a friend of mine is trans and i realized i'm trans too a few months ago and i hate hershe looks so much better than me.i'm so tall and she's so short since she started during puberty.im so happy for her but i hate seeing her because she mogs me in every way. i wish i could look like her. i need to start hrt asap but i have no money and nobody knows im trans yeti fucking hate myself i'm so disgusting and i'll never be a woman
>>44221465its possible to beat her if u try i believe in u
>>44221465I'm in a similar situation, though the rolls are reversed. I have friend from high school who I found out is trans too (we're both in our early thirties). I haven't seen her, but I have been talking to her online, and shit is not going well for her. Her gf left her, she doesn't have a job, she has no transportation. She's pretty tall and masculine Shits bad.On the other hand, my wife is supportive. We have a mortgage and the means to maintain it. I'm like 5' 7" and never had much of a male puberty. I'm happy to talk with her, but I really don't think I should mention much about how things are going for me.
>>44221465i think you should try talking to her about it, most likely she will be understanding and will give you advicet. been on hrt 5+ years and have talked to/ given advice to trans people irl that i know
>>44221502thank u nona.>>44221564if you do talk to her, please dont tell her how good things are going for you. immediately hearing that you are 5'7 snd didn't go through too much puberty, i got so jealous and defensive.maybe just try being there for her? idk if you guys are close or anything but id just try to show that you care w/o telling her how things are going for you (if you do, just be short and dont linger on the topic?)>>44221568desu it's more complicated than that since i've only ever seen her in boymode but even then she still mogs me, and we aren't really close but i still consider her a friend because we used to hang out a lot.i'm considering talking to a friend of mine (nonbinary person but not on hrt, /tttt/ make of that what you will) because they're legitimately the only person i think would be understanding. i've already sent them instagram posts where i basically dogwhistle that i'm trans. but i'm hesitant because i'm closer to being a fat moid than a beautiful woman.i did not care about my future until i realized i would rather be a woman. but i have nobody irl that i've actually talked to ab this. i've gotten most of my advice from /tttt/i feel like i'm too much of a pussy to get hrt without a support system. i probably have untreated adhd and/or depression (unironically think transitioning would help me with that) so i tend to just... not do things. and then i feel even worse because i didnt do anything.i guess im just wondering if coming out to my friend would be a good idea. (not the friend in the og post) and even then i have no idea how i would come out!!
>>44221877to add onto thisim scared of being seen as a rapehon because i'm tall, my ribcage is manly, and my nose is big + browbone is defined + jawline.it feels so humiliating existing like this while inside i dream of how i could have been if i had transitioned 10 years ago (i was so close to cracking my egg in hindsight. and i fucked everything up)
>>44221877>desu it's more complicated than that since i've only ever seen her in boymode but even then she still mogs me, and we aren't really close but i still consider her a friend because we used to hang out a lot.well that's up to you. i have friends like that who i am not super close to but used to be better friends with (e.g. highschool friends), and if any of them wanted to meet up and then told me they were trans or were thinking about it, i would be 100% fully supportive and it honestly would make me happy that they trusted talking to me about it.>nonbinary person but not on hrtwell they aren't trans then, like still valid or whatever, but its not the same as being transsexual. hopefully they will be understanding and not push you away from medical transition. imo the best person to talk to would be an irl friend that is transsexual (has medically transitioned)>i guess im just wondering if coming out to my friend would be a good idea. (not the friend in the og post) and even then i have no idea how i would come out!!i think its best to tell close trusted friends first, get on hrt, and then figure out from there
>>44221932>well that's up to you. i have friends like that who i am not super close to but used to be better friends with (e.g. highschool friends), and if any of them wanted to meet up and then told me they were trans or were thinking about it, i would be 100% fully supportive and it honestly would make me happy that they trusted talking to me about it.i see, this is a nice perspective.>well they aren't trans then, like still valid or whatever, but its not the same as being transsexual. hopefully they will be understanding and not push you away from medical transition. imo the best person to talk to would be an irl friend that is transsexual (has medically transitioned)yeah this is one of the things i've been hesitant regarding.. i think they'd be supportive but also like they used to date another enby(not on hrt) who ended up outing a trans woman i know for reasons that may have been transmisogynistic.>i think its best to tell close trusted friends first, get on hrt, and then figure out from therei just remembered actually, i do know a trans person (ftm, im mtf) and we used to be close but dont talk anymore. i think ill try talking to him more, even if we dont actually rekindle a friendship i just want to talk about it with someone thats probably what ill do ngl thanks for the advice nona, i still have a lot of problems but this is an early step i suppose
>>44221877>maybe just try being there for her?Yeah, that's what I'm doing. I helped her out with some money recently. We haven't talk since high school before this, but had been friends on and off since elementary.
>>44221971>thanks for the advice nona, i still have a lot of problems but this is an early step i supposehappy to help, good luck with everything :3