Can someone explain to me why men hate BPD woman so much? They are just more sensitive than regular woman. What’s so bad about that?
I see men today and it's blackpilling. Not just young guys, old men as well, being completely pussy-whipped by their crazy women. It's a matter of self-respect. Men are too weak and whiny nowadays, talk about love more than women, talk about homo shit like loyalty while women celebrate each other's flings. Women are getting masculine and men are becoming total pussies
Go back to /tv/ you fucking faggot. I swear to God you people are the most insufferable pieces of shit on this entire site.
Okay but what's it like to actually date one though? I've never been with one of those people, do they scream and yell all day or some shit?
People with borderline personality disorder are prone to manipulation, usually through things like splitting. It's like having another child to babysit that will be a continually unfit mother, probably also has drug issues.
>>544165028No, its a matter of self preservation for American men. Maybe women are better in your country.
>>544165207Alternating between love bombing and psychotic hatred every week or two.
I'm pretty fucked in the head. Im not gonna whine about the things I've seen and been through here. But i never make that fact someone else's problem. That's the problem with the BPD archetype. They want the world to bend around them, and everyone to pat them on the head. They create the same chaos their trauma willed upon them, and they do it with a smile. I don't have time for selfish cunts like that, and no man should put up with that shit.
>>544164404I dated one for a short period long ago. She told me to go kill myself and ghosted me for days because I forgot to text ''good night'' to her
>>544164404My sister has "BPD". Here's her average day>calls mom 5 times and says she wants to kill herself >complains that she's fat and can't lose weight despite trying everything>I used to love looking at myself in the mirror but I hate myself now, if I was thin and pretty again I'd be happy>I deserve to have an apartment like all my friends>you ruined my life letting dad verbally abuse me I would be happy without you>give me money for an apartment on the upper east side or I'll kill myself>I hate you why can't you kill yourself so I get insurance moneyYou want an emotional connection with that creature?
>>544164404because they will bring you down with no hope of you bringing them up, all the while blaming you and ultimately destroying you -- then telling every one it was the other way around while secretly knowing it wasn't, and never doing anything to fix it. pro tip, brothers: the crazy immoral kink isn't worth it. you only defile yourself, you can and you will do better.
Strong chance they will rewrite your entire history together and then try to ruin your life with false allegations when the relationship ends. They're amazing at first. You feel like you've found someone who gets you and loves you more than you ever thought possible, and the sex is amazing. But by the end, they have decided you are the devil, and you therefore deserve to be destroyed, and they become the most evil influence ever to touch your life. God forbid you have a child with one. I've been dealing with that mistake for three years now.
>>544165416exactly.
>>544165746sounds like my stepbrother's ex.we got calls from her and her mother for years after they broke up about how it's his fault they are mental patients yadda yadda
>>544165851grey rock the shit out of her, but be prepared for the coldest blowback you've ever felt. hold fast, and eventually she will mature. but don't expect that to repair any damage; it will simply turn her fire into a simmering shame. she'll still direct it outward but won't act upon it.
>>544165851>>544166009also: as horrible as it may make you feel, you NEED to explain to your children, in very lucid plain terms, exactly what is wrong with her. this will insulate them from her venomous behavior. eventually, she will treat them better to try to beat you, and they will come to their own conclusion studying her over time. most importantly though, they will be inoculated.
There is too much pathologizing of the human brain. There are over 400 defined mental "disorders" and not enough mental "orders". Just admit you're going to love her.
>>544166188She spent the last few years doing her best to completely alienate me from our kid, but fortunately my kid is smart and loves me to the ends of the earth. I've been letting my kid see things for himself and answering questions as they come, but I have a graduated presentation of the issue to give him when he's ready. He's still a little young right now, so the best thing to do for the next couple years is just give him a stable, loving environment when he's with me.
>>544164404>why men hate BPD woman so much?they cut your dick off if it doesn't work out.
When they are on the demon-swing they manically and relentlessly attack you on Uber high energy level for hours on end. The second you finally snap back they will jekyl/Hyde to 'I'm a victim'- mode so fast you won't believe it actually happened. Then they will go on a long crusade to character assassinate you by telling anyone who even pretends to listen---- how you are such a monster and that they are just sweet little innocent victims of abuse. They will reach out to all your family members and even dig thru your contacts list and call everyone ---including people they have never met--- how evil and abusive you are. Eventually in one of these cycles they will go to the cops and by their devil-luck 1 of the officers will be some Captain Save-a-Ho who buys her bullshit story hook line and sinker.They also are uber control freaks and even if they only have 99% control over everything in your home, they are somehow still victims and that your not letting them have 100% control equates to gracious abuse.The are such compulsive liars that the only reason they aren't pathological is that every lie they tell benefits them in some way.They also deal with people in absolutist categorization. When they go on a slandering tirade against you they will label persons by their reactions as being either with or against me. Their minds allow next to no room for neutrality.Men who have emotional control problems or have a 'hopeless romantic' dilemma are the easiest manipulable victims of these demonic harridans.When one of these cunts has you locked in her cross hairs you need to get as far and fast away as possible. She will never stop gunning for you until she gets a new target in her cross hairs.No cure for these cunts. They have shrunken amygdalas that allow for easy access demonic possession.The type of crazy you would have to be retarded to stick your dick into
>>544166386sounds good. i hope you've moved on
>>544166911>Then they will go on a long crusade to character assassinate you by telling anyone who even pretends to listenYep, I lost about half my friends and even one of my parents. They never even contacted me to ask about the allegations.>1 of the officers will be some Captain Save-a-Ho who buys her bullshit story hook line and sinker.Also yep. All it takes is one dipshit cop to absolutely destroy your life. I was lucky that the one dipshit was overridden by enough of his co-cops, but holy shit it was really fucking close.
>>544167161More or less. I have a good career and some world-class friends, so daily life is decent. I haven't dated since, though. Too freaked out.
>>544167193I don’t shed tears for dead cops
>>544165875>>544165838Yeah, you know what you're talking about. The degen sex is life changing though, i still think about it while banging my wife in missionary position for the purpose of procreation. I think that's the way to go, do not marry or get in to a long term thing with a bpd, it will ruin your life, but make some good memories carefully.
>>544164404Dating a BPD chick and immensely regretting it after she tries to ruin your entire life is a canon event for most men. You see her and she's wild, she exudes sex appeal, she excites you and makes you feel spontaneous. The sex is out of this world. Then the problems start.I turn 41 in just under two months (remember, you're here forever). I am begging you, with all of my heart, if there is ever any advice, ANY advice that you take from an oldfag/unc/boomer/whatever on 4chan let it be this:> Its not worth it, bros. She's not worth it.
>>544164404My mom has BPD and basically she threatens suicide a lot and she has this weird obsession with family gatherings to the point she ripped our family apart because we didn't fit into her vision properly.
>>544166009>eventually she will matureThis is a spiritual issue so no, she won't "mature" because maturity isn't the problem.
>>544168595i meant more "modulate". it's partial, but grey rocking them does tend to force some introspection, which gives them pause, at least.
>>544168675If they give their personal authority over to a demon, that's that. The only solution is taking it back again. And for a woman, she needs a male authority figure to intervene on her behalf in order for that to happen. Otherwise, it's being a puppet for demons, for life, until death.
>>544168733>for a woman, she needs a male authority figure to intervene on her behalfthe problem is that it takes a man worth more (in her eyes) than what she's able to offer in that state, for her to be willing to submit.The System will protect her from salvation. There's very little you can do unless she already dependent, and even then you're just more likely to get injured.
>>544168733>>544168921Thus the best tactic I've found is to leave them no other conclusion but their own fault, with nothing they can consciously paint black.If they ever cared, grey rocking does that.
>>544164404>modern society is shit and makes women crazy (but not clinically), diagnose a lot of them with BPD>woman goes into clinic with 80 IQ female shrinks>explicitly wants a diagnosis so they can get treatment and feel normal >shrinks cry and screech that you're manipulating them because they're dumb (lol) give you a BPD diagnosis >go around telling everyone you're BPD because you're a dumb broad>get denied insurance>everyone treats you like shit, now you're suicidal >now you're some kind of BPD female activist >triple backflip through some monkeybars to get your diagnosis removed>wow I guess they had no idea what they were talking about, society just sucks and the people getting jobs to help have no idea what they're doing >I'm going to see if I have autism https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e9mVfv3b-4E
>>544164404for some reason "you have bpd" is the favorite insult mentally ill people throw at each other. go look at faggot /adv if you need proof of thisfor some reason "bpd" talk really attracts mentally ill people. i have yet to establish a good theory why
>>544169666infantile people that never grew up emotionally and sort of just coasted through life until they got into a relationship only for their partner to (sometimes) realize they're emotionally stunted children and don't know how to handle anything around them. Oh you're autistic, oh you have OCD oh you're BPD, no the world is shit and a lot of people are emotionally children.
>>544169666it's because bpd people select co-dependent people who are masking, and the experience itself is crazymaking. despite your vague aspersions, there are very objective identifiers of BPD.>abandonment avoidance>shifting sense of self>high impulsivity>self-destructive>reactive mood swings >chronic emptiness>inappropriate anger>paranoia or dissociationBy far though, the biggest and most precise telltale (since those can all occur in other cases) is the combination of:>fearful avoidance / preemptive abandonmentcoupled with>"Splitting Black"Splitting black is rather unique to BPD, where she will initially think of you (and treat you like) the greatest man on earth, but when her break happens, suddenly -everything- (and brother, when i say everything, I mean everything) about you you is worthless/undesirable/hurtful to her.That is often in response to you standing up to her low-level blameshifting in a way that triggers her shame. Instead of seeing herself in the mirror, she will devalue and demonize you completely. It's uncanny and immistakable once you experience it.Your rejection of the idea indicates that, either you simply haven't experienced it, or that you may be masking something of your own. Keep talking and I will figure it out.
