I have immense psychosexual problems because I am a traumatized BPD autistic boy with autoandrophobia who has constantly watched women be treated better than him from childhood into "adulthood."Any attempt to try to discuss my issues just gets me binned, incorrectly, because people don't really have a schema for it. This ranges from on 4chan to IRL to professionally (i.e. trying to see a psych or therapist). No I'm not a tranny, no my problems aren't relationship related, no I'm not a straight guy. What are you even supposed to do in a messy situation like this? I can't even describe my sexuality or problems accurately in a word.
So... You wanna get plapped by a big man, or...?
>>45202735Why do we have to be grossly reductive. You're doing the same thing, trying to bin me. The nuance is actually pretty important.
>>45202705>a traumatized BPD autistic boy with autoandrophobiait’s over the moment you start thinking of yourself in these terms
>>45202875How do you mean? What's wrong with trying to understand yourself.
>autoandrophobic>not straight (i.e. not gynephilic)>not transplease explain to a fellow autist how you can simultaneously hold these three positive beliefs without appealing to the bwo
>>45202705>constantly watched women be treated better than him from childhood into "adulthood."is this not what transmaxxers feel before they transmax
>>45202839The other post didn't use any labels though, if your desires and actions don't define you then what the fuck does?
>>45202888Bwo?I'm a cis guy. I am not attracted to women. I am not attracted to men, but what they can do to me, and I am an incompetent manchild while they are capable. >>45202897I was told that wasn't a thing unless a trans woman excludes me and wants to use it as a cudgel. >>45202909Well what is the motivation behind those desires? A guy can eat a lot of fiber daily because he has gastrointestinal issues, another guy can eat a lot of fiber daily because he really loves veggies, the outcome is the same but the motivations separate them. It would be wrong to say the former guy is a vegetarian if he's only doing it to not have hemorrhoids and actually prefers meat.
>>45202705I blame feminism for enabling the psychic torture of young sensitive autistic boys. What would help you is rejecting misandrist feminist doctrine and replacing it with beliefs of actual gender equality.>It is not a moral failure for being born a certain sex>You are not inherently flawed for being born a certain sex>You are not inherently dangerous for being born a certain sex>Your humanity is not determined by being born a certain sex>Your sexuality is not inherently harmful or unwanted for being born a certain sex>Your concerns and troubles do not deserve to be overlooked for being born a certain sex>You are not presumed guilt before innocence for being born a certain sex>Your value as a person is not determined by your sexOnce you are able to unpack the cultural damage that has been inflicted onto you in your formative years, you will be able to articulate your trauma and better advocate for yourself. Be very careful with your phrasing and how you express these thoughts because people will take any opportunity to discredit your grievances.
>>45202705the kinda retarded schizobabble generated by someone who has had zero genuine problems in their life
>>45202705...Marcelle?
>>45202705yeah i get it im the same way but you're just a tranny, autoandrophobia is a form of trannyism. just be a femboy, thats how normal people see trannies (that look good) anyway
>>45203027The thing is I cannot convince myself of any of those things. "There's nothing wrong with being born an untouchable slave." Well my life is objectively worse for it. It affects my daily life. I'm not delusional.>>45203034I'm 29 and don't have a car because my parents hated me for being a retarded male and never gave me the minimum support while buying my sisters cars. I haven't made IRL friends since I was 13.The only things I enjoy in life are otaku fiction and [redacted for obscenity].I've been denied housing because I'm a guy. I've been evicted because I tried to stand up for myself and tell my landlord that it's illegal to neglect to do anything about the roach poop and their infestation in the kitchen which bars me from using it, which doesn't even have an oven. Trying to make friends either gets me solicited or called a p*dophile. I want a baby but can't ever have one because I'm a guy who isn't interested in women and women aren't interested in me, too poor to adopt (4x cost of giving birth). I've been bullied, traumatized just for not liking women like I should have as a kid, as an adult because I don't Get Pussy I got mocked just pursuing my hobbies in peace by former roommates. Need I go on?There's not a single positive about my life except the fact that I LOOK like a woman.
