I'm so sad thinking about all my long term friends who ghosted me. I cried over them and got emotionally invested in them and they just abandoned me like my time wasn't worth anything.99 percent of them was long distance pals but one of them was my soc ex boyfriend who abandoned me because of my autismI'm jelly of people who never get ghosted or blocked. I get blocked by people I get attached to.
>>84923764I'll be your friend OP don't worry I'll never leave
you ghost five mill people too
I got ghosted by two people recently, and one of them I had been talking to for months. Why do women do this? It's like their default mode, and then they wonder why guys open conversations with dick pics and treat them like nothing but holes, what else can you do with them? No point in trying to be friends or form any kind of relationship when they just randomly cut you out and you'll never even know why.
>>84923822because they are spoiled with options
>>84923764Don't you have a boyfriend, chicken? why the fuck are you sad about people in your past when you have a boyfriend currently?? is there never enough attention to do the black hole of your soul??? wtf is wrong with you. pathetic piece of shit.
>>84923849Yea she mentions and thinks about them so much, you would think she still wants them. All that brainpower could be used to better herself and think about the future with her boyfriend but no
>>84923914>chickn>all that brainpowerwow, feeling generous today aren't we anon
>>84923764>You're a girl>You're getting ghostedHalf of me wants to say it's your fault.The other half thinks you have BPD and actually wants to comfort you and tell you as long as you didn't act out, you will be okay.I am sympathetic to BPD girls. Most here aren't. The only problem is they need to understand they are responsible for their behavior and their feelings don't make them entitled to people giving them special treatment.>Usually once they realize this they get the destructive habits under control and then it's just about learning emotional regulation.>Autism.What kind of autism? This is over diagnosed now, ESPECIALLY in women.
>woman complains about being ghostedGhosts thread.>many such cases
>>84924087Thank u for the well thought out reply but I don't have borderline just autism...Idk why people ghost me I think I'm just unlikeable as a person. And I think it's my autism and me being immature because of my autism.I was diagnosed with autism before it was relevant in the mainstream.Getting emotional about the people who ghosted me won't bring them back I know I just need to move on
>>84924176You were kind so now I have to be nice to you.>Diagnosed before it was coolAre we talking Chris Chan autism level or love on the spectrum level?>IDK why ghosted, guess I'm unlikable cause immature.Define immature and who is ghosting you.Are you immature in I can't take you to a work family day event because you will start being only focused on yourself and weird autistic hobbies?Or are we talking you throw tantrums and do stupid childish shit?I can say now that a girl who is "immature" in a way where she watches anime, plays vidya and makes cute noises doesn't drive guys away.But a girl who has autistic meltdowns when a guy tells them not to do something then screams at them for them making her feel bad is a deal breaker.>How to move onIn what sense? You seem to think this is a state of permanence. It isn't. It feels like it is and if you are autistic you are hyper fixated on it. But like everything, eventually you will move on and process it.The how varries. I've had success with multiple approaches.>Instead of fighting it dwell on it so hard you begin to get sick of it. Eventually you get repulsed with the things that remind you of themNot sure if it's right for you>Staying busyMost effective for guys, but not always the right move and if you break down randomly it can seem like cope.>Move on to someone newPeople will say this is unhealthy, but my longest and most meaningful relationships were all rebounds. I stopped caring about the other person and became invested in the other.However if you are just filling a void with someone new and not addressing the core problems, you may repeat the same mistakes.Autistic people can be a bit selfish.Always try and be aware of that.If you want advice on how to keep a guy clinging to you and never letting go>Be nice to him>Give him sex constantly >Be okay with doing threesomes >Don't get fat>Bathe and make an attempt to look presentable
>>84924277Girlfailure type of autism. I struggle doing basic chores like making the bed. I can take out the garbage bags and take out the clothes from the washing machine though.I just get emotionally invested in people I meet online... I think I need to be more nonchalant.And I do have meltdowns but they're like once a year.Thank you again for the long reply but I understand it's something I gotta fix for myself
Thought this was chickn at first
>>84924420>I struggle doing basic chores like making the bed. I can take out the garbage bags and take out the clothes from the washing machine though.Girl failures are endearing but you need to consider the line between messy and filthy. Putting aside a single day to handle all the tasks usually helps for tism people. Making a bed is over rated. I legit only use a fitted sheet and comforter for that reason.>get emotionally invested in people I meet online... I think I need to be more nonchalant.Also endearing. But the question becomes are you seeking attention from multiple sources all the time or do you stay invested in someone once you fixated on them.>Understand it's something I gotta fix myself Correct, but you have to diagnose the issue correctly too. If you are the discord kitten to a bunch of fuck boys you need to understand it's a selection issue.If you are pushing them away then they ghost you, you have to pinpoint what you are doing.If you make everything about you then make fun of them when they open up.... You get the idea.So far what you are describing is dream girl girl failure stuff that we all know attracts men like flies to shit.If your only solution is "need to be more emotionally numb bro" you may open more issues for yourself and exibit new behavior with new problems.I'm not a professional though.I also dunno what your situation TRULY is.Have you met up with these people IRL?