>>544170368women are extremely immature, it's as shrimple as that, everything comes from their lack of emotional maturity (being validated their entire lives for doing nothing) and their expectations that the only role of a man is to give them comfort. As soon as you start ego checking them they're going into fight or flight child mode and they aren't actually conscious of it. Modern society turned them insane, it's not a real clinical illness, they're just THAT immature
>>544167193>lost half my friends and a parent.That happens,,, as sadly too many people never caught the life-memo that you should hear all sides of a story.1 powerful social defense is having female friends who will verify that the bitch is crazy. In this situation, having women back you up is good ammo especially in this day and age. It dulls the blades of the bitch's misogyny or whatever accusations. A bro of mine in this situation was fortunate enough to have this type of social backing in his town. So the BP cunt's 'absolutism' mindset instantly categorized a bunch of her social friends into the 'against her' category. She responded with a new tactic of feigning to being a born again Christian. Churches unfortunately are well stacked with people who are so socially inept that the church crowd is their whole default social life. These same socially inept fucks are quite notorious for being those very dipshits I mentioned earlier who despite all the wisdom they should have from their Grey hair----never remembered the life memo of hearing both sides of a story. So the BP bitch finds a whole ripe field of gullible morons who will believe every ounce of her bullshit and go to all lengths for her.In small towns these crowds are often a judicial-church mafia racket. These circles have their people staffed throughout the whole local justice and Bureaucratic systems. These ass-hats will do everything at every possible turn to use their positions in the chain to ruin your life. Mis-filing, trashing or accidently on purpose losing any paper work you've had to submit for whatever purpose------ just for starters. Nvm what else they'll abuse their power for to make your life hell. The only way you'd be able to beat them is convincing the FBI to sting their corruption racket. Good luck with that tho. So you are better to get far away from that town and pray you never had kids with her.>I was very lucky dipshit was over ridden by co copsVERY ..... as I said above
>>544170723what if... they're so emotionally immature... they think going to church ACTUALLY fixes them and everything they ever did, and they don't have to do anything else
>>544170644BPD is frequently a daddy issue.>it's not a real clinical illnessfalse dichotomy. a disorder is any behavior, even self-imposed, which consistently leads to distress.you may be rejecting behavioral problems versus neurochemical problems, but the fact is this:- actual neurochemical problems are exceptionally rare outside of drug abuse (since otherwise the brain won't function) - ultimately, what matters most to the rest of us (and necessitates their special handling) is a person's actions, not their internal causes.the cause is only important to those who try to treat them.
>>544170924>spiritual bypassingit's a thing. many of those "groovy hippie witches" with dreadlocks and yoga classes are doing exactly that. very high incidence of BPD there.
yea but BPD chicks love you good during the that part of their cycle
>>544171036shrinks are so far up their own ass they probably can't tell anymore, it would make more sense if everyone, especially women, are so emotionally immature it looks like a behavioral disorder. And it's actually pretty hard to tell the difference between an emotionally stunted woman and somebody with a clinical illness, enough that people paid to do the job can't tell
>>544170924The 1 bpd cunt I spoke of actually did exactly that but took it to sinister steps further. She gotten into a mind state of the church being a spiritual mafia syndicate granting her license to do any evil she pleases. She started say ' since we're all sinners, we can just sin all we want and all we have to do is give catechism lip service in the church every other day and all evil we do is forgiven and washed clean' from any karmic push back.That is near criminally dangerous thinking as people who think they are free from consequences are dangerous.Of course by all consistent patterns, when a cunt like this finally gets some karma she'll have a whole gaggle of church retards who will reinforce her 'I'm a victim again!' Bullshit and come to her aid
>>544171441I mean from the anecdotes I've seen here a LOT of people act like that. Imagine you go 20 years in your life and you learn pretty much nothing, you're a kid essentially, you've never had any real consequences ever and everyone has always validated you. Something like spirituality would be a game at that point, they don't respect anything because they don't understand it. And the things they do understand are complete fucking nonsense the state told them for example, about imagine prejudices and evils. They're in a completely different reality
>>544171441church environments like that are the ideal source provide for someone with NPD, the ideal hiding place for someone with BPD, and the ideal source of validation for someone with HPD.in church:The NPD person will tend to get away with it; strategically climbing high in the org.The BPD person will lose control one day and be shamed and shunned for acting out. They will flee and blame everyone else.The HPD person will seem the most charismatic, while perverting the enlightenment to an extreme; either sexually or socially.
>>544171218clinicians use differential diagnosis to rule out developmental stage versus structural dysfunction, and again: that merely changes the diagnosis, not the fact that there is clearly a problem.
>>544172001infantile narcissism isn't even in the DSM, which is what I think people are displaying, being so emotionally immature and unable to process information you're still mentally a child. Maybe I've limit broken psychology by accident
>>544164404Sure, the sex is amazing, but even that comes with its own drama. She convinces you to fuck her friend? Next thing you know she’s accusing you of having always been fucking her friend behind her back or that you are planning on doing so soon, then days later try convincing you to do it again with a different friend. Or the constant back and forth between love bombing and destruction. Good luck if you ever co-sign anything with them. And yes lots and lots of drugs.
>>544164404They're manipulative, backstabbing retards who thrive on keeping their social environment in a constant state of chaos and insecurity. Today she promises to serve you and love you for the rest of her life, tomorrow she SWATs you. One day later she apologizes in tears and threatens to kill herself and promises you the stars in the sky if you forgive her. Then she fucks some junkie from the street and tells all her friends that it's your fault. Avoid like the plague. Any time and money invested in a BPD case is wasted.
>>544172352>the sex is amazing> between love bombing and destruction>>544172368>Today she promises to serve you and love you for the rest of her life, tomorrow she SWATs you.pic rel>>544167570>The degen sex is life changing (make some good memories carefully)ahh, the mammaries...
>>544172352almost like, they're a child, in an adult's body...https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4-GcS1UQyg
>>544164404Met one at work, she convinced me she was never having kids because of her "condition" and how crazy she was. I didn't listen. We started talking and I noticed she texted back right away, like she had nothing better to do. I've been online dating for years and they usually take hours so I was surprised. We stayed up multiple nights texting each other and talking. We went on a date and we just talked. It was like I was finally seeing how normal women could be. By the sixth talking date she just wanted to fuck, straight up, and it was the best sex of my life, she rode me like a racehorse on meth. I had her in the wheelbarrow and somehow she pushed her hips *back* while being plowed from behind. I never witnessed anything like it. Well, long story short, she fucked my supervisor and got knocked up by him in a few months, had her first kid, then pretended I was a weird stalker for reaching out to her. A couple years later that supervisor gets fired and ends up with child abuse charges because he beat the shit out of her and the kid.Never do it bros. They know what you want and they give you a taste of it, then they destroy you for fun.
>>544172729>she has no idea what she wants a lot of this shit sounds made up >made up in the 1980's
>>544172184it's called subclinical narcissism because, contrary to freud, it's well understood now that "primary narcissism" is a normal developmental stage expressed by most children until about two years oldi think it's interesting that you're focused on invalidating cluster B diagnoses. why is that?
>>544172897I wonder >cluster B, invented in the 1980's
>>544172968>detached avoidancehow.. interesting.
>>544173214Think of it this way, or maybe don't, if it's infantile traits they can be corrected through conditioning, I wouldn't put it past our failed institutions to start creating new diagnosis for essentially adult children and calling it a new discovery. There's also a nefarious trend of wanting to induce child like behavior into adulthood
>>544173313do you want me to reply?
>>544173990sure if you want, call me stupid or something
>>544164404Not your personal blog, faggot.Sage/thread
>>544164404Awesome thread broski, have a bump.
>>544174019okay stupid
>>544174471>Dr. John G. Gunderson’s "discovery" of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) was less about identifying a brand-new illness>evaluating how psychotherapy affected patients with schizophrenia. During the study, he noticed a major anomaly: a significant portion of the participants: a large amount of them didn't have schizophrenia >they experienced intense floods of emotional turmoil, chronic fears of abandonment, severe impulsivity, and episodes of self-harm>alongside collaborator Margaret T. Singer, Gunderson did something that had never been done for any personality disorder before>patients are intensely, exquisitely sensitive to social contexts>self-destructive behaviors, substance abuse, promiscuity, and patterns of self-harm>BPD patients only experienced transient, brief, stress-related psychotic lapses>BPD had a vastly higher incidence of early parental loss, traumatic separations, severe emotional abuse, or an "over-involved mother"*BPD seem to lack a cohesive maturity or sense of self1 for me
>>544165746Ooooohhhhh goooodddddd. I can save her... (with my love and my wallet).Why did god curse me with being single?!
>>544164404>more sensitiveBPD women are more selfish and more unstable.They're also prone to violence and drama.What about any of that sounds good to you?
>describes "bpd">its literally just 90% of womenIs jewchology the fakest and gayest "science" ever created?
>>544170368>immistakableOpinion discarded, thrown into the trash where it belongs. God, your opinion is so cringe. I wish I could gouge my eyes out, after reading that. Fucking loser.
>>544164404Because men are simple and would rather focus their energy on productive stuff or building shit rather than wasting that energy on "why your tone changed when you texted me yesterday!!!"
>>544174506>44 secondsfascinating."transient, brief, stress-related psychotic lapses" validates the distinct diagnosis.
>>544175106Do you think somebody can be so emotionally immature, so emotionally abused and deluded they can induce psychosis in themselves?
>>544174506Seems my mom got the shitty kind of BPD because she is stone cold sober. She might be bearable to be around if she smoked a bit of weed.But the stress triggers is spot on.
