>be with woman I'm in a romantic relationship with, but not girlfriend.I'm not sure what you call that anons, I'm not that experienced>she tells me to open up more>tells me she won't feel closer to me until I show vulnerability>tells me she wants to be supportive about my feelings and stuff>tells me not to worry>says women are the more empathetic gender>I've heard before that the vulnerability thing is important to women>want to be able to have a healthy relationship >I figure that makes sense, she expects me to trust her if she's wanting to get more serious with me>believe her that she genuinely wants to know those kinds of things>tell her about one of my insecurities>>"okay">that's all she says about it>feel like I just got talked into shooting myself in the foot >feel like a giant idiot>don't know why I believed all that stuff she said>tell her I have to go run errands and leave>haven't texted her back sincewhy do women tell you to open up? why do they say they're the more empathetic gender? is it one big trick just to mock you? is it a shit test? I feel like an idiotI'm really autistic anons can you please explain this to me? I'd really appreciate knowing what to believe or not
>womenNigga, just learn to detect when a PERSON is lying.https://youtube.com/shorts/4jwUXV4QaTw
>>84914660I've already seen that video, it didnt really have applicable advice. I'm not a detective interrogating people for hours on end
>>84914637If a woman's lips are moving, she's lying
>>84914787I can't tell if you're being facetious or not
>>84914637A lot of women's behaviour is motived by fear that you will leave them or stop providing. They ask for vulnerability so they can hold it against you :/. She probably got anxious when you opened up since she now feels like there's something you don't have control over. If you let her know she doesn't need to get involved or worry about your issues then you should be ok.
>>84914736Nigga, please...https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=body+language
>>84914820You will have a very hard time ahead
>>84914822so she just wanted ammunition to hold over my head to like keep me? she didn't have to do that though I'm not a fickle person.>She probably got anxious when you opened up since she now feels like there's something you don't have control over.what's this mean? I don't understand
>>84914849>what's this mean? I don't understandA lot of times when this happens, the guy will open up about an insecurity or issue and suddenly the woman will get a massive spike of anxiety thinking there's an issue that he can't handle and she will have to step in and try to fix it. If you reassure her that you have it under control you can mitigate that reaction. I don't know why they bother asking if it's just going to upset them.
>>84914874wait so women don't actually want anything to do with your feelings or problems or anything? why do they ask so much about that stuff then? why did she trick me? she was really nice to me before but now she made me feel like an idiot and I don't know if I like her anymore.
>>84914637I don't know, for one I wouldn't force someone to be "vulnerable" with me out of the blue or they hesitate about it, it's more about being the kind of person they would be comfortable around, defeats the purpose if you're forcing them to spit it out if you aren't close enough I don't think she was necessarily doing it maliciously but it almost sounds like she was going with a script and maybe was expecting a different insecurity she could weigh in on
>>84915004I appreciate you trying to explain this stuff Anon, thank you. you seem smartwhy would she follow a script? I don't understand >maybe was expecting a different insecurity she could weigh in onoh like I said the wrong thing? was she trying to trick me or no? I feel like I got trickedI just don't understand why she implied that she wanted to be supportive but then seemed really careless after the fact. I guess that's why it felt malicious. I dunnowas I supposed to lie and make up something easy? I don't really know what I'm doing.I like being helpful and being supportive and stuff when women tell me about their insecurities so I thought she was asking me for the same reason, cause she got the same feelings from being helpful
shameless bump (it's okay cause I'm autistic)
>>84915038>was she trying to trick me or no?I meant more within the lines of following some standard advice that encourages vulnerability then she got mortified because it was more than she expected But that's one of many possibilities maybe she was trying to vet you with a leading question to get you to spill something you felt that you should hide. since she got cold feet anyways it wouldn't hurt to ask directly about what she thought of the revelation. Although if it sounds like you're accusing her she might just soft ghost and never give an answer
>>84915458well to be honest I'm not that interested in finding out what she thinks about it. I'm not going to be open anymore with her. I was more or less curious why all that happenedI appreciate it though Anon
they're trying to scan you for weaknesses and figure out if you'll give her the ickit's not about supporting you or whatever
>>84915485that sounds kinda evil and manipulative though. why would they do that?
>>84915038It'd prob be asier for us to give specific advice if you tell us what exactly the insecurity was that you told her about. If it was something like "I'm insecure about having a 1 inch erect penis." then like yeah, obviously that's a weird thing to suddenly bring up, and she'd probably lose interest over that.
>>84915563oh it was about me having a small penis
>>84915567Bro, you cannot be serious. If that's really the case, well then fucking duh, there's your answer. That's a weird thing to confess all of a sudden. No wonder she reacted the way she did.
>>84915585I thought that's what she wanted me to tell her
She's just repeating some bullshit she saw on TV or on tiktok about how couples are supposed to communicate. She doesn't know shit about what she wants from you or whatever. Women are not logical beings. They're literally TV race.She could've responded with "okay" for any number of reasons. Maybe she didn't have much to say. Maybe she thought you were cringe. Maybe she got anxious. It doesn't really matter. This is why you need to focus on YOUR frame and create the frame for her to place herself within the painting that your frame creates.
>>84915567you're fucking trolling, right?so you haven't even fucked her?if you're serious then how small are we talking
>>84915614No dude lmao. She was probably expecting something tame like "I think my nose is kinda weird." or "I'm kind of a civil war era history geek" or "Sometimes I worry that I'm coming off too strong.". Not bringing up your dick out of nowhere. Have you even been intimate yet? Cuz that's especially out of left field and inappropriate if you haven't.
>>84915652no I'm not trollingno we haven't had sex yetI usually avoid sex for the first time in my relationships until I'm positive they would be okay with me having a small penis beforehandit's 4.5 x 4.5>>84915714I don't have any other issues thoughand it wasn't out of nowhere, you keep saying that. she literally asked me to talk about my issues
>>84914637Number one rule every man should be taught before he reaches adulthood:Never believe anything a woman says.If she's upset about something, it has nothing to do with whatever she's telling you. Women are not logical, rational creatures. They are mentally children. And of course remember, all generalizations are false, including this one
>>84915737that's not even that small statistically dude. did you say small or did you give her the measurements? oh what am i saying it doesn't matter, you set yourself up for failure either way. just let her find out jext tike dumbass. if your dick is in her face there's a much lower chance of rejection
>>84915838I told her it was small. I thought she wanted me to be honest
>>84915856Stop trying to do whatever she tells you to and just be you. If you don't know who you are, you shouldn't be in a relationship.Trust me anon, she will get real tired of you trying to appease her very soon. Women want a man who can make his own decisions
>>84915567lmao its fucking over for you nigga
>>84914637>how to tell when women are lying or not?Are their mouths open, and is sound coming out? Then they're lying. Easy.
