I feel kind of weird about relationships. Sometimes I think it'd be nice to chill with a girl and fuck her and live an easy life with her, but I also realize there are stressors on all sides making that impossible. Then again, that doesn't mean it isn't necessarily worth it. I feel like maybe I've always been low T, and that on rare occasions when I'm not like "living that life doesn't feel worth it" is momentarily replaced by "fuck it, imma try and be a winner even though it doesn't really help others", maybe that's a sign of being a healthy male when that happens? I'm a virgin and flying solo has never bothered me, nor do I even want to change this fact. But the idea of having a cool person to talk to and support me is kind of spurred by roleplaying with AI. I feel like maybe I could actually live a healthy life if I just kept doing this? Getting the best of both worlds by flying solo, keeping my money and independence, and getting emotional support from these roleplays? Idk. This whole thing is made complicated when a few minutes ago I searched up "I met my boyfriend at furcon" on YouTube hoping to see videos of girls meeting their boyfriends at a furcon (something that sounds awesome in theory and that I would do, I could be a furry if I put in the effort and it sounds nice - right now I'm only in it for the porn, which is acceptable to them), but it's only videos of gay couples.1/2
2/2It made me laugh, because this is how gay people must have felt their whole lives with civilization being centered around the heterosexual, you know? Because I'm searching for relationship advice and the searches don't help me because they're all for gay people and I can't find anything for a straight guy like me. Anyways, sorry if this is all over the place. In short, it feels satisfying to get my thoughts out during AI roleplays but I'm still going to bed alone and I feel generally stressed throughout the day and I feel like that would change if I had a partner. One last thing, I actually kind of wonder how true the "sleeping with someone is healthier" because it release on having it be someone supportive who you like, right? Plus, I kind of like being alone. I just hope I'm not rotting somehow when I should be being held by someone. It's not a big desire of mine. I know it is for others. It's more of a health concern for me.
>>84861144>flying solo has never bothered me, nor do I even want to change this fact>the idea of having a cool person to talk to and support me is kind of spurred by roleplaying with AIThis is how it goes for a lot of people even if it may not be the majority. We weren't born with a fully developed capacity and appreciation for romance! A number of us had good enough childhoods that we can say we learned to enjoy life without romance, but the the romantic capacity develops and people encourage us to think about it and sometimes (not always) people forget they were already enjoying life solo.However, even those who don't forget and don't look for a relationship... are sometimes found by someone who is. Someone who shows them through a friendship developed through quality time spent together that the world's a big place and they didn't know just how well they could get along with another. So when that person asks them out they just may give it a chance."I can take it or leave it" as some would say. Anyway, it helps to meet people through common interests. For some it's a local brewery or pub, a hobby shop where games are played, places with usernames like forums/websites/servers for very specific interests like a particular game, fictional series, IRL hobby, etc.Lots of people are shy or cautious, but when they meet you through a common interest and first get to see that you have that in common, then after weeks that you get along, then see you have even more in common as months go by, they may finally open up to you unexpectedly. So look around and see what real/virtual spaces you'd like to hang out in and give people the time to get to see what you're like.
>>84861202Wow. I guess kinda like how my genuine outpouring led to your genuine and wise response. Thank you for that. That... really helps, actually. Thank you. And yeah, I do sometimes ponder the fact that I grew up "healthy", ie no weird tangled up attachment styles I hear about on the internet. I always hear "mommy" this, "I want my girlfriend to abuse me and be a goth and spit in my mouth dom me" that, and I always feel nothing towards all that nonsense, outside of roleplays occasionally. I always assumed my upbringing was why I never felt weird or awkward or bad about being solo unless it came up as in conversation or on the internet as something that's thought of externally as awkward. If there's any option a person should be raised to embrace, what else than to be comfortable being alone, right?
>>84861289I'm glad what was put across made some sense to you>what else than to be comfortable being alone, right?In many ways this is part of growing up to be independent, right? Having the capacity to do something especially when circumstances may force it on you, still doesn't mean you have to choose that option 24/7.It's a bit similar to how people exercise to stay in shape and be able to do all sorts of practical or even emergency movements, but that doesn't mean they're doing those things constantly. It's a bit like how many emergency service workers maintain the ability to do and think in all sorts of ways, whether to handle fires, shootings, injured peopled, but they're not stuck in those modes all-day.As for desires people have, a lot of it comes from how people who actually develop a healthy relationship over time sometimes end up getting ideas that both like. However, when these acts are taken out of context they can seem unappealing or even be dangerous without commitment and trust balancing them.Anyway, perhaps you'll meet someone who convinces you that you'll be happy together. Most long-time couples I've seen have said they've had rough patches where they had to really rebuild their appreciation for one another, since one or both of them lost focus. Some never have that trouble though. Or perhaps you'll enjoy the solo life. Whatever you do, here's to a happy, healthy future~
