>The girl I was using for emotional support and trauma dumping for the last two years turned out to have feelings for me What the actual fuck, that one anon was correct, I thought girls just use guys like free therapists so I did the same.TikTok bitches lied to me, trauma dumping isn't an ick, and I refuse to have a relationship with her because the bitch knows too much.
>>84887159>TikTok bitches lied to me, trauma dumping isn't an ickTikTok bitches are retarded and just project. They don't speak for all women. Do not listen to anyone claiming they speak for everyone and do not use the opinions of some to influence your worldview on an entire group. >and I refuse to have a relationship with her because the bitch knows too much.Why is this?
>>84887159lol anime niggas retaaarded.
>>84887270I told her about how people mistake me masking my autism and low sex drive for being gay. Because I don't awooga whenever I see a half naked bitch in college walking by.I told her also about how much I hate the average person and my resentment towards basically everyone in my life.You should never date your therapist, and the same goes for your emotional sponge.My wife would only know the fake polished version of me not the one who posts on r9k
>>84887289You guys said that platonic female friends want nothing from guys but free emotional support and venting rag, I just did what they do, tell me anon, would you date a woman who told you everything about her past and her evil actions?
>>84887298Why would you want someone who you can only have a shallow relationship with versus someone who understands you? Yeah, you shouldn't date your literal therapist, because they are listening to your problems because you pay them, but someone doing it out of the kindness of their heart? That is a good woman and I kinda think you're fucking yourself over with this thinking desu
>>84887159> oh no I am just a lonely incel> a person who knows you deeply clearly cares for the real you> refuse them> oh no I am just a lonely incel
>>84887159>I refuse to have a relationship with her because the bitch knows too much.isn't that a good thing though?appearances take effort to maintain and if you plan on dating (or even marrying) her then ideally she should fall in love with who you are, not who you appear to bein other words, she should love you, not your mask
Are tiktok girls worth it? I don't want to have to get tiktok
>>84887318Okay, anon, I want you to understand that I told her stuff like how I hate when girls get better grades than me, I told her how people assume I'm gay because of my masking, I told her that I use this site and that I have zero emotional interest in my own family and that I literally have a excel spreadsheet for the amount of money I have to make to repay my father for every cent that he has spent on me so that I owe him nothing.I understand the fantasy of having a relationship with someone who sees you for who you are but sometimes the real you is a mother fucker that does not deserve that.Also maybe it's embarrassment but I can't see myself sleeping next to someone who I told her all of this.It was supposed to be a venting relationship then she finds a guy to marry and block my number.
>>84887159Smart, women love to use shit against you and gossip about what you reveal to her friends, even if it's your deepest darkest secret and it took you everything you had to get it out
>>84887159unlike everyone else in this thread i don't care if you go out with her or not but /r9k/ is the robot boardif you have a girl you can trauma dump at for free you aren't a robotfuck off
>>84887325>>84887338I know that I sound like a whiny bitch, but it's hard to explain my feelings, I am in awe for the fact that this whole relationship lasted this long she contacted me through IGN after highschool so I used the opportunity to vent, because believe it or not throwing your package to someone else feels incredible, that's why women do it.In my mind I did not even entertain the idea of us being together one day, I told an anon before here and he said that she likes me because no girl will stay on touch for this long.I thought I was just a good listener and conversationist because I read a lot of psychology books.
>>84887310I'm not one of these "guys" you speak of. I'm just here to call people retarded because it's funny.
>>84887345>I understand the fantasy of having a relationship with someone who sees you for who you are but sometimes the real you is a mother fucker that does not deserve that.>Also maybe it's embarrassment but I can't see myself sleeping next to someone who I told her all of this.I'm going to be real with you, man. This seems like self-sabotage, because you don't feel worthy enough to receive love. You want the shallower version, because you feel like you deserve it, yeah? Well, I'm going to tell you something: You are already a better person than most, because you are able to admit your flaws. The fact that she has a crush on you and you've already told her all of this means she sees it, too.
>>84887365>if you have a girl you can trauma dump at for free you aren't a robotYou're moving the goal post, the r9k opinion on female friends is that they just use guys as free therapist with zero romantic feelings. That's why if a guy has female friends who he wants to date he's screwing himself but if you accept the terms and use the relationship both ways, then how does that negates the fact that you're a robot? My autism alone should be enough for me to qualify.
>>84887383Thanks anon, that's really sweet of you to say, but even though I see your point, I don't know but I feel like it's more than self sabotage, it's like in my mind because of what I used to hear about female friends I categorized her in the "no sex table " I actually tried to imagine her in a sexy way but felt guilty, it was like fantasizing about your cousin or sister.I might have conditioned myself accidently.
>>84887392you're just another classic example of a normalfag larping as a robot so you can humblebrag hereso tiresome *yawn*
>>84887410NTA, but people should be able to post about their growth here. Robots just generally autistic and have a lot of the same struggles as you, even if not exactly. You really have no right to make this judgement for the board. I prefer these kinds of posts over the whiny self-loathing ones where people are just genuinely refusing to grow as people and face their problems head-on.
>>84887409>I actually tried to imagine her in a sexy way but felt guilty, it was like fantasizing about your cousin or sister. I might have conditioned myself accidently.No problem. Fair, fair. Well, I suppose maybe focusing on this would help you out. It may take time to unravel. If you just genuinely see her as a friend, that is reasonable, but it may be worth considering if you have been conditioned over the years to think a certain way. I commend you, nonetheless. You seem like you could grow into the person you want to be. Self-reflection is not easy.
>>84887452Wow, I genuinely appreciate your thoughts anon, sorry for being combative in my replies but I just wanted you guys to understand that it's not that simple.>You seem like you could grow into the person you want to be. Self-reflection is not easy.This is seriously one of the nicest things that I've ever heard. Saying thank you won't be enough, so I will try to tackle this issue more and I guess I just should tell her what I said here.Thank you anon again, and I hope you hear something as impactful from someone worthy in your life soon.
>>84887370meh.well anon, lemme ask you, do you like her? it doesn't even have to be like, a "romantic like", do you like her as a person?p.s. don't overthink it
>>84887480>Sorry for being combative No no, don't worry about that. This place is generally combative and you're posting about a sensitive matter, I wouldn't expect it to be any other way. lol That sounds like a good plan.I'm just happy to have been able to help you some. I appreciate the kind words. And I believe in you, anon o7 Keep it up, you've got this.
