>>85197686
I wish I was attractive enough to be able to get one of those.

>>85197686
>>85197912
Just go to a narcotics anonymous meeting

>>85197917
they frown on dating at the meetings

>>85197924
and? the fuck are they going to do about it?

all women are chadsexual whores

you cute larp weebs are fucking cringe

>>85197924
Your point? lots of people date as NA meetings and hook up.

>>85197934
i only ever went to them because i was court ordered so i just left after it ended, you're saying i could have rizzed someone?

>>85197917
>Just go to a narcotics anonymous meeting
Do the women there date ugly losers?
I don't really want to quit narcotics and I wouldn't want her to either. Doing drugs together is peak.

Guys I'm starting to think I'm going to die alone

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ill be honest op idk why i will never answer these posts. i always see them. idk why i never let myself be happy ever. maybe i like need to be miserable to feel like me or something. i think i like reaching for the light at the end of a tunnel more than leaving the tunnel or maybe im just scared to but i know i will ruin it if i have it so its safer to not get it and be able to think about it from far away while its still in one piece. sorry

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>>85197686
Come on, Anon. You know the deal.

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>>85197686
Can't you just get a cat?

>>85199295
I can't have conversations with a cat and go on dates and stuff

>>85199322
Exactly. Just like with a girl OP described.

>>85197686
yeah i had one of these
she was a horrible burden and seemed to hate me while begging me to never leave her

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>>85199216
Hello, nona. As someone who tried to with one of you... You're probably right. I think you would be even more miserable if you ruin it when you have a chance of your life. What I would advise you is to learn to not rely on your pathological behaviors first. Stop hating yourself, stop thinking that you're lesser. Never let someone walk all over you and never try to be a "good girlfriend" for someone. Then you might be ready to accept happiness.

>>85199742
Did you leave her?

>>85197917
Will they sniff out I'm a poser?

>>85197686
I will never fully understand why people like me are a market... i mean, all of those things sound like negative traits logically to me, but then here is someone who wants them... why?? How does that happen?

>>85200320
Flat and skinny is just a preference. Mental illness and unkempt look is a signifier of higher value compared to normie foids.

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>>85199909
i dont think i can. im a super perfectionist. it eats me. so all i can do is try to perfect something or just dont even try fucking at all. and im actually really talented and shit so i CAN be perfect it just burns me out then i explode and burn it all anyway but i cant do just sort of okay at anything or it hurts worse than the burnout or the doing nothing. im trapped in myself for fuckign ever. and i do use spotify premium

>>85197686
I'm a mentally unwell, skinny, flat girl with unkempt hair and I want to hang out and snuggle another mentally unwell girl with unkempt hair

>>85200320
>attainability
>not a fake stacy/becky chasing clout
>likely to be more accepting of your flaws, able to genuinely form a connection with
>some people like those physical traits
I don't fetishize this type of girl, but you really must not be aware of how shit the dating market is if you don't see the appeal of being "different."
You just need to be nice, and guys will want you.

>>85197960
yes, i mean it's risky because of hepatitis and shit but yeah you probably could have.

>>85197973
>Do the women there date ugly losers?
Yeah, they don't really have high standards in life and you can find people there who are just there because they have to be. Someone who is there because they want to be clean probably won't date a user but there are quite a few people there who are still using and just doing it to fulfill an obligation.

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>>85200451
Then why don't you see it as a problem you could fix? Certainly you aren't perfect if you don't even try. You can only get there through trial and error anyway. You're quite naive. Aren't you? You don't even know a tenth of the obstacles you have to face. That applies to academic pursuits, career, relationships. You should get out of your shell. That perfectionism is just a barrier keeping you from being vulnerable in times when you can actually fail. What do you really want to do?

>>85200372
Well i'm not flat but i'm very skinny because i'm recovering from a very bad eating disorder slowly, used to be a lot less, now at 42 kg.

But okay, the preference part, not what confuses me. It's the part that comes after. "Being mentally ill and unkept signifies higher value". How... i mean... how??? From what i know, it signifies lower value, much much lower. These aren't traits that are good or that i like about myself.

I'm mentally ill, very mentally ill, so much so that i'm a NEET on disability from it, rotting in my room. Not much of a future prospect. That is not good or high value. And i'm very unhappy that my defect brain and being fryed on my meds causes me to not have the best hygiene, i hate that about myself and i actively try to improve that.

I just... those are bad things, not pluses...

>>85200504
But the mental unwell / illness part can heavily dig into that attainability part. Let's say not even someone as bad as me, but just some random BPD bitch who will have an episode and say she hates you and leaves you or cheats on you because of it. What then?

>>85200635
>mental unwell / illness part can heavily dig into that attainability part
True. But everybody has their own level of acceptance of mental illness in a partner, what they will tolerate. And there is the fact that most guys that frequent here are some form of mentally unwell themselves.

>>85200635
The mental illness and the unfortunate consequences of it are not the reason for attraction. The positive qualities that result out of it are just overwhelmingly more important. Like pair bonding, more enjoyable interactions, higher and much deeper affection, social independence. Unkept doesn't necessarily mean poor hygiene. You shouldn't have poor hygiene. But not caring about your appearance (unless you are genuinely suffering from self inflicted medical issues) mainly signals that you don't desire to please people with your appearance.

>>85200872
Well yeah i mean i'm a bit of a worse case by all means. My disability essentially prevents me from having friends or a boyfriend or any human contact, so yeah i don't try to please with my appearance when not at home, which is almost never tho, also the hygiene isn't like a bad bad kind, i just mean like, meds and mental illness give me this stupid lethargy that it's sometimes hard for me to force myself to do stuff, and sometimes i just can't force it and skip over it.

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>>85200568
i can be perfect for just little bit. i can do a pirouette perfectly one or two times but i cant do an entire dance routine sort of thing. its easy for you to say just be different but i cant. yes im naive and no i dont know what im doing and no idk what i wanna do but this is the stuff im trapped with. i know im awful and cant do anything long enough for it to matter you dont have to be a dick about it
>what do you actually want to do
feel good? be happy? be likeable?

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I want a menhera gf that matches my nihlism and misantropy but also my good will and love for nature...

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>>85201147
>feel good? be happy? be likeable?
That's... Not something that can just be a skill or a talent. If you can be a little perfect for a while it's not what's happening. You're just performing. If you want to be likable you should be "perfect" yourself. Unfortunately it won't happen unless you already think that you're perfect. What, do you really think you can just hack the life and pretend to be an anime girl on a screen? It's as if you haven't lived a life at all.

>>85201606
why are you being mean i know im pathetic already

>>85201844
But I'm just being honest. Being nice to you as a liar would just be acting. I'm not looking for a way to please you.

>>85201973
okay but you are trying to teach me stuff i already know. the truth becomes rude if you yell the obvious. if im ugly and i know it going "did you know youre ugly? youre not pretty at all" isnt just honest its mean

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>>85202086
No no no, it's not obvious to you. You might have had an inkling of a thought about it, but you clearly did not internalize it. What you're doing is a choice and it's a wrong choice. You can accept that it is so and change it. So you just stop pretending to be something you're not and love yourself. I'm sure you have plenty of qualities that are actually admirable. If you get them together with your negative qualities, that's your personality. You should expect that your personality will be liked. That is going to be *perfect*

>>85197686
you forgot Stacy