>be me>BPDoid tranny, alcoholic, cutter, blah blah blah>didnt really cut until a few months ago, had a friend who sort of put it in perspective for me, realized i didnt feel like i was really mentally ill unless i self harmed>started cutting a lot since then>friend suddenly stopped talking to me about a week ago>ask why>he said he cant be friends with me while im so unstable>lose my shit>only calm down because he didnt completely cut me off and was open to being friends once i've healed mentally>problem is, i've been in therapy for years and i still havent mentally healed>self harm made it worse since i just look like a skinny ugly gay boy covered in self harm scars and acnewhat do i do? i know i need to quit cutting but it helps keep me grounded, i need advice.
>>44218778I started putting rubber bands on my arm and snapping them whenever I wanted to cut. It sounds gay and stupid but it helped me quit. I stopped now but when I really want to I dig my nails into my skin or hit myself in the inside of my elbow really hard.
>>44218789how long did it take to quit? i need to quit pretty soon cause my family expects me to start wearing short sleeve stuff and i've managed to hide it until now, but they expect it like by the end of the month
>>44218778buy a stun gun/cattle prod
>>44218778what type of therapy have you been doing nona?you basically need to replace the cutting with something else that grounds you, so you need to develop healthy coping strategies basically
are you on e?personally that and DBT have helped, whenever things get too fucked i just smoke weed instead of alcohol and it helps - cant recommend if you have an addictive personality though, you're better off putting a cold water bottle to your cheek and breathing if that's the case (sounds retarded but its the next best thing to prevent self harm in my case)
