My crush confessing to me was ironically the worst thing to ever happen. I havent been able to recover ever since.
>>84754992Troon or female?
>>84755146female. A hot one at that. Been my classmate for years. Hottest girl in class, not even kidding. She looks like Jinx
How is that a bad thing you faggit
>>84755208Jinx is pretty in a skinny flat slightly ugly alt way, I wouldn't call her super hot
>>84755224well I fucked it up. Its hard to explain if you never experienced it but never having a chance is just simpler and more peaceful than fucking everything up and constantly thinking about how things couldve been different and what you did wrong
>>84755224Probably what happened after that, I suppose.
>>84755307if an irl woman looks like a cartoon character yeah shes hot.
>>84755322relate to this too hard "you miss the 100% of the shots you don't take"yeah and if you do make it, you still might embarrass yourself or conjure up a rape allegation
>>84755324yeah. This. She wanted to fuck me and I was too drunk to open the door to open the front door. Been trying to meet her since but its a blunder after blunderI posted the story couple of times on r9k and adv
>>84755335Did she have Jinx's personality?
>>84755671no, shes super sweet, smart and empathetic actually
>>84754992Youngfags complaining about non problems thread 666.
>chronic overthinker who wishes the world was 'simpler' and 'more straightforward' does not do simple, straightforward thingmany such cases.
>>84755208If that's ur type just date a troon you fucking retard lol
>>84755722nah OP is a teenager who needs to go through his BPDemon phase. it's like a rite of passage, and a valuable life lesson.
>>84755690Well that's a huge step down but you take what you can get
>>84755713>>84755698what you mean?>>84755722I would if I met one. At most I talked to feminine gay dude for a while. But yeah a tranny would be a jackpot, not even kidding
>>84755733As someone who's currently dating a BPD chick (7 months in), it is definitely something that separates the wheat from the chaff.But once you crack that code, you have an extremely loving and loyal girl that cannot be beaten by anything else. Worth it if you're willing to put in the work
>>84755753DUDE where you got that pic from? I swear I literally posted it few days ago
>>84755762oh boy are you in for a shock some day.
>>84755775You see I constantly search for mentions of Jinx and Jinx images on 4chan, so I appear in almost any thread where she is mentioned and save images from there
this is the best jinx picture btw
>>84755762I'm sorry anon but there is no code to crack. I dated one for 2 years and then she did BPDemon things and broke up with me despite my best efforts.
>>84755733desu this is true but you have a few outcomes.>get your head fucked with, get discarded or move on yourself, lick your wounds and become among the "fuck bpds, never again" majority.>get your head fucked with, get discarded and becoming a simpering victim who is either completely disengaged with women forever or keeps hitting the cycle of being an attention slut for bpds to use between actual FPs>get your head fucked with, and learn from it. realize that riding the ups and downs of a BPD completely obsessed with you is probably the closet thing to love any sub8 male will experience. learn to protect yourself from the fallout and embrace being abusechad-lite.
>>84755939It's not very interesting
>>84755762You have many doubters but I believe you, O Chosen one. Teach me the ways of the BPD princess, so that I took may achieve this
>>84756065Some people fear death, but I fear never living.
>>84756078yes it is, you just have poor taste is all.
>>84755322If it makes you feel any better, if she didn't do all in her power to make it work, she wasn't that interested in you. Might have never been. Women are willing to go through crazy stuff to keep you when they're actually in love.
>>84755893ho-ho-holy b-based....
>>84756122nah, I noticed some signs years ago when she started approaching me but I thought she had ill intentions so I ignored her. Then there were some minor signs for years. I just messed it up. Theres no doubt she liked, question is how much (more than any other girl). But to be fair if she really liked me she would just ask me out in the middle of the day.Thanks for the cope.
>>84756083NTA, but let me put it extremely simply for you. and it should be obvious, but also i won't say it again.presumably you understand what draws a BPD woman to a target.>forthcoming with attention, open and fun but yet hard to get deeply.>you MUST be fun.>less experience you profess to have the better, being clearly shy or awkward at their advances makes them feel in control and secure.a lot of people here will naturally exhibit these traits when interacting with a woman showing excessive or direct interest in them, hence why especially many, many men here have had the BPD experience. we tend to be their favorite type.the key is to remove yourself, to detach yourself from your actions and words while still committing them as you otherwise would if you were actually attached to them. then it becomes a delicate balance of soothing the low parts and squeezing the high parts.sad that it may be, if you want to go long term at all and you are good at taming them, you will have to purposefully set them off to keep them interested or they will get bored. there is no magic solution for this. all women get bored eventually. feel free to ask if you are curious about anything else.>t. blocked 4 bpdemons last night
>>84756122>>84756197but to be fair she put all that effort in by confessing her love to me
>>84756263Yeah so did my ex lmao. No matter how much they want you and obsess over you they will get tired of you eventually for some mundane reason. Saying this as someone who was manipulated into a long term relationship by a life long friend who was a BPDemon. I saw everything and still gave in cause I thought I would be different.
