Two paths are sold to us:Solo Freedom: Financial freedom, travel, business, full control, no responsibilities. Sounds ideal. But realistically most people who "choose" this path don't actually achieve it. They just end up another average guy working a 9-5, coming home alone, eating alone, sleeping alone. The dream becomes just a regular life, but lonelier.Relationship/Family: Love, companionship, building something together, shared memories. Also sounds ideal. But realistically many end up in monotony too. Come home, barely talk, watch TV separately, repeat. The romance fades and you're just two people coexisting in the same space.I'm genuinely trying to understand this from the inside because from the outside both paths look like they could go either way.I've never had a girlfriend or kids. I enjoy solitude and don't need much social life. I imagine my future with financial stability, travel and freedom. But I also can't fully understand what makes traditional life genuinely valuable beyond what it looks like from outside.Those who actually live either path: what do you get from it that the other side doesn't see? What surprised you from the inside? Did it actually deliver or was it just another cope?Real experiences only. What kind of life did you choose and why?"
>>536497887TLDR. Go back to India.
>>536497887If you have a good wife or husband, the right is better. If you cannot get or mold a decent wife or husband left is better. Thats it. In terms of cope being with a bad wife/husband is worse than alone, and alone is worse than happy marriage.
I think it depends on the person.Myself I prefer solitude. I am strange though, but selfish with my time. I can't imagine not doing exactly what I want when I want how I want when my basic obligations are met, work bills.And when you expand a nuclear family, you must dedicate your life to them, forever, period. I can't imagine dedicating my life to anyone but me.Now, that's not to say that I don't take care of family I have, I do, I am very dedicated but they are a support snd not an inhibitor a further nuclear family would be.I retain absolute freedom.
>>536498191Your posture is very similar to mine. I also can't see myself dedicating time to anyone but myself.That said I've been reading a lot of experiences lately and one stuck with me. A couple who traveled together, went to festivals, concerts, bars, met with other couples and enjoyed life. The husband wanted kids, she didn't, and he was fine with that. They just built a life that was genuinely fun together.That I could see myself in. Not the traditional cohabitation or deep commitment, but something entertaining, open, where two people enjoy moments together without being locked in.My ideal would be someone to have real deep conversations with, but I'm realistic enough to know that's rare. What I do know is that if I ever have a relationship it would need to be fun, free, maybe open or even polyamorous in some sense. Something built around enjoying each other, not obligation.Love as something you experience in moments, not something that owns your life.
>>536497887>Solo Freedom vs Traditional LifeThe illusion of choice, you are still a goy.
>>536499055Elaborate. What do you mean by illusion of choice?
