my dad gave up on teaching me a sport bc I sucked at all of them so bad. Then when I was a teen he never taught me how to ask out a girl, he never even mentioned it. And I also had no friends so I had no one to pressure me to do more manly stuff. All my dad cared about was that I got good grades in school so that I could get some dumb office job, is it any surprise I would start wishing I was the opposite gender, he never taught me how to enjoy life as a man
>>44344583When I quit sports young he didn't even try to get me to go back. Never had girl advice either. I had friends but they never confided in me about girl stuff.
>>44344583>he thinks men get to be happy
There are many people who grew up without parents in general, and turn out to be successful in their sexually assigned role. I think you’re just coping because you’re unable to do anything by yourself and you blame others
>>44344583My dad used to say he would cut off my weiner if i ever got caught masturbating. My mother wasn't any better, i wasn't allowed to like either women or men, anything about sex was forbiddenI always got treated like i was supposed to be someone with no sexuality at all, an eternal childThey created their own monster
>>44344655I see lots of men with happy lives I just don’t know how to be like them>>44344656>you’re unable to do anything by yourselfExactly, I needed help but no one taught me how to be a person>>44344660similar for me tho less extreme my dad never said anything and my mom always talked about sex and youth relationships negatively. It’s like they expected me to just figure this stuff out on my own at 18 but instead I had arrested development and was easily confused by fag narratives on the internet
>>44344583>he never taught me how to enjoy life as a manCause there are no joys to being a man.
>>44344737They’re zombies, you’re better off not being like them. You chose a difficult path, and it’ll be a lonesome one. But you’ll be fine.
>>44344761id rather be a zombie, I want my life to easy, it’s just hard bc I was never taught how to be a normal person. I really don’t have any true self or desires I’m not even queer just really fucking confused
>>44344786Go run some laps, you.
>>44344761>just don’t be happy>keep blaming your problems on x, y, zDon’t ever give advice again, neet retard.
>>44344798I once tried to pick up running and then I tripped and fell and now I have a huge scar on my elbow. That’s how uncoordinated I am
>>44344820>Asking 4chan for advice
>>44344919Okay. Well. Maybe Google some calisthenics routines, start walking a few miles a day, eat correctly. You look good, you’ll feel good. Read some books instead of coming here. Try meditating. Talk to a therapist. Maybe talk to a clinician about HRT if that’s something that you want to pursue. You get the general idea.
>>44344583I played no sports, actively loathe them to this day. Also have zero "manly" hobbies like cars or guns. I have no interest in transitioning to become a woman. You were cooked regardless of your hobbies.
>>44344737>no one taught me how to be a personNo one is ever taught "how to be a person", least of all "how to be a gender role". You just fucking do shit you like to do and skip shit you don't like to do. There you go, now you are a person.
>>44344949I tried hrt and I’m pretty sure it’s not for me that’s how I came to realize I’m just insanely confused >>44344967how do you socialize with other men tho. Note I don’t really play video games either
>>44345006>skip shit you don't like to dothat’s the problem tho I don’t like anything everything I’ve ever done felt wrong and uncomfortable what I need are people to force me into better habits and teach me how to be happy
>>44345035this sounds weird but it is relevant to helping expand your social circle, how old are you? or just give me a small range if you don’t want to be exact
>>44345070im 26 i.e. too late to turn things around
>>44345035>how do you socialize with other men thoFind other common interests. You say you have an office job, there's a jump off point. I assume you listen to some kind of music? Watch some kind of media? You post on this website which is 95% male, there's a common interest. Besides, most people just want to talk about themselves anyways. Just ask them about their favorite hobbies and let them drone on about it.
>>44344583becoming a woman is how he taught you be happy as a man
>>44344583happiness comes from the self anon, it cannot be taught by others, sadly.
>>44345117I just met a 25 year old guy at my pickleball club (gayer than this board, I know.) We play rocket league and watched ufc a couple weeks ago at my apartment. You’ve just given up the ability to try. No one and I mean no one will be able to help you until you start believing in yourself.
>>44345172That is so much worse than being gay.Quite possibly the worst thing I ever read
>>44345203Great. Stay in your room another day and keep away from children, neet faggot.
>>44345119conversation terrifies me, the best male friendships are where you have some activity to do together I just don’t know how to do anything>>44345126every study on happiness shows it comes from having vibrant social networks, there is no “internal happiness”>>44345172again I have a lot of fear and trauma around doing sports and I didn’t even know what ufc was until the whole trump thing
>>44345214Coming from a guy playing pickleball and rocket league? lmao, okay guy
>>44345250You wouldn’t even be able to leave your room now that I think about it. Are all of your pills and injections mobile? Just stick to what you know, doing nothing and rotting in your bed.
>>44344583Your definition of 'being a man' is simply too narrow.There are plenty of nerdy dudes who are still men and enjoy being men. You don't have to be a dudebro sportsballer to be a man. You can like DND and be a nerdy guy and still be a man.
OP, I suggest you turn that frown upside down with this hip new YouTuber I just found out about, he’s called “Dhar Mann”
>>44345035go bowling and join a league ffs
>>44345270Case in point: do you really want to be like this guy OP? Ranting and raving like a petulant child because a stranger doesn’t like his favorite flavors of goyslop?
>>44345296It was never about the game, it’s the fact that an incompetent autist can’t even process what normies play or do. It’s all ‘cringe.’ What isn’t cringe? Can you tell us?
>>44345315You have abominable consumerist tastes and are ugly, that is why *you* should not give advice. Your writing style betrays your aversion to deodorant.
44345336>deflection>incoherent rambling Just kill yourself before your unwashed hands touch the keyboard again. Not one troon can argue in good faith
>>44345241>I want a vibrant social network where no one speaks at all!I see why you are struggling, you are fucking retarded. >the best male friendships are where you have some activity to do togetherYou do realize the "friendship" part comes in the conversation between the activity right?
>>44345352stay silly, cuckold (;
>>44345035Friend. Being uninterested in socialization for socialization's sake does not mean you are a woman.You either just are very exclusive about who you care to associate with ( which is fine. ) or you just gotta solve some more fundamental things in your life that are weighing on your mind.You know what you gotta do. And being a woman is not going to solve it.
>>44345275im not really a nerdy guy either tho, and id much rather be a normal dudebro but I’m just too weak scared and depressed
>>44345373You cannot make such a gigantic decision as a transition while you still have things that are weighing on your mind that you know you need to solve.Stop worrying about inane socialization. It's ok to have a few real friends. You don't gotta be a chatty Kathy.
>>44345373and if you transition, I suspect you'll then be stressing over being too malebrained or not fitting in with the girly girls.Just be you, friend. And solve what you know you gotta solve.
>>44345358I said im scared of conversation not that I don’t want it>>44345371I never said I believed im a woman I just wanted to bc of self hate and confusion
This oughta clear things up https://youtu.be/4cxN25NgwFI?si=mAl0MfToj3rczPuH
>>44345386I don’t have any friends at all>>44345405I don’t know what it feels like to be myself again I never learned how to be a person
>>44345412>I said im scared of conversation not that I don’t want itThen fix that tendency before trying to mold your entire life into a persona you don't actually enjoy. You probably already have more than enough interests to find community if you weren't afraid to talk to people about them.
>>44345441They’re overrated anyway, just summon one. Who knows, it might be cool!
>>44344583Probably falling on deaf ears but no amount of blaming your father will bring you peace. I don't think digging in your childhood trying to find someone or something to blame will bring you any good really.
>>44345241>Being a woman won't make you happy, friends will. Women have more friends.
