When did you guys realize BPD is a made up condition to excuse adults who never aged mentally past being a toddler. They say they "split" when really they're just having temper tantrums that a child might have.
>>84917983damn she's so cold to still leave him after how helpful he's been. that's so cruel. poor dude
I have bpd it feels pretty real when I feel like killing myself after every conversation I have with another person because their body language and intonation when speaking didn't meet my expectations.
>>84918052>I have bpd it feels pretty real when I feel like killing myself after every conversation I have with another person because their body language and intonation when speaking didn't meet my expectations.A lot of people have deep emotions and feel a variety of things, the difference is that they aren't completely ruled by their emotions because they have an adults impulse control.
>>84918060>A lot of people have deep emotions and feel a variety of thingsNow intensify those emotions by 200% and way more often. That's what bpd is. People act like bpd people are demons but can you imagine involuntarily feeling like the walls are closing in any time something goes wrong in your life.
>>84918052i'm sorry let me speak with perfect FRIENDLY intonation OH WOW I LOVE YOU!!! I LOVE YOU. ARE YOU OKAY? DO YOU FEEL GOOD LITTLE BABY??? WOW YOU'RE SO BEAUTIFUL AND FUNNY!
BPD is realBPDemons are loosh algorithm npcs
>>84917983>oh my god he's so good to me>THIS MAKES ME FEEL EVEN WORSE!!!>IT'S BAD TOO!! HE SHOULD'VE CALLED ME A STUPID WHORE LIKE A NORMAL PERSON!!>MUH ABANDONMENT
>>84918119Uuhh doesn't really work in text buddy... didn't think you'd have to be told that
>>8491798380% of all the bullshit you niggas go on about on this entire board is fake.
>>84918147hes being sarcastic, retard>>84918117>"muh emotioshuns waaaaah!!!!"
>>84917983>BPD is a made up condition to excuse adults who never aged mentally past being a toddlerDude, it's due to severe trauma and yeah, it makes emotional regulation very difficult. Very similar to PTSD.
>>84917983>adults who never aged mentally past being a toddlerThat sounds like a mental disorder
>>84918166why do you think being emotional is a bad thing or something to be ashamed of. Well I already know the answer but I wanna see if you know and if you do, if you're man enough to admit it.
>>84917983If you don't react to outright disrespect and humiliation you're a faggot.
>>84918201what would you have done
yes that's literally what the condition isstunted emotional growth in childhoodthey are literally just less mature humans, and we live in the first world where immaturity is coddled and even glorifiedthis is how mental illness works retarddid you think they were actually functional full adults but were just play-acting at being immature baby-adults?
>>84918060Isn't disassociation a trauma response? Crash out or not the end result remains the same. At least a tantrum has some emotional release
you ever see chris chan and see how easily he's trolled into doing basically anything for an ounce of attention and validation?like do you think chris chan is faking being retarded?
>>84918212Depends on the mood, circumstance and person. Most of the things in my room are broken.
>>84917983BPD is literally just "adults who never aged mentally past being a toddler" syndrome though so idk what point you're making. These bitches are in fact retarded and psycho and having temper tantrums, but the reason it is considered a mental illness is that they keep doing this for their entire life. I see no issue with considering these women mentally ill, or having a name for what is wrong with them.
>>84918117Your emotions aren't special. There's no proof that the emotions people with "BPD" have are different from normal people.
>>84918255Tantrum or not you're still a lolcow. But it's way more gay when you just sit there and take it either a smile or even worse, go along with their games.
>>84918141granted, he should have called her a stupid whore and beat her ass before leaving, so she is right on these points
>>84918256So being an adult is just being a happy slave?
>>84918275It's about regulating yourself and acting with dignity instead of chimping out at every conceived slight or inconvenience that occurs to you.
>>84918286Man half the people I see outside must have bpd then. Isn't slighting someone or inconveniencing them out of impulse not emotionally regulated and dignified? One side can act but the cant react
>>84918306Undignified*
>>84917983It's real but it's something that's learned through childhood experiences. It's easily unlearned however and not an excuse.
>>84917983bitch got btfolove to see it>>84918052waaah waahgrow the fuck upwe all feel shame etc, just learn to think of the other person and how your actions might affect them>>84918117cool, but youre still a demon that doesnt stop to think about how the other person may feel. its really just a lack of empathy and all about "me me meee!!!"