>>544172352Mine cheated on me, then tried to claim I was saying her friend's name during sex (I wasn't, nor am I particularly vocal at all). She kept tossing false accusations of all sorts trying to see what would get a reaction from me. Nothing did, so she got even more absurd. Once even accusing me of stealing her pen (she lost it) and starting WW3 over it where I ended up so pissed off I punched a concrete wall to contain my rage so I wouldn't do something to her. She was definitely baiting me and as soon as I realized that I realized our marriage was over and gave up on her entirely.Funny thing was, I really did want to fuck her friend, but never acted on it. Never even flirted or did anything even remotely innappropriate. I was in love with my wife, so other women (even hot ones) didn't matter to me at all.
>>544175164that question is a causal tautology.>Do you think someone could get hit by a car so hard that they broke their own bones?no. that's logically inconsistent. it's a misapplication of behaviorism.
>>544175513okay so I'm wrong because some other quack, do I have to refute him too? You think a person can;t induce psychosis in themselves, especially with a history of emotional abuse and childlike interpretations of the world and themselves, like a whirlpool? don't be ridiculous
>>544175603>agitationremarkable.i would say that the "history of emotional abuse" induced the psychosis.
>>544175723oh cause and effect is it, ignoring internal states is it, no wonder you're blind to the issue, these poor people
>>544165207The sex is amazing, just don't get attached and be ready to straight up ignore the crazy and only interact after it passes.
>>544167570Had like a two week thing with one. Really skinny pagan type with a pretty face, perfect body and pixie cut. Wore each other out nonstop for that time until she randomly tells me she hates me for "emotionally raping" her and making her cheat on this 14 year old girl in ohio she was in a long distance relationship with. We were both in our mid 20s. I ducked out but like a week letter I check my mail and find a teddy bear and the cut off head next to it with a piece of paper, one side was death threats and demanding I kill myself, the other was a flowery poem about the time we spent together and how amazing it was. Worth it, honestly.
>>544168447I disagree. Been with a few, you just have to recognize the situation and play your cards right. Always be ready to hit the e-stop and understand that it isn't a romantic relationship to get invested in.
>>544175789>fallacious preemptionextraordinary.your scenario failed under scrutiny
>>544176218you admitted to a giant gaping whole in your theory actually, and actually helped develop mine further, would you like me to draw you an illustration? or should I get paid for that
>>544165207Expect to get slapped somewhat infrequently, getting insulted out of nowhere, and for the threat for the police to be called on you for nothing at all. BPD chicks are fucking nuts. Don't date them.That other dude is right about the pussy being good though. That's their equivalent of pitcher-plant nectar.
>>544176277>triumphant inversionphenomenal.skinner doesn't mean what you think it means.
>>544176716he's a guy thinking, did you think it meant something else?
>>544176978>retroactive minimization
>>544177447would you like me to explain to you exactly what it was mr psychoanalyst, or would that spoil the game
>>544164404>BPD womanyou mean white bitches?
>>544177482absolutely.
>>544171196nah, it feels so scripted; like they get all of their cues from mass mediai can see it working well on autists though
>>544177645so skinner may be delusional, so it's a sort of a self own, these patterns are lining up from other patterns, failed institutions is reflected in the broken glass etc., he's also a teacher, adult children, but it's also a source of power, he questions the status quo, but as you admitted on the surface level he's delusional, maybe skinner is the people I'm questioning, maybe it's me, maybe that allows me to say it anyway a joke? I don't know myself truly, am I the joke? Who is skinner
A few tips if you want to chase the dragon:Keep receipts for everything. Later her memory will change so you never paid for anything and she did all the work. Get selfies of everything you do and keep them. Get a small recorder and get used to running it. Keep it hidden and don''t let her find it. Back up the recordings and keep them hidden. You'll be grateful later. Only use them in a real emergency like if she sues you.If she tries to start a fight sit down on the ground and look down. Don't make eye contact and don't touch her. Appearing to be shorter and smaller than her weakens her attack and makes it less satisfying for her. If she literally begs you to fight back or "act like you care" then the danger is extra real. Maybe lie down on your stomach and protect your face.
>>544164404My sisters, esp my eldest sisters were like that. I'd rather live in a solitary windowless cell with a good supply of clean healthy food to eat and an infinite (internet) source of entertainment and i'll pass on the Bpd cunts thanks, and yes even if they're all BPD.
>>544165207No one who posts on this site has the mental fortitude and emotional control to actually date a BPDemon without getting scarred for life
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>>544164404They are inexperienced and don't know how to handle BPD. It's like jumping into a tiger enclosure
>>544164404ONE POST BY THIS ID
>>544178274Anything irresponsible is dangerous
>>544164404BPD women complain about things that you'd never even identify as a problem in the first place. A woman might have a mental breakdown because she dropped a plastic bowl on the floor, even if there was nothing in it. then you're the asshole if you don't understand or don't sympathize.
>>544165746Damn
>>544178530THE DSM WILL DIE MUHAHAHAHAHA
>>544165207they will seemingly forget they even had a melty in the first place, and if you ever bring any of that shit up to them ever again, she will already have rationalized a reason why it was your fault.
>>544165746And note; that was only a tiny tiny little sample of the real deal.
>>544164404BPD is basically women getting molested then growing up with a personality filled with defense mechanisms and a confused masochism over their childhood.Imagine those fully grown adults that are psychopaths that lie about children over the stupidest shit. Like the office Karen trying to blame you for their fuck up, or create drama, instead of doing their job.BPD is like that but less malicious IN THEORY and built around hiding vulnerability and enforcing emotional isolation as a defense mechanism. Often a lit of them are completely nuts, but that is more related to other mental illnsses, or lobotomizing yourself with ANY non prescription Jewish meds, like tylenol.
>>544178794Basically if you find a minor BPD girl who is 18 or early 20s she can probably be "fixed" by attaching to someone with a strong sense of self (narccisism.) When they are older they are so ingrained in their defense mechanisms its impossible to fix. Basically using defense mechanisms to puppet your life around it. Can probably only be fixed with heavy psychedelics like LSD and mushrooms.
>>544178911kind of like how they think people with learned antisocial behaviors are autistic, because there's no way society is that shit or something to that effect, who's got a spirit bomb on standby, women are going to need quite a few
>>544166911>The type of crazy you would have to be retarded to stick your dick intoAs long as she keeps her pussy immaculately clean (as many of them compulsivly do) and she's genuinely hot I'm that tard.
>>544170368And all these are associated with being molested. >abandonment avoidanceHaving their virginity taken then the guy leaves>shifting sense of selfConflicting emotions and self hatred from the experience>high impulsivity>self-destructive>reactive mood swings All from living in a lower peak than the horrible shocking experience>chronic emptinessAbove>inappropriate angerMore of their defense mechanisms showing>paranoia or dissociationAbove>splitting backThis is because she isnt honestly emotionally engaging. She is so afraid of emotional harm, she acts out what she thinks you want for acceptance. Then you defy her projection of your projection and the defense mechanisms come in.
>>544170644>being validated their entire lives for doing nothingThis also gives BPD women unearned power. Their psychopathic dishonesty triggered by defense mechanisms is treated as legal truth, and ruins lives. To them after all, you triggered their defenses by trying to get truly emotional. It might as well be strong armed rape to them.
>>544179071I think a big hurdle people are going to have to get over is the oprah winfrey effect of attaching molestation to every problem people have
>>544171441>since we're all sinners, we can just sin all we want and all we have to do is give catechism lip service in the church every other day and all evil we do is forgiven and washed clean' from any karmic push back.LMAO>invite woman to church>invensts sabbatean frankist Judaism
>>544179128>psychopathic dishonestly >defense mechanism yes, black and white reasoning, like a child
>>544172352Its because they would rather their friend provide emotional intimacy because they are too afraid.>>544172610Yeah. Their defense mechanisms prevented emotional development. It requires friction and pushback from others to develop, which they never let anyone near.
>>544179233Eh, it can be induced by the mother, when BPD was created one of the main developmental hallmarks was "over possessive mother" or whatever. And she will teach her daughters the same behavior
>>544175365That is them testing you emotionally to see if you are worthy of actual emotional intimacy which they fear. The proper response is to flip the table (metaphorically) and ask if they were molested, or any other earnest concern that treats them like incompetent children. Then they will run away in fear of emotional engagement.
>>544178274Dont even bother just try to emotionally engage when they are mad and they run. >>544178974BPD people have high empathy which directly contrasts with their fear of emotional engagement. They internalize their antisocial behaviors and externalize it through cardfully planned external actions. Being a-empathetic is confusing to them, so they call it a disorder.
>>544179330what is it called, there's imposter syndrome and then the inverse, not getting it right now, where they lash out instead. Basically just infantile narcissism again, they did something childish (cheated) then that ate them up so they lash out at you instead or something to that effect. They're not responsible over their emotions at all and this has been probably conditioned into them, I don't know. I'd need a lab and like 20 of them, hot preferably
>>544179129Its literally true. Tons of women are molested. 2/3 of rapists are trusted family members. Basically ALL Mexican women are raped by an uncle during a weekend party at some point. People generally dont go crazy without specific reasons. >>544179280That is true. BPD women teach their daughters to be non-emotionally engaging manipulators. They themselves see no other way to handle life. Love is fear of abandonment.
>>544165028>I see men today and it's blackpilling. Not just young guys, old men as well, being completely pussy-whipped by their crazy women.What i find particularly jarring is how their idea of masculinity is a carbon copy of a woman's idea of masculinity. >YEAAAH BE A TUFF MAN™>NEVER FEEL PAIN>NEVER CRY>WHEN YOU HAVE A DEBILITATING PROBLEM, TOUGHEN UP, BECAUSE YOU'RE A MAAN™>YOU'RE NOT ALLOWED TO DO ANYTHING THAT ONLY BENEFITS YOU>YEAH REAL MANLY MEN™ ARE KEKED FAGGOTS WHO WORK HARD AND GIVE ALL THEIR SHIT AWAY TO MANIPULATIVE PEOPLE FOR NO REASONThen they wonder why male suicide rates are through the roof.
