How would you react if your friend point blank told you they wanted to end the friendship? Have you ever been in this sort of situation?
>>85097056say see ya, don't come crawling backdon't even care why, they just need to go
>>85097056i've been the one to do it sometimes. you move on and try to find other people you enjoy the company of. itll be a harder time, dont be afraid to send that friend messages if you genuinely feel something is unfair or fishy about it (not like in a desperate retard way but just like genuinely if it feels off). got rid of a few friends who were fine just leaving me on read for weeks or months at a time when they got depressed and never really put any effort on their own volition to hang out with me.
>>85097056no, i kill friendships before they ever hurt me.
Nah, they just fuck me then slowly drift apartt. Femcel who only has male friends
>>85097056Nah, they just don't fuck me but regardless, we slowly drift apartt. Incel who only has male friends
>>85097056did this with my old middle-school friend who never properly grew up. he ended up getting on my nerves so I just cut things off.
this happens with all of my friends because im an unlovable fag. i deal with it but im probably gonna an hero soon
>>85097056>Have you ever been in this sort of situation?Yeah...Had to be the one delivering the news.My mother had told me to stop being friends with him because he was a bad influence on me apparently. We messed around a lot and we got in all kinds of trouble that got me and him written up in the school/class book to the point where we both weren't able to go on a class trip.We hadn't been in the same class anymore since elementary school but still in the same school. We'd always meet up at the computer room to play flash games together.It was a heartbreaking and autistic scene.Walked up to him and continuously repeated: "W-We can't be friends anymore. My mother told me so."And him trying to understand why only to be met with the same line again and again.I honestly wonder what would've been if I hadn't listened to my mother and we remained friends.
Sent a breakup text to my last friend. Told him he didn't have to respond and he didn't. I went to therapy and realized he's an asshole and a hypocrite. Haven't had a friend since. Here's a pic from that day. Exact spot I sent the text from.
>>85098575Actually before this my best cousin dumped me. He said since I was watching porn in the same room as his kids I shouldn't come back. I was browsing 4chan. I didnt come back. Also. Him and his wife didn't really like me anymore after I went to therapy. But I was also realizing I no longer had anything in common with these ppl. And that's why I was browsing 4chan instead of engaging in conversation. Actually I lost all my relationships after therapy and quitting drinking. Family. Friends. Jobs. Whatever. All of it
I suddenly ended a close friendship of 18 years with a text. Realized I didn't want to be friends any more, hadn't for a long time, and had only continued out of habit.He tried texting and calling a few times. Didn't come to my house, though.
>>85097251Checks out completely, not surprised at all.Did you expect another outcome?
I just ghost. If we just drifted apart neutrally or went down different paths in our lives, cool. I'm treating you no more cruelly than I treat a stranger. No hard feelings. If you fucked up, then ghosting's perfect, too. There's really no point in getting into the weeds with non-apologies laced with implicit argument. I'll just ghost, and in so doing I treat you no more cruelly than I treat a stranger or somebody who did me no wrong. If you want to punish yourself and validate my ego by blowing up my phone and begging and being left on delivered, all the better, but if not, result's the same.And if *I* fucked-up? It'd be selfish of me to ask you to contort yourself to entertain me any further. You'll get an apology. Maybe even one of those uber-sincere apologies that irrecoverably scuttles my standing in the friendship or my reputation in the "group" or whatever. The kind I'd want if I were wronged. But I'm doing you the favor of ghosting after that. All friendships are subject to entropy and require purposeful upkeep to keep going. Everyone who's still your friend means to be. You can just stop. It's how you treat basically everyone and it's not hard to treat one more person that way.
>>85097251where do I sign upthis is an original post
>>85098698That's some twisted rationalization.
>>85097056ive had this happen once, well.. not actually, more they just said "im not having fun" and hung up, and blocked me on everything. friend for 7 years...
>>85098777Odd, I assume there were signs before this happened right?
