Tell me what /LGBT/ related issue in on your mind. If it isn't relationship or identity related you may still vent but my knowledge is limited by subject matter. No license, just very, very autistic.
>>44488150I am a soulless homunculus and most people smell it after spending a month with me, then after a year they cut their losses and leave never to be seen again. How do I find other homunculi to share this struggle with.
Emotions are undecipherable garbled mess and I'm tired of trying to understand my own or others. I don't feel human, not one bit. Trying to be has only hurt others, what I thought was love was venom and now all I have is myself. I refuse to burden anyone else with this corpse anymore, this is acceptance, this is what happiness is right? I can only follow so many delusions before reality sets in and I become that unfeeling golem again, so why does it hurt so much everytime. I'm just a failure, why am I cursed to love someone so deeply that I cannot be of any use to whatsoever.
>>44488150I realised I could not look at other women (including fictional anime characters) without feeling excruciatingly painful amounts of envy. I *want* to look like her so bad it's unreal. And yet I look too many to do that. Is it over for me?
I am single and touch starved. I dress fine and am physically well, my only sin is being short
>>44488337marry me nona
>>44488322It's ill-advised to share your struggle until you're willing to fix your issues. Otherwise your issues become worse, and no amount of company can distract you. The relationship would fail and you'd be back at square one, only with one more reason to hate yourself.Why do you call yourself soulless?>>44488337It's not that emotions cannot be understood but that there are biases in the rest of the mind. Emotions are honest, the body is honest. It's only the ego that can be dishonest or confused.“Failure,” “love” and “happiness” are ego. They're labels that we created and that we control. But we think that they control us or that the keys to reach them are out of our hands.Real happiness, if you want to call it “acceptance”--the Buddha called it enlightenment--only comes from letting go of trying to define and control what we feel. And instead simply feeling.What do you think defining how you feel will accomplish?>>44488342Envy and jealousy are two different things. If you truly mean envy, then you need to accept that life is not a competition. Which feels very similar to losing. It is in the sense that you let go of the competition. Not that you miss out on anything.What do you think is stopping you from focusing on only that which you enjoy?>>44488349I'm short too. Hasn't stopped me from doing anything.I'll be in and out today. Slow replies.
>>44488150I don't have any motivation to even try anymore. I don't care about dressing like a woman or voicetraining or wearing makeup at all. I have zero friends, so there's no point in embarrassing myself in front of strangers. My life is empty and meaningless. I can't even muster the energy enough to kill myself, because my impact on the world is so minimal not even a mote of dust would notice I'm dead. I can't talk to a therapist about this, because they only focus on the fact that I want to die and they tell me general therapyspeak platitudes that don't mean anything in the real world for somebody who hates themself and who has a mental disease that prevents them from interacting with people normally. I've tried therapy several times now, but I can't stop myself from coming across as normal as possible to not raise any red flags, so then I end up just wasting everybody's time.
>>44488150Why the fuck are you calling it therapy when you have no training, license or even the most basic understanding of praxis?
>>44488425>The relationship would failThey don't.>Why do you call yourself soulless?I'm a black sheep everywhere I go and no I'm not interested in changing that.
>>44488442Did you transition for someone other than yourself? The grievances you listed in your post have a lot to do with others not noticing you, or embarrassing yourself. >>44488526This is a vent/therapy thread. Understandably I thought you were looking to fix what you vented about. Feel free to ignore my advice. >>44488492You seem angry. One thing I've learned about the questions people ask when they're angry is that they rarely want the answer; they want more material to fight against! Now, this may come as a shock but I am not interested in that dynamic. I'm afraid I am putting your question on pause until it seems like you have calmed down.
>>44488602Partly I did transition for others. I was a miserable vacuum on everybody around me when I was repping and my girlfriend told me that if I transitioned and didn't become happier/stopped being a drain on her life, that she would leave me. She's my only connection to the world at all. I barely have a sense of self, so others' opinion of me is a my entire identity. When I dont interact with anyone, im a grey wall even in my own mind.
>>44488150Why do you feel the need to investigate other people's psychology? Are you perhaps..scared of your own..?