>>84918306>Man half the people I see outside must have bpd then.They aren't functioning adults that's true, but that doesn't mean they have BPD.
>>84918256>There's no proof that the emotions people with "BPD" have are different from normal people.https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4153735/don't spread misinformationBPDemons are evil but they also do in fact hurt more
>>84918344>>BPD patients demonstrated greater differences in activation than controls, when viewing negative pictures compared to rest, in the amygdala, fusiform gyrus, primary visual areas, superior temporal gyrus (STG), and premotor areas, while healthy controls showed greater differences than BPD's in the insula, middle temporal gyrus and dorsolateral prefrontal cortex (BA46).More in some areas, less in some areas. How is your conclusion that they hurt more? The evidence doesn't point towards that.
>>84918344there is serious debate amongst experts about grouping it with cptsd
>>84918330>youre still a demon that doesnt stop to think about how the other person may feelThe most common struggle people with bpd face is constantly thinking about how other people feel. I really hope you're a troll because it would be genuinely embarassing for you if you are actually this ignorant.
>>84918377>The most common struggle people with bpd face is constantly thinking about how other people feel.False BPD propaganda. People with BPD routinely do evil things that no normal person would do.
>>84918433You wouldn't even know a bpd person if you saw one I'm glad pulling factoids out of your ass is a fun hobby for you though
>>84917983>girldinnerdiariesdid she not post her dinner? i want to see her dinner
>>84918482#NOTALLBPDPEOPLE
>>84917983I feel like you could short circuit BPD meltdowns through playful mimicry. Just chaos mog them enough to be in the driver's seat of the interaction for a moment and then start giggling
>>84918433they're not conflicted about it all. they all follow a specific pattern of love bombing and betrayal discard.they performatively pretend they're remorseful to double dip on the confusion and sufferingalso so that people won't just clock them as emotional parasites and bail like they should
>>84918735People with BPD just abuse the goodwill that is inherent in most normal people and society.
>>84917983You're confusing illnesses and personality disorders. The latter only describes personality traits and behavior, it does not argue that there's some uncontrollable genetic cause for it. You clearly agree that BPD exists, because you acknowledge women with the emotional regulation normally only found in children existing.>>84918377You make it sound like it's some heightened form of empathy when in reality they're only thinking about others for selfish or manipulative reasons. Either they're paranoid and thinking that they're being abandoned, or they're thinking about ways to hurt/ensnare the other party. And it doesn't go paired with a high level of social intelligence either - they often misread.
>>84918814>You make it sound like it's some heightened form of empathyBecause it is, meanwhile you're making them sound like meth addicts. Which confirms my beliefs that you're basing everything that you're saying off of anectodes that you've heard about bpd people which may or may not be real. Also because you're just a bitter person that enjoys having a supposed reason to hate people.
>>84918856If people with BPD have a heightened form of empathy why is relationship success for BPD people even lower than people with conditions like Schizophrenia or even serious drug addicts?
>>84918877because emotionally unstable people have a hard time staying in relationships and bpd people are delusionally emotionally unstable. That's why bpd is considered a mental illness.
>>84918877Because of all the pain is too much for us to control and we end up lashing out.
>>84918877It's funny, my sister is BPD, and she always claimed to be uniquely empathetic to the point that she felt like she had special, almost magical empathetic powers. What she and other BPD cunts don't realize is that they are purely putting up a mirror in front of themselves and they don't understand normal people at all. They think everyone is like them, so it's a form of narcissism in that the world purely resembles their own conceptions.Empathy means understanding and accurately gauging other's feelings and emotions. BPD bitches don't have any of that, they just "feel" whatever shit allows them to have a tantrum at any moment because that's how they get attention
>>84918916>>84918919Maybe you should use your superhuman empathy to understand what you're doing is hurting your partner and not do it in the first place. Kek.
>>84918877NTA but because empathy aka sensitivity to others emotions is a fucking curse. You not only have no armor to other people's attacks, you suffer fucking recoil damage when you hurt others, even unintentionally
>>84918943>>84918949>you suffer fucking recoil damage when you hurt others, even unintentionallyThis so much. You have no idea how hard it is to hurt and feel so much.
