All the relationships I've been in eventually ended in a dead bedroom.I'm almost 40. I've had multiple relationships. Got as far as cohabitation and almost got married to one. In every single case, after she moved in, the sex stopped immediately. >sorry I'm tired>sorry I'm not feeling well>well I can't because... erm... I'm mad at you for putting this thing into the wrong drawer 6 weeks ago!Sex was always a chore, not something they did out of lust.I get it and I can't force someone to want to have sex with me.At the end of the day, the fact is, they never saw me as a object of desire. I was never part of their sexual fantasies. I was just the guy who paid rent and took care of the bills. That's all I was to them.I have to accept that's who I am, the safe choice, the stable choice. Not the guy they want to have sex with. Because I'm not tall/handsome enough.But I don't want to live like that. But, I can't make myself taller or give myself a better face.Life as a non-chad male is a scam.
>>84742937Brootal life
You're 40, you're too old to believe you still have lust.
>>84742937I'm not at your situation because I'm 29 and been with my gf for only 8 months, but even then we had way more sex in the early stages of dating, like pretty much every singel time we saw each other, we were both so horny.Now, even though we see each other more, we don't have anywhere near as much sex, even though my gf is very sexual and chill and tells me "baby if you want to fuck me just do it, anytime at night, it's okay", but I think she has a rape fetish so I dunno.But my gf does make jokes about how much better she is than other women because she semi-regularly sucks my dick when a lot of women hate BJs (my ex definitely hated them).I'm honestly not even that good looking, I'm okay and have pulled women WAY out of my league my entire dating life (since 2022) because of my personaolity and sense of humour, but if I had to rely entirely on my looks........ yeha nah I've be screwed lmaoGuess I'm just lucky that my gf is that rare combo of "hyper-sexual", "serious emotional/daddy issues" and "mentally ill and clingy with me", so even if she has a ton of other issues I never have to worry about not getting sex.
>>84742965Just wait till she splits Hopefully she doesn't, good luck
>>84742937I am attractive and good at sex. I've been in long-term relationships all over 2 years in length. Sex dries up every time around 1 and 1/2 years. But the first 6 months are always when it's crazy. I strongly believe this is just natural biology and your program to get pregnant in the first 6 months and then spend 3 to 4 years together raising the kid. There's studies on this to support it.I don't think you need to blame it on yourself physically. But honestly most of my relationships fell apart cuz I'm a cruel person and a bad person. Really? I think the key to keeping a woman sexually interested in you is to actually be a super nice guy. At least in the context of a relationship, maybe not in the context of a hookup. What I'm saying basically is it's probably your personality
>>84742986Meh, I always expect the worst. Not like I'm depending on her for my happiness.I was actually dating hotter women before her, I chose her over them for other reasons but I don't have difficulty dating good women when I want to. At this point I'm way too cynical and realist to take women seriously. My dad was right when he told me not to take them seriously and don't expect much lmao.
OP, I'm going to ask you to do something to try and help, I want you to post what your body looks like.If you're not in great shape, it's likely that the women you date aren't super attracted to you and are just using you for money.
>>84742937women are mostly asexual
>>84742961Not OP but you're really stupid if you think 40 year olds can't have a sex drive.
