>>44830858
>where do hons and gigahons get their confidence from?
afrika
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n8iX3_Ah2X0

>>44830858
ultimately you just have to get over yourself and stop letting what other people think affect you so much. if people give you weird looks so what? it's not you who's in the wrong, some (even a lot of) people are just rude and poorly brought up and should be more focused on their own problems. especially since from what i've seen most of the people giving other people weird looks aren't exactly oil paintings themselves. you should read about alfred adler and specifically the separation of tasks, it helped me a lot with not really caring what random people think of me that much (and with a lot of other aspects of my life too, trans-related or otherwise).

>>44831017
I’m not op but I view being clocked as a deep personal failure so it’s hard not to think about it, in fact, I often feel like oblivious hons aren’t trans at all because you need dysphoria to be trans and they’re clearly non dysphoric

>>44830858
Are you aware of;
The Queer community being affirming no matter what
The presence of Autistic Spectrum Disorder
?

>>44831025
first of all you don't know that everyone who looks at you is clocking you, you're assuming. there are literally a billion reasons someone could be visually drawn to you, accept this and get over it. maybe i've learned to make peace with this because of my life experience, i'm a foreigner in a very ethnically homogenous country and people can generally tell from my appearance and accent that i'm not from here. naturally i get looked at sometimes or i get spoken to in english before i've even opened my mouth, but it's not necessarily because those people are xenophobic. if i were to assume every person who looks at me is thinking something racist then i'd be unreasonable, right? if they are thinking something racist, well, it's a bit shitty of them to make assumptions about someone who works, pays taxes and generally tries to be a good neighbour, coworker, girlfriend, in-law, etc. i'm not going to project it onto myself and say that i've failed and don't belong in this country. as for what you call "oblivious hons", as far as i'm concerned it's neither your place nor mine to say whether they're dysphoric or not. that's their tasks, not yours. such is the adlerian position.

>>44830858
>How does one gain honfidence?
How does anyone gain unearned confidence? Surround yourself with yesmen and orbiters. hyperfocus on your strengths and make a gimmick out of it. This will attract chasers like fruit flies.
>>44831091
This
The only time I've seen hons fail to get updoots on a socials is when they are absolute comical gigahons or overly negative in the titles. Those up dogs are all the motivation some hons need
>>44830928
Thanks for giving me something to listen to while waiting for my captcha

>>44830858
this is especially interesting because it is hsts honfidence.

>>44830858
as some kind of twinkhon, basically, I have no confidence whatsoever. not in myself. when I don't boymode, or I guess when I don't [whateverthefuck]mode, it is largely because I'm doing something significant and can't let myself do it as the empty shell I cling to for safety. I already hurt myself enough. so I guess, on the actual question, it's often not a matter of confidence. for some, like me, it's a matter of needing to have even just a small amount of self-actualization before killing ourselves. for others, the reasons are likely different.

>>44830858
>hair transplants
>ultra-giga-FFS (assuming they havent had it yet)
would she be workable?

>>44831104
you are not fooling anyone

>>44830858
it's called spending more time in real life and less time on the internet. self-esteem is relative, and in real life you're surrounded by ugly women and on the internet you're surrounded by hot ones. simple as

>>44830858
Narcissism
Autism
Both
It varies from hon to hon.

>>44832565
i don't think anything fixes that starting point