>>544179491Great posts anon thanks for engaging.Yeah its kinda like imposter syndrome. They built a scaffold around their emotions so they can simulate engagement without any real engagement. When you disrupt the scaffold, they treat it as an emotional attack to protect their hidden truthful emotions. >t. Trying to romance a slightly BPD girl who is awesome, self hating, masochist. Asked AI about the differences between sadist and masochist emotional processing and EVERYTHING clicked
>>544179493Right right, people hop onto "they were molested" I think seriously because of oprah winfrey. But essentially when they act out they're just returning to their childhood trauma, but that doesn't have to be molestation. It can literally just be a narcissistic mother, or completely absent parents entirely. And then when you see your parents like 20 times over your childhood they're dismissive, you can internalize that and let it blend you up inside. That's all they are is like a blended emotional mess I imagine, that's sort of been enabled their entire lives by the system we live in
>>544164404theyre evil and act like this.they are bad people on purpose
>>544179599You are right, not always rape. One of the things AI said was emotional avoidance isnt always planned. It has often been taught/conditioned into them from life experience, as a defense mechanism. "If I never let them close they can never hurt me." "If I stay quiet they won't get mad." "Who needs closeness? all I need is me."
>>544165207they plan ways to set you up to ruin your reputation, even if you do not know them
Once you understand that it all stems from an extreme fear of abandonment / rejection, it will all make sense. And when I say extreme I mean so hyperaware that the slightest change of facial expression can feel like rejection. And then the defense mechanisms come.
>>544165317RIP to all the heroin "pixies" who died from retardation that many of here had tried to "save."You all know who you are
>>544179680the defense mechanism I think is the amygdala, they're actually going reptile brain on you, there's no reasoning, it's the same shit that activates in actually autistic people or people with learned antisocial behavior. When this trips it "triggers" their fragile ego which validates all their behavior and makes everyone else the bad guy. That's why I think it's learned
>>544179710So extreme they puppet their own personality/emotions through relationships without actually engaging. Thats why they dont feel bad about lying. You are trying to kill their personality by trying to actually engage. LARPing makes them feel safer.
>>544165746>>I used to love looking at myself in the mirror but I hate myself now,yikes
>>544164404BPD is the one illness that I absolutely will not have anything to do with. I would literally rather have a paranoid schizophrenic girlfriend who thinks I'm a CIA agent and putting bugs under her skin while she's sleeping than a borderline person in my life at all. They WILL ruin your life. You can't even keep them at arm's distance, they will always find a way to completely fuck you over and destroy you financially, mentally, and socially and destroy your physical health from the level of stress they bring into your life some way. There is nothing that you can do for them beyond not associating with them at all. It is the single most destructive and ontologically evil neurosis a woman can have. While it's far more rare for men, it does exist and the same holds true for them as well.
>>544179811Yes but it is more trauma based from experience. They see no other choice but to LARP. Fixing trauma involves emotional engagement, which they won't allow.
>>544179876it's actually completely reinforced by culture. modern feminism is the BPD woman's wet dream. like if you sat them in a room and told them they're wrong and why for a week I wonder what would happen lol
>>544176119>understand that it isn't a romantic relationship to get invested in.what's the point then
>>544176050how many tattoooos and of what?
>>544164404psychotic and make your life worse and ultimately waste your time that you could've been spending with or searching for a woman worth investing into
>>544179937Yes Feminism aka Judaism is horrible for these women. They need to be forced to honestly emotionally engage. Not have pedophile Freemason cops ruin a life because they are afraid of intimacy. Really the fix is find a man proper for them. Finds them hot, likes their personality and hobbies. Lock them in a room, make them hang out and do date activities. Then after a few weeks give them doses of mushrooms and LSD.The key is making them believe the man won't abandon them for being messed up emotionally. Ironically them being messed up isnt the problem. Its how they deal around it and refuse emotional engagement. >>544176050KEK. The "emotional rape" is because she realized she engaged emotionally with you and regrets it. BPDs avoid this at all costs. The conflicting messages is because she likes you but fears emotional engagement. The proper response is to treat her unseriously and treat it as flirting, because it is.
>>544180180right modern women need to be reconstructed, what a bore
>>544168447This guy is right.>>544168447This guy is not.You may decide you want to back out of a relationship with a BPD chick. You might even think you're smart for noticing the signs. Then you wake up one day and see that she's posted 50 out of context screenshots of texts and framing it as if you're a serial rapist. You get knock on your door from the police, asking why your girlfriend is covered in bruises and whether you raped her.Slowly it sinks in that she's been preparing for a break up for months and had planned countless ways to set you up. The law, your family, and all your extended friendships see you as a villain. Even your workplace got calls. You're fucked. And people always believe women. And she was always sweet in public, so they have no reason to doubt her.
>>544168447You just have to know how to disarm them. They are acting to keep their emotions isolated. They are "awesome" because the act revolves around pleasing you with no engagement from them. Turn the tables. Ask what they think should happen to men who touch kids. Ask why they never talk about any of their trauma or fears. When they get mad and say kill yourself, laugh and call them cute because you know they dont mean it. You have to understand they are acting to protect themselves, and spenttheir whole lift developing the skill. It's self preservation to them.>>544180592Wrong 2nd reply?
The fix for BPD women is ironically thrusting your emotional vulnerability onto them. It breaks the whole system they made up in their heads. They will hate it.
>>544180692yeah the problem is I don't think anyone signed up to be their girlfriend's shrink, nor do they realize that's what they're getting into because it's definitely not limited to the overtly looney ones
>>544180798(Same guy my ID changed)Yeah dating a BPD woman is not for most people. Its largely tied with masochism so you specifically need a sadist partner to guide them. Definitely ask AI about the social and optional dynamics of masochists and sadists. They are completely complimentary. Masochist empathetic and internalizes emotions. Sadists are ubempathetic and externalize them. One teaches the other to be more caring, the other less caring. It impacts their whole range of emotional processing and strategy. Most men and women can date and overcome differences. BPD or S/M is an ingrained emotional strategy that only works with specific people.
>>544181022*social and emotional dynamics of masochists vs sadistsAnime like nagotoro is engaging because its a male sadist and female masochist playing role reversal for teasing purposes.
They’re guaranteed cheaters and often times will ghost you.
Can someone else more graphically describe the quality of the sex because it's something I've always wondered about. I see them as kind bullying and pushy. I like a woman who is actually submissive, not someone goading me or making me chase them. Can someone explain the lead up to the sex and if she was dominating you? Was she mostly just a fleshlight or could you actually engage with her and have satisfying sex? Because amazing sex to me is not someone too shitty and cluster b to at all react or see me as a person. Or someone who I feel I really don't trust at all because they're a shitty whore. Like, is this a myth of people inflating someone being really fucking obnoxiously theatric (like a gross plastic hardcore porn actress) and demanding you clap.
>>544181768Because of BPDs walls around their emotions, they need to act to satisfy you so you dont leave. This means they will act the best sex ever, even if they dont really like you, because they are afraid of abandonment. Same reason why they go nuts. They see your disapproval as killing their soul, so any retaliation is justified. IDK about the actual process, but that is why its a pattern.
>>544164404They are exhausting to put up with and if you put up with them long enough theyll cheat on you and or fuck your shit up. Ruin your life. If its a bpd girl with alot of facebook friends/ followers run away as fast as you can.Like you know those girlfriends who will bash you windshield if she thinks youre talking to another girl.Bpd is very common amongst coke whores too. not worth a long term relationship perfect for the pump and dump.
>>544164404Because they are on the borderline between neurotic and psychotic (hence the name). They destroy the lives of others, without caring that they destroy their own lives (they have a troon-tier suicide rate). Great sexo, though. Don’t get them pregnant, though, because BPD is hereditary. Most online BPD experts cater to women with BPD. There is a Canadian named Lise LeBlanc on YouTube who caters to met who are currently or formerly in relationships with women with BPD. Check out her channel.
>>544165207They act amazingly good (indescribable, really) and then “split” at the slightest provocation and become the most evil woman you could ever meet. I have successfully rid my memory of the vitriol she spewed but I cannot shake the memory of how those words made me feel. Horrible stuff.
>>544182211Its probably not entirely hereditary. Lots of behavior is, but its most likely the fact women are most often BPD who raise most kids is why it appears hereditary. Lots of women hate their BPD moms, when allowedto dedevelop an identity.
>>544182312They don't mean any of it. They fear engaging emotionally so much they will attack you to get away, when you start getting too close. Its call of duty shit talking basically, BPD form
>>544165433>They want I don’t deny the trouble they cause others but they don’t “want” to; they are compelled to.
>>544164404>They are just more sensitive than regular woman.Have you met a regular woman?
>>544165851Your post is eerily accurate to my story (except the last two sentences). What is crazy about BPD stories is that they match so closely. Check out the comment section on Lise LeBlanc YouTube videos.
>>544166911>When one of these cunts has you locked in her cross hairs you need to get as far and fast away as possible. She will never stop gunning for you until she gets a new target in her cross hairs.Fortunately for me, mine lives in another country. I’m pretty sure she nuked my reputation among everyone I met or knew of me. She is also young and very hot, so she quickly found another man and probably has been through at least four in the past fees years. She stopped hating me enough to unblock me and be cordial, which is nice knowing that someone doesn’t hate me. All of your post is true, btw.
>>544168447Facts. >>544168733You might be right but outside of sharia societies, that isn’t possible anymore. >>544169076But how do you do that?>>544170368>co-dependent people who are maskingPlease explain. >>544176050>Wore each other out nonstop for that time untilLiterally me and my gf. We wore each other’s genitals raw due to fucking so much. We had to take a break, during which point she was sucking me off all the time.
