needed help

>>44156074
Haven't told anyone and I don't plan to. My family is extremely religious and I would be disowned. When one of my brothers hinted at being gay, my mom went on a religious rant and held it over his head ever since (he suppresses everything now). Doesnt matter how subtle I am, it would result in a multi-day screaming match + breaking things until one side gives in or a full disconnect (which happened w my other siblings for smaller reasons). I plan to pretend to have some intersex condition or gyno if I'm outted, but I look like a man regardless so it doesn't matter.

I can't cone out to my dad because I already iced him out. My mom's across the country now so soon enough I'll probably tell her. She's an evangelical who believes the end times will come soon and play out like Left Behind, so...it probably isn't gonna be pretty. My bf responded at first with bemusement and an unwillingness to meet me in the middle. Learning I got bitcoin to buy HRT, he's on the verge of kicking me out. So...not great.

>>44156412
It won't work for mentally ill christoids with TDS I'm sorry

>>44156074

i was a super effeminate child, and i realized i was trans when my grandpa wrote a letter to me and referred to me as a girl in it. i came out to my mom at 14 and she just told me that i wasn't and said i was probably just a feminine guy.

it took another two years of therapy for her to accept it and let me get on hormones, and another 3-4 for her to really treat me as her daughter, but we're in a really good place now.

my dad lowkey just went with it until i started to pass and then he got super protective of me lol.

if i could do it over i would've tried to make my mom realize how serious i was about it, but overall i can't complain too much.

Came out in my family groupchat and everyone just thumbs up reacted to it and didn't respond

>>44157222
This one is the most pathetic.

>>44156542
Are you Gen Z? Anyway yeah kids coming out as trans before 18 didn’t happen 10 years ago in the west.
I’d be more interesting in hearing stories of people coming out during the early 2010s or earlier.

>>44157259
yeah im gen z

>>44156074
ive come out to my mother around eight or so times since i was 13 (24 atm). my early attempts were all the same; i would stress how much happier id be as a girl and beg her to consider helping me, but nothing would ever come of it. expect for what im convinced was a covert attempt at conversion therapy lol

once i reached highschool i became reclusive and irritable, so any attempts to explain my identity to her always devolved in to us screaming at eachother. i stopped really trying after junior year

once i graduated and was still living with my parents, i almost entirely avoided any conversation of being trans, mainly because i worried that my mother really would kick me out if i was assertive about it.

my most recent coming out was last month, where i aired out my grievances and told her to live with it. she knows the gist by now so why bother with the reiterating lol

besides my most recent, all my attempts went pretty bad icl all id change would be keeping all of it to myself, if only to save myself the anguish

>>44157393
when did you start HRT? MTF or FTM?

>>44156074
came out to my parents the first time at 19
>dad didn't understand at all but wanted to be supportive
>mom accused me of being a lying manipulator
>dad ultimately deferred to mom like always
>I went back into the closet but never stopped thinking about it
>sometimes the dysphoria was worse, other times I was a non-person piloting a disgusting meat golem through the world in order to get back to escapist media as quickly as possible
I have never spoken to them about it again and never want to. My mother's right wing and transphobic views have become so much more extreme since then, to the point where other family members are calling her out for it at family gatherings.

>mid 30s
>egg that was glued back together and sealed away "forever" has somehow re-cracked
>terrified of making real change and being unable to hide it
>but also terrified at the idea of growing old and dying alone as a man, without ever giving myself a chance to live
agonizing over this is genuinely starting to hit dysfunctional levels. I don't think repressing is going to remain an option for much longer.

>>44157504
why the tf did you come out and then repress for 20 years. Fucking hell, just stay a man ngl

>>44157222
giwtwm

my brother got tipped off that i was on Grindr as a girl and talked to me about it and convinced me to come out. i came out to the rest of my family and they all disowned me and my mother in order tried to kill herself, choke me to death, then send me to conversion therapy. my brother is the only one i still really talk to from my family. i love you big bro.

>>44157222
fuck you

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>>44156074
I got forced out for being a fag and then later for being a tranny because my parents kept going through my shit like every day when I lived at home. I do wish I could go back because both times it was a fucking mess and it ruined my relationship with my whole family. I feel like if I had been able to do it on my own time I could've smoothed things over a little better.

