Stop pretending you have empathy and that you care about other people. None of you give a shit about your fellow trannies or faggots. Most of you are narcissistic fucking lying backstabbing sacks of shit who only care about yourself.I made a positive post a few days ago larping as a cis woman because I wanted to make you all feel better about yourself. but all I get in return when IM at my lowest is "pick yourself up by your bootstraps and stop talking to me". I'm as kind as possible and all I have ever gotten from people is cruelty, dismissiveness, and doubt. NOW you wanna tell me "yOu nEeD tO gAiN mOrE ConFiDenCe", well maybe I would be confident if YOU didn't fucking steal it from me my whole life. All my life I've been told I'm not shit, and now the same people are telling me I need to work on myself?????? Fucking hypocrites, backstabbing lying, judas, sneedy, piece of shits. I hate you all. I was so nice to everyone but it doesn't matter.I'm not the only one to blame for failing at life at the age of 23. it's YOUR faults as well as mine. Don't pretend you give a shit about anyone here. You are all narcissistic fucking LIARS. I'm tired of being bullied and gaslight into thinking my lack of social support is all MY fault. Fuck off. I hope we all lose our lgbt rights, ALL of us.
>>44589797fuck, I accidentally reddit spaced. who cares. fuck the negro format, idc.
this is a load of baaaarnaclesss
>>44589797oh my god the self-serious nature of the post combined with the pathetic-ass image and the title just being "Trvke"this is too funny
>>44589818hang yourself. I'm not venting. I'm letting you all know that there IS no lgbt community. We like to pretend it's a community, but no one actually cares about each other. even in queer relationships, it's not love. it's purely for sex and that's it. or financially gain. Queer friendships are fake, Queer relationships are fake, it's all fake.Everything is conditional and empathy is rare. unfortunately I have TOO MUCH empathy and have put up with so much bullying.
>>44589840it's not>>44589849yeah a little bit. I'm kinda mad idk
>>44589850will you smoke a blunt and go hang out with your queer friends outside? you've clearly spent too much time here and it's making you jaded and cynical. it's not for everyone.
>>44589850take your risperidone
>>44589797I'm kind of regretting making this post now. I just wish you fucking people were kinder. that's all. I'm tired of being treated like a pest.
>>44589874im just like you except ive learned to not let this board get to me and realize this website isn't a reflection of real life, i made fun of you because it's silly to try and articulate this point on 4chan where nobody will care
>>44589862I don't have an irl support system. I don't have friends. that's kind of the point. >inb4 "just pick yourself up by your bootstraps and make some!!!"just stop, please. it's not like I haven't tried 1000 times
>>44589797I'm actually quite open and honest about my lack of empathy for other people, do I get bonus points for that? though for the record I don't think it has anything to do with me being trans, if that's what the rest of your post is implying
>>44589880if it was just this board then I wouldn't even be complaining at all. I understand that 4chan is a very unfiltered rude place. But I deal with poor treatment everywhere, including irl. It's gotten to the point where I feel completely hopeless
>>44589797Hey nona I always try to be positive with others and say something helpful instead of «get over it» and just like you when I’m at my lowest nobody cares. You’re not alone. We empaths live terribly and are abused by all the narcissists. But remember: The meek shall inherit the earth.
>>44589903do you want to be friends? i would talk to you as much as you'd like about these things without bashing you and actually hear you out, based off what you've said so far i relate heavily
>>44589903why are you under the impression that you're treated badly everywhere, including in real life? in what ways are you mistreated to the point of hopelessness? sounds pretty extreme, to me. I know the rainbow that is the human experience has it's extremes, so I'm just curious.
I'm sorry you feel this way. desu I do find it harder to empathize through a screen but on principle I still try because it's a good skill to have and given a choice between increasing or decreasing the total suffering in the world of course I will choose decreasing every time. so I'm sorry if someone here said something that made you feel worse, I think most of us here really are just trying to help
>>44589912Ty Nona/anon<3I feel so exhausted talking to people when they constantly hate me.>>44589923sure, do you have a discord?>>44589927you're just going to tell me it's my fault again, or that I'm misinterpreting how I'm actually treated.
>>44590021yes i have discord, can you drop yours?
