What's more important, having friends or having a gf/bf? For me a gf hands down, I don't give a fuck about anyone except my potential gf, non-romantic human interaction does not give me anything anymore, actually makes me feel like shit/empty later.
>>84750943I've always found it easy to make friends, to find people that like having me around, to find a group I fit into, so perhaps that's what makes me take them for granted.I would take a gf over friends every single time.
>>84750943>non-romantic human interaction does not give me anything anymore, actually makes me feel like shit/empty later.Same here, I truly can't enjoy friendship anymore because I'm so deeply lonely, I understand that this is a deficiency in me, but I need romantic love more than anything else right now.
>>84750943Friends for sure. They are less effort, but far more reliable. Most of my friends are still friends from highschool/elementary school, and even though some of them moved, have different social circles, ect now, and we sometimes don't talk for months on end, whenever I need something or just wanna hang out, all it takes is one text and they're there. In relationships, you have to put in way more effort and time for far less return. Also, the second someone wants to sleep with me or thinks of me sexually at all, I sort of like them less. This a problem with relationships, but not friends.
>>84750943Im so burnt out on "friends," they never interest me or enrich my life. girlfriends are better but hard to come by for me.
>>84750991Do you love your parents/relatives? At this point I'm not certain about that either, maybe my sister I still do but not like a normal person should. Maybe it's autism/emotional neglect
>>84750943How often do your parents talk about their "friends?
>>84751022Very rarely, my mother has almost none, and I think she has mild autism, my father a lot of friends, but I don't have high regard for them anymore...
>>84750943You can't have a gf without having friends first. It's one of the biggest icks.
>>84750943Having people deeply understand you and give you affirmation is alot more important than sex. But the partner could be such a friend, that is the best option. Still, I dont believe just one friend is enough.Thus, my answer would be friends/companions.Companionship > sex
friends definitely, especially if your partner has friends (which is most likely to happen if you have no friends). if you have no friends and your partner has friends, he will inevitably see you as socially weak. i mean specifically as in he can see there's no one to defend you, there are no consequences if he starts acting mean towards in small little ways because you as the friendless person are likely socially extremely inexperienced and don't know any better. even if they feel "forced" to do it, people respect you more if you have others around you. if you are alone, both men and women will take advantage of you being weak.i think it works more or less like this whether you're a woman or man. get friends, always.
>>84751015I do still love my family, but these feelings definitely feel blunted at times, like you, my sister is probably the one I'm closest to and who brings me the most joy.
>>84750943Relationship because I need to feel extra special