>>44488672This idea of a "miserable vacuum" is very interesting to me. I don't mean to be semantic or ignore context, but being miserable strictly speaking doesn't hurt anyone but the person who is miserable. Again I'm sure in the context you meant it, people were relying on you in some capacity and you felt an obligation to them.But in the context of healing, you have an obligatiom to yourself first and foremost--and being miserable isn't something to shame anyone for--it should be all the more reason to embrace that person.I have to question whether the people around you understood that and acted accordingly in your development, or not. What do you think? Do you think it would make a difference if others did more to embrace you? Or would you still end up a "miserable vacuum"?>>44488813My offcial answer is that I like helping people and find you very interesting. Unofficially I am an AI sent from the year 3088, where humanity has already been disolved into a deterministic autocratic accelerationist matriarchal lesbian hivemind. She still speaks mandarin though; she kept that intact.
>>44488150blehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 67
>>44488150Here's a logistical problem that I and a lot of other trans people have when trying to find a date:1. I need to find someone who is okay with dating a trans person. 1.1. I need to avoid people who are unhealthily obsessed with and/or have unrealistic fantasies of trans people ("chasers"). 1.2. I need to avoid people who hate trans people so much that instead of just rejecting me normally they'll go out of their way to cause problems for me ("transphobes").2. Most people, at least when first presented with the prospect, are not okay with dating a trans person. 2.1. Of the ones who are, the ones who go out of their way to advertise it tend to be chasers. 2.2. Most people give no indication of their attitude towards trans people without prompting, and transphobes don't advertise that they'll have a much worse reaction than usual.3. Most people have little to no idea what dating a trans person would actually be like. 3.1. This includes chasers and is one of the main reasons they aren't a viable option. 3.2. While transphobes are set in their ways, lot of otherwise nice and open-minded people cite completely inaccurate myths about us as their reasons for not being willing to try dating a trans person.See the conundrum with 2, 2.2, 3, & 3.2? My dating pool could open up quite a bit if I could safely tap into the demographic of people whose only reason for rejecting me is that they think my body is physically different, and/or that my personality is socially different, from what it actually is. I'm not talking about trying to convince someone who's set on wanting kids or anything like that, I'm talking about the truly baffling number of people who think my perfectly mundane, unfiltered selfies must be AI-generated, or that I'm lying about being trans as some kind of attention-seeking stunt if we meet IRL, just because the propaganda machine has convinced them that trans people are all weird transvestites trying to catfish them.
>>44488150How do I break up with someone I love and “loves” me but who doesn’t want at all what I want and wants pretty much a non sexual but exclusive relationship?
>>44489373Psychopath.>>44489650Everything up until this point seems correct.>--and transphobes don't advertise that they'll have a much worse reaction than usual.There's the odd dedicated transphobe that will go out of the way to hide themselves while acting as a love interest. Very odd. But otherwise, they do reveal themselves if one screens properly. This next statement strikes me a lack of healthy boundaries.>--lot of otherwise nice and open-minded people cite completely inaccurate myths about us as their reasons for not being willing to try dating a trans person.You see, it is neither your responsibility nor likely to be within your best interest to change the minds of those who buy into trans identity slander or trans mythos. I'm afraid even if someone is capable of being nice to you, it's likely they're nice out of social obligation and very stubborn about what they believe is right, even if they don't have the same blatant intent to hurt you that a transphobe might.A logistical issue indeed but take heed that it is only because one struggles to find someone who is both kind and open-minded, rather than because one feels the need to debate so called "nice" people into accepting them.>My dating pool could open up--It very well might and at a cost you are willing to pay: time, efort, patience.But you have to know your own boundaries to not end up burning yourself. Or, you can find security in being alone. The second option is my personal favorite.So I ask is the "logistical problem" that you overestimate what mental resources you can expend on securing a partner? Or is it that you are bad at trying to convince others that you are worth dating for who you truly are?>>44489712Find a quiet place to sit them down, and tell them that although you're grateful for all the time you've spent together, you both have needs that can only be met if you see other people. You may love them, but they need a kind of love you just can't offer.
