Would I be an asshole for cutting off my parents?Not even for the reaction to the "tranny stuff" per se. I have accepted I can look like a woman at best but I'll never *be* one because I'm too malebrained and don't have or want a vagina. I'm pretty sure I'm undiagnosed autistic and it's not subtle, but both parents pretended like nothing was wrong even as I was really behind socially and I don't have the foundation everyone else takes for granted in adulthood. I was treated like I was being difficult and just chose to be Weird on purpose instead of being referred for help. Because I'm a guy, I was given much less leeway to exist, including gender non-conformity but also basic stuff like not having help getting a car (still don't have one). Both of my sisters turned out fine, got support, me taking cross-sex hormones is viewed as worse than one of them literally being a fent addict. I can't talk to them without being acutely aware of all of this and being so stressed I feel ill. If I had a vagina my entire life would be different. Not even because of dysphoria but for purely social reasons.
Bro is mad he didn't get easy mode
>>44403649>Would I be an asshole for cutting off my parents?No... a lot of "our" adults are fucked up, very immature, piggish and neglectful, or were straight up predators and groomers. The odds of your parents being weirdos is extremely high.
>>44403658I'd have been okay if I at least got normal mode (cishet guy), but I'm a sperg and not the kind that can enjoy some sort of a quality of life like a compsci autist with a free Asian gf. Like I'd be fine if I were just a normal guy, or even given help by my parents on how to navigate living with autism instead of "you're being annoying" and "just be normal."
>>44403690They're not even weird. They're pretty normal, better than normal. As they demonstrated with my siblings, they can be fine parents and raise kids well, said kids can make their own decisions for better or for worse, but the bad ones made my parents had nothing to do with. They just weren't equipped to deal with an autistic invert. In any other scenario they would do fine.
>>44403702>They're pretty normalThat's the problem... Their versions of normal always include crazy shit
>>44403773Nothing about them was crazy though
>>44403786>They just weren't equipped to deal with an autistic invertthat's enough, really. I was in the same position. But if you swear they were fine, that's okay. But you are the way you are because you grew up under them.
>>44403649why do so many asafags troon out?also are you on hormones?
>>44403793I don't think I would have taken HRT and gotten mutilated if I weren't shown at every turn that women were treated better and given more freedom to exist in the first world than a guy who isn't Masculine In a Good Way. But that's not just on them. Even if they treated me better, society wouldn't have.
>>44403805I think it's the other way around. As a lonely weird woman Asa appeals to autistic trannies. I am on cross-sex hormones.
>>44403862>I think it's the other way around. As a lonely weird woman Asa appeals to autistic trannies.that too but ive seen plenty of eggs and reppers use her too (i am one of them)>I am on cross-sex hormones.do you pass?
>>44403936>that too but ive seen plenty of eggs and reppers use her too (i am one of them)You're just projecting then silly. >do you pass?I addressed this in the OP. Aesthetically, yes, it's not relevant, please.
>>44403963>You're just projecting then silly.nah ive seen multiple anons like that, its even a joke in csm general on /a/>I addressed this in the OPi worded wrongly i meant do you girlmode outside and stuff?
>>44403979Yes.
>>44403649>I'm a guy>>44403963>>44404000>passes>girlmodes>calls herself a guywhy
>>44404000You need a boyfriend, I want to have a trans Asa gf so bad.
>>44404060not OP but it probably has something to do with her parents and family treating her like a guy
>>44404075If parents dont care enough to stop op from going on estrogen and dressing as a girl outside why dont they treat her like a woman?
>>44404060>whyI don't have or want a vagina and I'm too malebrained in terms of hobbies and interests. Did you not read the OP?>>44404084I could only do it after moving out and it definitely didn't help my relationship with them.
>>44404084not stopping her from trooning is not the same as positively treating her as a woman, duplicitous tourist
>>44404127i did read the op and the entire thread. you should detrans if you are a guy. idk why you transed to begin with. you also dont sound autistic.
>>44404223>>44404223>You should detrans if you are a guy.Technically never transed did in the first place because I didn't get SRS.
>>44404127are you into girls or guys?