>>84924637Nta but Hey are you photography anon?
>>84924656I am.Holy shit is my writing style that obvious? Lol Is this the same girl who takes pics too?
>>84924718It was mostly a shot in the dark based on the Gif you sent lol. But yes I am that girl, nice to run into you again. Wasn't sure you'd remember me. Or if I was even right
>>84924793Honestly you were one of the most memorable people I have spoken with, especially since it started with me upsetting you and ended with us sharing photography.Btw green apple energy powder mix is on sale on Amazon right now.I wanted to keep going cause it was interesting especially with the story of you going clean.Was hoping we'd run into each other again. Any new photos or life updates?
>>84924793Also that pic made me lol, I'm saving it
>>84924862Well thank you, I definitely remembered you too, especially since I loved your pictures. >Btw green apple energy powder mix is on sale on Amazon right now.Yum. I love green apple. Best flavour ever >I wanted to keep going cause it was interesting especially with the story of you going clean.Have any questions you want to ask? >Any new photos or life updates?Sadly no new photos I could post on here. I saw my friend again, the one I had told you about, it was her birthday recently and I went to see her. Spent some time over at her house and watched some movies. Took lots of pictures together so I could remember it and she actually drew me a picture of us!! It's so amazing, wish I could show it. It was one of those one-line pen drawings. Anything interesting happen with you? >>84924875Kay
>>84925005>Have any questions you want to ask?I was gonna pick up on where we left off cause when we talked about you going sober I was interested in what the meds were...But now that feels like such a downer since you're back and I'm being all gay and excited and such.What movies you guys watch?I have had a hard time sitting and watching movies lately and tend to follow docs and stuff. I dunno a lot of newer movies just don't hit like it used to for me...>Anything interesting happen with you?Quite a bit.Had a birthday not too long ago, and reconnected with a friend I thought died which was a hell of a surprise.My ex also got back in touch with me after half a year of not talking to me.I'm getting a giant oak tree cut down and have had issues coordinating with my neighbor cause she is hard to talk to... Kinda, hung out with my nephew who moved to New York, hung a curtain rod, but the most important thing is my dollar store has all the lost hard to find name brand energy drinks I have been desperately searching for!
>>84925089That feel when she is less excited to see you again than you were to see her....I now know OP's pain
>>84925089>what the meds were...Just psych meds. Just abused them by taking too many at once a couple times. Would take like 6 Lexapros to feel tired and sick >What movies you guys watch?Dark City. It was good imo but there were some cheesy parts. I have a hard time focusing on movies too. It's like trying to pull teeth. >Had a birthday not too long agoHappy late birthday!! >reconnected with a friend I thought died which was a hell of a surprise.How'd that happen? >My ex also got back in touch with me after half a year of not talking to meErrr good thing or bad thing? Sounds like you've been very busy lol. I haven't done anywhere near as much as you. What kinda drinks?
