How can I pretend to enjoy talking to men? Im straight and Im attracted to mens appearance but I cant really engage with the things they talk about. I feel like an inverted incel.
>>84914471Laugh at everything they say and give them sporadic, light physical contact. Then ask if they want to go out with you.
>>84914471What things do you enjoy talking about?
>>84914471Showing interest in someone else's interests has always felt fake and forced to me. I guess it's just because I'm an asshole who doesn't give a FUUUCK.
>>84914471Why would you waste your time pretending to be happy when you can actually choose to do the things that makes you happy?What is the logic here?
>>84914489I cant. I feel annoyed listening to most men talk in dating settings. It feels like I'm talking to an NPC whereas I can relate to women much more.
>>84914471find different men. with more intesresting hobbies
>>84914471what do you like to talk about? are you talking about normie modis? what do you talk to foids about?
>>84914497>What is the logic here?Im straight anon. I like dating men
>>84914471source of op pic is: https://x.com/chibitoad
>>84914471You can just find a man who talks about what you want to talk
>>84914506Find a man who wants to talk about makeup and naked pillow fights then.
>>84914515You don't want to ask them for cock directly? You want to talk first and you don't enjoy talking to them?
>>84914516Thanks>>84914510I feel kind of hesitant to say this because the anons here will just go "Actually, foids don't have brains" But Ive been talking to some men these past few weeks and I can't even count how many cat photos I've seen. It's always either their cats or their work or maybe games. I feel like women tend to have a wider variety of conversations. And of course, I want them to like me so I just pretend to listen and laugh. But its so boring that it makes me not want to date anymore.
>>84914537Okay but what are *your* interests. A lot of men being boring is not surprising, most normies are stale.
>>84914548They dont really ask about my interests or anything about me so we just end up talking about their interests.
>>84914560Look for ones who are interested in the other side instead of normie of the week then, and also just tell people if you feel it is one sided lol
>>84914560so what are your interests anon? what do you like talking about? do you have any hobbies? have you read any books or watched any interesting movies lately? are you working on any personal projects? just talk about yourself and not about the boring guys you don't even like
>>84914537>their cats or their work or maybe gamesWhat exactly do you want from people? What are you showing them? Dating isn't completely one sided. The fuck are you expecting? Them to show you these wild adventures they're on? 99% of people go and come from work and that's it daily. Everyone you ever talk to is going to be "boring" like this because life itself is boring. Good luck finding your rocket engineering race car driving mountain climbing husband. You posted an anime image so I can guarantee you have nothing interesting to talk about either.
>>84914586I think Im just going to forget about dating for a while and focus on making connections or friends even if I find some of them boring.
>>84914471You don't. You just find a guy you think is extremely handsome then everything he says becomes interesting.
>>84914609I just know this has never happened to you. Most handsome guys are boring. Their appearance isn't going to change that.
>>84914586>>84914603Her hobbies and interests involve going on r9k and looking for attention (not boring btw)
>>84914630My hobbies don't matter. The issue is that, as a straight woman, I find conversations with men boring. When I talk to women, I can easily engage in the conversation. Its not about me being Lara Croft and other people being NPCs.
>>84914537i think these moids are trying to flirt, you need a moid friend who does not care about your pussy
>>84914471>cant really engage with the things they talk aboutI feel like that with women sometimes, but I've found a few I can talk with.Try and specifically find a guy with some shared interests. Or you can do the opposite and find a guy who does things you have no idea about but think are interesting.Really it's good to have a mix of both but for a starter you really want one or the other. I generally try to figure out what someone's hobbies are and shoot from there. Literature, politics, philosophy, and such are also good starters and generally filter out less interesting people.
>>84914537They're trying, why do you feel like the responsibility to have interesting conversation lies solely on them? Oh.. yeah
>>84915016Im trying too by pretending to be interested
>>84914537>But Ive been talking to some men these past few weeks and I can't even count how many cat photos I've seen. It's always either their cats or their work or maybe games. I feel like women tend to have a wider variety of conversations. Simply put, most guys aren't going to engage in a deep conversation with you, and I don't mean that in a condescending way. Interacting with a woman for guys is like walking on thin ice. You don't know how frank you can be with a woman in a conversation without giving them the ick, so most guys are simply going to restrain themselves in a conversation. This is why, like it or not, guys don't tend to befriend women for platonic reasons (or consider them as anything more than acquaintances). We just don't share the same interests or humor, and women tend to be more likely to brush someone off if they've said or done something that they personally don't like. Obviously, that is a unpleasant experience for guys to go through so most have learned some mechanisms to avoid it.
>>84914471same desu this is how i feel talking to like 90% of moids on here and every single roastie i ever talked to it sucks
>>84914650You are making them carry the full weight of the conversation and then complain that it is boring. People normally like to react to someone else's life. That's how a conversation works. Try talking about yourself some.And why are you even talking with them? Is it purely platonic? Because that will never last beyond the surface level, every friendship between the sexes is step towards a relationship. And for a relationship, same hobbies really don't matter. The conversations about hobbies are supposed to highlight values, personality, deepen connection. So if you give them nothing to work with, you aren't really getting to know each other.
You don't need to pretend, you need to find something that actually sparks your interest. If you're unable to find it is on you. This isn't that hard, you just bounce on topics until you either find common ground or something or can show/learn from something that seems like you might like