>>44156074
Hrt at 30 (faketrans), told parents at 31 - completely blindsided, uncomfortable, annoyed, disappointed, pointed out there were no signs (faketrans). We've never discussed it again and since I'm still a manmoder they probably think I wasn't serious (faketrans).

My partner always knew I could possibly troon, it was the first think I disclosed. Why would you hide it from your partner, why even have a partner if you can't open up yourself to them?

As for my family, I left them and my country behind years ago. Visited then and they repeated the same old behaviors with violating boundaries, so I have no plans to ever open up to them.
>>44157504
Wow, your parents killed you. Hell, what you went through is worse than murder. It is over

>>44156074
the first person I opened up to about any of it was my best friend in 2022. Something had made all the ancient and buried tranny thoughts bubble up to the surface and I trauma dumped on him. He took it like a champ, and when I finally decided to transition he was 100% in my corner

spent a month or two talking to nonas on discord. When I was ready to accept myself, the words "I am a woman" slid right off my tongue

the second IRL person I told any of it was my brother, who refuses to use my name or pronouns until I either pass or become appreciably sexy. I've been malefailing recently but he's still a little shit about it

then another friend. The subject of valid uses of bitcoin somehow came up while I was fixing his computer, and I pointed out that diy hrt is a valid option. He asked how I knew about it. I had qlready decided at this point so out it came. He was surprised but accepted it

couldn't tell my dad, he died shortly after I started hrt. I think I still carry some guilt over it, like his life was the price for living mine

came out to the rest of my friends over a game of D&D a few months later. Everyone was pretty cool about it

come out to my extended family as I see them. My redneck republican of an uncle said "somehow I always knew you were a girl"

no current partner but came out to my ex when she emailed me out of the blue in 2025. She was just looking to reconnect and see how I was doing (we hadn't talked since covid started). I had told her in casual conversation that I'd wanted to be a girl my whole life (she was complaining about period cramps, saying I would never want to be a girl), but I dont think she ever expected I would actually start transition

I keep trying to come out but I basically can't. My parents are homophobic and even more so transphobic but if I come out they'll just pretend nothing happened and that I'm still cishet.

I guess that's better than a violent reaction but even still they tell me I'm disowned if I'm ever gay or trans. I think they just don't take "coming out" seriously and will only get mad if/when I start taking HRT and get a BF

Generally for modern day it’s better to boymode and only officially come out to work and parents once you pass.

They have nothing to stop as you already transitioned far enough and you pass so there’s no need feel embarrassed in public. That’s my plan, boymode and keep taking HRT till the changes are so irrefutable that I am forced to come out, or my parents come to the conclusion I must be transitioning

>>44158247
forgot my mom. Between friend 2 and dad:
it was a fucking disaster at first, not because she's transphobic but because she has no concept of how actual conversation with her own children should work
I should not have to spend days building the exact order of words for her to actually listen to them
I should not have to spend weeks looking for an opportunity to actually talk to her
I should not have to schedule a fucking appointment to talk to my own mother for 5 minutes
I should not have to deal with her forgetting the appointment, then delaying by a further hour and a half so she can watch youtube farm living videos
I should not then have to deal with getting only 5 words out before she decides what the next 50 are, steals control of the conversation, and makes me feel like killing myself for even thinking I could talk to her about anything

this woman is nevertheless my staunchest ally. She's just adamant that any conversation I have with her (and it's only me, she's not like this with anyone else) be on her terms, which are never conducive to actual conversation

I started showing an interesting in wearing leggings around the house due mainly to them being comfy. Wife asked if I ever had any trans thoughts, and I admitted I had. Wasn't even considering trooning out at the time, though I've known I was likely trans since I was a kid. Ended up tripping on mushrooms a few days later and realized how much mental bandwidth I put into repressing. Trooned out shortly thereafter.

Wife has been accepting, though she's straight so it hasn't been totally without grief, but we're very much still in love. We're actually pretty codependent, desu.