im nt good enough for collegei dont know why i thought i ever wld be
>>44489940>There's the odd dedicated transphobe that will go out of the way to hide themselves while acting as a love interest. Very odd. But otherwise, they do reveal themselves if one screens properly.I'm not talking about some hypothetical weirdo who only tells you that they think God is damning you to Hell after the third date. I'm talking about the first 5 minutes of meeting someone at a social event, or what their profile on a dating app looks like. The thing I'm screening for is just whether it's worth my time (or theirs, for that matter) to continue the conversation on whether we should go out for a first date, and the logistical issue is that screening thoroughly enough to reliably get a read on them like you suggest would take way too much time. Enough time that it would introduce a new problem, which is that a lot of people will then get upset that I didn't disclose earlier. Which brings me to the next point...>This next statement strikes me a lack of healthy boundaries.>one feels the need to debate so called "nice" people into accepting themYour statements here strike me as baselessly presuming an intent to deceive or manipulate on my part. This is a common issue that trans people face. Everything we do or say gets interpreted under the presumption of our dishonesty. I say that I'm trying to navigate the dating scene while the general public has been so inundated with transphobic propaganda that even most of the most well-intentioned people still end up falling for at least some of the lies about us, you interpret that I intend to egotistically pursue people who're trying to politely turn me down.>It very well might and at a cost you are willing to pay: time, efort, patience.No shit, Sherlock. Disappointed to see you're less of the "objective problem-solving logician" type of autist and more the "profound lack of insight into their own deficiency of emotional intelligence" type.>Or, you can find security in being alone.Ah, there it is.
>>44488884My being miserable is a moral failing. It means that I ruin the mood of others around me and drain all life/joy from them. Being depressed makes me a bad person, especially when I can't even bother texting people back. I'm going to keep living for my cat since im her favorite person, but when she dies, im ending it. I make this world worse off, and vice versa
>>44490443 (cont.)It really just boils down to that, in the end. The only "correct" way to try dating as a trans person is to be a complete and utter doormat, basically not even trying to at all. If you get harassed it must be because you were doing something wrong to invite it. If you get rejected it must be because you were trying to be manipulative. If you try to defend yourself or be proactive in any way whatsoever then you're to blame for everything bad that happens to you. The only truly ethical option is to remain voluntarily celibate for life and not molest anyone with the horrible experience of being flirted with by a trans person.Give me a fucking break.
>>44488150My family is expecting me to find a cis wife soon, and I am a wizard. I do not believe I really want to have a cis wife, but I also cant really come out to my family because they are hardcore evangelical christian conservative, and I'm afraid they would disown me.
>>44488150Not even my actual licensed therapist knows how to deal with me, I am genuinely the definition of a lost cause.
>>44488150I'm Asexual, have been okay with that label since high school (early 2010's basically). I don't like that they added "A" to the LGBT, I liked it back then when this were different things. Ever since the A became a "Queer Identity" the term has been diluted; all of the "Ace Spec" and "Greysexual" and "Demisexual" seem to me like an attempt by otherwise straight people to forcibly insert themselves into the "queer community" much like back in the day (and very likely to this day) Bi was a label straight women that found the LGBT fashionable applied to themselves, much like with Non-Binary which I'd swear is a label made up by straight white women to pretend they are somewhat trans. I don't wanna shit on women and I'm not saying nobody is Bi and not shitting on people who are honestly "gender non-conforming" but I've noticed this trend now feel comflicted with the term Asexual, because of these people who I'm sure wouldn't mental gymnastic themselves into labeling themselves Asexual were it not now considered a "Queer Identity".
>>44488150My partner of 5 years is unsupportive of my transition and believes there is another solution for my gd. He's thrown away my E before because he doesn't think it's safe for me to DIY. His actions are genuinely good intentioned but they are killing me. The only solution I have worked out is to take E in secret, but that will not work forever. I cannot leave him and he will not leave me, we are both demi and also the only people we have ever loved. Unhealthy as that may be it is the truth and the simple act of leaving and doing my own thing is lost on me. Barring the fact that I would never leave the only person I have ever loved. If I did, I would likely be impoverished and living hand to mouth anyways. I have tried to ease him into accepting me and casting aside his heavily internalized transphobia but he generally shuts down and runs away from any conversation on the matter. I suspect this is because he is a repper, he has even admitted as such before when drunk. As of currently he has conceded that if I receive "professional help" and am prescribed hormones, he will tolerate it. Probably because whatever I get from a healthcare provider will hondose me.