>>84918931sounds right except it's not about attention as much as it is about lack of emotional control. Most bpdemons never get treatment and just live their lives being ticking time bomb pieces of shit but if they actually took their meds and did their dbt therapy they would come close to being an actual person
>>84918931>she always claimed to be uniquely empathetic to the point that she felt like she had special, almost magical empathetic powersI can totally feel where she's coming from. It's not easy to have these powers and responsibilities. Some times it's too much...
>>84918943I accept your concession with +200% of my heart
>>84918117Get over it. You're developmentally disabled. Nobody gives autistic or ADD people any slack over their infantile outbursts.
>>84918977Just ignore everything this fucking guy says he's the reason why bpd people get a bad wrap. fym >Some times it's too much.. just rope or get raped and get too much dick in your ass instead of your feelings soft little baby boy
>>84918192it's maladaptive plain and simplenta
>>84918986>Nobody gives autistic or ADD people any slack over their infantile outbursts.yeah but nobody demonizes them over it either. You're asking me to stop acting like its a big deal when people are acting like its a big deal.
>>84918856>>84918949Empathy and sympathy are different things. Feeling for other people is very different from -understanding- people and being able to see the world from their perspective. BPD people don't understand their own emotions and behavior, so what makes you think that these people understand the inner workings of regular people? If they had that level of social intelligence, then they wouldn't have BPD. >>84918931This is true. And because the people they ensnare often end up heavily adjusting to them they get this false sense of confidence about being "empathic". They don't really get refuted because their SO's are aware of their sensitivity, so their misinterpretations just don't get mentioned. Not that discussing it would help; their social intelligence is too low to truly understand their misgivings and it'd just result in more outbursts.
>>84918377Caring about how other people's emotions impact you is different from caring about other people's emotions.
>>84919031Not gonna lie you do not come across as someone with high social intelligence, in fact I feel a hint of Asperger's. Food for thought
>>84919033>Caring about how other people's emotions impact you is different from caring about other people's emotions.Every BPD retard BTFO in a single sentence.
>>84918949You raise a good point, I always forget that when foids say empathy they only mean emotional contagion which they think is somehow useful and superior to cognitive empathy, which they are less good at.>>84919031Those are both empathy just different forms. Sympathy is pity or relateability.
>>84919057>calm and reasoned explanation>ad hominem defense trying to sound cleverYeah someone hear has low social intelligence and Asperger's.
>>84918237That's why he trooned out, because he knows those people will accept anyone as long as you have 0 right leaning beliefs
You are all morons that are not capable of understanding a concept because of a preconcieved notion. No matter what anyone says you'll just go on and on about how bpd people are the spawns of satan and the funny part is is that it is very likely that none of you have ever knowingly interacted with a bpd person. It's really simple really. You guys hate niggers, you hate women, you hate fags, you hate jews, bpd people are just another group up people that you can hate and spend time talking on 4chan about how much you hate them, how could you say no? They deserve it anyways since they are always ruining relationships. Makes you wonder how they get in relationships in the first place and yet none of you are able to. Which actually makes you worse then a bpd person since you can't even get in a relationship to ruin it.
>>84919101>No uNigga...
>>84919057It's funny, because my general giftedness and high level of social intelligence were amongst the arguments my psychologist used to immediately rule out Asperger's back when I was a teen. Me not having sympathy for BPD demons does not mean that I am unempathic or socially unintelligent. You would have preferred for me to pretend that it's some genetic disorder completely out of your control - some neurochemical problem that makes your emotions different from the emotions of regular people - but it's not that difficult to understand why you actually suffer. Don't worry though, I'd fake sympathy if I had to deal with you in real life, just like every other person that interacts with you. Woe is you.
>>84919120It's not just 4chan. Everyone on the internet hates people with BPD, and for good reason. Notice how people don't ubiquitously hate the other groups you've mentioned on the internet. Yet nearly everyone hates people with BPD.
