>trans gf has talked about maybe wanting to be a mother one day>i do not actively want kids, but with the right person i could be convincedany homos or trannies here become parents?biological or adoptionwhat are your experiences being a gay and/or trans parent?what are your kids experiences like?
>>45304719Don't pass down those tranny genes, adopt
>>45304719I have daughter, I'm a lesbian femrepper married to man. My daughter seems very bisexual and cis so far
>>45304719Mtf here. I have a daughter with my cisf wife. It's the most fulfilling thing I've ever experienced and it's also incredibly exhausting. Forget about living on your own terms or schedule, when you have a kid you basically restructure your entire life around meeting their needs. That doesn't mean no time to yourself but it's significantly decreased. It's easier if you have a social support network - parents, siblings with kids of their own, friends - that can help you, even if it's just stuff like grocery shopping. My daughter's still an infant and I'm in very early transition so I'm not publicly out yet. My wife knows and knew before we decided to marry and have a baby.
>>45304734i asked bio or adoption because i am curious if there's a difference in the experience. naturally, there would be, but i want to see how it compounds with being gay/trans>>45304738i would imagine being a repper with kids would be a bit bleak. how's your relationship with your daughter? and your husband as well? anything you'd say to someone weighing up parenthood with both parents being types of homo?
Don't. Depriving children of either parental figure is evil. Homosexuals just shouldn't have children, and that's okay.
>>45304768this sounds really lovely, seems like you've got a good thing going, i'm happy for youthe time constraint thing weighs on my mind, i can be reclusive and enjoy my solitude, but i also perform well under crunch - i don't see myself skimping out on taking a kid to school because i'm goofing off or some shit like that. i would imagine that i would be constantly stressed, but feel very fulfilled, similar to how i am with work. i would rather not work, but the drive and pressure keeps me upright and makes me feel decent about myself.my main concern is that i can have strange and strong moods. i'm bipolar, and whilst i'm perfectly functional and medicated, i live in constant fear of what could happen if i flew off the handle and had another manic episode. it is the single largest factor that my life decision making revolves around>in these circumstances, would a manic episode destroy my life?if the answer isn't an outright no, i am very hesitant to consider it. but like my OP says - my gf might want to be mother, i love her, and i just want to consider all my options
>>45304804conservatives always yap about this while ignoring the needs of their child lol being in a weirdo family is still miles better than being neglected or abused
>>45304819Stop lying to yourself and accept what you know is true.
>>45304805>this sounds really lovely, seems like you've got a good thing going, i'm happy for youThank you! I can relate to stress and pressure keeping you upright, it's the same for me. I've got ADHD and when things are on fire I'm at my best while I goof off and am super inefficient on slow days. Having a child kinda forces you out of your comfort zone, anyway. I haven't gone swimming in years due to dysphoria/body dysmorphia but one day my daughter will want to go to the pool and I can't always ask her mom to go alone with her, just as an example. My wife has pretty bad social anxiety but still has to go outside with our kid because children need that for healthy development. I wish I could answer your concerns regarding bpd and parenthood, but I think if you're generally stable and self aware that's a good sign you'll be okay. Many parents without personality disorders manage to fuck up and be shitty parents. I'm sure there's other people out there with bpd who have kids, there probably better suited to addressing these concerns. I think your gf is lucky to have you, btw. You seem like a good, loving person, and I hope the two of you thrive together!
>>45304768So you're just a man who impregnated a woman.
>>45304863Sure, if it makes you happy
>>45304819don't feed the chuds
>>45304719I would think super hard before having kids, though a adoption/fostering is A-OK.> our species existed for ~300,000 years before reaching 1 billion people in 1804> in just 220 years, we octupled to over 8 billion> nearly 70% of global biodiversity gone since 1970> insect populations down ~75% in 50 years> humans + livestock now make up 96% of mammal biomass> poultry make up 71% of all bird biomass> dumping carbon into the atmosphere ~200x faster than past mass extinction volcanism> oceans absorbing the energy equivalent of ~5 atomic bombs every second> expect stronger storms, longer heat waves, and worse droughts> infrastructure increasingly fails under constant disasters> food production becomes less reliable and more expensive> parts of the planet become too hot or dry to live in> millions displaced, triggering mass migration> competition over food, water, and habitable land intensifies> more conflict, instability, and authoritarianism> increased risk of major war, including nuclear escalation
>>45305206Ok but none of this is relevant to the thread, it's just general Malthusian antinatalism. This thread is about the actual experience and act of parenting, not these externalities you pretend to care aboutBesides, my country's birthrate is beneath the replacement rate