>>544182882>>co-dependent people who are maskingBPD girl doesnt want to be emotionally intimate. Is self hating. Finds self hating BPD male so they can have a lesbian non-intimate pity party.
>>544165746Sorry you have an insane and evil sister. Have you tried tough love and called her an insane and evil fat bitch that needs to find God and exercise?
>>544168921>the problem is that it takes a man worth more (in her eyes) than what she's able to offer in that state, for her to be willing to submit.Completely false. They just mask and perform better for the goal since the stakes are higher. The real fix is forcing their vulnerability by exposing your own. Its retarded but works ONLY if they reciprocate.
>>544165207i've dated several. it's a nightmare, especially with the smarter ones. they are monsters. they literally enjoy watching you suffer. when they leave you for someone else, it's like the ultimate victory for them. they view everything as a "game" where she has to "win." they don't view relationships in a healthy way. that said, once you accept this, it's not so bad
>>544165207There's nothing you can do to fix them, and even if you do everything correctly they will still go batshit insane and flip out over nothing, almost daily. The sex is good but cognition is beyond them. It's like being in a relationship with someone who secretly hates you, but in public pretends they're nice, that's the simplest way I can put it. Basically as if the foid installed Demonic Possession Lite. Source: had like 4 of them at least
>>544164404they're fucking whackjobs I hate that I know she's crazy but I still love her.
>>544182882>how do you grey rock?don't respond emotionally. if they are attempting to rope you into a particular frame of fault or blame, step back from the forced opinion and address the situation objectively. if they want you to overreact to something, simply state your position plainly and calmly, what you are going to do about it, and then do it without reticence.>co-dependent people who are maskingcluster B people naturally want someone higher value than them, but paradoxically don't want someone with more control over the situation. they're caught in this catch-22 because they need someone they can feed either attention, stability, or validation from -- but they also need to ensure that they are able to dictate the terms while guaranteeing their on-demand access to those things.so they are subconsciously attracted to hidden weakness (which they can exploit), while consciously attracted to strength (which constitutes the extractable value)a codependent person who's masking insecurity with a cultivated persona neatly fits both criteria.
>>544165207It's nothing that severe beating won't solve. Any female related problem that has ever existed, whether it's BPD, post partum, whatever, can be solved by beating.
>>544183124this. and maybe the worse part is that they can make normal women seem boring and dull by comparison
>>544183149Grey rocking doesnt work. They are already a grey rock that has trained for years to not actually be emotionally invested. You have to flip the tables and be over emotional/intimate and force them to engage. That is their weakness. Not you playing the game they are a master at.
I was raised by a single mother and have dated almost exclusively BPD women my whole life. BPD women are extremely savvy at spotting men they can emotionally manipulate, and no men are more susceptible to their antics than blue pilled men from single mother households. The thing about BPD women is they are FUN and actually kind of red pilled, they are often quite intelligent, easy to converse with, and actually want to do fun activites and such. That's why they are so dangerous, they can seem intoxicating and euphoric at first as they put ALL their energy into getting you emotionally enchanted with them.
>>544183124It's an avoidtant/traumatized person using LARPing and defense mechanisms to not actually emotionally engage. You need to force them to engage emotionally by being overly vulnerable to force it out of them.
>>544183066>The real fix is forcing their vulnerability by exposing your ownI think I understand what you mean, but if so, that typically just leads to them devaluing. what you're describing essentially amounts to a "guilt trip", but even if you're successful guilting a BPD, that will typically cause them to evade the shame they should feel (because the mountain of past shame you'll never know about is truly too immense for them to face.) they reach a sunk-cost point-of-no-return stage where admitting any fault becomes nearly impossible. on caveat to that is, when they are well past some prior failure and the person they harmed has no chance of ever getting recompense, the BPD will frequently spend their PERFORMATIVE guilt over that incident to prove to another that they "have empathy see??!" or humility, or (((noblizing regret))) etc. but you'll note, they will never choose a path of real recompense in those situations. they will say they are sorry, but they will never sacrifice anything to make real repair. it's another tactic to avoid the mirror.
>>544183230>men they can emotionally manipulateThis is most often normal men who aren't sadists, because sadists would actually push back and be cooperative long term. A normie man can't lush back.>they put ALL their energy into getting you emotionally enchanted with them.Its a mask for never engaging emotionally. Advancing the relationship doesnt advance them until you force them to engage emotionally (which they fear.)
>>544166911the character smearing can legit ruin your life if you meet one of these women at work, obviously
>>544183224that is a very valid point. it depends on your goal and exactly where in a situation the best outcome is. you're not wrong, but we're describing slightly different scenarios.
>>544183304There is no sunk cost, because they were never invested emotionally. Thats why lying and calling everyone rapists feels fine. They felt like your intimacy was an attack, because you didnt approach it properly. If you are a sadist, then being vulnerable costs nothing, because you find it funny. For them the vulnerability is everything. They feel more self-shame and hatred than you could project onto them. >>544183367They dont need support into their emotiona l self delusions. Go on the offensive. Put emotional pressure by being vulnerable. Cry about the time you were bullied. It will make them open up. Its fucking stupid but its how they work.
>>544164404I don't hate them. I'm unfortunately very drawn to them. And it's way more than them being sensitive. They're fucking crazy.
Bpd is how roasties get gibs.
in nature men could just physically control bpd women like parents do to their children
>>544183149>>544183304>guilting>shaming>rationalising You see this is why women walk all over you faggots. Because you try to give the treatment that will work on men. Women are inherently emotionally driven and driven by consequences. Unless you are telling them what is going to be done and then administering the consequences that you warned them about, they will know you are just a pussy that is full of hot air. And if they feel you are scared of anything, including legal trouble, they will never respect you.
>>544183496Literally just slightly mirror their BPD and be slightly overly emotional and trusting. Cry about something stupid like a movie and gush about how sad you are for the characters. If you are 100IQ, not severely traumatized, and dating a BPD, then you are more sane than them. >>544183530Its not about respect or consequences. They have a damaged emotional attachment style that operates the opposite of how you expect. Just like BPD masochists are empathetic but want degredstion. This carries over into relationships too.
>>544183530>don't guilt>don't shame>don't rationalizecorrect.
>>544183453I wouldn't go with this. From what I know this is just the response of someone who has been entrained by them, ironically. Offering vulnerability to someone who doesn't value it and sees it as a means to harm you will just... get you harmed. I mean maybe you could lie and fake it but they're like predators. They'll figure out how valid it is and if it hurts you. If you don't react when they bring it up, they'll just keep peppering it in almost subliminally so you think their horrible and negating frame about yourself, fill in the gaps style. They want the bait because they think knowing a secret gives them leverage and it does because it's real currency. When they smear you, theyll make sure to tell all your secrets to and laugh.
>>544174972You’re a simpleton. BPD is an exaggeration of female nature. That is why BPD is so good and bad for men. Just imagine a normal woman and turn up her emotions to 100%. If you don’t think it’s real, please seek out a BPD woman and report back to us (this’ll be good).
>>544181768BPD women are usually very forward and sexually aggressive and have a high libido in the first 3-6 months of the relationship. BPD women also have no-holds barred when it comes to fetishes and kinks. Literally anything the guys suggests she will do, and she'll do it five times a day on the weekend. Ironically enough, the kinks/fetishes she agrees to in the first 3-6 months of the relationship will be what she uses to paint the guy as abusive 12-24 months later lmao. BPD women specifically target average or unattractive guys with low body counts around their own age OR they target men 15-25 years older than themselves. Then they love-bomb them and sex-bomb them over the first 3-6 months. When guys describe the sex as life-changing, often they don't have a lot of experience themselves, OR she stroked his ego by being his significantly younger girlfriend. One good way to test if a woman has BPD is to ask if she's ever been in a relationship with a guy 15 years older than her. How to spot a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder on a first date!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJ8AzTzdooY
>>544183602>They have a damaged emotional attachment style that operates the opposite of how you expectNone of that matters if she knows she's going to be locked in the room and get a proper belting with no one to save her if she doesn't follow what you say. All it should take is a look and she should immediately fall in line. If not, you have FAILED.
>>544183230>>544183496Hey guys, hope I'm not telling you anything you didn't already know - your mom had some kind of cluster b personality disorder. You're attracted to BPD women, because your first impression of love and relationships was colored by the fact that your opposite-sex parent was likely BPD herself.
>>544183748you're overlooking the reality of western living situations where often the woman has her own house or apartment and can deny you access. post-liberated societies require completely different tactics.
>>544183663Think of it in terms of sado masochism and not normal people. BPD masochists crave intimacy and (selective) abuse while being very empathetic. Sadists crave control and trust as leadership, and the trust the masochist brings. They dont plan on blackmailing you. They keep you at arms length then get mad when your intimiacy never appears in the way they want. You can't buy them a billboard in times square and have a surprise party, because it scares them they might have to be vulnerable. Roses and dates dont mean anything. They want intimacy and trust beyond what normal people enjoy, and it starts with taking the lead so they feel safe. (Crying about stupid movies or being bullied.) Still separate if a guy beats you up. >>544183748Sandnigger
>>544183684>that videoWhoa, Chris-Chan transitioned into being English?
>>544178274Your first two pieces of advice are true. I just happened to record things for cooking purposes but they are proof that her accusations are BS. Also, he memory totally forgot about an important thing we discussed early in the relationship. During a split months later, she denied that we talked about it or that she agreed to it. Fortunately I was so confident in my memory and when I told her that I told my friends when she agreed, she relented and acquiesced to my memory. It was scary though how she remembered the opposite of what happened.
>>544183602>Cry about somethingterrible advice. pic rel is her pussy the moment you do that, and foreverafter.
