>be me 32 bi in a relationship with a woman>shes really into crossdressers and androgynous bi men>she wants kids >i think i might be trans what should i do? i love her, she accepts me but im afraid she wont like me being straight up trans should i just try to repress it and just be a crossdresser? should i knock her up and start hrt after? i would never pass and i dont even really want to, i'd just enjoy having tits and being trans she even pegs me lol, maybe if i ease her into it it might work?
>32>thinks he might be transHow the fuck did you just now find out? Are you sure your gf isn't just grooming you?
>>44648758lets say i had a "trans phase" before i met her that lasted like 1,5 years (she knows about this)i chalked it up mental health issues and not having a life and being online way too much i managed to "get out of it" and i kinda tuned into a chud trying to become more masculine now i think the "phase" is back it just hit me at one point
talk to her about itplease don't "ease her into it" i'm assuming she's a human not a dog
honestly just ask indirect questions like would she like to be in a relationship with a trans women or would she still like you if you were trans etc stuff, and it all just depends on u, does ur identity or gender expression is more important than ur current relationship or nah
>>44648844>honestly just ask indirect questions like would she like to be in a relationship with a trans women or would she still like you if you were transthat's not really indirect
>>44648837This: she is an adult have a direct conversation.>>44648711If she turns out not to like you being trans, leave and find a girlfriend who isn't evil. Repressing doesn't work forever and will only make you miserable later.If she is cool, stay and there is no problem!Whatever happens, it will be best for both do you in the long run.
>>44648837shes kinda a puppygirl
>>44648711>should i knock her up and start hrt after?You could always sperm bank before starting hrt if that's something you're concerned about and if you have the money to spare>>44648789>lets say i had a "trans phase" before i met her that lasted like 1,5 years (she knows about this)How did she react to finding out about that? If she had a notable reaction to that it seems like that would be a pretty good indicator about how she'd feel about you being trans.Also, is she bi herself? Seems like she'd be more likely to be ok with it if that's the caseEither way if its something you're serious about you should probably just talk to her about it.
just tell her right away and let things work themselves out. if the both of you want to make it work, it will work. trust the process
>>44648711>>shes really into crossdressers and androgynous bi men>>she wants kidsyikes
>>44648711Repressing never works foreverSince she has a crossdressing fetish, she may or may not be outwardly supportive of you being trans, but she will definitely weird about it and push you towards her tastesAlso, don't have kids just because she wants them. I feel like that's really something you have to want yourself
>>44648919shes not bi, and from what i can tell trans women are "too much" women for her also she didnt really had a dramatic reaction when i told her about my "phase" as a matter of fact i cant even really remember it fully, she kind of just shrugged it off, we still talk about it casually from time to time she might have said something along the lines of it being "too much" for her, but to be honest i dont really feel that its a definite no i mean im sitting here typing this in a sports bra and woman briefs she gave me to wear this morning
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Why not just be an androgynous bi guy and crossdress in the bedroom?
>>44648964I think about having kids on and off, i met her around the very end of my "phase" and i was generally in favor of it, we even had a pregnancy scare and i was like "ok thats it its time for this" then it ended up being just a scare at my repressing phase (which is kinda ending now) i was like hell no it would feel like prison now that this thing is on the plate again i kinda feel im getting more open to it again
>>44649025Why not shut the fuck up and stop grooming trans girls into pretending to be guys for longer?
>>44649040why don't you shut the fuck up and stop trying to groom people into irreversible decisions without the proper considerations of all options. It's a big problem on this board where people can only feel validated in their identity if they try to force others to be exactly like them. the culture of 'cracking eggs' is fucking cancer.
>>44649027If that's the case, I would say to come out to her and start transitioning first, before anything kid-related. You don't want to have a baby while you're early in transition and your wife is realizing she isn't attracted to you.You need time to transition, and time to see if this girl is properly supportive and that this relationship is stable
>>44648789Dude you're either a woman or you're not, what the fuck are you doing?"Trans phase"WTF>I became a masculine chudGood, that's the right way to be
>>44649067OP already said what they are, groomer. You are the one trying to change them. Fuck off.