>>you're so cute>>you're such an amazing guy>>you deserve so much>>I like you a lot>>I care about you>>you're such an amazing guy>>no other guy talks like you>>I love it when you rant about things>>I want to make you happy>>you're such an amazing guy>>you're so sweetwomen start saying these things after about a week of talking to them but I can't tell if they just like giving compliments a lot.I assumed they wanted to be friends because they never initiated anything or asked to be closer or anything.usually they start off pretty friendly, almost like talking to a dude then after a few days to a week they start saying odd things like that. femanons do you say stuff like this to your friends?before anyone says they're into me or anything like that. they never ask personal questions or bring up anything to try to get to know me. So I don't think they're after any kind of connection.
my gf said >you're a great guy>you deserve so much betterright before she broke up with me and left me alone and miserable
you ever listen in on a group of girls talking with each other on the bus or on campus or something? these things mean nothing, they just say shit
>>84948452ah got you. thanks Anon. >>84948447I'm sorry that happened to you Anon.it does sound like she was just rationalizing wanting to leave you. I hope it doesn't affect you long term
>>84948470>I hope it doesn't affect you long termToo late, now I'm posting call out threads to her on /r9k/ every day in the hope that she randomly feels the need to reconnect with me.
>>84948485oh anon I'm sorry. I promise there's someone out there who would appreciate you and not push you away. a woman who would push you away only does so for selfish reasons. I know you miss the memories of being with her but you don't want to be with a selfish person. even if she came back to you, you wouldn't be happy. if anything you should see this an an opportunity to find someone who both appreciates you and actually wants to be with you.
>>84948425mah knigga actually has a point
>>84948425women especially in north america are complete animals and basically little devils so you have to remember everything is a lie and coming from a low IQ child mind. she is essentially trying to make herself feel better about what she is about to do because she has an inkling of rational thought for a moment before doing evil shit (she will do it anyway). shes probably fucking a bunch of guys or about to do something really mean to you and doesnt want to remember herself as a piece of shit, so if she says some compliments to you, in her mind she has negated any responsibility of whatever evil she has done or is about to do to you. it isnt about you at all. it is very infantile but she is trying to justify herself to herself so she can remain a narcissistic person and keep her inflated ego high. she basically pats herself and feels like a good person for saying one nice thing while doing 75 evil things and she thinks that undoes it
>>84948425Sounds like she likes you but not asking questions about you is odd? I would ask if shes interested.
>>84948425>After months of nothing I get one match on hinge>We meet, have a couple of beers and talk about basically nothing, just random shit>She says "I had a great time, we should see each other again next week">Get all excited for a few days>She ghosts me and unmatches me on HingeI don't trust a single word a girl says to me right now.
>>84948425women say stuff like this when their pussy is painfully dry.
People should employ reverse psychology more. Women are conflict avoidant so they will never tell what they really think.
>>84948425Words don't mean shit to w*men. Words are just a way for them to deceive men. They are demons, with no exceptions.
>>84948425They hope that compliments can buy your loyalty.
>>84948425As a woman. We say this shit because we think we really do love you. We want to spend all our time with you, and we see you as a beacon of light in our sad, stagnant, depressing lives. Though, it doesn't last long. In my experiance I can last about three years doing it. That's my limit before my partner starts to piss me off.
>>84948447mine told me i was a "good man" and "such a catch" while ignoring a nervous breakdown caused by her BPDemon bullshit
>>84951583so it really is all just a lie?
>>84951567>Words don't mean shit to w*men. Words are just a way for them to deceive men. They are demons, with no exceptions.This. Women's words don't matter. They're just fishing out emotions that will get you to respond to them positively
>>84948425Women give out compliments like they breathe anon. Rest assured if she's saying it to you, she's saying it to other guys as well. She'll forget about it by tomorrow.
>>84951877Yeah, kinda. Though there is more to it. I feel like men alot as well you aren't simplistic. You cry so much when things don't go your way or you start to scream. Maybe I choose poorly but I do not want to raise a child. If I ask you to buy cat toys and you don't do it I will. I won't complain but then men just sit there and cry and call themselves useless. Women aren't great, fine easy enough to understand. But men are fucking exausting.
>>84951916but I'm not emotional. I'm not a child. I've never raised my voice at a woman or anything. even when women try to poke my buttons.
>>84948425If its just a casual talking stage, I say these things sometimes when Im trying to show that the other person is important to me without being inappropriately intense with an I love you early into meeting someone. I think its also a good way to see how the other person reciprocates and whether they are interested in something more too.