Told some friends, a lesbian and a bi girl I've known since high school, my wife's best friend and her bf, and a high school friend who's also trooning out. All reactions have been good, though all are some form of queer or leftist. Haven't told my parents yet, but most of the rest of my family are dead. Really not looking forward to telling them, but they are very loving and liberal. I have no doubt they'll accept me. They'll just be worried.

Wife's mom is pretty religious, though she lives in Turkey (we're in the US) so I'm not too worried there.

>>44158284
How old are you? I’ve never been in a relationship, age 22yo, trooning out for 4 months now in boymode.

>>44156542
Here's hoping for a future where all trans people have a childhood like your's.

>>44158298
33. This all started December 2024.

>>44157504
hrtrep dumbass

>>44158282
your mom sounds like an absolute freak

>>44156074
This show is so fucking cringe
Fuck off

>>44158679
the jaxposting will continue until morale improves

>>44156074
It didn't go well with my partner. We had vague conversations over the years about how we both feel nonbinary in some ways, but when i admitted i was struggling with my identity, she basically screamed at me until i was sobbing demanding to know if i was trans or not. i admitted it, we were distant and on the verge of breaking up for almost a year following that, but then she decided to stay and things are better than ever between us now.

>>44156074
This is pretty sad
im sorry if i ruin the thread
Both my parents are dead or dead to me before I could vocalize my thoughts on being a girl, I do have an extremely vivid memory of telling my father that i wanted to be a princess and dancing at 8 or 9. I just got laughed at by him and his wife at the time. I think they made fun of me for it for years

I never came out to my mom before she killed herself but thats my fault for not figuring myself out fast enough

theirs an older coworker that acts like my mom i kinda wanna come out to her but that likely wont work out very well, whenever I skim threads like these I guess Im glad that it didnt go worse

>>44157222
>family group chat
do goyim really

>>44157222
if they still treat you well and use your new name and stuff I think this is actually really wholesome
no drama, no big event, just the same welcome you've always had

>>44156074
First time I ever came out I was in 2nd grade told my best friend at the time I wanted to be a girl when I grew up I panicked and told him I was lying and not to tell anyone after.

Next time I tried to start hrt at 18. Family found out bc I was retarded abt my prescription. Mother told me should never accept this about me family took my troon meds and I’ve been repping ever since. I only stay alive for the sake of the femreps in my life who helped me get hrt in the first place.

>>44156074
never have, never will

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>>44156074
Family, never came out to them. I boymoded for 6 years under their roof and was getting very obvious to everyone except them by the end of it. They either pay so little attention to me and my well being that they genuinely didn't know, or they noticed and hated the idea of it so much they decided to never confront it and just let me suffer in silence hoping it wasn't real. Either sounds plausible for them and neither sounds like a family I want to come out to, among their other massive relational issues.
Friends, I don't have any friends. Not by choice, most of my childhood friends either moved away before social media or I had to move away from them as an adult looking for work. They weren't the friends I would have told personal stuff to anyway, more like gaming buddies by proximity.
Partner, well, I kinda have to come out to them, and the majority have also been trans so that's already common ground. My partner is probably the only person I'd ever come out to, but I'm single right now and living my worst stealthshit life (employed and housed but miserably lonely and unfulfilled).

I think overall I just don't know how I'm supposed to actually connect to people, and I panic at the thought of expressing something genuine or my honest needs to people at all. I'm the quiet one at work that nobody knows or asks to do anything, and this extends to my personal life as well. The thought of "coming out", even as a passoid now, still scares me a lot. I feel like the only reason I'm stealth or pass now is because it's just easier for me to blend in as a woman and not answer questions or make myself seen, and I'm scared of ever breaking that pattern because of how bad things could get if I let the wrong people know what I am.