>>85098786sorta... we were like people who met irl through being classmates but never saw eachother irl, just play games and hang out over call, and in the final days things were tense and a bit weird, like bitter almost, and what pushed it over was we showed each other art we made and he criticized mine so i said his wasn't that good either and that was the last straw. i do miss bro tho. he was like my only close childhood friend
>>85098749Hey, if not hearing from me is hurtful, I should have billions of people upset with me. Most people don't get to hear from you anyway and bear no ill will over it. It's a neutral state.
>>85098777I've had this happen too, very strange imoThere have been plenty of people I was friends with for years that we drifted apart naturally, it's normal, but to just text "yeah I don't want to be friends anymore" and block just seems unnecessarily cruel. I could see if I was the type to blow up someone's phone begging to hang out but I'm not so I don't see the point.
>>85098825You're arguing in bad faith, and there's no way that's an original comment
There usually are signs. Some people are wilfully blind and deaf. Others just don't care and don't respect you despite you trying to set boundaries, communicate, talk it through.And in my experience that which has the most lasting effect is to become completely cold and unfeeling towards them and end it in a matter of fact way. One word answers, it's over.If this sorta thing happens to you I assure you it could've been prevented. Not necessarily the friendship ending but it ending that way.
>>85098663I just get along better with moids, idk why.I like electronics and dirt bikes>>85098742You have to actually be my friend though, no sex
>>85098969>You have to actually be my friend though, no sexriiight just like all the other guys i won't try anything dw
my best friend in high school who was my best friend in middle school decided to cease all contact with me one day, never spoke to me again. no explanation, just done with me cold turkey. to this day i dont know if i did something wrong or he just wanted to change his entire persona starting with a new and different set of friends.
>>85097056No but i did ghost my old friend.Basically what happened was we turned ~23 and everything in his life was just going perfectly while i was getting nowhere. He got a job, a girlfriend and a house in the span of like a year. Every time we talked he would talk about all the shit he was doing with his new work buddies, taking dancing classes and going to the movies with 3 girls at the same time etc. I started to feel strong anxiety every time we talked, so eventually i couldn't do it anymore and simply ghosted him. Haven't talked since.
>>85097251I mean im sorry you had to find out about real life that way but isnt finding out life lessons that our parents are too pussy to teach us kinda fun in way? Heres another fun lesson, you dont gotta love somebody to fuck, you can just...you know, fuck people that youre comfy with because it feels kinda nice? And if youre a boring cunt who doesnt try to relate to anything im talking about or my hobbies im just gonna try to fuck ya and send you back to your boring little life of books or cats or something, make sense?
>>85098969Why does friendship and sex have to be mutually exclusive? Fun fact toots, if the other guys stopped talkin to ya after they fucked, they werent your friends, stop spreading your legs for 'friends' if its such a big deal.
"Okay, why are you here?" This sort of thing doesn't need a formal declaration. You just leave.
>>85099194This dude knows what's up
>>85099271How the actual fuckity fack was that an original comment?Has NOBODY on this board previously been witnessed knowing what's up?
No. We just drift apart and eventually don't talk to each other anymore.
>me cutting everybody out of my life not because they did anything wrong in particular just because I don't particularly like or respect them and have no desire to give up my time, attention, and mental energy to such people
>>85097056No, they cowardly ostracize me (after I was the one who helped them all the time if they asked).That was particularly prevelant during university, I was older than normal students and wanted to help others. The result was that after 2 years of using me as manual labor, they quickly all abandoned me and didn't even acknowledge my existence anymore.Being a good friend is worthless dogshit, most people are normies and go after vibes, they are worthless cattle.
>>85099177Who tf wins so much in life in his early 20s, most people work tirelessly to afford a house in their 40s.
>>85097056I deal with this regularly when I decide to open up to someone who have known for a while and tell them about what I did and why I am a felon, a good amount of times that's the end of the friendship.