>>44403649Yes, they sound harmful to you and like the relationship you keep with them is for their benefit and not yours. You didn't ask them for birth, and yet they decided to fuck you over and make your life miserable anyway, all because you had a penis? Fuck that, and fuck them.>>44403702Anon I gotta stress this, ain't none of that shit is normal or okay. Your siblings getting the silver spoon treatment and enabled in their opioid addiction while you get shafted and made to work for even being acknowledged isn't "normal" it's demented. Please respect yourself and take some serious time away from your parents without contacting them. If you choose to reopen those wounds in a decade when you're more secure in yourself that's the only time you'd be able to maintain distance from their craziness and confront it at the same time.
>>44403649Check out “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” it’s a book that explains that if you have parents like this, you will feel a lot better if you accept that they are basically crippled /disabled and aren’t capable of love in the same way as a healthy human. You can cut them off or you can have a form of “relationship” with them in the same way you would with a lizard or hamster, keep it the subject on light fluff like the weather and don’t expect them to deviate from the script they’ve always lived where your sister is the “good child” even though she is on fentThey cannot see you as a whole person any more than a cripple can get out of their chair
>>44404392>>44404223There’s such a thing as being nonbinary or transfemme yknowYou’re playing the same black and white thinking game that is being played by people who hate all trannies no matter how girly they are
>>44404470Guys. Taken. No chaserism.>>44404745I mean to be fair I only pointed out the negatives. They're genuinely not bad people and did their best with having a weird retard son they were not aware was a retard. I was cared for and loved and supported and did fine like academically, I had games and books and stuff. Their only dearths were in the vein I discussed previously. Assuming I was being difficult or weird or not getting social stuff on purpose. That I needed to get comfortable being uncomfortable although putting myself in said uncomfortable situations didn't ameliorate anything. Because I had no friends I didn't get my license until late and they're weren't willing to give me a started car then. Because I didn't like girls and was Weird and only hung out with guys they viewed benign and not so benign stuff with suspicion, so I only actually wound up dating after I moved out. Those are the only negatives. So I feel I'm ungrateful or overreacting.>>44404797I think you're misunderstanding my situation and I don't wish to misrepresent myself.>>44404832I don't believe in the concept, personally, sorry, it's ridiculous. If I'm a spicy man, just call me that and I can own it instead of larping as a third category.
>>44404797Real, that's what I do. My parents were retarded about upbringing and ignored my autism so I moved a continent away to ignore their calls now.Not cutting them off though, they're just NPCs like any other neurotypical, can't blame them for acting on cissiety scripts
>>44403649Damn vro. You like, create all of your own problems. The way you talk to the other nonas here is really gay and annoying. Like you obviously aren't gonna change your mind, why did you even come here.
>>44405053determinism doesn't absolve anyone of anything
>>44405025>I think you’re misunderstanding my situation I see, well it’s still worth a read, parents don’t have to be outright abusive for a lot of the book to apply, I guess the point is that they are never going to “get it” or get you
>>44405025>larping as a third category You can be a spicy man that fine but the third category thing isn’t a larp it’s historically how almost all of humanity looked at this and in my personal opinion the “I’m actually definitely a real woman” thing is more cringe. But that’s me
>>44405133This. Third positionists are under represented here but we exist, have always existed, and always will.
>>44405102I had a median childhood for my country and feel overall neutral about my family
>>44403649honestly, just go low contact. there's no sense in arguing or trying to make them see it your way. they'll never figure it out. the concept is simply beyond their level of understanding or they lack the ability to reflect and question their actions or the consequences. if you say anything, it'll be seen as an attack or as you being dramatic again. you don't have to announce it. just stop responding. stop reaching out. if they ask why, say you're busy with your life. when you miss them, reach out and keep it light. since they just see you as being difficult, make their lives easier and don't be in it as much. life be like that sometimes and you just gotta cope
>>44405133Notice how I never said I was a woman. False dichotomy
>>44405336I tried low contact and that still stresses me out and upsets me a lot.
>>44405585>Notice how I never said I was a woman. False dichotomyYes I did notice that’s why I said what I said
>>44403649This is textbook tranny. Intellectualizion is a common trauma response.