>>44156074
Was a weird gay sissy kid, would steal my mom's clothes and shoes and talk about wanting to be a girl all the time. Got older and didn't know how to process it so I thought I was just gay so I became homophobic. Come highschool I realized I could be trans, became terrified of the implications, and panicked. Started actively repping by gaycoping. Came out as gay, dad and step sisters literally pointed and laughed at me. Mom's side of the family accepted and never treated me different for it. Come college, dysphoria is raping my mind. Come out to my friend, he tells me transitioning isn't a good idea. I did this on purpose, anyone else I could have talked to would have affirmed me but I talked to him so he could talk me out of it. 27 now. The love of my life, my boyfriend is aware of my dysphoria but has always been against it. Not cause he's a cisgay freak or anything, he's just scared I might permanently alter my mind and body negatively. I've stopped repping and came out to my mom. She knows she can't really understand my problem entirely because she's afab but still wants to do everything she can to learn and support me.

>>44161396
Your mom is fully supportive, plus her whole side of the family
Transition already you dumb fuck
You don’t realize how lucky you are to have even that support

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>>44156074
i sent my mum a text message at 4am with a bunch of gibberish surrounding acutal text
it was fine

i wont. boomer parents dad sucks and mom is a retard wouldnt understand. shed probably cry thinking it means im gay and gonna die of aids. might even say that she always knew it would happen bc i smoked a pot cigarette one time. even if accepting it would just be obnoxious pandering bullshit with a yuge frustrating gap in actual understanding that would drive us further apart. she basically thinks everything is a consumer demographic or "lifestyle choice" and cant conceive of it differently so "support" would amount to "you can buy whatever makes u happy honey"

and i dont think shes gonna figure it out somehow. she likes to ask if im gay every few years or why im not married or when she gets grandkids. but i saw her recently clean shaved w hair grown out and she just complimented it and said i look manly? lol.

i never really thought about it seriously or noticed bc its kinda just background but every single one of my friends is some kind of alt goth queer bi gay trans furry. like i remember going around in a circle in high school and lit all of them being bi or gay. admittedly most of them in straight relations now but i know for a fact most of them are really really queer. anyway thats just to say ive been out in that sense since like middle school but it never really came up at all?

>>44161707
*supportive of being gay.
My mom is supportive of my trans identity but the rest of her family are millenials stuck in the 2000's whose only image of trans people are gigahon optics nukes. And yeah I am currently trying to acquire E.

>>44161396
Mfs need to stop repping and grow some balls

>>44160038
they all treat me pretty much the same which is nice. I followed up with my dad in person about it and his response was "are we supposed to be suprised?"

I lucked out with a gender nuetral name at birth so nothing's had to change there and my family are starting to get used to the new pronouns. pretty good outcome all things considered.

>>44162930
that's great anon, I'm glad you get to be you without any fuss

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>>44156074
>Family
I was really depressed in high school, because of dysphoria and abusive dad. One day I let the mask slip and told a friend I wanted to kill myself. The next day, convinced my mom to let me call out sick because I was too depressed to go to school. Friend didn't see me in that day, got worried, told the school. School called my dad, but he couldn't get home from work so he called my mom to come home and check on me. Mom came running home, crying her eyes out and terrified I was dead. She hugged me when she saw I was still here. She knew I was depressed but didn't know it was that bad, so she asked what was going on, and that's when I told her I was trans and that I hated myself for being trans. She said okay, she loves me and supports me, and she then helped me find a therapist and an endo to start HRT. I then repressed for two more years after that because my therapist was an old boomer hon and I was terrified that I would look like her if I transitioned lmao.

Came out to Dad a few years later on Christmas. It was the second time in my life I had ever seen him cry, first was when one of his best friends died of cancer. He never did accept me, not outwardly hostile at least but clearly uncomfortable. For five years, he refused to let me video call or share pictures of myself with his side of the family over in Morocco. I asked him to let me come out to them as a birthday gift one year, and he refused to support me. I did it anyways, and now most of them don't talk to me any more.
Eventually, I stopped talking to him. The last conversation we had he called this a "lifestyle choice" lol.

>Friends
Don't remember, it's been a decade since I came out to my BFF. I asked her recently if she remembers and she said she clocked me as trans when I was boymoding in our first years at college together and at some point just straight up asked me what my pronouns were. The next semester, she then helped me come out at the board game club we were both a part of.