>>544165028post tits, i know a woman dodging accountability when i see it
>>544183849They literally crave emotional intensity and depth. Keep buying roses and see how much she flips on you for "using" her. Same reason these women SEEK OUT masochist self harming males. They aren't challenging. Its comfortsble.
>>544165028that's not what masculine means. it's simply to product of a lack of consequences. the monopolization of justice by The State has created a vacuum of justice in the home which it has no interest in filling.
>>544183808Do you think it's any different here? Women can go to the police and go to the courts here too. But they will only do that if they think you're a pussy and will get scared of the law. In fact you have it easy with comfy 5 star prisons with ps5 in them. Over here it's a bunch of murderers, terrorists and drug mules. She has to know that if she reports you, one day you're going to come out of prison and then who will save her?>>544183814I'm from mountains higher than any place on your continent you niggerspic
>>544183881yes, depth but not weakness. your "depth" validates their own choices, "pulling potential", and your extractable value. the self-harmers they wrongly perceive as being fearless and dangerous.
>>544181768It’s just nympho sex plus whatever kinks are specific to each woman. When they are in an idealization phase, they are nymphos for their respective partners.
>>544183946i'm referring to the fact that you can't even get in the door to front your machismo. here in the west, a woman and COMFORTABLY recluse into her shame-avoidance, until the edge fades, and then she can find another rube on some dating app within literal minutes.
>>544183010Uh…there aren’t enough heterosexual males with BPD to even do a study. BPD women like either narcissists or “autistic” men.
>>544183964Nope. BPD women will go for BPD masochist self harming males before a wealthy chad, because the fellow BPD isnt challenging. When you buy roses it puts pressure on them to perform. Taking the lead doesn't. Its speaking their language, not yours. Then as they trust you, they will open up and let you lead more.
>>544183976>>544183684Right, they'll do whatever unless it's intimate? Because their whole thing is you can't get them to actually agree of be emotionally present. They want to be free agents, so it's like how do you enjoy sex when she's doing the whole manic pixie bullshit. That's mostly just annoying because there's a cluster b grandiosity and self importance. They'll never really be submissive because they lack the ability to consistently agree to do something? No? I don't get how it's them doing whatever you ask and not more them foisting on you something you mentioned in a weaponized unilateral way.
>>544181768>Can someone else more graphically describe the quality of the sex she will ride you like a fucking pony screaming "yes daddy" and beg you to give her marks with a belt while she kneels in front of you worshipping you like a god and will wear, do and say absolutely anything you tell her to. absolutely anything.then, exactly as this anon describes happens: >>544183684> Ironically enough, the kinks/fetishes she agrees to in the first 3-6 months of the relationship will be what she uses to paint the guy as abusive 12-24 months later lmao.
>>544184040There are literally tons of depressed self harming men online. They cut themselves and trade pics online. Narccisists give them leadership they crave. Normal men are seen as unthreatening.>>544184101DING DING DING WINRAR! They will rather go to a BDSM club than make love.>They'll never really be submissive because they lack the ability to consistently agree to do something? They will be submissive if you lead and show the vulnerability they want to express, first. >foistingThey dont want to be abandoned so they fuck your brains out. The intimacy they want never comes. They get mad and see it as taking advantage of them.
>>544165028Institutional Femdom
>>544184072i'm not talking about buying roses. that's what you said and it was a non-sequitur.the previous anon i replied to said:>Cry about something stupidand i pointed out that's exactly the wrong advice.
>>544183230>The thing about BPD women is they are FUN and actually kind of red pilled, they are often quite intelligent, easy to converse with, and actually want to do fun activites and such. That's why they are so dangerous, they can seem intoxicating and euphoric at first as they put ALL their energy into getting you emotionally enchanted with them.This. Nobody can understand how elating it feels to have a woman like that.
>>544181768>>544184150also, don't get confused. cluster B is four very different types of people and each of them can be either submissive or dominant.I've found BPD specifically to be mostly submissive types when it's abuse-induced, but dominants when it's drug-induced.
>>544184211"Buying roses" is how every relationship progresses. Dinner, movies, gifts, etc. It shows love and appreciation. They DO NOT want this. They dont engage with it, so it is a burden that makes you seem expectant and suffocating. They WANT emotional vulnerability and are scared of it. Cry about stupid shit if your BPD girlfriend is very awesome but tuning down without ever saying anyhltingg vulnerable. Submissive people can't take the lead of vulnerability.
>>544184301>They DO NOT want this.correct. that's why i never said to do it.
>>544184180I just feel like any woman will fuck you enthusiastically more or less. And they'll actually stick around and invest in your efforts rather than immediately throw them in the trash. People say the sex stands out and is addictive but I don't see the life changing appeal. I don't want her to eat poop or do something just because she thinks it makes her look stupid or feel pain. That's not sex, it's abuse that she literally frames as abuse and will use to put you in prison.
>>544184301>>544184325>"Buying roses" is how every relationship progresses. Dinner, movies, gifts, etc. It shows love and appreciation. They DO NOT want this. They dont engage with it, so it is a burden that makes you seem expectant and suffocating.Wait, what? Please explain.
>>544184230>Nobody can understandread my comments ITT. a lot of us understand.BPD is a very common "safe outlet" for female crazy in the present day. a LOT of them find they can have their cake and eat it too. the difference between a merely low-self-control woman, and a truly BPD woman, is that the BPD woman will *never* face the guilt.
>>544184423bpd women hate nice guy shit (except for on v-day, birthdays, etc.). that's a universal truth, anon.
>>544184431>read my comments ITT. a lot of us understand.I’m not talking about you, Einstein. I’m talking about the 90% of people (normies) who cannot fathom it. Only people with close relationships with BPD women or those who are in the psych field understand this.
>>544164404>BPDIt's fake.Grow up.
>>544184180give an example of precisely what you mean by "show vulnerability" it's obvious you're using a different definition.
>>544165207The sex is fucking unreal, but literally everything else about the relationship coinflips between bliss, and pure, unadulterated misery.
>>544184541>bpd women hate nice guy shit (except for on v-day, birthdays, etc.). that's a universal truth, anonI’ve never heard that before. Also, mine didn’t hate it. She enjoyed flowers. But looking back, she was fine eating McDonald’s instead of a more formal restaurant.
>>544184560what i'm saying is that experience with a BPD woman is very common these days. what is less common, i'll grant you, is people who've gotten in that deep with one.
>>544184570Prove us wrong and get a BPD gf then. >>544184598Facts.
>>544183684Best example of a BPD woman: Amber Heard's 22 year age gap with Johnny Depp. Amber gets married to Johnny and then divorced in under 2 years. Then writes up an expose about how he abused her. She wasn't satisfied with having been married to an A-list actor, she also needed to completely ruin his reputation.
>>544164404Faggot retard read "women" as singular so many times that he things "woman" is plural. Holy illiterate fuck
>>544184423Masochists enjoy pain which is a contradictory emotion in relationships. They have intense emotions and empathy, but over time have trained themselves to internalize it, and not share as a self preservation method.When you buy her roses, it shows your emotional appreciation for her. Since she is scared of intimacy, it builds RESENTMENT of you. They WANT the intimacy, but cannot lead. That is why you have to speak their language to make them open up. Crying about stupid shit let's them feel safe. They NEVER want to be the first to open up. Especially if their biggest issue is the fact they were raped as a teenager.
>>544184180>They dont want to be abandoned so they fuck your brains out. This is absolutely the truth.>The intimacy they want never comes. But that's passively voiced and oversteps the fact that the problem is their initial motive (avoiding abandonment)>They get mad and see it as taking advantage of them.It's the other side of the ego coin. Their mind does not allow them to perceive how they are driven by the fear of abandonment, because that gives it more power.
>>544176119>you just have to recognize the situation and play your cards rightNigger, people have NO IDEA what they're getting into with these whores. That's terrible advice. You're better off not knowing. These whores will make you think you found the love of your life then they'll go fuck niggers behind your back and tell you about it just to loosh farm you.
>>544168447Listen to this nigga
>>544165746Sounds like your mom is a literal doormat, this is the result of years of enabling and tolerating her abuse.You should beat the shit out of her sister, or are you gonna let her treat your mother like this?
>>544166911>BPD women are like this:>proceeds to describe every single canadian woman
>>544184101>because there's a cluster b grandiosity and self importance. They'll never really be submissive because they lack the ability to consistently agree to do something?Correct. They may appear to be submissive in the first 3-6 months of the relationship because they are taking a submissive role in sex, and agreeing to anything the guy wants to do for fun, and joining all his hobbies, but this only lasts for 3-6 months. After 6 months, she needs EVERYTHING to go EXACTLY her way for the rest of eternity EVERY SINGLE DAY. About 40-50% of women with BPD also have narcissistic personality disorder. So women with BPD are often unstable or covert narcissists at their core.
Made a comic for you faggots to understand BPD better.>>544184783>oversteps the fact that the problem is their initial motive (avoiding abandonment)Then dont date them if you dont want to deal with their baggage.
>>544184938you've mistaken BPD and HPD.
>>544185018Nope. BPD women love BPD men because they speak the same language, even if the relationship is unhealthy.
>>544183157Islam is right about women
>>544164404I take it you mean bipolar? because it's attention seeking bullshit.
>>544185230Bipolar women are saints compared to borderline personality disordered women. They are not comparable.
>>544175603>>544180180Psylocin and LSD are baby shit, if you want to even attempt to fix one, you need military grade psychs like a good dose of Ayahuasca. The problem with that are all the grifting """shamans""" that come with it.The fucked up part is violence/narcissism is possibly even more effective.Spoken from so much experience I think you could classify it field research.
>>544184230Yep, still have alot of good memories of all the crazy adventures with my BPD ex. Always down to get out and do something, sports, road trip, go eat at the weird ethnic restaurant that's open all night, etc. "Normal" women generally aren't fun or interesting to be around, and will only engage in that sort of energy early in the relationship.