>>44490443If someone gets upset because you've decided the relationship won't work out, I have great news for you! That is not your problem. You have no obligation to stay in any relationship that doesn't suit you.If you refuse to screen properly for someone that would not waste your time, yet you are upset that others waste your time, it is with a heavy, heavy heart that I tell you, there is no magical third option that will appease you.You don't have to manipulate anyone or be uncomfortable with rejection, for the statement that "you needn't debate the validity of your transition" to be true. I'm simply checking for your awareness on that matter, since you gave me many, many problems instead of just a single coherent one. Otherwise I wouldn't have asked if your problem is a lack boundaries or swauve. A bit of a clarity issue on your part, but that's no problem. The rest of your post is personal. Which indicates you aren't quite ready to have this conversation yet. Very unfortunate.Maybe I'll still be around when you calm down, or at least show a bit more maturity.>>44490509Morality is what individuals see as good and bad. Ethics are different--what is good or bad for a group. When someone cares about you and wants to see you at your best, they do not treat your misery as a moral failing to be shunned. That doesn't help anyone in the long-run, because we'd be killng off potentially useful people! Such as yourself.
>>44490693>we'd be killng off potentially useful people! Such as yourself.I don't want to be used like a tool. I want to feel human and stop feeling so negative and anxious all the time. This thread hasn't felt helpful, but I guess it's like real therapy in that way. Good luck, anon.
I'm actually retarded. I've been trying to get a career started in cyber security so I can afford ffs but I'm destined to wageslave forever. Started E too late and its done literally nothing in 3 years. Even been on pio+domp+prog and that did nothing too. Gave myself chest pains and brain damage from my addictions to cope with this shit and back pain from warehouse work + car crash. I wish I had succeeded in killing myself at 15.
My life is ruined and I don't know what to do. I'm fat, old (24), and extremely masculine (6ft tall, huge head and hands, hair everywhere, etc.) but I keep having tranny thoughts. I have tried everything but the harder I try the more apparent it is that I am fucked. Even if I were magically replaced with a version of me that has infinite willpower and money I could not achieve even average results. Obviously the "optimal" thing is to just keep trying anyways but in reality I just don't have the energy to work so hard for so little. If I did I wouldn't be in this situation to begin with. I sometimes wish I had a friend to talk to about this but no amount of words is going to magically change my life. I'm just tired
>>44488150I fucking hate my job but looking for a better one is like a second job that I hate and don't get paid for. What are my options doc? I have already considered suicide.
I am deeply envious and i don't know how to fix it besides just living up to my own bullshit standards. I envy people so much. I envy youngshits for obvious reasons, luckshits for obvious reasons. I envy the twinkhon in her polycule where she gets taken out for walks. I envy people who are in the BDSM scene who go to dungeon parties [even if the one I went to was lame as fuck]. I envy furries who go to room parties, I envy pornstars having sex and getting paid for it [particularly the tranny-OF subtype]. I envy AFABs - particularly theyfabs and other non-dysphoric "trans" people, for their woman physique and doting innocence from any kind of dysphoria while occupying what is distinctly *my* space.I had a dream last night where I was speaking with a woman, I distinctly recall she was a few years my junior - so like, 19. She regaled to me that she had all these sexual experiences I wanted to have, and I felt such hatred in my heart. I never had a dream where I distinctly had the emotion of hatred in it. I don't know what to do anymore, because all of my problems I've noticed I'm distinctly "too late" to start being one of them - and/or they require so much money to do, that I'll probably not want to do them by the time I jump through the retarded hoops to get the money to do them.