>>44156074
john 50'd until I was 30, transmaxxed for about a year, started passing, and then came out to family. Literally the most anticlimactic thing ever, everyone just showed love and support, and now I'm just girl. Honestly I feel kind of cheated because it ended up being so easy for me, I expected a big bang but instead it feels like no one really cares, but I guess I should just be happy about that. I dunno, it felt like a big thing to me.

>>44156074
>family
Let them know at 22 (diyed from 20)
My dad towards my mom: "told ya!"
Apparently my dad knew even before I did lol. But they didn't want to impose anything on me and since they had raised all 3 siblings to be open (or at least not-shut-ins) they wanted to let things develop at their own pace.
The rest of the family was less accepting until I started passing.
>friends
A few drifted away, the rest didn't care that much. One also trooned out later.
>partner
my bf at the time left me.
ended up single for over a year and then I met my current husband.
all in all it went really well given that I live in eastern europe.
>If you could go back and do it over, would you?
yeah, but earlier. I should've trooned at 18. iiwii, no way to change the past.

>come out to mom as liking boys and probably trans at 15, begging her to not tell my dad bc he was kind of an abusive asshole
>she doesn't tell him, but never really brings it up with me.
>2 years later start HRT for a bit, get scared once effects start and then stop
>Repress until end of college
>Start again, don't tell parents
>Start male failing in front of parents
>Uncle who is nurse sees my obvious C-D cup breasts at this point (luck shit with gyno pre hrt)
>Asks parents if I'm on HRT, they say no
>Sister tells me Dad already knows and is supportive
>Come out to them, mom doesn't get it but Dad is really supportive
>They tell the rest of my family that I'm intersex and had this condition for a while

All of this caused me to become closer to my dad, who I was so scared of for most of my life. He's been like the biggest supporter out of my family and I honestly wish I had done it sooner

>>44164804
telling the extended family you're intersex is honestly a pretty smart move on your parents part. not sure why I never thought of this

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>>44164129
Another person with Moroccan origins here huh
I'm so deathly scared of coming out to my parents, I understand you

How come you people all have religious conservative parents. Does that kind of upbringing cause the brain damage responsible for transgenderism

>>44165848
yeah I think it certainly plays a role, and maybe there is a genetic component too

>uncle and his wife are hard right white christian nationalists
>one of their children is trans
>the other is gay (lesbian)
>every year in the holiday video call they talk about how the woke mafia murdered their son, brainwashed their daughter, and denied them the grandchildren they deserved to have

>>44164129
>repressed for two years because you got psyched out by the sight of a boomer on
Kek. Sorry about your experience, but that is really funny to read. I hope you're doing alright now.

>>44165848
I think it might cause the brain damage that brings trans people to 4chan.

>>44164991
If it's some small consolation, there's some parts of my Moroccan family who haven't completely disowned me. They're the ones who actually left the country and immigrated to modern Western countries like France.

>>44165987
I already hated myself for being trans because I had internalized a lot of the online trans vitriol and thought trans people were disgusting. Then the very first trans person I ever met IRL was a boomer hon. How else would I react?

I'm doing alright now, haven't killed myself yet and just hit 10 years on HRT. So overall, I'll call that a win.

>>44167757
>modern Western countries
>France
nona, sorry to break it to you but a country is neither modern nor western just because it's located in western europe or the western hemisphere.
France is an unadulterated bankrupt violent shithole, just marginally better than Haiti.

>>44156074
>How did you come out to your family/friends/partner?
I never did it. First, i don't know how do it. I want talk about it with my family, but i looked and i thought "How talk about it in first step???".
In last months i started accept the idea of be gay or something like it. But the i can't talk to they, i want, but i can't.
Because this situation, now i started search by the furry community to have a space to be gay but with a control to express a side of myself.
And i will probably talk first with the priest of my church or my therapist, to understand more this feelings before of conversation with my parents.

>>44169884
Anons, i want listen your opinions about my choices, can someone help me?

>>44156074
i tried to come out to a friend recently by sending them an instagram reel that essentially says "i'm transgender" but i don't think they care enough about me to talk about it w me or anything.
sucks since they're the only person id tell since everyone else in my life are cissy chuds who would claim to not be transphobic, but they'll never see trans women as women. i guess i really am in this alone