>>84951916Pffff, shut up cunt
>>84951916also I'm confused. you say nice things because we're exhausting? sorry I don't quite understand
>>84951933so the women who say these things are into me? I thought they were lying like the other anons said.
>>84951916>You cry so much when things don't go your way or you start to scream. Maybe I choose poorlyYou most certainly choose poorly nona xD
>>84951932You are better than the men I've dated. Maybe we could've hit it off, eh, anon? A nice stress free relationship. I dunno.
>>84951950Drop the disc anon she wants you (I'm sure it will grow into a healthy loving relationship and not be a complete waste of time and energy kek)
>>84951937We say nice things at the beginning, anon. We really do like you. At least when I say these things to people I like them. Over the years, tho. Men, at least the ones I dated started to show theor true colours. I think they maybe had bpd? I'm not sure. But I try and try and try. Eventually these words stop and we break up.
>>84951959I am NOT dating someone off of /r9k/. That does not sound like a good idea. Please anons don't do this.
>>84951932That just sounds unnatural. Nothing wrong with raising your voice when needs be
>>84951944I cant speak for all women and since I dont know anything about your situation, its a maybe? The anons here are right that it could be a lie to get something out of you, but it could also be as equally likely that she actually likes you and wants to be nice. People here just have very negative views about women and immediately assume all interactions with them are malicious. Obviously as a woman, I dont see myself and women in that overgeneralised negative light. I think you should have some nuance between the anons and my view. Be cautious but dont run into conclusions
>>84948425>>84948485>>84948524this is super brutali know what this is likethere's even a chance she reads this very message from me entering to commentthe good thing to know is that sometimes you are able to regain that connection because things do change over timeso don't give up hopealthough from my experience sometimes even that doesn't lastbut even i still haven't given upnot even close
>>84951959no I'm too shy to initiate stuff with a woman. all the women I talk to usually initiated contact with me. thank you for trying to be supportive though Anon. that's really thoughtful of you.
>>84948425I think that means they like you as a friend. They compliment spam because they feel bad that they don't want to date you
>>84951962I see. I'm sorry that's been the case for you. I've never changed or anything like that. but other women I talk to have said that that's happened to them before. so I can sympathize. maybe it's my autism but I've always been stable. I just like being nice to people
>>84951583>>84951916maybe you should communicate this openly and not be a selfish coward and have some emotional intelligence and empathysome things you could do would be revisiting those shared memories together and allowing the feelings of love and trust to grow again intentionally, not just self-sabotaging and coming up with lame excuses like thisdiscomfort and annoyance are literally part of all healthy relationships btwyou need to ride the waves together
>>84951974I mean I've yelled at people before. I work in construction so I've yelled at a few contractors. but I've never yelled at a woman. especially a woman I'm in any kind of romantic relationship with. that seems like an awful thing to do to someone who you're supposed to have connection and trust with.
>>84952000okay anon thank you for your advice. I really appreciate the effort you put in to help me. I know it's not very entertaining to spoon feed information to people but I really appreciate it.
>>84952040oh that's fine then, but it's unnecessarily confusing.
>>84952042I understand where you are coming from and I've tried. I really have but when a man doesn't want to improve what can I do? When I'm the only one that works and come home to a dirty apartment and start to clean he wakes up and starts to cry. I get men have mental health issues I really do. But if you're not willing to try or go to therapy or get a job. Then I have to let you go. I'm not a 19 year old that will coddle you anymore and say that it's okay. I will help someone get better if they try. But if they don't sorry.
>>84952049Its no problem, happy to help!! From experience, you really shouldnt seek testimonials from this board. My two cents is that it will completely distort how you see relationships. There is a reason why everybody here are khhvs, and most of it is their mindset. Try get some external opinions outside this cesspool, I think it will help a lot more :)
>>84951916lol wtf where did you find these guys>>84951877Women live in the present, they don't really stop to think about the future. So when they act committed it means they don't currently see a reason to leave. They also often just say things to feel good or avoid conflict without concern for the future revelation.
>>84952070One I met on discord, the other I met at a friends wedding.
>>84952047Yeah that just sounds like conflict avoidance to me
>>84952065well but there's people who are helpful and nice to me like you though
>>84952108I try my best like the rest of the few nice people on this board, but we are still all a bit jaded from the realities of life, whether femanon or anon, and make quite unreliable narrators. You seem like a nice guy anon so I hope you have more luck soon, finding the right person is the hardest part of it all
