I'm a 27 year old MtF tranny, almost 3 years HRT. I finally got a long distance boyfriend earlier this year. We've met up a couple times. I have tried so hard to cum from anal alone and with him, but I just can't. I have also tried using a vibrator with him and while he fucks me, and my bottom dysphoria makes me feel awful. Even when I force myself to cum with the vibrator while he fucks me, it feels pretty bad.Also, I get really really raw, so even though I can match his libido, I can't take dick many times in a weekend when he comes over.I love him so so so so much, and he really makes me want to feel pleasurable when we have sex, but no matter what we try, it just feels bad to me.Am I doing something wrong? Am I just broken? I don't want to lose him by making him feel like he's doing something wrong. He's so so so so sweet about all of this.Can I fix myself somehow?
>>45192065That's what you get whore
>>45192072Why do I deserve this? :(I was a virgin up until he became my first boyfriend...
>>45192065I felt like this. eventually got srs. I still have lots of trauma from trying to push through it. You should really stop trying. Im not sure how to fix it, but I think slowly working up to it would have helped. lots of affirmations. idk. don't force yourself to push through it pleaset. someone who might never be able to enjoy sex
>>45192088>boyfriend for less than yeardeserved
>>45192065Getting raw means u ain’t lubing up enough.some ppl just don’t enjoy sex tho you might be one of them. Also cumming from anal takes practice, it’s rare for ppl to know how to do it naturally with no effort. Lube + foreplay + practice Optional chastity cage
another possible avenue to take is exploring kinks; try and look into Dom/sub play or anything psychologically capable of getting you aroused. It’s helped myself overcome bottom dysphoria / relying on male genitalia. Can’t promise you’ll orgasm with your current genitals, but can anecdotally share that i’ve been capable of full body orgasms without the need to stimulate myself.
>>45192095I'll make sure he uses more lube next time.I tried using some guides to practice cumming from anal with a dildo, but I wasn't able to make it happen. Is there any method you recommend?Also, would the chastity cage activate my bottom dysphoria or make it better? Would it make sex easier for me?
>>45192105You can orgasm without physical stimulation? What did you do?
>>45192065Unless he’s really big there’s a high chance you can step up your anal game to make this work. I recommend Lube Life triple thick water based anal lube. It’s one of the few I’ve tried that really keep you lubed up. It’s very thick and slippery. Make sure you douche thoroughly, if you have any poop inside you it’s normal that your smooth muscles will unconsciously tense up. You should realistically be spending 10-15 minutes being fingered and ideally inserting a vibrating toy to relax yourself before he penetrates you. Also, use a lube shooter. It will change your life. If you do all that, and it still feels bad, it might be down to an angle / technique issue. Try to find a position where there’s no pain, and where the insertion slides through easily. Your pelvis angle will change the shape of your love tunnel. There’s a learning curve here so practice patience and curiosity. Your bf is lucky af to have someone this thoughtful
prostate orgasms are a lot harder to achieve than the Internet makes it look. take your time with it.
masturbate and that's it
>>45192065If it makes you feel any better the first several times I had "normal" PIV sex were kind of awful, and I didn't actually enjoy it. If I wasn't such an incredibly horny teenager I might have never had sex again after my first try.It just is like that, I think.
>>45192065buy Xlube and practice with something small first
>>45192065get SRS unironically. it'll help.
>>45192581I'm kind of afraid of the electrolysis to prep and recovery...
>>45192773we all have to face our fears