>>84925407>6 LexaprosThat's a weird one. I was expecting Opioids or Adderall. Also one of the most dangerous to abuse because it's an SSRI. Those can screw your brain hard and be really hard to recover from. Quitting cold turkey is about of the question cause it can send you into seizures.I'm glad you are better now though. I was lucky enough to find the fix for my depression but not everyone else is.>Dark City. It was good imo but there were some cheesy parts.Now THAT is a deep 90s cut. Who suggested it?I was a wee little lad when that movie came out, always wanted to watch it but never got around to it. Thanks for reminding me it exists, I think I'll put it on my to do list.>How'd that happen?She was a very depressed lesbian who dated the same girl I was hooking up with. We got along great, then we hooked up. (Yes she was definitely a lesbian, I was just an exception). She was always suicidal and had mental problems, then one day decided they were trans. I moved and they stopped writing to me. I attempted to look them up but the old apartment and number are no longer theirs so I thought they joined the 41%On my birthday they text asking if it was me. They're happy now and no longer suicidal, but went from looking like a jacked butch tomboy lesbian to if she had a fat gay brother. Lol.>Errr good thing or bad thing?Good. Mostly.I kinda wrote her off. She is incredibly attractive. Basically said she wants to keep boning.>You've been busy. I haven't been as busyAn uptick that came out of nowhere. Also accepting letting some things go lead to things getting better. It's a little hard to explain but kinda tied to the ex. I own a home, we were supposed to move in together and live a normie life.It didn't happen. I don't think I will fulfill that part of my life but I am quite comfortable with the peace I found over time instead of being desperate for love.>What drinksBANG (sour ropes, skittles flavor, crisp apple,) Rockstar (orange whip cream), G fuel
>>84925573I will respond back in a little bit but I have to go for now. Will respond in about 1 hour
>>84925407Do you still struggle with depression and stuff?Depression gets thrown around a lot as a term for people who are just sad or have shitty external factors that make life suck.But when you feel like a burden to everyone and guilty for just existing it's the worse.
>>84925597Okay fren.I like talking to you.Have fun doing whatever you gotta do.
>>84925573>Also one of the most dangerous to abuse because it's an SSRIYeah I got really sick from it once. Laying on bathroom ground, shaking, gagging and stuff, cold sweats. >I was lucky enough to find the fix for my depression but not everyone else is.What is it? >Who suggested itShe suggested it. It was amazing desu. I love how all the scenes looked. >Thanks for reminding me it exists, I think I'll put it on my to do list.You won't regret it Well I'm happy you got back into contact with her, how are things going? >Basically said she wants to keep boning.Lol >instead of being desperate for love.I just started dating someone today >BANG (sour ropes, skittles flavor, crisp apple,) Sounds amazing >>84925612Yeah I still struggle with it. But it's been easier since starting my new meds My replies will be slow btw. I'm watching something
>>84926314>What is it?Neurostar TMS. When you look at the studies it's absolutely insane we take the chemical route first and not TMS.>>84926314>Yeah I still struggle with it. But it's been easier since starting my new medsAs long as it's working. The chemical route usually has unintended side effects that just make depression worse for a lot of people. I will say the non SSRI stuff like Wellbutrin aren't bad.SSRIs, I have always seen them do more harm than good.>I just started dating someone todayAwwww that's adorable. Cute story or a new romance for you?I'm not bitter about other people finding love. But for some reasons my relationships always turn into women doing shitty things to me, then getting upset at me for being upset with what they did, then getting upset I break it off and stick up for myself.Also the energy drinks were all $1.25 a can. I bought it in bulk. A nice lady helped me carry out all my cans. It was nice of her to offer to do that.
>>84926422Happy you found something that works for you! I still sorta struggle with it but my meds significantly help. ]SSRIs, I have always seen them do more harm than good.Wellbutrin worked amazingly but I had to stop taking it cause it was another one I abused. >Cute story or a new romance for youWe've known each other for a year. It's kinda just been building up to this. I'm hopeful about it. But my past relationships were shit, some my fault, some their fault. >Also the energy drinks were all $1.25 a can.Amazing >It was nice of her to offer to do that.That is nice. Also, I need to go to bed. Sorry. It was nice running into you again