>>544185561It doesnt matter. LSD or mushrooms will let them self reflect enough to see the problems they cause themselves.>>544185597BPD women do anything so you won't leave. Ironically all you have to do is cry and be vulnerable and they will open up and they stay forever. It MUST be looked at through the lens of sadomasochism, because its how their entire emotional processing system works.They crave the trust opening themselves up to pain causes, but are terrified of opening up first. Masochism takes hugr amounts of trust. Dates and sex don't compare to the intimacy of masochism.
>>544180784Completely fucking wrong, posting this as a PSA to all young anons who might read this nonsense and in their romanticism choose to believe it.If you thrust vulnerability into her face to somehow prove it's something survivable, you're going to paint a target on yourself and nothing else. The bery idea of vulnerability is threatening to these women, what do you think happens when they're confronted with MALE vulnerability(to them it's literally a different concept entirely)? They're incapable of not attacking it relentlessly and if you now turn around and say >you stay above it man and turn it onto herYou only display naivety and self delusion, as it couldn't have been actual vulnerability you were tapping into and sharing.
>>544184885That is one of the cutest god damned hamsters I have ever seen. A good rodent.
>>544185561yeah it's probably not some huge mystery, I don't think it's a coincidence intelligent women are going insane, they don't actually have much of an identity in this plastic society that says women are perfect in everything that they do and they would also never suspect that their mothers could be the source of the problem. We're actually completely fucked socially I think and boomers have no idea what's going on. They think everything is normal simply because they were born into it. If you're a chick and you lose your grip you're in for a ride, one that potentially never stops because everyone will enable you, I guess there's always a dude that you could worship LOL. But it's like catching a wild animal with these ones I suppose
>>544185696No it won't. As I said, field research.>t. Did psychs with a few different bpd exes, only one of them did Ayahuasca in a shamanistic setting, still wasn't enough for a long term change though she did re-establish contact with her father.
>>544165207It's amazing until it isn't, you can't fucking understand what's happening, out of the blue you get cheated and dumped and the aftermath is that you are not able to love and trust again like you used to.I wish I could be so so so into a girl like I used to at that time. Madly in love. Head over heals. With a hard on for her my dick is about to explode. I can't. Any sign of mental illness now the girl is out of my life.
>>544165028>talk about love more than women, talk about homo shit like loyaltyYou're right about everything else, but true love and loyalty is a masculine trait. Women just aren't capable of loving as deeply as men do. From a blackpilled and purely Darwinian perspective, women and their lot are biologically safer by imitating love and loyalty with their host, rather than actually serving those virtues. This allows them to attain whatever they need without the risk/weight of spiritual commitment, swapping hosts quickly if something happens to their arrangement with their fiancé/husband/oofydoofy, or if attaching to another host would better serve their needs overall. That being said, if their oofydoofy husband is providing plenty of financial support, then that's a field day for them. In that case, they only need to worry about getting sneaky dick from Tyrone or their husband's brother, and they've got everything they deserve to have.Women are manipulative and opportunistic sociopaths by nature. They will become whatever societal pressure demands of them without a single reservation or objection. This is why feminism is THE most societally corrosive movement ever conceived in the West, bar none. All it took was one or two media-endorsed whores for the ball to get rolling. They truly do and believe whatever the black magic slab tells them to do. The means of feminism are the absolute worst exploits of instinct in all of human history.
>>544165207They always love bomb you with amazing sex and gifts and they make you feel loved and actually appreciated, then the next day you're the worst person in the world, you're abusive, and she's already turned all her friends and family against you and filed a false police report because she thinks you might figure out that she's a piece of shit and they'll do anything to save themselves. They're lost children, stay the fuck away. Only fuck with BPD unless you know when to step away and you covered your bases.I still have people that think I abused my ex, when she turned around and did the same fucking spiel to the new poor smuck she was dating and he ended up l killing himself.
>>544185847Then your usage was wrong.>>544185848They are scared and overprotective. They will perform to make you stay. The key is revealing vulnerability first so they feel comfortable. >>544184938Even if I dont care about a past trauma, they are attracted to the fact you can accept it. Even if you are over dramatic to show how much you *used* to care. They are incapable of processing their own. It doesnt matter if you are rich and lead them perfectly. They crave the intimacy they are afraid to reveal.
>>544185848Same, Spainbro…same. Btw, how common is BPD in women under 30 in Spain? Is it more common in some areas than others?
>>544185810I've quoted you by mistake but your contributions to this thread do merit a response.You can help these women if you're a father or an older brother, which is why most men find it impossible, as we come into the picture from an entirely different angle, and which is why the modern society which broke up the family unit enables it so hard(beyond the retarded feminist drivel you've pointed out). Of courses if they had someone like that in their life, we wouldn't be having these issues to begin with. It's fascinating how much can be boiled down to>Fucking boomers, man
>>544164404They're fine when you're still allowed to slap them. Domestic abuse exists for a good reason.
>>544185847>she did re-establish contact with her father.Poor fella.
>>544164404As the son of a bpd mother. You don’t know what it’s like. My own father left us because he couldn’t take it anymore. And I had to endure the full brunt of her bpd. It’s hell. I do not forgive bpd women. I have no sympathy for them. I have no love in my heart for them.
>>544168492https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vajFzkptMs
>>544185974>They are scared and overprotective. They will perform to make you stay. The key is revealing vulnerability first so they feel comfortableThat's not how that works, once again a PSA for the young romantic anons, if you display something like that she will be forced to attack you, if she were capable of empathasing with that, she quite literally would not be suffering from bpd. She is not PHYSICALLY ABLE to be comfortable when confronted with vulnerability. Not HER VULNERABILITY, but VULNERABILITY in general(because of the danger of reflection).This is a young and naive view of the matter and it's quite romantic, which is to say, dangerous when dealing with bpd.>You used the drugs wrong, maaanYou clearly have no actual experience with bpd, you only had to deal with some melodramatic to slightly narcissistic bitches and armchair psychology has made you dumber the more you read it off the self help shelf.
>>544186086Eh he's a columbian paramilitary Merc, made her while "keeping peace in Croatia" under the UN banner in the 90s, courtesy of the west, so he probably deserves it. At least I had prime half Balkan half colombian booty, scars were sort of worth It.
>>544164404I grew up with an evil BPD stepmother after my real mom abandoned me in a bar when I was a baby. She was taught child psychology and a somewhat prestigious religious college.You all have no idea the amount of psychological abuse I had to endure. She was using the manipulative tactics she learned in that school on me and my dad. Stay away from them, they are psychotic and will destroy your sanity.
>>544186218It's probably better to just think of them as wild animals, most women are uninhibited in some way emotionally, like hamstringing and cutting you down is something most women do subconsciously, which is a projection of their own anxiety, but when you turbocharge it you're going to come out looking like hamburger. Is the ultimate goal of society making women feel comfortable so they don't destroy everything? Because there is no cure for them?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlfFXkds3xs
>>544164404>What's so bad about that?The problem is BPDs turn on you without warningOrdinary females turn on you, but BPDs take the royal fucking cake about it -- they are human minefieldsAnd the reason they're called BPD -- "Borderline Personality Disorder" -- in the first place is that they always straddle the borderline between neurosis (mere worry) and outright psychosis (completely out of touch with reality, bat-shit-fucking crazy)In more concrete language, they are always worried about people betraying them somehow and then they are now sure of it, and freaking the fuck out, if only secretly and inwardly, over it...And it all probably began with them having some kind of obstructed early childhood needs for attachment that weren't met for whatever reason, AND the fact that females in general are always the much more clingy and codependent gender as it is... so because their attachment needs are already through the fucking roof as it is, that's why it's always so much easier for females to become BPDs.
>>544164404Because they love bomb you and make you feel wanted and then they change their mind and vanish and you find out that person didn’t exist but you have to deal with the feelings for months maybe someday I’ll post these 1800 text messages exchanged within a week and you people can view it as a case study into the mind of these insane BP demonsFucking lying whores emotionally raping men
>>544186155This is the fault of the Jewish court system. >>544186218This is a kike on a VPN. BPDs are scared of vulnerability. Ironically being vulnerable to a masochist will open them up. >>544186559>turn on you without warningYou failed to draw out their vulnerability. They met your needs but you never displayed the vulnerability they didnt ask for.
>>544186658Oh look we've got a BPDemon in this very thread.
>>544169490Fixed somewhat
>>544186836No, kike. I am explaining their internal operation methods.
bpd women can only be managed in a world where hitting them for bad behavior is legal
When their eyes turn black you get the fuck out of there.
>>544186836lmao dat picrel
>>544165028>women act like men because they think they can get chad by acting like him>women turn 45 and wonder why their marriage failed and they're totally alone
>>544164404>>544185799This is what 's happening
>>544183663You're completely correct, that anon has literally no idea what he's talking about. But you seem to have made that mistake and learned from it, he's larping like a retard about things he never had to deal with.
>>544186658I wasn't kidding when I said women need to be completely reconstructed, people think pumping them full of babies and buying them things is what fixes them, because it kind of shuts them up. But they're still fucked mentally. I haven't even been able to establish a baseline, just "less fucked", you're actually playing with fire, because they always display these traits. Now is that because of society, or is that their baseline. Who knows because nobody's bothered to do the research and constantly damage control for them. And I think that's because you'll quickly realize whatever we're doing today is not good for them
>>544186658FYI this anon ^ shows up in every single thread about BPD and always shills for the apologist stance on BPD. Do not trust them, they are not speaking from a place of intellectual honesty.>>544186559Most anons fail to realize what that really entails. It can be something like>you didnt respond to my text fast enough so I went and had a three-way with two strangers I met at the bar and its your fault tee hee
>>544185986Idk I moved to Spain with my BPD ex and she dumped me as soon as we arrived.Been fucking latinas mostly, and now have a cute latina gf that is peaceful and kind, no drama.I've met some crazies both Spanish and foreign. It seems like a woman population thing rather than country related, however my understanding is that women in this country are turbo leftists (understand: unaccountable whores). At least in big cities
>>544187019>whatever we're doing today is not good for themBirth control fries oxytocin receptors. These are receptors BPD women specifically use to process trauma or heavy emotions. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4847696/>Parkinson's meds cause pedophilia and sex addictionhttps://www.bbc.com/news/articles/ckg0xxwn041oHow much are JEWISH doctors lying to us?>>544187058Lmao this kike is mad I'm saying how to speak a BPD woman's language.