>>44589849don't act so superior to someone who drawmogs you
>>44589912>we empaths>the narcissistsI get you're trying to reassure her but this us vs them mindset is not healthy
>>44589797Girl wtf are you bitching about. What do you expect from 4chan?
>>44589797>I hope we all lose our lgbt rights, ALL of us.holy fucking base
>>44590036oh sorry, the skill of the artist isn't pathetic. just the content of the image in this particular context comes off as pathetic.
>>44589797You aren't wrong for feeling this way at all, OP. This site doesn't represent how people are in real life, but anyone who states this case doesn't understand the full picture at all. People in real life will have the same problems at a different magnitude. The problems of scapegoating, mimicry, virtue signaling, etc. that bands people closely with one another in their group. The least you can do is to find people who rose above these issues. Find people who aren't superficially sexual. Find people who won't tell you to increase your confidence toward those of whom you rightfully suspect will treat you like shit. The prospect of finding someone who truly has a better interest in your heart than the madness of crowds is sometimes rare insofar as you are different, and that is okay. I am the same way. I have high functioning autism, I have weird as fuck political views that end up negating me across the binary. What I had to learn is this: If you focus too much on those who don't have your well being into their consideration, then you won't have much energy left for anything else, including your energy to escape their grasp at all. Sometimes you need to rather yourself to be alone until you find something good, and for that reason it takes time.
I was talking to my mom on the phone today and she told me "most people don't really care about other people they only care about themselves" and I wish I had said, does this include you but I failed to do so sadly. Did she just confess why she was such an abusive mom? I mean it honestly makes more sense that she didn't even hate me that much for being gay she just only cares about herself and sees others as burdens.
>>44590103it says youre not accepting friend requests
>>44590110I wouldn't call it a confession. Kind people would make the same statement.
>>44590117she was a turbo cunt my entire childhood though and screamed constantlyshe would get home from workscream at me for hoursthen go to bed like nothing happenedI think she was just blowing off steam from work cuz her job was stressful/long hoursbut I don't remember what she even yelled at me about - at all - just that she did so
>>44590144I did not deny she was abusive.
>>44590113try now, I think it's fixed.
>>44590082not what I meant but ok
>>44590198then...what?
>>44590148but like maybe she was subconsciously tattling on herself
>>44590117not necessarily
>>44590207if you were around during the jaxening you'd know this is maple
>>44590231I wasn't paying attention to all the jaxpostingI was just confused as to what I was being insulted over
>>44589797I think you should take a break from imageboards. This is earnestly offered advice free of irony or meanness. The multitude is often just as snide and cruel here as it may be irl.This board is full of crabs in buckets. When someone is suffering, anons and nonas will compare suffering, minimize it with excessive clowning, or dismiss it as a larp. When advice is given it is readily rejected; when it is requested it is used to springboard into a humiliation ritual. When anons are successful, it's minimized as hon-euphoria, or dragged down with accusations of luckshit-ism.But genuine, kind people exist. Some of them may even do the above. People are messy. But if you have a strong negativity bias, kindness will be drowned out.I will tell you the step by step guide to finding your people:>Step 1: Research your local area. Find gay or queer friendly areas. Bars, cafes, political advocacy groups, support groups.>Step 2: Unlearn negative thoughts, or at least take some time to neutralize your most negative impulses. This means no instinctive thought of how much of a hon someone is, how well or badly you pass yourself, and no assuming the intentions of others.>Step 3: Go to those places, events, groups. Start as a guest or even an eavesdropping passerby. Really you don't even have to come out explicitly or join the conversation your first time. I joined the local queer collective via their cafe meets. Made three friends in one day talking about Bibleman and asking about future local tabletop opportunities. The next week I made two more at a Stonewall out of town.>Step 4: Minimize social media use outside of people you know locally or within your active hobby spaces. Yes, this includes 4chan. This us last because with no support network in place it's valid to use these places, with very mindful filtering of post quality.There's my empathetic post. I don't have the characters to get into full on CBT or mindfulness journaling. Plus...I got work in six hours.
>>44590220Not necessarily for each of them, but it is possible for people who don't abuse.>>44590208Maybe, but we can't know for sure that is the case. This applies similar to anyone who is terrible or nice. We can't always make undetermined assumptions about others and run with it. Because sometimes, it would be at the expense of our understanding of other people, and in turn at an expense of your vigilance. This is an issue I've seen in people who have underwent these terrible experiences, and I am sorry that you went through it. I'm also sorry for being short in my responses earlier.