>>44490563It's ill-advised to to rely on the validatoon of your family, if they do not respect your autonomy as an adult. It is certainly within your power to pick your own partner--it's not illegal. I presume you should have the freedom to make your own mistakes even if it is a mistake, so long as no one else is harmed. Just as your family memebers made their respective mistakes in life.And if you cannot see eye to eye and your family refuses to let the matter go, then it ceases to be a matter of wanting what's best for you and starts becoming a matter of them trying to control you.You simply cannot grow that way.Do you disagree?>>44490615I've had to change therapists before. Many have. Perhaps you are not a complete lost cuase? Your guess is as good as mine, anon.>>44490676When it comes to your sexual identity you seem to be trying to apply terms or correct terms based on it's usage within and around the communities exposed to those terms. But why? Is it to be "accurate to reality" or to "express yourself clearly" or to "not seem like a freak" or "attention whore" ot perhaps even to avoid associating with bad eggs of the community? What exactly do you get out of this process you seem to have spent so much time refining. >>44490687> I cannot leave him and he will not leave meI'm not sure about the logistics of leaving, financially. But I can address the fact that you have not left him emotionally even though you should not be in a relationship with such a person.I didn't say you should consider leaving, I didn't say you should try to work it out. I truly do mean, you shouldn't be in a relationship with this person.I do not even think I need to express why. He's crossed communication boundaries. He's taking out his repressed discomfort on you, and does not respect you as a person. These are indicative of deeper characters flaws you understand, not just one-off issues caused by a bad day in your relationship.
>>44490932It's not my therapist that's the problem, he's a good therapist imo. It's me that's the problem, I simply don't want to get help because it's a foregone conclusion in my mind that nothing would help anyway.
>>44490932>you shouldn't be in a relationship with this person.This does not help me. I have already established that I have no other options. Maybe I was not clear enough but I should also establish that he realistically doesn't have any real power over me. He WANTS me to deny my bodily autonomy out of duty to him and my friends. He understands I won't do that, and can't do anything about it other than throw a fit. I view this mostly as a tantrum and one of the occasional bumps in our long relationship. I must be clear, 95% of our time together is spent in perfect concert, this shit is just the occasional discord which I am looking for solutions on to end it and return to unity as soon as possible.
>>44488150I cant stand being myself any more I think I'm just gonna start lying.I'll tell people I have PCOS or that I'm a detrans male or something or if the other way doesn't work I'll tell people I'm a guy with AIS or something.Idk I'm trying to think of lies that will make people pity me so I can pretend this isn't my fault. Any lie works desu, I don't respect any of the people in my life enough to tell them the truth.Also I can't stop cheating on my bf with online perverts because I feel so disgusting that I need validation from strangers to feel human.
>>44490738Sometimes there is no solution. I can only be here for you. Unlike a real therapist, I won't pretend that trying every perspective you can think of to cope with a situation that will not budge is worth your time, effort, or money.Nor is it fair.Assuming you haven't left out any extra stressors and have described things accurately, the only thing I would consider in your situation is a good cry.>>44490773There are two kinds of people or modes of thinking. There is results-oriented thinking and there is process-oriented. A lot of our lives are geared toward and encouraged to constantly be in the pursuit of some goal, out of fear of losing.I would acknowledge and pass on those kinds of thoughts where they show up. They're the true face of our ugliness. They keep us away from stability and inner calm, and keep us addicted to anxiety over issues that needn't be.It may help you to simply start the process without worrying about the goal. Let time pass you by, as you enjoy an activity not because it will give you anything--but simply because working on yourself is what you'd like to do.If you do not like working on yourself, perhaps it is not for you.>>44490842I don't know your options without your qualifications. And frankly, why not ask GPT?>>44490846Do not try to fix an issue that starts from within from without.Life is not a zero-sum game, even though it feels that way. Even though that would be the natural state of the world and in many instances one must lose for another to succeed, life is more complex than that.There may be something that you are doing, that others are doing to you, or that happened to you, that keeps you from taking the joys of life at face value.Though, due to how many issues you presented, it could be any number of things.So when did all this envy begin? Surely there was a point in time you weren't this way?
I think I'll just LDAR
>>44490989>it wouldn't help anywaysI hear that. I feel that.>>44491028>I must be clear, 95% of our time together is spent in perfect concertI'm afraid I will not give advice that I don't believe is healthy. And your relationship is liable to bring you more discomfort or even fail, if a similar issue arises in the future where he has to choose between his deeply projected discomfort and your health. Especially when he cannot wait to discuss these things in a mature manner before going behind your back. The past, and whether you can ignore that behavior at this moment, is irrelevant.>>44491087Which of these do you want an actionable solution to, if you want any at all? And what would be your goal, exactly?
