How to blame are the parents if their kids become NEET losers?
>>84927746He has a job and pays for his own stuff, he's not a NEET. His parents are retarded.
If one of my parents was a redditor I think I would blow my brains out.
This atomization mindset running through society is poison. It's not normal for families to break apart physically, you were conned into it by standards set throughout the baby boomer years, because it was so easy back then. You're supposed to either have 3 generations under one roof or live as a communal tribe, everything else causes severe mental illness and is a precursor to a birthrate decline.
>>84928158This but unironically. We're supposed to live in small tribes where the majority of our lived experience is just hanging out with each other enjoying the fruits of a hunt or whatever. The reason everyone is so fucking miserable is because we literally didn't evolve for any agricultural based lifestyle.
>>84928158This is no better than being a jeet. This is exactly what jeets do, and look at how dysgenic they are.
>>84927746>he needs to move out when he's 27 because his insurance runs outHuh? I don't understand this. What insurance? This is obviously some American thing. Is there a burger anon that cares to explain this?
>>84928227that's the maximum age that a non-disabled unemployed dependent can stay on their parents/guardians insurance
>>84928233ignore that part about unemployed, i was thinking of something else and typed it absentmindedly. it's only disability taken into account
>>84927746I'd argue it's mostly a combination of parents + current social & economic climate.Society has provided no reason not to NEET, so men will thus NEET.
>>84928248That image pretty much sums it up desuBeing both overbearing and completely useless, a perfect storm really.
>>84927746I mean largely but not totally; the current structure of individualistic parenting, no community help, often not even a familial network, just isn't natural and it's not conducive to raising a healthy individual. Add on to that the economic realities forcing parents to use surrogates like public school systems to raise and teach their kids, the online and media influences they're exposed to, it's a hard world to bring a kid up in and have them be successful by any metric. The parents are right, and they're wrong. If I hadn't been kicked out with no money at 18, forced to figure it out and survive, I would have been just like him or worse. If I wasn't raised in a broken, unsafe home by people who didn't know themselves how to be adults, if we had a real community for me to build off of, if there was any real opportunity afforded to me or any drive instilled in me, I would have been much better off than I am now. If you blame the parents you have to examine where their failures come from, and while there are absolutely individual things that they're responsible for, if you follow the lead it becomes obvious that the issue is much larger than them. My father was an abusive alcoholic, so was his, and so was my grandpa's dad. I blame him for the way he was and how it effected us, but I also realize that it's how he was raised, and the problems are generational, so what chance did he really have to be different? It's hard to break the cycle if you don't see it for what it is, and once you do, it's easier to empathize. We're a society of broken people raising broken people more often than not. The best thing would be for parents to understand that, if they want their kids to do better, then they have to be better. "Do as I say, not as I do" never works, and 9/10 times your kids will largely become a reflection of you, your flaws, your biases, etc. so knowing yourself is necessary to fostering a kid to become better than you.
>>84927746imagine having such shit parents, zoomeroids my heart is with you
>>84927746>zero discipline>expects him to do shit when you ask100% parent's fault. Worthless cowards who failed to prepare their child for reality and assume he'd just "pick it up" somewhere (where? fucking public school?). Tired of listening to losers whine about who their child became when they let him stare at his phone for 6 hours a day.
>>84929040>failed to prepare their child for reality and assume he'd just "pick it up" somewhere
>>84928248This pic ruined my day dude. Rethink sharing this>tfw 31 year old overprotected neet that has to lie to my mother all the time She has no idea I went across country alone and never will
>>84928213they may be dysgenic, but they are not suicidal, they are breeding and they are not incels (arranged marriages)
>>84927746Parents who charge their kids rent and expect them to move out by x age are soulless idiots who never actually wanted kids and don't truly love their kids. And I'm sorry for anyone cursed to have such jackasses as parents.
my parents never had to do very much because i never needed help in school and always did what i was told. they sheltered me too much when i was little and forbade to go out to the park with the other kids and let me play gameboy all day and that probably fucked me up. their best efforts couldn't save me from being an ugly duckling, being neurodivergent, short and mentally ill. i see evidence of them being shit parents in my sister who is 40-year-old womanchild who weighs a quarter ton and still lives at home. they spoiled the shit out of her and now i don't know how much longer she has to live.
>>84927746>making your child pay rentactual mindraped goycattle holy shit
>>84927746If you were a normie in school and went to prom and shit then youre mostly to blame, if not then your parents dun fucked up
I don't recall my parents ever teaching me to do the laundry or washing up then one day when I was 15 they started absolutely screeching at me for not doing any chores.So I did my chores like a good boy then asked my dad to teach me to drive, since all the other kids at high school were talking about how they scared their dad braking suddenly and having a laugh and they both gave me a resounding "no". I tried to reason with them, I told them everyone else's parents were different, sociable, joking and would do this for their own kids, even if they were poorer than us, but they didn't even talk about it just started screeching at me again.It was a complete brick wall, up until that life they were everything in my life and I thought everything was normal. Gradually though I realize these people didn't actually see me as a human being, not like everyone else, they would be like friendly and courteous to strangers but then it was brick wall for me. They weren't giving an inch. They had decided at some point they hated me even though I was just a kid and I was no longer part of the family franchise and they were just going to do the bare minimum, just like many normies decide I shouldn't be included, except these were my parents. I suppose that's what many parents do when they realize their son isn't a socially animated chad and he no longer looks like a cute boy.
>>84928248That image is a truth nuke. My parents were overbearing but never actually taught me anything. Both my brother and I turned up husks without motivation or social circle so it isn't just a me problem.
>>84927746Why do I get the feeling this guy is going to murder his parents within the next six or seven years?
>>84930848>six or seven67
>>84930144yeah reading it was almost overwhelming. which i suppose is itself symptomatic of my white nigger parents' niggerish behavior that killed my confidence early in life.
>>84928213he said 3 generations under one roof, not 3 generations in one room in one bed.
>>84928227ive lived in america for 27 years and i think ive seen a fat person one of these things once or twice.
my mom still talks to me like a child even though im 26 and moved out years ago
>>84928248>whine about how i'm treated by people to my dad because i'm seeking advice>his input is to just take everything as a joke and ignore it>he's drunk and asks me what i'd do if someone tried to provoke me into a fight>i say would ignore them because even if i did fight back they'd just call the cops on me >he calls me a pussy and a coward and asks if i'm mentally slow.
>>84931728Your dad is a fucking retard. My uncle went to jail for that exact scenario and it got him into hard drugs and his life was fucked for years.
>>84927746If they are collecting rent and not putting it somewhere towards a deposit on an apartment for him or something equivalent they're just biological landlords and I hope their home festers and rots.
>>84928248Its narcissistic parenting that causes neets. They need you in order to see themselves, you have to be under their control and fit the fantasy of you they have so they can feel emotionally stable, so they will never help you become an individual seperate from them, that would be very threatening. They'd rather keep you dependant and not risk you getting any autonomy and leaving them.
>>84928158Yeah man the natural human thing is to have 3 generations of people living in a tiny town house in an urban situation with little to no privacy because in 2000BC they were so tight for space and the price of yurt huts were through the room lmfao
