Never had a girlfriend before but I got a new job a couple months ago and it's an office job so I've been dressing more sharp. I think I've caught the attention of a foid but I consider myself ugly so I can't be sure she's flirting with me.>work a job that requires me to go to a bank every so often>dice roll which bank teller I get>one of the tellers is a woman around my age, nerdy girl with big glasses>we make very basic small talk usually while she processes my deposit>most recent visit was a little more involved>she asked me quite a few questions>what's my favorite food>what's my favorite sweet treat>what's my favorite flower>mentions she lives by herself>when we were done with the deposit (which requires me to hand her my license ever tim) she wished me an early happy birthdaySignals seem strong to me but I've never asked a girl out before and I'd hate to fuck it up. Figure next time I see her I'll ask her some involved questions and ask for her birthday and see what kind of vibe I get before I try to make a move.
>>84912009You fucking retard. She was being nice because she saw how much was in your bank account.
>>84912013It's a deposit I have to make for my job, it's not my money.
>>84912009if you post on r9k she doesnt like you, end of story>b-butNO
>>84912019b-but :(
>>84912009Anon, the best advice I can give you:Don't think about it AT ALLDon't plan anything, don't analyze anything, don't even think about her until she's right in front of you.Just let the conversation flow naturally and don't force anything. If she really likes you she'll likely make the first move anyway
>>84912030It's too late I've already spent the whole day looking up conversation topics and dating advice
>>84912009Just ask her for her number. It's not so much what she thinks - you like her, you want to date her, the polite thing to do is ask for her number. It's less commitment than a date, and if she isn't interested, she'll show some discomfort or hesitation. Either way she will probably give you her number or her socials, and that way you can talk to her for a bit before asking her out. Just continue moving forward and don't really think about it - if it's gonna work out, it shouldn't be a momentual task to get with her.
>>84912049I have no dating experience so maybe I'm overthinking it but I always figured it'd be better to give my number than ask for hers and just leave it up to her if she wants to text me or not. Since it's not as forward if an approach though maybe it would give her the ick.
Would it be better to ask for her number or ask her out to a coffee date? Getting her number would probably just come incidentally if she agrees to grab a drink.
>>84912036Kek It's already over Just throw all that away and wing it, trust.Rehearsing like that is how you run out of things to say halfway through bc you're subconsciously going through a checklist (If you're anything like me at least xp)
>>84912018Bank tellers are trained to be nice anytime they see someone with big money. If you are making a deposit for a business her retarded foid brain will associate that money with you regardless of the circumstances. Once she finds out you are a wage cuck she will extract you for resources and leave you in the dust.
>>84912100She knows about my job as we've talked before. I'm definitely open to the idea that she's only just being nice but I don't think that's the reasoning.
>>84912061Forward is fine. Be forward. Ick isn't real. Ick is just what women do by communing with their local hivemind to cope with dating cringe (mostly their own selfmade cringe). In reality women are kinda hopeless, they need a man to shoot straight because most women don't know how to. Ask if she has any socials>Do you use Insta?>Do you use Snapchat?Create some accounts, add her. Don't worry if the accounts look new or whatever, it's even less commitment than asking for her number, it's smoother/relevant, and sidesteps the issue of flirting at her work. I get the feeling from women they don't like being socially cornered by a customer they have to interact with at work. A social ghost is easier than a text ghost, and less awkward for her and you. Don't look forward to results, look forward to the experience you're gonna learn. Whatever you learn, you'll be one step up from completely hopeless.
>>84912132Obviously create the accounts beforehand, this will be valuable even if this girl doesn't work out. Most women use some social media and those are like the top two for flirting and dms with people you actually have met.
>>84912132Guess I gotta make an Instagram and a Snapchat lol. If I make a move I'll ask for socials then, thanks friend.
Going to bed now bros. Might be a few days before serendipity allows me the chance to speak with her again. Will make a new thread as a follow up.
