For context>have been in only one relationship my whole life, with my sister's friend>we never had sex in said relationship, because she didn't want to>didn't question it at the time, because she was a bit younger than me, and just shy about that stuff generally>eventually, after two years of dating and doing nothing but kissing started pushing for substitutes though (handjob, bj...)>she does do it, but shortly after breaks up, for some generic bs reasons>find out later from my sister that she actually broke up because she didn't wanna do sexual stuff, but didn't know how to tell me>fine, whatever>skip forward four years, I randomly think of her again and ask my sister how she's been doing>assume she moved on with some college Chad and suddenly did feel like doing sexual shit, like it usually happens>sister tells me she hasn't been seeing anyone, talking to anyone, or dating anyone ever since we broke up, because she was worried they'd also wanna do sexual shitShe doesn't identify as asexual or anything, but this damn near sounds like it, no? She's also not religious or anything, so that's not it. Is this asexuality or mental illness?
>>84975542yeah they're real and they're incredibly mentally illt. had "asexual" ex who flipped between lusting for cock and acting like i was raping her
>>84975542Only on Zoloft.
>>84975542Maybe she was touched weird as a kid. I heard that screws some women up
>>84975565that just sounds like bpd, not asexuality
>>84975616ah i feel like im a bit like this but that never happened to me
>>84975542If she was asexual with an aversion to sex and didn't end up liking it until she found someone she really clicked with and became more comfortable with it.But the definitive way to determine if someone is ace or not is the lack of ability to experience sexual attraction. It's like walking around the world seeing in a different spectrum and trying to exist in a society that sees in another. A secondary but not definitive trait is the desire for sex or lack thereof. This does not mean that every asexual person has an aversion to sex.Personally, I do not have the ability to experience sexual attraction, but I do not have an aversion to sex or lack the desire to have it when offered. Sex and foreplay feels great and I do enjoy the feeling of physical and emotional intimacy with another person, it just doesn't drive me or occupy my mind during the day. But if someone who I like and feel safe around made the offer I probably wouldn't turn it down. I had an aversion to it for a while because I didn't feel comfortable enough with other people, and it wasn't until I was in a relationship with guy I liked that I realized my aversion was more a lack of a feeling for safety and comfort due to societal pressure.
>>84976464no bingos for me unfortunately
>>84975653could've been both, honestly. she was a mess and her life is a mess too
>>84975542They're all asexual until they meet CHAD THUNDERCOCK and then they worship it as they have their holes ravaged by him every morning noon and night
