She doesn't think about you while she's getting piped down lil bro. She moved on. You need to stop. You're only hurting yourself. It's over man. I know, it's a tough pill to swallow. Stop.

>>85107036
I moved on, I found someone new but I keep thinking about her, god I fucking hate her

>>85107031
Was she your girlfriend? Why are you trying to move on? Did she break up with you? Did you two ever meet up or have sex?

>>85107036
like this isn't sadness anymore, it's anger

>>85107048
yes she was my girlfriend, no sadly we never met, she ghosted me and I'm over her like I said I found someone new but for some fucking reason I keep thinking about her

>>85107073
Hmm what were you looking for with her? Marriage? Kids?
>girlfriend
As in things were official and she just stopped responding entirely?

>>85107031
I'm kind of in a similar situation. She was something else.

>>85107073
....you never met and she ghosted you....? Oh... oh.... you sweet summer child... she might have been your girlfriend, but you DEFINITELY weren't her boyfriend. Oof.

>>85107098
What was your situation like anon? Long distance as well? Was it official?

Dude got played by a bop and is still here holding onto the illusion that they cared about him. Everyone's gotta learn someday I guess.

>>85107085
I wanted to live with her for the rest of my life, no kids though fuck that.
>As in things were official and she just stopped responding entirely?
yes, she did gave a vague reason why her texts slowed down suddenly (more than likely a lie) but then soon after she disappeared.
>>85107099
yeah yeah I know, fuck off I know it was real to me ok?

>>85107099
I had a long distance fiance. Unfortunately it didn't work out, and he went further and further off the deep end mentally while being inconsistent about meeting irl.

He encouraged me to fuck other guys irl during the relationship but i never did

>>85107115
Ah, that's tough man.
>no kids
Rough choice, I get it though

>>85107120
I'm not sure why you're telling me this. Did you never see his face or video call? Cause if you never saw this physical appearance live, then from where I'm standing it sounds like he was selling you a lie that was slowly eating him alive.

>>85107130
yeah but the point of my thread is that even though I met someone new I still can't get (her) out of my head and I hate it even though she more than likely didn't care about me well clearly she didn't if she just disappeared like that
this new girl is great

>>85107143
Anon. In clear words.
She.
Doesn't.
Care.
About.
You.
It's over. That being unable to get over her feeling is because a part of you is still holding out that they aren't over you still.

It's done dude. Move on. Not only is this unfair to you, it's extremely fucked up to the person you're with.

>>85107137
He sent me videos of himself and offered to video call but I declined. Idk whether he catfished me but I suspected it. The thing was, I didn't agree to the live calls as "proof" since those can be spoofed too. So I needed to meet irl but he pushed that back too much.

My point of sharing is that i was loyal and being a girlfriend/fiancee to him

>>85107143
Have you told the new girl that you're not over this last person?

I know there are different philosophies on this, but i prefer transparency on both ends

>>85107167
Good for you anon. Loyalty is... rare, exceptionally rare. Whoever gets to share a relationship with you will be very lucky. Don't ever change.

>>85107156
YES I'm painfully aware of this but that stupid part of me can't let go.
>it's extremely fucked up to the person you're with.
that is true fuck didn't think about that, now I feel like a piece of shit
>>85107177
am I supposed to say something?

>>85107167
A girl was this paranoid with me. Video call, showed each other everything. Still told me it's too scary to take a flight.

>>85107186
Really? I mean i think loyalty is the standard and the bare minimum

>>85107200
It's kinda messed up to hide this imo. I think you should reveal these things before a relationship becomes serious, be upfront with your baggage, best to be yourself from the beginning

>>85107214
oh that's fucked up I didn't know that

>>85107223
What's fucked up?
How far along are things with new girl?

>>85107205
I've only ever met one person where I was able to trust them completely and that was because she was truly loyal and I could feel it. I didn't realize at the time how rare that would be, but dating around in my 20s I began to realize, that it was more the exception than anything, but then again, it's probably because I've been looking in the wrong places.

Anyways anon, take care of yourself and of your heart.

>>85107203
I wasn't too paranoid to fly out, not sure what you mean. I said I wanted to fly out and meet in person because it was the only real verification

>>85107244
Do you still miss her anon? Do you think you could get back together? Do you still have contact?

I used to not fully trust anyone. It was a lonely way to live.

>>85107240
that I haven't said anything.
It's still early

>>85107258
I mean i don't think it's too bad if it's still early, not sure if you guys have already made things official or has sex, if not it's fine, just be upfront

>>85107254
I miss the memory of her but I don't know her anymore. We're not going to get back together and while when we last spoke it was amicable and I can talk to her, I'm not going to contact her as last I had checked she was married.

It's kind of ironic that I be going on about how loyalty is so precious when I cheated on the only girl to be loyal to me. Yet, spending most of my twenties being loyal to cheaters felt like karmonic retribution in a way.

It's left me pretty scarred, I can agree, it's a pretty lonely way to live.

Anyways, the point of all of this anon is really, you're a gem. Take care of yourself and I hope someday you'll find someone who treasures you.

>>85107249
If you think that in person meeting is the only real verification, then you're crazy paranoid. You can't fake and catfish someone you're dating and have even video calls. Only if you're really that dumb that you can't figure out that it's AI.

>>85107316
You cheated on her?

Well, it sounds like after everything, you've learned your lesson. I think people can redeem themselves in the future sometimes, just don't abuse the next chance you get. You know how rare it is now

>>85107332
Catfishing on live has gotten very good. It's not paranoid to want irl verification. It's discerning.

>>85107347
Only if it's a deepfake, which you can check by asking them to put an object in front of their face.

>>85107372
You're literally just not caught up with the times anon.

Technically even meeting in person can be faked with advanced technology to change facial appearance, but that's pretty hardcore in comparison.

It's a much surer bet than just relying on videocalling rules of thumb from 5-10 years ago

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>>85107401
Picrel as partial explanation, you just don't know modern tech