to people who girlmode - would you detroon if you didn't pass? why or why not? personally if i didn't pass like 90%+ of the time visually i'd probably keep hrtrepping forever
>>45124260You can’t manmode in my experience if you’re also trying to keep decent mental health/have literally any goals in life. I manmoded for years but had to stop recently because it was affecting too many things, made me a nihilist, had me struggling to think about study/career goals because I couldn’t think of a future, etc. From a rough estimate I maybe pass <1% of the time now being generous, strangers never gender me female and that’s a fucking pain and a massive stress, but in the bigger picture I’m already doing a lot better. I’ve finally cut-off unsupportive people and other dead weights, but the main thing is girlmoding motivates you to do something. I’m actually able to start planning stuff like surgery now that could make me pass because I passed that stupid social transition barrier that now has me thinking about the future. Maybe I’ll change my mind in a few years if surgery fails or something but right now girlmoding is better than any other option no matter the negatives.
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>>45124260>to people who girlmode - would you detroon if you didn't pass?>if you didn't pass>"if"hahahahahahaWhy do I not care? Because my life is fucking awesome. I'm financially secure. I have a great job. Even if no one genders me correctly without active effort, I've filtered my work and personal lives down to spending 90% of my life interacting with people that do put in the effort.Like the first reply says, building this life was only possible because I socially transitioned early (though I never really manmoded, I started socially transitioning very soon after accepting I was trans; I socially transitioned BEFORE I was on HRT).If your transition is conditional on passing, or looking pretty, then to be frank you didn't want it badly enough. And that's fair! It's possible to have concerns in your life other than gender dysphoria that are more important. Like, even though I socially transitioned early, I didn't bring family into the picture until after the grandparents died, because that was "more important" in some respect.But if it's an all-or-nothing thing for you, and you genuinely don't draw some incremental joy from the journey of transition, then I start to suspect you may be one of those autistic boys brainwashing yourself into it. Like, do you genuinely feel no joy, or at least "satisfaction you've accomplished something", the first time you told someone you were trans and got a supportive reaction? The first time you took HRT? The first time you bought women's clothing that actually achieved the "look" you wanted? The first relationship you had with a partner that sees the real you? Would you toss all that in the trash just because you don't pass to strangers??? Absolutely baffling to me!
>>45125125crazy to try to gatekeep as a honplease go back
>>45125137Hey, I'm not going to stop anyone from transitioning!It's just that feeling no emotional connection to your transition, and seeing it merely as a slog of necessary work to accomplish some "ideal goal" when all of that is done, seems to be a pretty clear indicator you may be having a "the grass is always greener just over the horizon..." delusion.If you get there eventually, that's awesome! Glad it was a massive improvement for you. But, damn, that's a massive gamble you took if you didn't have even the slightest bit of brain-chemical reaction along the way to tell you that you were on the right path.
>>45125160you made all of that up btw
>>45124346I'm three years into manmoding
>>45125168>you made all of that up btwWell, can't prove the social life parts of the post, but I did have to do some banking this morning so here's the "financially secure" part. Yeah, not super impressive, but better than most of the poverty-trannies coping that they're pretty enough to get tips at their restaurant job.Don't have to be pretty if you have money!
>>45124260i returned to boymode and things have been alright since then
God my sisters You are some serious pussies>uhhh errrrrggg ummmmm im a girl but i wont dress like one cause im like le embaressed!Ohhhhh my fucking god get over yourselves
>>45125465yeah? looking like a man in women's clothing IS embarrassing