>>84919120I'm happily married actually and my BPD sister is nearly totally estranged from the family because of the total destruction she left in her wake, and is now living somewhere in the midwest as far away as possible from all of her many victims here at home. I know exactly what the fuck BPD means. I know that it took me years to recover from multiple traumatic experiences with that fucking evil bitch. And to protect my own marriage I will be no contact with her until my death.Maybe if she admitted she at least had a problem, maybe if she tried to get help, but no, never. She's a special, gifted individual and we are actually the nasty, manipulative, evil ones victimizing her. Forever a victim. She cries out as she rips her family to shreds and milks the last possible bit of goodwill left.
>>84919120If you're so helpless you have to use people, while making their lives a living hell, to get through life maybe you shouldn't be living. There is no place in this world for BPDemons.
>>84919141I said a hint of Asperger's, brother. But either way read your own posts. First paragraph reeks of neurodivergence. Second paragraph is gishgallop with a heavy focus on your own ego. You're pretending to be a balanced human being but trust me everyone sees through that shit, even if your personality is too confrontational for them to call you out on it irl
>>84919124not the same anon tho, nice try
>>84919162you and your family failed your sister. simple as.
>>84919179Alas, I am undone
>>84919151wow good point! if anything you just said was true and it isnt so you're still just an idiot actually
>>84919120Imagine writing that exact paragraph about sociopaths or psychopaths.>"None of you understand sociopaths!! You all just think sociopaths are demons!! Huh, it's funny that sociopaths get relationships and you don't!!"Rewrite your post but replace "bpd" with "sociopath" and let me know if you'd still stand by it.Also, before you say "oh but that's different!", look into studies on overlap between borderline and sociopathy.>Studies show that BPD and ASPD share a massive genetic overlap - with genetic correlation tracking around 73% - rooted in a common foundation of high impulsivity and emotional dysregulation. Because of this shared vulnerability, clinical research finds that up to 57% of individuals in treatment settings meet the criteria for both conditions, with the underlying traits frequently manifesting as BPD in women and ASPD in men.
>>84919181Nobody owes a 40 year old adult anything. Personal responsibility applies to everyone and that only grows as you get older.
>>84919213I'm giving you this (you) just to tell you that I didn't read your post and in case you were wondering why, its because I dont give a fuck. toodeloo, goober.
>>84919173Neurodivergence yes, in the sense that I'm confirmed to be significantly more (socially) intelligent than regular people. You're misinterpreting the Asperger's part though.>Gish gallopUse a dictionary.>confrontationalThis is funny too. I'm one of the least confrontational people you'll meet, because I'm always adapting to simpletons. There's no use being argumentative in real life, but on the internet it doesn't really matter. You'd probably like me, one of my friends has BPD and they often vent to me (though I do keep boundaries). FWIW I don't hate you people and I do feel sorry for you, because it's a very tiresome way to live, but it's a personality disorder and not some disease that you can't control. It's you. You are responsible for it. Even if one is predisposed to it, it won't trigger unless they lack (emotional) intelligence.
>>84919235you're right bro. Life is about responsibility and accountability and making sure you're a functioning member of society. If she can't do that without her own flesh and blood supporting her when times get tough then she's a fucking failure.
>>84918360nta but yes, exactly, bpd people had the parts that regulates fear, vision and motor centers act up while normal ones had the thinking parts light up more, basically
most mental disorders are fake, in that we dont really understand what they are, how they work, or what causes them, and there almost certainly isnt some specific nodule of specific brain tissue that specifically is "BPD" or "ADHD" or whatever else, but rather theres clusters and spectrums of ways the brain can dysfunction and if you have enough of them in a similar way to a certain degree they call that "BPD" or "ADHD" or whatever else but i bet any two people with the same disorder are as likely to have brains misfiring in completely unrelated ways.
>>84919695Would you agree ADHD is made up bullshit to sell drugs to kids?
I had a GF with severe mood swings and episodes where she hated my guts. Being with her was being with a human who was very troubled and conflicted internally. One day she loved me, the other I was the worst thing that happened to herShe used ghosting and cold treatment very often, I believe as a means of control and punishmentDoes she have BPD or is this something else?