>>45203072I'm not a tranny, and trannies get mad at me for being a femboy. They turn into terfs the second they see me.
>>45203083>Your value as a person is not determined by your sexeven if others treat you otherwiseLife is hard. You need to be kind to yourself firstly because no one else will. Your sufferings are not an indictment of your character.
>>45203017>Well what is the motivation behind those desires? A guy can eat a lot of fiber daily because he has gastrointestinal issues, another guy can eat a lot of fiber daily because he really loves veggies, the outcome is the same but the motivations separate them. It would be wrong to say the former guy is a vegetarian if he's only doing it to not have hemorrhoids and actually prefers meat.do you just enjoy saying shit without ever arriving at a conclusion like most retards do
>>45203186How can I be kind to myself without evidence that I should be or deserve to be? It's just humiliating and makes me feel delusional and hurts 200000x worse.>>45203243The conclusion is that they both eat a lot of fiber but it would be inaccurate to call them both vegetarians or conscious of animal suffering. The resemblance is just superficial, and people who don't like having to think love stopping things there because they're not comfortable with themselves and their own worldview and don't want it challenged.
>>45203027>>It is not a moral failure for being born a certain sex>>You are not inherently flawed for being born a certain sex>>You are not inherently dangerous for being born a certain sex>>Your humanity is not determined by being born a certain sex>>Your sexuality is not inherently harmful or unwanted for being born a certain sex>>Your concerns and troubles do not deserve to be overlooked for being born a certain sex>>You are not presumed guilt before innocence for being born a certain sex>>Your value as a person is not determined by yourLiving by any of the above will have you labeled an incel creep
>>45203407If you're short and don't have a "good personality" yes. Chad can and does have high self-esteem and it works.
>>45202705Others decide what you are by default. You can't change what you are until you decide what you want to be.It's not that there's "no schema" for what you are It's just that you won't accept being a man or a woman.You are what others decide you are until you define yourself. Which you have the capacity to do, but won't, due to it feeling unsatisfying.Reality isn't satisfying sometimes. You have to learn to accept that before you can make it satisfying. That's what you do.Otherwise you are stuck this way I guarantee it.
>>45202705Allow you in early child to behave and treated like a girl and then you'll never want to be a trans woman
>>45204758Also if you know what you are--lets say you are a gay man. Then there's no issue. Just stop talking to retards. I only assume it's an issue of not knowing what you are because otherwise why would you give a fuck what others think. Just get by with them or ignore them.
>>45204758I've accepted being a man. I don't like it but that's how it is. I'll never be a woman. What I want to be doesn't matter because it's not achievable. I can't be a neurotypical normal guy and I can't be a woman, either of which I'd be fine with. >>45204829I'm not a gay man. The problem is that others will still judge me and ostracize and attack me for my ontology. If I keep to myself and make myself as small as possible and go through life, I'm still socially retarded. I'm still hated by trans women and not recognized as one of them. Because I lack the penetrative impulse most men have and thus women aren't attracted to me, because I'm short and not outwardly masculine, men don't respect me. I can't just ignore others and go my own way in a society that is actively hostile to me. Even trans women, who suffer from transphobia, gay men from homophobia, at least have some community and support and some who are sympathetic. I don't.
>>45204960Why can't you be something other than a man, without having to be a woman?
>>45204977I don't believe in enbyism.
>>45204989 in that case you need to work on changing your thinking
>>45204989"binning" yourself atp desu
>>45204989Women can be in their 50s, even older and still call themselves girls Why can't you just refer yourself as a boy?
>>45205002>>45205006I don't want to come across as disrespectful so I'm going to decline to elaborate my worldview. Idc what other people do.I'm just obviously a guy. Not a third category.>>45205027I do?
