I’ve been getting closer to mine again since turning 30. A lot of the things from the past seem silly in hindsight, but at the same time there’s some stuff I’ll probably never fully forgive. Guess you just have to do deal with it and just pretend it doesn’t exist. They don’t know I’m bisexual and I’ll probably never tell them, although maybe they suspect idk. Coming out as bi as a 30 yo man is cringe to me anyways.
>>45159219Im almost 30 and its gotten a lot easier to deal with my parents over the last few years. I just let go of all the resentment and accepted they are flawed people who arent able to love me. I just look at them as I look at myself, im flawed and may never get better also, so how can I hold it against them. I dont know wtf happeend to them but I can guess, they're the only parents I'll ever have so I may as well be humble and accept them.
>>45159222Digits of truth
I'm 30 and I'm not sure. I realized a while ago that I haven't loved them in over a decade. Took me longer to realize i hadn't loved anything or anyone in all that time either because of SSRI dependency, and that it kinda turned me into a totally dependent manchild. There's definitely an alternate timeline where i became a chris chan esque figure
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>>45159219Maybe it'll sound silly or something but I came out to my parents when I was 19 and now I'm 33 and they're almost my best friends. Idk it feels weird to say "they're my best friends" because maybe "best friends" should be less than 35 years apart from you in age, but I call them all the time. I'm gonna miss them so much someday and it's all I can think about when I call them. When my rent went up like 30% and I had to move out, Dad just let me crash in his spare room, and I ended up there for two years (probably depressed but I'm fine now so there's no use in examining that) and loved having me there the whole time. I visit Mom at her place all the time. They stayed together through my childhood, which they shouldn't have done, but now that they're divorced and living apart, they can actually be friends. They call each other every Sunday to see which of them did better on the New York Times news quiz. Yes, I agree, it's liberal silliness, but they love their dumb trans daughter, probably more than the love their other daughter (my sister is a cis NEET who lives at home with Mom and has mild developmental disabilities). Lotta words here but idk, I think it's important to let go of who people were in the past. If you're posting here you're probably trans, and if anyone should be okay with letting go of who someone else was in the past, it should be us. They tried their best, and they do better now. What else matters? Also I transitioned from "looking just like my dad" to "looking exactly like my mom" so it's hard not to see them in me.
