I have an easy time making online friends. People are drawn to me because I make them feel seen.The problem is I never feel seen in return, so I can't motivate myself to keep the relationship going.So I leave and they get upset. Then I am alone.What's there to do do?
Do not "make me feel seen", that's fucking obnoxiousWhat ends up happening with retards like you is you either orbit me, or you try to pry me open like a psychologist. Either of those types of faggotry makes me feel weirded out and leaveJust talk normally
>>85104761You'd be the one orbiting me. Talking to me when I feel friendly is like shooting heroin.Though on the flip side, as Anon I'm the most miserable, bitter asshole imaginable.
>>85104870how are you likeable how do you carry a conversation what is it about you
>>85104731this is how i feel but nobody likes me after i give them short attention
>>85104731Have standards? If you're just looking for validation you're doing relationships and friendships wrong, it also helps if you genuinely enjoy people all around and not just how they make you feel
>>85105830I guess it's difficult to summarize.I gauge their resilience and create appropriate tension which is challenging but not overwhelming. I assume control and let go of control.I demonstrate my friendly intent by leaving myself open to cheap yet insignificant shots.I elaborate on their perspective rather than challenging it (or even agreeing with it) to demonstrate that I comprehend and empathize with it.I don't go moralizing so that they can feel relaxed with me.I don't get hung up on or bring their shortcomings into question.I don't comply without a struggle in order to build mutual respect.I show comprehension rather than pity. I lead them out of self-pity and into a mindset of resolve.So on so on>>85105926Validation? I'm not sure that's it.It's more like, the feeling of having watched movie you really like, and would like to talk about, but no else has watched it.And it's no use explaining it.What I'm looking for is more like a shared frame of reference.It feels as if I could contain an entire other person, hold him in my hands, put him at ease. But no one out there who could even begin to do the same for me. Not because of reluctance but sheer inability.>it also helps if you genuinely enjoy people all around and not just how they make you feelI genuinely don't enjoy people.They don't really make me feel any particular way. They are fairly interchangable.The main thing I get out from interactions like this is, I asserted my existence.
>>85106232I've never seen someone basically describe 90% of my social experiences in such a comprehensible way. You are very well spoken and I hope people discover you for who you are as your own person. If your a passive person like me I will say we kind of attract those kind of people inherently by not formatting our inward personalities to being more on obvious display. Some extroverted people at least the ones in my experience I guess equate being introverted to being super available to hearing about other people's lives? When you do the courtesy of being nice and respectful about it it kinda compounds on itself and your personality to them becomes solidified. And in that sense they take you for granted and as two dimensional in reality as they perceive you as.I don't know if I blabbered about the obvious but this is my first time posting on 4chan but its just something that made me want to format my thoughts. I like what you said though.
>>85107039>this is my first time posting on 4chanliar
>>85107061I have lurked for like 7 months on this board and some other ones what makes you think that wasn't my first post? The captcha is very annoying when I tried once though so I gave up