>>45205056Then what is your problem? Why are you posting like you're not testified with life?
>>45205293>testified?
>>45202705Idk what to tell you man(?) I've met Yemenis refugees with less psychological issues try to keep going to a therapist
>>45202705Your cope is as thick as your ass will be on hrt
>>45202884NTA labels like "BPD" and "autistic" don't actually mean much and are really just used to refer to an archetype of person more than anything else. you're describing yourself in terms of archetypes and then suffering when people are unwilling to work with you after you can't fit into one.
>>45205571I'm already on HRT and it was already big to begin with for my frame. >>45205604How should I describe myself then.
>>45204960I have body dysmorphia and don't feel I belong anywhere. And I happen to be a short ugly male who experiences discrimination specifically because of that, by both women and men, the elderly, those younger than me, etc. I walk it off and move forward with what I like to do in life. I have chronic anxiety. I stand up for myself anyways and I have exactly 1 friend. I am capable of making friends whenever I want or dating. I am only voluntary celibate. People out of my league find me attractive. I am happy. Why? Because I worked on my personality instead of trying to find excuses for my insecurities. I don't know you; I am not comparing our struggles because I think I have it harder than you. I simply suggest you do the same if you see parts of yourself in my post or if you truly want any of the things I am able to get inspite of my setbacks.
Can you get a boyfriend to fuck the brainworms out of you so we dont have to suffer through these threads
>>45206166>Because I worked on my personalityWhat does this entail besides "don't be autistic">>45206197I know malebrains won't understand but sex isn't actually the solution to all of one's problems and if it is you're very lucky and don't have real problems
>>45206473You're such a little shit you know that? Don't get mad at me because you dont have some dick to ride
>>45206496I do, sex isn't everything you moided freak
>>45206902thanks for elaborating your worldview
>>45202705so what is ur ideal body? and what is the personality and physique of ur ideal partner?
>>45206902You're a moisturizer you brat. You verbatim said you're not a tranny.
>>45205800>How should I describe myself thendon’t. latching onto neurodivergence, mental illnesses, personality types as “who I am” is misleading. they’re just thoughts and ideas, which can never pin down reality.
>>45206473Tbh it means to stop complaining, give up on dreams, recognize that seeing oneself as a victim is a choice, stop making that choice, and to accept being alone for as long as you need to be. It's stuff people don't like to hear but they naturally grow up and do all those things even if it takes 70 years. You just get too tired for unnecessary problems and you are forced to chill out.
>>45206985And I'm not. >>45206975>so what is ur ideal body?Within the bounds of modern medicine or setting realism and feasibility aside?>and what is the personality and physique of ur ideal partner?I am autosexual, so I actually don't care as long as he loves me, is uncircumcised, and is at least average down there. >>45207056>>45207210But isn't acknowledging and accepting yourself foundational for self-actualization
>>45207399>But isn't acknowledging and accepting yourself foundational for self-actualizationit is. just don’t take the labels seriously, a lot of people in this community will conflate it with their sense of self. put it in their bio and such lol
>>45207712That's part of why I don't think I'm trans, I have nothing in common with the Community.
>>45207399 t's only when you fail to understand and consent to the burdens you take on when you set out to accomplish something that your identity gets in your own way. Cognative dissonance basically. For example we play videogames where we know the risk of receiving dogshit teammates is not 0%. You consider yourself a "good player" even though you keep losing due to shit teammates. The Cognative dissonance there is that you brought the loss upon yourself by playing, and more importantly, defining being a good player in a way that preserves your ego at the cost of a wholistic veiw of reality.Being a good player should mean not getting tilted and improving but that doesn't include winning and it doesn't blameshift so it feels bad.Without your definition you can have a healthy identity, have fun, and self-actualize just fine. It just doesn't feek that way right now.You are required to throw away much of your identity to grow strong.
>>45209981I'm just barely awake. Im sorry for typos... goodnight...............