>>44589797it's always easier to be mean than it is to be nice, it's just how it is and that's how people will be but that's why you should be nice. My biggest conspiracy theory is that it'll somehow be alright. Nice will attract nice, just keep being nice but try not to be taken advantage of.
>>44590286Ty for this Nona/Anon, I will keep this in mind.>>44590093Ty for understanding. I wish more comments were like yours cause a majority of the time, I get a lot of really mean "advice" that only makes me sad above all else.
>>44589797I wonder if I have autism
Maybe I'm trying too hard to think of what to say because you remind me of someone but really I think you are letting negativity bias conflate well meaning people with the same who are draining your confidence. I don't think you're wrong about this website at all, but don't let that ruin your perception of everyone in the world, there's some truly amazing and kind people out there that you will end up bumping into out of pure coincidence.You didn't fail your life, even people going through your strife in theirs 40s haven't failed life, i don't think "failing" life even exists really, given that we're here due to a grand million of coincidences leading up to our universe even coming to be, to fail would be placing more importance on us than there is, so try to live to what helps you feel comfortable and fulfilled.I'm not going to pretend I know the end all be all solution to picking yourself back up as that's just rude, but I am going to say its not over or doomed, you can make it. It will take time and finding the right spaces and people, but its possible. Try to learn to love yourself, you're the only one who's always with you through thick and thin.
>>44590812you, op and most people in this thread do
>>44589797You have anxious attachment and are attracting people who will use your people pleasing for their own gain while silently pushing away the people who want a friend and not a servant. Adam Lane Smith on youtube has some great videos breaking down how to overcome it and what the main issues you probably have are.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uvwh9x_MQ0
>>44589797I remember that thread, maybe I'm gullible but I believed your larp and for what it's worth it did actually make me feel a little betterRemember this website is primarily used by weird autists and its users are not representative of the broader lgbt and general population (for better or worse)
>>44589797there is no one framework or idea that can fit your whole life. "being nice" all the time will eventually get you scammed and abused, and "being mean" all the time will eventually get you beaten and arrested. being kind is a skill that you must have in your back pocket, so to speak, as is being mean, as is being honest, as is being puppyeyes-loving, etc. most people do not feel anything at all. that you are fluent in and aware of many different kinds of emotions may not seem like a real thing to be proud of, nor useful to the world, but it will prove useful in a world where imagination and your inside life are increasingly depreciated, especially as the outside life becomes more and more virtualized and abstract due to technologyi cannot be sure if this is bait or not... worst case scenario i toss out some sincerity and a bunch of kids snicker at me halfway across the world. however, even if you are "a failure," failure is the only way human beings actually learn things... good marks in public school, having a certain number of zeroes in your bank account (when the currency isnt buillon,) high body count, good looks, none of these really mean anything if you step away from the social sphere, because they require someone else to interpret them as meaningful. awareness and selfknowledge have practical use both in your private and public lives, and these two things can only come from "failing experiments," so to speakothers will hardly ever reply to emotional outbursts on the internet well, because the culture here is generally cynical and finds no value in honesty or growth. however, from what you said, id say you are farther on The Way than you think... there are interesting things in your future if you remain true to yourself
Anyone else notice that as a "telling like it is" meme ages it gets more and more ironic?If you were really emotionally bothered you wouldn't have thought to meme about it.
I grieve in memes
>>44591888I don't want autism :(>t. OP
>>44589797If you go into a crab bucket website, you're gonna find crabsIt's easier to be mean, and there's no community that really exists. People are individualistic, but there's also good people all the same who exist outside of it people can be nice ace caring tho, even here, it just might be limited
>>44596060yeah well neither do I it ruins my life but I gotta learn to accept it and treat it better and so do you!
>>44597985well, I'm not diagnosed with autism. so there's still hope that I don't have it :')
>>44598109Surely that's a result of actually getting it tested and not neglect right...? :^)
>>44598134I have not been tested for autism no. I am diagnosed with adhd though unfortunately. But people keep saying Im more autistic then ADHD :/
>>44589797I don't like myself very much