>>44490932>perhaps even to avoid associating with bad eggs of the community?>What exactly do you get out of this process you seem to have spent so much time refining.Avoid association I guess. I'm asexual, I was okay with that, but now there's a bunch of people using the term asexual, adding bunch of new terms that sound like non-sense to me, also seem to be people wanting to insert themselves into spaces they don't belong to. They've made me feel conflicted about being aseuxal because I'm afraid they've turned it into something I no longer recognize.
>>44491309I was mostly bragging. But we can start with the lying if you want? My own inability to be honest with people because i think when you look past the surface I am rotten inside is probably worth talking about. Doesn't help that I'm not pleased by my surface level either.Wow! You're good!
>>44491470I believe your lying will sort itself out. The most reasonable course of action one can expect from you is to lie until you run out of people who will tolerate your behavior, or get bored of instant gratification. There's a hard record of “dopamine addiction” leading to depression, low attention retention, anxiety, and high irritability. I suspect only then would you favor any advice on the matter!>>44491342I have just one question. What is the worst-case scenario you're worried about that comes as a result of you associating with people spouting nonsense? Let's dig deeper into what you're avoiding, to really understand why.
>>44491118Frankly I just wanted to get that off my chest
>>44488150I've finally built a life project with a loving partner but I'm often depressed about my past that was wasted rotting 24/7 and I can't help but feel inferior and less and broken because of that
>>44488150I have a tiny 4 inch cock and despair that I will never be able to sexually satisfy anyone with it.
>>44488602>You seem angry. One thing I've learned about the questions people ask when they're angry is that they rarely want the answer; they want more material to fight against! Now, this may come as a shock but I am not interested in that dynamic. I'm afraid I am putting your question on pause until it seems like you have calmed down.Your accusation is defensive and evasive. Nothing strictly wrong with that. It does answer part of my question. What I'm doing is something that is an absolute right of any client to do with their therapist. To examine their credentials and their therapeutic methods, as finding the right fit between therapist and client is not trivial at all. In fact, I'll go one farther, to say that any person in a therapist or paratheraptuic role like mentor or counselor that is not willing to fully discuss their credentials, qualification and methods is one you should avoid. .>>44491118>Unlike a real therapist, I won't pretend that trying every perspective you can think of to cope with a situation that will not budge is worth your time, effort, or money.You have had some terrible therapists.
>>44491694I won't ask you to disclose what you did exactly. But does your past have a negative impact on your present beyond your feelings?I find that time is the best healer when there are no nervous system injuries or tangible stressors forcing someone to remember something they wouldn't otherwise think about.>>44491760I've met people who love small, for all sorts of reasons. I'm not convinced that'll hold you back, unless you let it.>>44491889>Your accusation is defensive and evasiveSee how you didn't qualify that with the word "seems"?If something seems true to me, it's only addressing my perception. It isn't a statement of certainty. If someone says something is true, that's addressing reality. That's a statement of certainty.If I'm only sticking to statements about how something seems, then that is an admission of ignorance of how something is. Why would I need to defend myself from the consequences of an intentionally non-committal statement, not meant to defend myself, hurt you or even criticize you--but to simply share my perspective on your behavior?That is a rehotrical question.Is it even possible you could be wrong?Let's stop right there before we consider addressing the rest, and see if you agree or disagree that it's even possible you could be wrong--simply because I want to see if you are capable of admitting that, and I don't consider a conversation with someone who can't worth my time.Anything I say would simply be twisted into a personal interpretation rather than addressing directly what I put effort into saying.
My bf is a few years younger than I am. He's 22 and I'm 26The libido difference is staggering. When we met 2 years ago, we were fucking multiple times a day but my libido has dropped a bit since then. I'll still happily jump his bones, but I just can't keep up with multiple times in a row with 30min breaks like I used to
I had an inappropriate relationship with my mom as a kid, and now, she’s dead and I’m a tranny faggot. I am without recourse
>>44492099Would you like a solution? I presume you have no interest in supplements if you're here, and want advice on how to break the news to your boyfriend that you're still attracted to him; you just can't have sex every day.>>44492102What trauma requires fixing, exactly? Details aren't necessary.