>>544187170Nah it's almost like they have no clue what the fuck is going on
>>544185018I think this is the crux of the argument and is the reason why he's thinking delusional shit like >Just cry in front of a succubusWith HPDs and some mild NPDs it can absolutely work.
>>544187019AI said that sadists prefer dopamine and adrenaline. Masochists prefer oxytocin and endorphins. They are different communication and emotional processing styles. The aggressive one needs to speak emotionally, and the emotional one needs to get aggressive to get their point across.Masochist women literally shut up when angry which pisses off sadist men even more and makes them louder. Its a bad feedback loop when neither are communicating in a way the other understands.
>>544187224They do. They are incredibly smart, obersvant, and full of empathy. They are misdirected at self protection, and scared of taking action, because it exposes themselves emotionally.
my ex was NPD and she ruined my fucking life. Do NOT stick your dick in crazy.
>>544177447>>544176716>>544176218>>544175723>>544175513>>544175106>gaslighting this hardShalomhalom
>>544165207Best sex ever but coexistence with them requires too much patience and learning how to calm them down approaches whisperer territory. Living in the city, fucking for a couple of months great, living together in a house and wanting children, hell no that's how one of you gets in the news.
>>544187335I don't know man, everything points to neuroplasticity. Teaching a woman to be a woman rewires their brain but it can be unlearned and they can adapt you see. There's no telling how many of these behavioral disorders can be trained out of. There's also no telling what the intrinsic differences are between the brains. That's an entirely different subject. But what I know is that it can remedy itself. But if you're completely ignorant of this process you wouldn't be able to know that, hey my brain has been rewired by my narcissistic parents. My brain has created a tripwire system based on abuse and enabling that rewards this behavior, and that's a "behavioral disorder".
>>544187408How weak you have to be to let a woman with spaghetti arms ruin your life? They are weaker than men, a few punches and they fold
Currently on police bail after BPD ex had me arrested for stalking. The relationship was so intense and I got trauma bonded to her. We broke up and got back together every week. The last time was final I guess because she’d moved on but I didn’t know. Now I’m in real trouble and scared.
>>544187993Took me two years to get a not guilty during COVID for the exact same lad. Good luck.
BPD is fake and gay.
>>544187993My ex filed a restraining order against me and we didn’t talk for 9 years. Then we got back together for heavenly / hellish year and a half before she threatened to file another restraining order. I fucking hate what she did to me and I would strangle her if I could get away with it.
>>544187848to add onto this, the digital dreamer will harp on about women's accelerated gap over men in social situations and make it sound like they are memorizing everyone like a game of sims. But in actuality, it's a threat detection system. They're not making and building social connections, they're weeding out anyone that could be a threat and if they can't do that, they're going to try and befriend them. And that manifests as starting an alliance against that person. And if that doesn't work her brain will literally shoot out happy chemicals to make her "like" the person. Damn. they might be fundamentally broken
>>544185974>The key is revealing vulnerability first so they feel comfortable.The key is to not date them and avoid them like the plague.
Do not date bpd or bipolar bitches, as a matter of fact if you even smell a wiff of some mental "ilness" or a hunch, run.T. Experienced "love" from a bipolar bitch took me 2 years to recover, now I actively and publicly discriminate against any of these new age jew ilnesses.
>>544164404i’m a man and i hate having both Bipolar and Borderline. i’m loving it!
>>544189320My condolences and Lithium 3x per day, no skipping and tongue out when somebody checks
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>>544164404you absolute stupid niggwr OPhave you ever dated bpd chicks?? you walk on eggshells literally all day and cannot have normal fun with them. its ALWAYS about them and even if you have a good time for a while it will shift for no reason and shes mad about stuff you didnt even do or stuff she dreamed about.BPD chicks never again, if a girl tells me she is BPD I will always dump them on the spot for that alone. I dont even want them to speak with me. I dont care about their bullshit mood. never again.fk you make me so mad stupid mind raped monkey rat OP
>>544165207Never stick your dick in crazy. Theyll show up at your house unexpected via taxi at 3 am. They call you 5 years after your break up with them. They will physically sit on your bumper and try to keep you from backing out of parking space. Then follow you to next destination. They will find where you are and show up, esp if talking to another woman. Amazing sex and attention but at what cost.
if you've ever watched Dr. Phil and thought the drama was just scripted satire, well, that's going to be your actual everyday, 24/7 life. consider yourselves warned.
Her name was Alex. She was a 5'1" quarter Pilipino 3/4 white absolute piece of shit. I tried so hard guys, but the reality is that so many of the other anon's in this thread are right. Her mission was to "Destroy my friend group" because she decided to hook up with this absolute parasite of a man behind my back. They were not having sex yet, but she basically was around this guy the whole time at work, and having lots of extracurriculars. Anyway she fucked off to shitty Austin and he followed her there. Her family bought the whole thing and made me to be the bad guy and somehow this new guy (who is a manipulative, lying con artist fuck) is the best thing since sliced bread. I love the reality that they created for themselves that they now get to live in.
>>544190553Is BPD not just an American foid issue? Don't tell me there are batshit Katarzynas running about over there
>>544190755>surely there are no borderline polish chicksAHAHAHAHAHAHAtell another good one
>>544164404BPD is Bipolar. Bipolar means moody bitch, not sensitive Bisexual who understand my need for two woman.
>>544190755i think it might be something genetic or neurological. like sure, childhood trauma or attachment issues can shape your character, but this is just full blown ballistic demonic possession crazy.
>>544191219No, bipolar is actually a chemical issue and is supressable, bpd is just being a mindbroken piece of shit from some trauma before usually. There are almost no males with bpd, we just call them assholes. The ones that are bipolar off themselves as much as another mental disorder called transgenderism
A bpd woman suddenly decided I raped her and now I’m almost done with an 18-month prison sentence (I’m on parole)My life is fucking ruined because of a petty, jealous, psychotic bpd woman
>>544191391the trauma might trigger it, but the root problem is that they lack the internal braking system to self regulate. it's something with their wiring. a regular attachment issue on a standard brain might just make someone chronically sad or anxious.
>>544165028>homo shit like loyaltythis is a faggot post, written by a genuine worthless faggot.
>>544191557So yes, a male with bpd is probably an overagressive hysterical retard, probably has no social circle, higly likely to be in jail and nobody pays him any mind or care. A bpd manic pixie girl is a poor tortured soul who is looking for love and understanding.Nah, bpd is used as a scapegoat to being a whore / generally bad person with no reprecussions because you get your escape from jail/social judgement card. I'll bet that 80% of bpds aren't really bpd or whatever classificiation on the spectrum is applied to them.No excuses
>>544171635>Imagine you go 20 years in your life and you learn pretty much nothing, you're a kid essentiallyyou think you only need to teach them something for the disorder to disappear?It's not only social skill issues, borderline means they are navigating between neurosis and psychosis, basically in neurosis they know they are crazy, in psychosis they don't now. You can't simply teach a psychotic how to behave. You need him to accept he's psychotic, hoping for him to fall back first into neurosis, before getting to act on that, once he's aware he's crazy. But how do you do that with someone already having both types of episode? they have to tell appart one from the other?And for a neurotic, being aware of your issues doesn't make it simpler to change. During that phase, that quite put them in mental distress, being aware they're a piece of shit. Imagine being crazy, and sometimes you have periods of lucidity, then you have to cope with the piece of shit you are. Being aware doesn't give you the solution to your issue, it doesn't even stop you from being crazy, you're still acting crazy, you just know you are out of your mind while doing so. Then, even if you try to behave, you come back to being full crazy, without being aware of it. Try to teach something to people with such thinking patterns. Other people validating their behaviors is only an aggravating circumstance.
>>544191817my sister is a case, dad is on the autism spectrum, and my grandma and great-grandma were total kooks. i think the genetics nicked me too, but i just poured it into an obsession with hobbies, so i always had a safe sandbox to iron it out over the years. i dread to think what i would have become if i were a normie, and it was just left to run unchecked and wreak havoc.
>be 30yo happy go lucky virgin with very strict standards and good looking>meet friend's gf who likely has BPD and is a whore, she says they're not dating, he says they are lol>any time I go over to visit friends she gets friend to go pick her up so she can be around me>makes her entire twitter account about me>once when high on LSD and lots of weed I almost slept with her in friend's room but he came in so I left>she makes friend sit there with her while I talk to her about her problems and help her build a new identity>she finally says, frustrated "you're impossible to sleep with">I say "yep for you">she's now an influencer and is together with my friend who takes social media content of her while he takes her on vacations>I cut all contact from them both since I ended up falling in love with the projected ideal woman I turned her intooverall, I wouldn't do it again. no reward other than experience fixing women, which I realize makes me more attractive to women.
>>544165207look around.you grew up with the result of putting them in power.most men got straight from their BPD mom, to BPD public school teachers, to BPD female boss, To BPD doctor, to BPD funeral.so BPD gf just seems like every other woman in his life.if you go back and look. it was jews giving bpd women lessons in terrorism and bombings that passed women's suffrage. and now here we are.
>>544164404BPD just means 'I can be an annoying bitch and its not my fault'
>>544165746>>I deserve to have an apartment like all my friends
