>>84799143
No you are not, i dont believe that.
You have good qualitues that if given attention or regular basis as well as depriving yourself several bad habits the better qualities better habits would grow you into to somewhat lovable person.

Its a good start, only a start if you choose to.

>>84799143
me too man, me too. an actual gf that lives near who I can cuddle with and go out with and be happy with, not just a hole
>>84799402
lol yknow this is essentially gaslighting right? some people arent lovable by nature

>>84799438
By nature?
What is lovable person to you? How does lovable human, one who deserves love behaves and looks like in your mind ?

If its not gonna be honest answer this leads nowhere.

>>84799143
No you are not, i dont believe that.
You have good qualitues, if attention is given developing these qualities on regular basis as well as simultaneously depriving yourself several bad habits the better qualities better habits would grow you into to somewhat lovable person.

Its about work and transformation in our individual limits.

Its a good start, only a start if you choose to.

Felt like clarifying my previous post to be more understandable.

>>84799532
> one who deserves love behaves and looks like in your mind
one who isnt constantly doubted by their family and everyone around them
one who isnt looked at with disdain, who doesnt have to go out into the world and see their friends and partners be treated better than them in front of their faces
one who other people dont view as a weird animal
one who, when they find a partner, doesnt have their partner eventually resent them for having similar issues to what they do (which is why i liked those people in the first place)
I give up. The kind of people who might actually like me as a person once they get to know me wont even give me a chance because of who I am

>>84799664
this is a circular argument

>>84799620
>if attention is given
Who would do that?
>>84799438
It's strange. I can be friendly with others and they tend to like me enough to chat or stuff like that. But I can't get close to them. And when I see a woman who I like, I just know there's no way she would be into someone like me.

>>84799676
point out how please, this is just how i feel and these are the things ive noticed about myself
>>84799696
>I can be friendly with others and they tend to like me enough to chat or stuff like that. But I can't get close to them.
pretty much same
everyone ive gotten too close to would eventually start to take me for granted and start treating me worse

>>84799696
>>84799808
>would eventually start to take me for granted and start treating me worse
I should also add that I've basically lost all of my close irl friends because I got sick of their behavior eventually

>>84799143
The idea of having a cute life partner to grow old with is nice. But I guess it's just an idealized fantasy because real relationships are just more trouble. I think I want it but maybe I am blessed I can't get a relationship and I don't even know it.

>>84799696
> Who would do that?

My guy you are missing the meaning of my words because you are looking outwards to others to give you, you demand equality that thing cannot be given, you either equal or you not. Than you can work on it START ACTING EQUAL.

WHO WOULD DO THAT?
YOU MY NIGGA, YOU.
That is who it must begin with.

>I just know there's no way they would be into someone like me.

These things cannot be forced, cannot force attraction. As i said You can work on becoming more attractive physically and mentally.
This is the core issue for YOU to solve not them.

Stop the cry its mighty unatractive bro.

>>84800063
>Stop the cry its mighty unatractive bro.
Let me just turn on the nonchalant mode, that'll get the hoes.

>>84799664
I am thinking about this i didnt ignored it

>>84800090
think all you want, the only solution seems to be to mask this and to not get too dependent on others while building your own wealth. everything else seems like a false promise; like you're being taunted with the love and affection you could have

>>84799143
I want a bf so bad, I am lovable but I am ugly.

>>84800076
I took time to really think about what you saying, put into words different perspective for you to reflect. What is comming from your end is yet picking out more negativity from it all and sarcasm, that is destructive thinking it helps nothig.

So i end it here, let this be lesson and maybe mirror to your personality and why you struggle to make deeper connection.

>>84800186
Don't be silly, anon. I thank you for your words.
I understand what you are saying. I really do. But I struggle a lot to do it. And the more time goes by, the more hopeless I get. But there is no use in arguing with you, because you are right. I can't expect someone else to love me when I can't do it myself. I get jealous when I see people who I think are bad still get what I desire the most, but there's nothing I can do about it. I should just try to do it myself, it's very difficult, I can't find anything to do so, and I feel like a liar when I try to.

>>84799664
I knew something was off about the description of this scenario. It describes how people treat someone who is in their eyes worthy some respect and love.

Even tho it was somewhat honest personal deskription it failed to tell us how is this person deserving all that sweet love? What did they do ? How are they acting in their time here? Do they have all that solely because of their looks ? These were my question that remain unanswered.

When you can honestly answer that even to yourself you can start moving on where you want to be.

>>84800147
>i am lovable but i am ugly
what makes you say youre lovable if people dont stick with you? doesnt being "lovable" by definition entail someone sticking around?
>>84800343
honestly i think i just attract chicks who get the tingles for a while and then grow bored and cold. i dont think i can attract quality women who want to build a relationship. In all of my relationships i've tried to discuss issues we've been having but of course women only want to talk about these things when its convenient for them. almost everyone ive been with either just says "stopp" when i try to bring stuff up, or goes silent/nonverbal, or tends to start being flaky. And this is after months of dating. I really think im just attracting people who have bpd or something and I have no way of ever knowing if someone who genuinely is willing to care would stick around
maybe I dump too many of my issues on them, maybe i expect them to care as much as they want me to care.
I've literally had someone tell me "you expect it to be equally about your issues as mine and that I can't do" after 8 months of dating. It just feels horrible to hear such things

>>84799143
I really don't think you are, because appearantly everyone is somehow at least a little loveable.

Example? Me. I imagine that i'm about the most unlovable thing imaginable. I'm a socially alienated mentally ill wreck, i have never in my life had a single coherent sentence long conversation with another human being except for my Dad, i'm mentally ill, and my mental disability causes me to literally be alergic to people and contact with people, and also makes me emotionally numb towards people, essentially making it impossible for me to develop feelings or human connections to literally anyone, including people as close as my own Mom. I was dangerously underweight and now i'm just somewhat close to a baseline, my hygiene isn't great, i'm a NEET hermit who never leaves her room, and has absolutely no future prospects. For the last 5 years, i have been taking tons of brainfixer meds which fry me out on a daily basis. Commiting to almost anything is horribly hard for me. And then there is another detail bad about me that we can skip.

Despite this, while talking here about myself, and not trying what so ever to glorify myself or make myself sound better than i'm, i had multiple people tell me that they find me likeable, would love to be my friend, want to hug me, want to help me, wish me well, and so on. Do i understand why? Mostly not. But it proves to me that somehow, anyone out there can find an audience that will find them likeable. So if somehow a person as damaged as me can be liked by the people here, i'm sure you can be too. Unless you are like a pedophile or something of course, then no.

Hope this helped.

>>84799143
I just gave up an hour ago. My oneitis just deleted all her accounts. It's completely fucking over.

>>84799143
In my pursuit for one I've realized I'm happier alone. Worrying about someone else is super exhausting.

>>84799143
Get in line alongside the 61% of us, buddy.

>>84800288
This was good, honest to some degree. Not completly easy either and i appreciate the acknowledgement, suddenly have urge to kiss you how piece of the attractivness shined through.
Not only about self love, boundaries self respect, having your own thing going on.
What is it you love to do.

> it's very difficult
That is for sure, changing ones perspective, habits and get going new ones, better ones, very difficult.
Requires time, attention, work ethic.


> I can't find anything to do so, and I feel like a liar when I try to

Dont understand this part.

>>84800548
That is fact being relationship has its negativne hustles that is just the reality of it.
I still like it and prefer it.

>>84800555
Lol
Lot of men and women out there in need of some sort of guidence.