guys... people... GUYS... i need to venti've been with my boyfriend for over 6 months now but lately i feel like i'm the one doing all the work i'm always the one starting conversations sending the first text reaching out checking in and keeping things goingthe thing is i don't actually mind doing it what bothers me is that sometimes i need reassurance too sometimes i want him to be the one who reaches out first to show that he wants to talk to me without me having to initiate every single timehe's not very expressive when it comes to relationships honestly sometimes i wonder if he's schizoid autistic or something along those lines he told me he'd never really been interested in anyone before me which only makes the whole thing more confusingso i genuinely don't know what to do should i just let things happen naturally and focus on my own life should i pull back a bit and see what happens or do i keep investing in the relationship and giving him attention even though it feels like i'm the one carrying most of the emotional efforti'm curious what you guys think
>>84845266dump him and e-date me, everyone's doing it. you know you want to. :3
>>84845266chatbot thread youre not even a real sexhaver ahh its all just chatbots on this board nowadays
>>84845266You have to test him, give him like a week or so to contact you. If he doesn't cut him out of your life and date this anon >>84845272
>>84845272nnnoooooo i love my boyfriend and i want what's best for him i just want to hear what people thinki get the feeling he's a really solitary person and honestly that's completely fine... i'm just worried about bothering him or forcing my presence on him when he might want space... i don't want to become a source of stress for someone i care about
>>84845290wiiii yeah i've thought about that 3:maybe i should just give him some space for a while and stop being the one who sends the first message every time... just to see how he reacts and whether he reaches out on his own
>>84845266did you try telling him instead of us?i sometimes do forget to start conversations but usually (even in non ldr) you start sending them good day and good night texts at least. i had a friend that didnt want to text his gf and they didnt last (he didnt really like her).if he is not texting you you need to start thinking. did he ever text you first? and if he did, when did it stop? what happens if you dont text him all day? and again, did you even bring it up?
>>84845266Don't pull back please just talk to him more and try to be interested in the things he is interested in. I speak from experience I am the same way and I wish the women I spoke to would do the same but they end up pulling away every single time. Don't make him feel like an alien if you like him. If you don't like how he is then I don't know move on.
>>84845290kek that's what I was gonna say. plenty of desperate anons to be had.
>>84845317sometimes he'll send me a message at the end of the day if we haven't talked at all... but sometimes he won't send anything either...i've already asked him about it and he says that most of the time he just doesn't know what to say and worries about bothering people... he's a pretty passive person in general...i try to bring some joy into his life and cheer him up whenever i can... this morning i sent him a few messages that made him laugh and all i got back was a "LOL" before he went back to listening to music and playing his game... i didn't push the conversation any further than that...i have access to some of his accounts and sometimes i check in remotely and honestly most of what i see is him spending the day playing games listening to music and keeping to himself...it feels like there's something very specific about the way he is... he's never really maintained friendships for very long and he's told me he's never felt genuinely attached to anyone else before... although he has said that he's very comfortable around me
>>84845331i'm never gonna leave him over something like this lol 3:but he does get really interested in certain things in a very specific way... stuff like Irisu Syndrome! and Your Turn To Die... i've never really played either of them but i know he'd be ridiculously happy if he found out i'd taken an interest in them...maybe i should actually give them a try and then casually drop a few references here and there... i think he'd probably love thathe also absolutely loves Girls' Last Tour... i could watch it on my own and maybe read the manga too... he's a huge fan of the author and talks very highly of their work
>>84845348im guessing you are both in a ldr, otherwise i feel like the best way to not feel as lonely is to spend time with him. like dont drag him out of his pc, let him play and listen to music, just hang out with him in his room. maybe kiss him every so often but let him be.eitherway if you cant handle it at some point just remember some people are not meant to be. that being said you seem to be overthinking.
>>84845266Oh hey, it's me but girlI'm the one who's always reaching out to my gf, she never texts firstI broke it off with her today, I actually just made a thread about itTold her I feel like all I get from her is her "leftovers", like I'm the last choice she'd give attention to or talk toI love her so much, but it seems like she doesn't love me as much, like our level of love isn't equal
i totally get what you mean but is she only like that with you or is that just how she is with everyone in general ?in his case hes pretty much like that with everyone it feels like hes always waiting for people to come to him almost as if hes afraid of being uninteresting or bothering others even so he still makes an effort hell often come back with stories random anecdotes or little things that happened to him just so he has something interesting to talk about and keep the conversation going
>>84845266First off, here's the usual - you chase guys that don't give you attention and put up with this shit from chadlites that have good social skillsSecondly, you'd get bored and eventually dump him if he actually did give you everything you wantedThat is all
>>84845374I'm telling you he would love that even simple research. One woman I spoke to learned a little bit about this computer programmer that I really admire and I was so happy and surprised. You should update us on a new thread in a few days.
Understand that a guy like that usually isnt super focused on talking to people and likely values having some degree of alone time.If you're constsntly starting conversations or sending texts, you're quite possibly not giving him enough time alone. Just relax, focus on something else important for you to do in your life for now, and let him spend a little bit of time alone.
>>84845565I feel like this with my gf sometimes
Please just ask him
>>84845771To love someone who doesn't even like you~