>>84756317thanks anon. Thanks a lot. This helps me cope quite a lot.BUT! How do I cope with ruining that one specific moment where she wanted to fuck me but I was too drunk to get home?
>>84756317You probably cheated on her anon
>>84756425You'll likely get another chance
>>84756436No, I didn't nor did I ever give her any notion of that. She started uni and decided she wanted to be around friends more since she had mostly just been relying on me for socialization. She's always been the type to enjoy attention from new people. I have no idea if she was cheating on me or had someone else in mind but I'm over it so I don't care anymore. She's a self proclaimed femcel now.
>>84756438>You'll likely get another chanceyou really think that?
>>84756438>>84756599I would like to add that I already asked her out twice.First time she didnt see the message and then chatted with me afterwardsSecond time she said was already out with someone "duuude"
>>84756599The girl I dated I had already asked her out. She turned me down but I later found out that was how she had started to take notice of me. She ended up sabotaging 2 relationships I had and dated a friend of mine to get my attention over the course of 4 years. BPDemons always come back.
>>84756249 #I have the tism so you'll have to explain in more concrete terms>What is being fun? Like clubbing fun? Energetic fun? Willing to try new and dangerous things fun?>Does detach but commit means be casual with your words and not overly emotional but still follow through?>What does set them off entail? Being distant? Disappearing? Hanging out with other girls?
>>84756866>What is being fun?replying fast, not being afraid to poke a little fun at them (never go too far unless you are trying to piss them off), being a little suggestive but not outright goonbrained.>what does detach but commit meanact exactly as you would given that you were attached and emotionally committed, but do not actually attach yourself to the individual, the feeling of saying, and the results of what you said.>What does set them off entail?"accidentally" saying rude or inconsiderate things, putting distance, getting "busy" for awhile (not ghosting, do not ghost unless you are willing to be discarded.), do NOT mention talking to other girls and NEVER let them know if you are. worst mistake imaginable.
Can't relate. Leave my board you normalfaggot
>>84756911Other anon here. He's completely correct and I did all those things too for mine.
>>84756866NTA but holy fuck you are falling into a trap. even with the concrete rules >>84756911 has given you, it will not be pleasant. this is a consistent story with probably millions of cases.>I LIKE crazy girls! in fact, my autism means that...look, every single previous victim thought the same thing. it's not like your tsundere animes. people aren't just being internet dicks, there's no nice to say this, but you aren't special and you aren't immune.you can do all the tricks and techniques anon said, you will feel drained and miserable from all the masking. the drama that's exciting at first will become crippling. you can do everything 100% 'correctly' and she will flip for no reason, you'll have some autistic meltdown because you followed the rules.drop a (non-secure) tripcode as a one-off, report back in a year. same goes for that other anon who's 7 months in. make a thread in June 2027, let us know how it all worked out.
>>84757047>you'll have some autistic meltdown because you followed the rules.as the guy providing advice, this is definitely possible. to be clear, I don't have autism, i am mentally ill in a way that makes it incredibly easy for me to detach while still feeling satisfied by the attention i'm receiving. obviously i rue the reality of the situation, but sub8s only have so many options on this map. i decided it wasn't so bad to go abusechad-lite mode. i think i still feel around 5-10% of the negative reaction from splitting and discarding that i did the first time but it fades very quickly and i don't mind taking breaks or immediately hunting again after.
Anyone have any tips for acquiring/dating a schizoid girl?
>>84757179be chad, irl, and approach her until she is willing to spend time with you. never going to work online, don't bother dreaming about it.
>>84757047Yeah, I'm the anon that dated one for 2 years. They literally will flip on you for no reason. I thought I had it locked down since her relationships had maxed out at like 3 months. I know 7 month anon thinks he has the code cracked but your relationship is never set in stone with a BPD girl.
>>84755383OP do you have an alcohol issue in general? Why were you this drunk outside your apartment?
>>84757186This has been my unfortunate experience with a few schzio/autisitc girls. You think wow she yaps about Civ 5 and the sims bugs, she'd love me because I love that stuff too. But her "fuckzone" is a completely separate thing. She's like the average woman but even more ruthlessly cold and calculating about mate selection.
