Idk how they thought I was a cissoid I've been boymoding for years but this whole interaction made me feel very uncomfortable and a little scared but all my friends said things like "congrats you pass" or "welcome to womanhood" and I feel like they're being very dismissive at how uncomfortable I felt
Being catcalled as a trans woman has this added layer of "if they notice I'm trans after having done that I might get beat up"
>>44215202Yeah that was another reason i was so scared
>>44215206Are your friends that were saying that stuff cis?
>>44215228Yeah
>>44215183cissoids are evil but it's time to girlmode
>>44215183used to see this as a good sign even though it felt uncomfy. but I realized that guys do it on purpose, to assert dominance, after two friends of mine did this to an asian twink when I was with them.
>>44215183>>44215206I understand the feeling, nona. I understand stuff like catcalling can be really stressful. But on the plus side, you do pass! This means all you have to do is build up resistance to that or earn a reputation as someone not to fuck with, and the catcallers won't likely be a problem much longer. This is all easier said than done, I know that, but I believe in you.
>>44215427Building up a reputation how? Like what should I do to make them leave me alone
what was it like exactly because even dudes get catcalled though not for sexual reasons
>>44215183It’sa free validation!
>>44216176They were like saying shit like "hey sexy" and kept repeating it as I tried to ignore them
>>44215183>all my friends said things like "congrats you pass" or "welcome to womanhood" and I feel like they're being very dismissive at how uncomfortable I feltIt's like >>44215202 said. Cis women don't understand that. You have a right to feel uncomfortable and unsafe because of that.
>>44215183It is definitely an affirmation that you are seen as a woman, but it also increases your empathy and membership in the sisterhood now that you have felt the embarrassment and fear that it invokes.One time I was walking to Walmart to get some candles to appease the spirits during my LSD trip. I had to walk cause I was peaking on LSD but I needed the candles for clarity because the witch hunters were closing in on me.I got catcalled the most loudly Ive ever been catcalled as I walked into the parking lot, the straight up two tone whistle and it was so loud you could hear it across the street. I was alone, it was pretty late, and I had locked my guns away cause I was tripping so I didn't have any self defense. It made me feel embarrassed. and it scared me. Had I dressed inappropriately, too revealing? What did this man who whistled at me have on his mind? The reality is, it was probably just to flatter- but it didn't make me feel flattered *at all*Don't be too harsh on your friends for responding the way they did. as much as this seems like a new form of being sexualized to you- all of your female friends have experienced what you did and become numb to within the first few years of being a teenager. Their cold dismissal of it isn't too far off from how a man would respond to a transman saying he got told to "stop being a pussy" for the first time, and realizing men do not have the liberty of expression that women do.Being sexualized and objectified is an aspect of womanhood that sucks that there is no solution to and its reasonable that a ciswomans response to passing transwomen who first experience it and are, rightfully, disturbed by it, is to dismiss it callously.con't-
>>44217357Like other females, I discussed the situation and sought support from my mother. Your mother is your natural feminine guide. Sadly, there is no real solution. Part of being a woman is being objectified and sexualized, and as I have, you will also be catcalled many times in the future. Its just something you're going to have to get callous to like I, and other women have.Sometimes I still think back to it, was the man who whistled at me a witch hunter himself, signalling to his team-mates that I was proceeding into a public space so I couldn't be openly targeted? Was it that he was trying to intimidate me and make me give up and return home? Or was he just a dude who saw a hot girl and thought he was complimenting me in some chauvinistic way? Was the whistle even that loud really or was I just tripping? A reality any even slightly attractive woman faces, again.Ill never know, but I got my candles and got home safely. However, I do get catcalled still now and again, as all women do- including you. This is your reality, now.>>44216436That's actual terrifying.Worst situation I had like this was when I was in California and a guy dropped his pants and wagged his dick at me.
