My boyfriend had two women confess his love to him in the past and he still chose me and wanted to fix me (I have severe autism) Idk why people seethe at this or see it as ragebait, not everyone wants a Stacy or even a normie.
Most people here are male, so I'm not sure who you're trying to make jealous, post this on lolcow.
Must be nice. The guy I love goes on monologues about how much he misses his (skinner + prettier + younger) ex girlfriend. And if I get upset, Im the crazy bitch just looking to start fights. Ok. Take me out back and put me down
>>84782595as a male that was in love with a terrible bpd woman, please leave. it's gonna hurt more now, but you'll feel better later.
>>84782595Why do you love him then?
>>84782595>>84782628OnIy when I stop to think about itI hate everything about youWhy do I love you?I hate everything about youWhy do I love you?
>>84782612I dont have bpd, I feel like this is a reasonable thing to be upset about
>>84782692No, nona, he is saying your boyfriend has bpd
>>84782692I think he's talking about your faggot boyfriend, snuggle bear.
>>84782628I loved him before he started telling me all this. At first he told me he had no love for her at all, but like most men, the mask slips once they have you attached
>>84782697>>84782698Ah I see, thank you
>>84782707>but like most men, the mask slips once they have you attachedYup, nona is seeking out bpd men. Well, that was easy.
>>84782692yes, i am talking about your person, not you.>>84782697>>84782698did i word it incorrecly or what? i am eslconfused now
>>84782595I want to take you out back and pump several loads of cum into you and then buy you some pretty dresses and send you youtube links of women baking food
>>84782720Can't even help it, either. Totally subconscious. Pauvre wahmen.
>>84782722You did fine. She assumed that you meant she had bpd. The two people who responded corrected her before you did.
>>84782504If he chose you because you were broken then do you not worry about him dumping you once you're fixed?Once you become fixed you'll be just like those two women he didn't want
>>84782720>>84782739I always thought (straight) bpd males were like unicorns, but maybe I was wrong. You guys are probably right. I probably attract them/seek them out subconsciously
>>84782836if you find yourself listening to other people often, being calm, giving other people space, bpd people might be appealing to you
>>84782836As a bi BPD moid myself, they definitely exist, but they are harder to diagnose than BPD women since they tend to be more reclusive and just get lumped into 'dark triad' trait havers. He's already at the self sabotaging stage of your relationship, and he'll just get worse unless he gets himself help. Let me emphasize that though, he has to get HIMSELF help. You will not be able to fix or help him. I wish you good luck whatever you wind up doing.
>>84782836Yes, you do.What's up baby cakes?
>>84782504I'd cry if a man said he wanted to fix me
>>84782866What about you need fixed?
>>84782866I'd say I want to fix you, but I'd probably just make you worse in a different way.
>>84782866I want to fix youOkay now start crying bitch
>>84782873A lot of stuff. But it's embarrassing when other people notice it. I hate feeling seen and vulnerable. I have pretty bad anger problems, bad depression, bad hygiene, desensitized to certain things so I don't care about a lot of stuff, and more things. I'm so royally messed up, I've put off dating until I'm better and not messed up anymore. >>84782874Real anon. So real. I want to fix a man, but I'd probably make him worse. My ex turned catholic after I broke up with him >>84782884Sobs
i like how chickn is so boring she got completely ignored in her own thread
>>84782901I didn't even realize this was her
>>84782722Yeah dont worry about me, just being retarded>>84782854I typically am, but the past week or so has had me acting out of character. I try not to get upset around him because I dont want to worry or annoy him, but I often fail at this>>84782858I worry that Im the one sabotaging the relationship, since Im the one being upset by what he says, not vice versa. I feel like Im being over emotional and making an issue out of nothing, which is something Im scared of doing since hes told me his exes did this, and I dont want to affirm his negative beliefs and experiences with women. But whenever I get a second opinion they tell me Im reasonably upset. Idk what to think
>>84782901This is chickn? Haha no way, I dont feel so bad about accidentally hijacking the thread now
>>84782936>just being retardedits ok it happens>>84782936>but I often fail at thislike i said before, this person is not for you. you are just delaying a breakup, and by doing this you will grow even more attached and it will hurt even more. if you are capable of listening, caring about other people, then you deserve someone that will reciprocate those acts. value yourself
>>84782899Are you skinny or fat? What makes you angry? You sound like you need love
>>84782936>I worry that Im the one sabotaging the relationship, since Im the one being upset by what he says, not vice versa. First, you are entirely right to be upset about it. A common tactic of those with BPD is to build up a cast of exes to rotate through once they feel they can no longer maintain attachment to the current one they're dating. This is not a negative experience inflicted upon him by others, this is a defective attachment strategy. They feel inferior and unworthy and thus must degrade their partner in their eyes to see themselves as worthy. 'If they have a bunch of flaws then its okay that I'm with them because I'm shit.'If they cannot manage this they'll have a big crashout about the other person being too good for them and probably leave. If they do manage this, then they'll have a big crashout about the other person being a bad partner and then definitely leave.
>>84782504my friend is married to you. Fuck both of you and removing him from his candles much of a little socialize
>>84782973I'm skinny-fat. I'm within healthy weight for my height, but on the lower end of healthy. >What makes you angry?Everything. People even just being in the same room as me pisses me off sometimes. Noises piss me off. I just get overwhelmed easily and frustrated easily and I instantly get angry. I'm on Abilify to help it, which is an antipsychotic.
>>84782987What do you want out of a partner and where are you?
>>84782998I'm not currently looking for a partner because I haven't gotten better yet. I'm from the US
>>84782866I want a woman to fix me. Yet at the same time I find that so emasculating, so I end up pussying out of any real relationship.
>>84782960He does care about me and love me. He comforts me when I cry. We arent officially together, hed still be with his ex had she not broken up with him. The other day he was crying to me about the beautiful date he was planning to go on with her and how much he was looking forward to it and how sad he is that its not going to happen. I was just sitting there trying not to cry. Fuck what am I doing
>>84783012Don't you want someone to help fix you though?
>>84783028they can't, they can support you while you fix yourself but they cannot fix you. this is grade school shit
>>84783028I want to fix a man. >>84783035No it's embarrassing to be told I need to be fixed
>all these people who want to be fixed or fix someone>not one who wants to be made worse or make someone worsebaka ngmi
>>84783105>I want to fix a man.Can you fix me? I'm depressed and need the love of a woman
>>84782504What is it like being in a relationship? Is it nice and healthy?
>>84783152chickn is an obese mutt who is only technically a virgin due to being too autistic to not need her parents to take care of her. i don't think you want any advice or info from her bud.
>>84783105How bad do you want to fix me? I'm depressed and unmotivated in life, but I want someone to reignite and jumpstart me, give me purpose>>84783091well yeah, I was being a little reductive. but that would be the realistic version
>>84782980He goes on rants about how much he dislikes women or how relationships with them arent worth it. I just sit there on call and take it like an idiot. I love him so much but it keeps wearing me down. Hell probably read these posts and get angry at me, I dont blame him, but its too late now may as well
>>84782504Love is a choiceAnd men want someone to struggle with.
>>84783105you can fix me anon but you better hurry up because my life is starting to get better little by little
>>84783032i'm glad you're starting to realize this is not going to be good for you. he does not love you, at most he likes you as a friend. but i won't say this again, i suppose you're happy with the current state of affairs
>>84783214>people like this get loving gfs but I can'tTruly depressing