>>84919695Yes and no. I agree we have a very poor understanding of mental disorders, and I think psychology has a bad tendency to view their current model as ground truth rather than just a model that may have inaccuracies. But I don't think they view disorders as "part X of the brain works wrong". They resist that intensely, because if it's true your primary care doctor can just order an MRI and diagnose you. They want you stuck in years of therapy where they can't tell you what the roadmap is and if it doesn't work it's your fault. Oh and you "need the right fit". Imagine if a surgeon had a 20% success rate and you needed a surgeon with the right personality.Look at autism. There is tons of evidence of physical correlations, double whorl, 15% larger brain, but they keep it tightly controlled as a psych disorder only psychs can diagnose. And if a proposed physically-based diagnosis disagrees with theirs, theirs is assumed to be correct, even though it's constantly changing. Aspergers is a thing, nevermind, ADHD rules out autism, nevermind.Fucking clown field and yes I'm seething.
>>84917983holy fuck all foids are children and should be treated as such
>>84917983>X isn't real>it's just (description of the symptoms)why do people do this?if an adult has the impulse control of a toddler isn't that a serious mental illness?
>>84918192hour later, but whatever.it isnt anything to be ashamed of. being a complete slave to your emotions is. i dont know why bpdtards use emotions as an excuse when it just makes them look even more immature.
bpd = hyperfemininityif you don't like it then you are gay, you just want a bf with a pussy
>>84920615This. It's just women being fucking hysterical and was dealt with by telling them to shut up and grow the fuck up in the past.
>>84920641truke (truth nuke)
>>84920641that checks out, damn
>>84918162its been like that ever since that myers briggs horoscope bullshit got a permanent place on this board, that marked the end of the transition to a performative pick me competition about manufactured identities
>>84918256>um bpd doesn't exist sweaty>oh my god why is this person screaming their lungs out and pulling out a knife because I slightly raised my voice oh god oh fuck this is insane
>>84918052i wish you the absolute worst. i really do. entirely unironically. not even reading the rest of the thread
I don't have bpd but I run into fights like this with my bf a lot, of which we just had one less than two weeks ago. "Getting angry at him for not matching my energy" is so real. In the moment it feels like he is choosing not to see your point of view but is instead grandstanding calmness as a dig. But that's not accurate- he just has a different conflict style. I like to push and get it solved even if it hurts, my bf likes to take a break if it gets too heated because he feels steamrolled. Neither one is wholly correct but pushing and screaming is. Horrible cycle if you can't be self aware because it makes you feel like a bad person. I wonder if she also had a mother that would play the silent treatment for days and make you beg her to please talk to her, please mommy I'm sorry, please look at me please look at me LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME. It damages a person
I'm so glad I had the opposite trauma response and act like a robot instead of a permanent toddler
>>84917983god i wish that were metell me bros when they act out like this do they ever get horny? like could you resolve the situation by just starting to fuck her? that's how i imagine myself in one of those situations
>>84921114The makeup sex after you talk it out and mutually apologize is exquisite, both parties go harder
>>84921118You could also say you won't forgive her until you fuck
>>84921137That would make her feel more abandoned and more aggro. Prob would fuck a random guy.
>>84921207It's a riskier move with a higher reward, you could either have the most mindblowing sex of your life or lose her completely
>>84919120You are the biggest faggot on this board, bar none.
>>84921360I think it's because he has BPD and is defending himself
>>84921118god it's so unfairalthough i meant more in the moment, as she screams at you, you just start kissing her etc.
>>84920882>oh my god why is this person screaming their lungs out and pulling out a knife because I slightly raised my voice oh god oh fuck this is insaneBecause they have the impulse control of a toddler with the body of an adult. A toddler would also pull out a knife and try to stab you if they could.
>>84921407>thinkwhat the fuck is the ambiguity here, i don't even think he's pretending not to be lol
>>84921462And that is an atypical response/behavior. All mental illnesses/disorders are things that everyone experiences at some point in their lives intensified everyone hallucinates but it's not schizophrenia, everyone gets anxious or panics but it's not an anxiety disorder>try to stab youthey just stabbed themselves and the blood is getting everywhere and now they'll call the cops and frame it on you
>>84920641>Hyperfemininity means being an immature child prone to tantrumsno
>>84919934hard to tell, perhapsmaybe she was just evilmaybe she was cheating on youmaybe she resented you and couldn't control it some daysusually, with women like that, it's usually either BPD or just cheating
>>84918255I'm fine with it as long as I can just lock her up in basement or other room and wait her demon phase out for her own good. As long as system punishes me for that, they everybody can go fuck themselves.