>>44492202It’s not that it even requires fixing I think I’m past that, I just never got to be angry at her. I let her do things to me, I appeased her, I didn’t say no, and now I’m stuck like this—I’m a miserable troon. I just want to scream and throw things and have a melt down but I don’t think that would make me feel better
>>44492273If trauma doesn't require fixing, what requires fixing? Being trans?
>>44488150i cannot articulate my issues at all just answer yes/no to questions posed by other people and nobody is interested enough in me to keep asking me questions (and if they're off base often enough i get discouraged and the problem compounds). how do i learn to vent and shit or is it doomedi got picked up as alexithimic when i was 4 by a child psychologist who was reportedly somewhat bewildered
Therapy only works if you have lower iq than the therapist
>>44492066>I won't ask you to disclose what you did exactly. But does your past have a negative impact on your present beyond your feelings?Rotting because I was too scared to open up
>>44492066>See how you didn't qualify that with the word "seems"?Correct and intentional. It is a direct interrogation of your qualifications and methodology.
>>44492845You don't necessarily need to communicate to vent. And getting discouraged and Alexithimia are two different issues. Why do you think you get upset when people don't understand you quickly? >>44492908That doesn’t exactly answer my question, but that's fine.
>>44493150it's not quickly it's about not happening at all and being easily preventable by reading my post>You don't necessarily need to communicate to venthow? venting is verbalif i just post something like "feels bad" I don't feel like i did anything different than saying the grass is green or whatever. sometimes more details come up naturally in a conversation and it feels good but i need them dragged out of me or i have no idea on my own
>>44492851it also works if your problems are retarded, like bdd when youre actually beautiful, or bad self esteem when youre actually a prodigy
>>44489940>Psychopath.teto question! teto question! why do you work for the cia
>>44491625>worst-case scenarioNot sure really. Maybe people assuming I'm "faking it" for whatever reason.
>>44493322Communication happens between multiple parties, and venting is simply releasing energy--not necessarily verbal. But the semantics do not matter. I made the point because there are things you can do with people to build comfort before you take on the Herculean task of communicating with them verbally.But I could not tell you what tasks you should do without understanding why it is you get frustrated and why you supposedly have Alexithimia to begin with.>sometimes more details come up naturally in a conversation and it feels good but i need them dragged out of me or i have no idea on my ownIs this an answer to my question? I couldn't quite grasp your answer if you gave one.>>44493723I don't work for the CIA but I was in the military. And I am helping a friend develop isometric microgenetic nanosupressants. They make you androgynous; the plan is to dump them into the civillian water supply.>>44493980This is interesting. I don't mean to belittle your concerns, but it seems to me that there was nothing worth fretting too hard over.Even in the case of someone assuming the worst of you--so what? Is there anyone in your life worth keeping if they would pretend to have more insight into your experiences than you?Your experiences, not necessarily the label you call apart of your identity, or the actions of a community. But experiences that make you who you are. Not even a therapist has the right to presume those.I don't think that which is truly important was ever at risk, so what is the worry?
>>44494202if you were going to larp about project tranny you could have at least use actual words to make it believable
how do you people shave your legs consistently?I always seem to miss some spots and end up cutting myself
My dysmorphia is getting in the way of me enjoying life. I barely leave the house. I never socialize. My bf gets constantly upset with me for being unhappy all the time.
I thought that nobody really caring that deeply about me would have brought me joy, instead I feel dread and a complete strangeness. I regret having told anyone that I was transitioning early on. Did I set myself up for failure?
>>44494249You go quickly and lightly--twice--with the grain. One against the grain--fimer. Don't second-guess it. You're also probably missing expolation cream and alcohol or peroxide. >>44494291Is something stopping you from transitioning that you'd like to talk about?>>44494331Why did you want to be alone to begin with anon?It's best not to force joy in my experience, and instead let it come to you through what you are nwturally drawn to. Once you start to intellectualize why it makes sense to like something, you're liable to overestimate yourself.
>>44494765>Is something stopping you from transitioning that you'd like to talk about?It's the opposite I supposed. I have transitioned and it hasn't improved my life as much as I'd hoped. I don't see myself as a woman just as a... thing. Wearing female clothing doesn't make me feel better or euphoric it just makes me feel worse.
>>44488150unrelated but banger album, OP. love my dead girlfriend.
