I moved abroad, I have savings and I'm not even looking for a jobI think the worst part of it is the loneliness, there is no one here I know, and you know how difficult it can be to find someone relatable if this is where I'm posting thisI'd love to have a buddy to go to a bar with or play terraria or whatever, and get to learn/practice the language but also it's all so tiresomegod I hate burnout so much it's unreal, never working for an amer*can company ever again
i wish i could have fun adventures in a foreign country
>>85084886Where about? I wish i could go to a nice foreign country but i cant get a visa anywhere
>>85084886>I'd love to have a buddy to go to a bar with or play terraria or whatever, and get to learn/practice the language but also it's all so tiresomethis is more difficult as an adult than youd expect, because being able to fraternize w other males w a similar sense of self worth/goals/values/etc is basically the first requirement, and it gets hard and tiresome trying to match up wth people on things like that.most male friends I had basically had to either convert to al my values, and once i basically converted to another dudes values bc they were legit better. but yea, thats what it takes to make male friendship as an adult work.
>>85084965FranceI'm not really adventuring, just kinda hanging around, trying to learn the language, living day to daynot all that different from living back home, except everything is in a foreign language and social situations are a little more difficultthe travel part was no problem, I already have an EU citizenship, the open borders are quite nicefor some reason, THE FRENCH approach me so often? especially when there is no one to translate for me>hang around in the cosmetics aisle, trying to research what is the stuff that I need again>some guy comes up to me and starts talking in their gibberish funny languageuh, pardon, parlez-vous anglais?>ok, I speak english>my girlfriend is here so you should leaveI still have no idea what the fuck this exchange was supposed to be aboutespecially considering how gay and weird and androgynous I look, I literally am the opposite of threatening? but oh well
>>85085020why bother with men then? I am actually considering hitting up one of those gay places lmao, at least they would be welcoming, and I expect the people that are more liberal in the personal experience sense to also know english more often than not and maybe be open to foreigner weirdosI have some good buds back home, and I wouldn't say our values necessarily align. With one gym bud, we'd often sit late at night in his car after gym and talk about things and we'd eventually usually end up arguing personal accountability vs social safety nets and support, with me on the side of people often being victim to their conditions, needing help to reach their personal peaks and making the world bettergood times, good times
>>85084886>there is no one here I knowSounds pretty nice
>>85085041>fr*nceLol its my country, why did you come to this godforsaken shithole. I have been trying to escape for years>for some reason, THE FRENCH approach me so often?Because you look lost and people can see youre a foreigner. They dont want to hit on you or anything (its illegal here) just help
>>85085261>Lol its my country, why did you come to this godforsaken shithole. I have been trying to escape for yearssometimes you make silly decisions... I'd say it feels a bit nicer than Poland in certain ways, but it has it's own set of absurdities; I moved from a circus into a psych ward in a way. Also, the dumbass politicians talking about how you guys can build buildings that cope with heat? Those heatwaves were fucking torture, holy hell>Because you look lost and people can see youre a foreigner. They dont want to hit on you or anything (its illegal here) just helpI don't think so. Often they actually ask me for help, like the other day in a store a pair of kids came up to me and asked if they could call their mom. They actually did call their mom, and asked her about what groceries she wants or something like that lolthe French people are surprisingly nice sometimes, the lady pharmaticist smiled so hard when I tried, to the best of my ability, to ask for a medicine for my allergy with all the niceties and pleasantries.
>>85085356> I'd say it feels a bit nicer than Poland It doesnt tbf, at least the parts ive been to (gdansk, torun, krakow).Its honestly the worst country in europe to live in with insane levels of taxes, no work, lots of crime etc etcIts weird tbf i wouldve have thought eastern euros would move to more dveelopped countries like germany or austria for instance.>I don't think so. Often they actually ask me for helpWhat i meant is that noone will actually hit on you, muh aoproaching isnt really a thing here
>>85085443>noone will actually hit on youis that a problem? or are you saying that no one would probably approach me to talk or know me?
>>85085779No, i thought you implied you were getting hit on too much. In which city have you moved to? My sis is moving to warsaw for her erasmus
>>85086862it's Lyon>warsawI wonder how foreigners manage in poland, I'm pretty sure I have seen more english writing in places in france so far than back in polandalso, the language must be endlessly confusing lol, at least french shares some vocabulary with latin languages
>>85084886>the worst part of it is the lonelinessi was going to say at least you're in a new place where you might have new experiences and opportunities, instead of stuck in your hometown and still lonely, but then it occurred to me that i do have family here that i see somewhat regularly so i'm probably not as lonely as could be.i wonder if moving away would show me true loneliness of not even having family members to see sometimes. at the same time i wonder if that would push me to go out and find ways to interact with people.