>>84757047Oh, I completely believe you that it's going to be a crippling disaster. I know it's REALLY gonna be painful, and leave me bleeding out on the sidewalk. And I will get scars that'll never wash away. I'm not normal. Maybe I'm insane, but this is EXACTLY why I want it. Besides, I like it when the bite marks cut through the skin
>>84756178Saved into my jinx folder
>>84754992>>84755208pass the controller then fag
>>84757254we went out drinking with classmates cuz it was end of HS (she had a crush on me for 4 years)
>>84756776but she doesnt have BPD
>>84758966Are you still 18 anon? How long has it been?
>>84759086no Im 20 because we graduate at 19 here and I had to repeat a year cuz I changed schools halfway through HS>How long has it been?It happened on monday.>I DMd her on wednesday but she didnt see it (I doubt it, she prolly just didnt want to talk to me) >She finally texts me back on friday night and we laugh at what happened on monday (she was probably drunk so she was talkative) >She said she would wait for me on saturday after a movie I was going to see with my friends>Yesterday the movie plans got cancelled last minute so I asked if she wants to hang out anyway and she said shes already out with someone
>>84755322i get it. it's like if you spent years and years mourning someone and then when you finally reach acceptance they came back to life. at first you'd be overjoyed to see them one more time and then you'd be confused.
"confessing" and "crushes" are elementary school shit that autistic people think actually happen in real life because it's how relationships develop in anime
>>84759155EXACTLY THATS EXACTLY IT! You nailed it.>and then you'd be confusednot really confused, more like they come back and then die again 5 seconds later
>>84759152>out with someoneLike, on a different date? Or out with one of her friends?
>>84759164no, they die right after you get your hopes up
>>84759184I have no idea honestly. Could be both at the same time
>>84759188>no, they die right after you get your hopes upyeah thats it srry
>>84759190I mean it makes a big difference which one it is. One just means she also made plans so she wouldn't be waiting on you. The other means she's seeing and possibly banging someone else right before you were planning to meet upIf you didn't follow up again that one's on you imo. You should have asked about what she was doing and when she'd be done
>>84759205>If you didn't follow up again that one's on you imo. You should have asked about what she was doing and when she'd be doneHoly shit you might be right Im so fucking stupid. But I didnt want to sound needy or something, you know? Shes got plans so thats it. But if she wanted to meet me she would say something like "we can meet at 12 tho"
>>84759152>>84759190Don't waste your time lil bro. Sorry but you're in the friendzone.
>>84759205also, it was most likely just friends. But you know, she could get drunk and fuck a friend too so....
>>84759222Youre right. Time to let go. I thought I could salvage it but who cares. If shes still interested (shes not) she will reach out (she wont)
>>84759219>>84759229Imo if "sounding needy" by communicating thoroughly after she already expressed interest is a dealbreaker for her, she was never that into you. Or, she is a red flag. Either way cut your losses if that's the case.But I think you still have a chance to not be an idiot. Show your interest openly and communicate with her. If she's serious she won't want that bs.-t. foid who also often likes to make the first move
>>84759256>-t. foid
>>84759263Yep, bio foid, and also, and oldfag.
>>84759275Im sorry, I didnt mean to be rude and Im grateful for your advice. But you know how it is. Women giving advice about women is just... you know... funny.
>>84759293I know how I react, and I hate it if a guy is not being attentive. I have left and will leave if a guy isn't putting in consistent effort and communication
>>84759307well I dont know what to tell her. I dont have much to say anyway. "Hey I wanna talk to you, when are you free?" Something like that? I dont want to text her too much cuz at some point its just gonna be annoying and clingy. I would look like a desperate autist. It would be third time asking her out.She confessed to me, yes, but right now Im like the only one reaching out and trying to make it happen. It feels like a wild goose chase at this point.
>>84759375>autistOkay show us the screenshots bro and blur them out for any identifiers. We need to see the situation to assess
>>84759307>>84759375sorry for late replies but Im an esl and also hung over and I dont even know what Im trying to say
>>84759381heres a rough translation
>>84759447btw that "you really dont remember?" is a reference to the fact that she apparently started insulting me
>>84759160>he thinks normies grow out of an elementary school mindset
>>84759381shes actually pretty mature. But I guess shes a bit childish too
>>84759798oops I meant this for >>84759609
>>84755762Local man before finding out he was getting cheated on from day one.
>>84759307well put.it's sad women have to get old and fed up before they just say shit like this. >I like attention.wow, 35-year-old female friends, what a bombshell.
>>84760565so should I ask her out again or what do I do?
